August 24, 2010
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The Poke Flirt
When I first started on Facebook, I felt uncomfortable about the whole idea of poking. I am not sure if it is just the word itself but it felt like it was just the wrong thing to do. But I was getting poked like crazy so I just responded to be polite.
Every time I get on Facebook now, I usually respond to my pokes by sending a poke back. I have been doing this the whole time I have been on Facebook and did not see it as flirting. It is just what I do with no thought to it.
I read a pulse this morning where a woman was talking about poking and flirting. I got the impression her husband was a little upset about her poking other guys. He was just jealous.
Now that I think about it, I rarely get poked by a guy but I have a long list of women that I am poking.
Should Facebook poking ever be read as flirting?
Comments (66)
No. Not unless someone makes it about flirting.
I didn’t know anyone still poked on FB, actually. I haven’t been poked in ages.
I never thought of poking as flirting. I get poked by friends and family members. I just thought it was a way of saying hello.
People who think poking is flirting obviously have no idea what flirting is.
I don’t think it’s flirting, I think it’s just being playful. But guys probably won’t do it to other guys for fear of it being misconstrued as flirting.
I hate it .. there is this one dork friend of mine and she constantly pokes me. It is annoying.
I don’t think of it as flirting. I get poked a lot on fb. I don’t think my family members are flirting with me.
i wouldnt necessarily call it flirting. but i also dont think poking is something youre going to do to just anyone on facebook. i think its a way to be playful with another person, who usually happens to be the opposite sex. perhaps it also depends on what age group youre talking to about this.
no
I get poked all the time, it’s just annoying.
what is the point of poking?! i know my friends that just join facebook poke everyone and be HAHAHAH WHAT IS DOES POKE MEAN?! HEEHEHEH. |:<
xo
ROFL.
poking.
sorry I’m a bit immature atm :]
WTF DAN, add me on facebook so I can POKE YOU!!!!!
I don’t see it as flirting. it’s like “hey, remember me?”
It *is* flirting.
I think it’s just all for fun. Even before fb became popular my cousin and I would poke each other, then say “pass it down” We had our whole family passing around pokes just for fun and giggles.
I don’t actively go around poking people and I don’t think it’s flirting. But, the only person who has ever poked me and that I poke back is my boyfriend. If I’ve had a long day sometimes it makes me smile to see that on my homepage, haha.
I quite enjoy poking people at random. I don’t think of it as flirting.
The idea of poking as flirting never once occurred to me. Even now that I’ve heard it, I still find it kind of absurd.
no, because i do it to my family members. it’s more like a “yoo hoo, talk to me!”
I don’t think of it as flirty.
No, as I’m in a poke war with a lot of people who are uninterested in me.
If so, my dad is a total perv.
Dan, does it hurt or feel good to get poked by all these women?
Uh, that’s dumb. Poking is usually just an informal “hi.” Not flirting. I get poked by men AND women, and honestly, I rarely even look at the list, much less poke back. And when I do poke back, it’s not because I’m flirting. Trust me. There are way cooler and more scintillating ways to flirt. #justsaying
I just viewed the poke as someone saying ‘hey, I know you’re still alive out there, but have nothing to really talk about so…hi’ but I”m probably wrong.
I never saw it as flirting, depends she might go on about it. Her attitude might make the difference. Havent poked in ages but yeah.. its gross.
i think its flirting, but it depends more on the relationship with the person.
If someone uses poking to flirt…
Poking is usually annoying.
I poked my sister once? =O Uh-oh.
I’ve never poked anyone other than my boyfriend. I guess i can see how its NOT flirting, but… I’m the jealous type, so if i saw abunch of females poking my boyfriend it’d probably bother me.
To me? Not really. I poke people in real life and I’m poked back by my friends..I guess I’m quite comfortable with it. It’s just being friendly more than anything..
I think it is just silly fun
I don’t think it’s flirting… it’s more of a little thing to get your attention, I think. At least, that’s how I see it.
I don’t know much about facebook, but I always assumed the “poke” there is the same as the “nudge” that used to be on xanga. I always used that to remind people who hadn’t posted in a while that I missed them.
She should have told her husband to go poke himself.
No. That’s just being extremely insecure.
LOL this just sorta really cracked me up. I have one person who I poke, and he pokes back and this has been going on for weeks. we’re strictly platonic internet friends who rarely talk anymore. I don’t really see it as flirting(esp. as it has been going on for weeks).
Poking is only flirting when guys do it.
oshi….poking is flirting!? Have I been misinterpreting these this whole time!?
I never consider it a flirt, If it’s a flirt, that is a lame ass flirt.
lol I don’t get the point of poking. If I want to flirt with someone via Facebook, I’ll just shoot them a message or a comment telling them I want them. It’s not that hard.
I was unaware people still poked.
There in a poke war going on between myself and one of my best friends, I assure you it’s not flirting though, he’s gay.
I think it’s creepy. I don’t participate.
I never poke and I don’t think I get poked (?) But the poke is right next to the message thing. My daughter asked me the other day if I poked her (maybe by accident). Then I noticed the proximity.
I’m sure you wanted to know this.
POKE!!
I don’t engage in that.
Well, it certainly means the person is thinking about you and wants to initiate some kind of “contact” or game with you. I’d say you have more of a chance of getting with a person that pokes you on Facebook than the average person.
No. But some people do it anyway.
We have gotten into some poke wars before so I shouldn’t think it’s only for flirting. But I use it with a few friends for that. And I’m only poking one girl right now. lol >.<
Lets think about it…
“There is a long list of women I am poking”
Think…
Got it?
I don’t think . . . there are about 25 people that I have a poke war with. About half guys and half girls; I’m a girl.
Man, I hope not. My brother pokes me via FB at least once a week.
I ignore the random poke.
No, Facebook poking should be read as a lame excuse to get attention. Man up and friend me, with a personal message, or stalk me in silence.
I get poked…but I don’t really pay much attention to who’s doing the poking. I don’t poke back because, well, I don’t know, just think it’s kinda dumb or weird or something. I chat, message, write comments, and play games…I just don’t poke. LOL
It’s just there. I don’t think it’s flirting.
No. I poke EVERYONE on my friends list, and almost all of them poke me back. I hope they don’t think it’s flirting, because I already have someone…. and some of the people on my friends list are just…. older. Older. Older. = w=;
You know, I have often wondered the very same thing. Certainly I realize that it is nothing to some people but to others it could certainly be misconstrued. As with most things, know your audience I suppose.
@ShimmerBodyCream - There is likely a lot of truth to that.
it should be solely seen as flirting. i’ve only been poked by guys who want to fuck me.
I think that there is a difference between a compliment and a flirt. A compliment is meant to make you feel good. A flirt is meant to make you feel desirable. Same with Pokes. Many (most?) Pokes are just to make you feel good, to feel appreciated, to feel noticed, etc. Not all (many?) Pokes are meant to make you feel desirable. But if you get one that makes you feel desired, then you know she’s flirting. And if you don’t want her flirting with you, send her to me. I could use someone making me feel desirable. (smile)
A poke is a just a hi. U don’t have to be close with them. It can be very casual.
Depends what body part is doing the poking.
..Never Thought Of It That Way, I Thought It Was Just…A Way To Say Hi Without The Awkwardness…But My Gosh The Same Girl Has Been Poking Me For A While, Uh Oh.
Yeah, kinda. I mean, I don’t do it.
Superpoking can DEFINITELY be flirting though. You can “poke” someone in several suggestive, and outright sexual ways. Yikes.
I don’t read it as flirting because typically a lot of the people that poke me are my best friends and family.
I dont poke on Facebook or get poked myself on Facebook.
I’ve never read flirting into it, nor do I know anyone who has either.
i used to know a guy that called fucking “poking”. Maybe that woman’s husband does too. *shrug*
I never considered it flirting. I don’t even notice who pokes me anymore… I just go down the list and poke everyone back.