September 16, 2010
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Moving Back In With Mom and Dad
I was listening to the radio on my way to work this morning and they were talking about how more kids are moving back in with their parents after they graduate from college. They said it was the result of the tough economy.
I love my kids but sometimes I think they will never leave.
Would you move back in with your parents after you graduated from college?
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I did, for a summer. After that, I’d rather be homeless. No joke.
But I think it’s totally legit if you and your parents can make it work. That’s awesome.
Yeah, my cousin did that. She’s working and everything, but it’s not a big deal with family-orientated people like Latinos or Asians.
Fuck man I’d blow my goddamn brains out if I had to go live with family. I barely make it crashing home at the holidays.
I had to do it for three months before I got my new place. Rabid dingos couldn’t make me move back there again.
@PervyPenguin - Tru dat.
I lived with my parents until early 2009 when I moved to a new apartment. But technically, I am still a resident under my family’s turf.
I plan on living with them during college, but I hope to be on my own thereafter.
This trend started way before the economy tanked. It started when housing inflated.
I’m currently living with my parents right now. I have a job and finding an apartment would be super, but I have to factor in all the expenses I have to pay. Maybe when I get promoted and another potential raise, I’ll be up there and be able to support buying a house.
Funny you should post this since I just posted about my 27 year old coming back home to live with us and bringing her 4 kids with her
Um, I moved back in with my parents . . . a year after graduating from
law school
, so . . . yeah. But, my family and I actually really dig each other, so it’s not as bad as some people have it. Even so, I’m hoping it’s not for an extended period of time.
I would if I had to. I would not want to (especially since I’ll be married when I graduate), but most college students these days leave school with a mountain of debt and lots of expenses, so I think it would be worth it in the long run to save money wherever possible.
I did. :3
I’m planning on moving out by January though.
I’m living with my parents throughout university, and I’ll live here as long as I need to while looking for a job.
I do have a good relationship with both parents though, and my brothers lived here into their 20s and 30s – the elder, as he’d lived here for so long, paid the bill he hiked up the most, electricity. If you can make it work, go ahead and do it. It can be a really smart financial move if you’re not entirely sure where you’re going, how you’re going to get there… and especially if you’re freshly graduated with heaps of student loans to pay off. Adding rent and food to that would suck.
I didn’t go to college nor do I plan on it. I got married right out of High School and am still married with two kids. If I had to move back in with my parents I wouldn’t mind it at all. I think we would do just fine living with one another!
I live with my bf and his family..he works and pays most of the bills..but we couldn’t make it on our own..they still help out and so does his sister..
well, I haven’t moved out yet so…….there.
It is a horrible mistake, I don’t recommend it. Although people don’t typically have families like mine.
I’ve heard people talking about this increasing trend as well. I moved back in with my parents when I transferred to a new school (which I commute to), after spending a year at a college 24 hours away from home. lol
And dear lord, I scarcely think I’ll survive until graduation (next June). It’s really hard to live under your parents’ roof after being on your own.
It depends on the situation. If for whatever reason it seems that it’ll be in my best interest to move back in permanently, I will. But for now my plan is to have an apartment my senior year that I can keep afterward, assuming I find a job of course before I’m forced to leave it. But I won’t just move back in if I really can be self-sufficient; I know if I do that just because it’s easy, it may derail me for a while since I don’t let go and accept change in my life easily. It’ll be best for me to not go back in terms of growth I think.
i moved back home after my dad died, to live with my mom.
I am almost two years out of grad school and working two pt jobs (retail & library) but making nothing because of bills and student loans. I have been asked by others if I would go live with my parents, but they just dont understand how hard it is, they think I am just lazy applying for jobs or dont want to move. Plus, now I have jobs and there is no guarantee if I move I will get a job back home.. and I owed my parents some money once before and never want to be in that spot again. I could only imagine the Cinderella I would become of the house, picking up and cleaning crap because they are too gross to clean after themselves or rotate chores. I do like the satisfaction of living on my own but wish it came with benefits of making some actual money so I could pay off more of my student loan debt, my car, and save some.
I would go mad. Certifiable if I had to move back.
But then, it would have to be a disaster for me to do that, given my fiance and I just bought our first place.
I’m away at school, and I moved home for the summer to work and save money for this year’s schooling… and I hope I can get an apartment this coming summer. If that’s any sign.
I mean, I love my folks, but I’d rather just visit.
It depends on the circumstance. I’d move back in if I were in a dire financial need, and I would stay just long enough until I can get back up on my feet again. I’m more into being independent.
I’ve been living on my own for about a year now.. and I was barely at my house when I lived there. I’d go away for days, even weeks at a time. I never want to go back there. It was too depressing.
I tried living with my parents for my final year of college so I could save money to afford a place after graduation, but after three weeks I go an apartment and moved out. Its too hard for some parents to deal with having an adult living under their roof that can legally be out as late as they want and go wherever they want.
No, I joined the Air Force after High School and wouldn’t have thought about moving back with my parents!!
My husband and I moved in with my parents with our six-year-old daughter when he got out of the Navy. He got a job in a couple of months, but my daughter and I stayed another four months while he found a house.
My daughter is finishing up her Master’s thesis while living at home. I know she wants her own place, but families help each other out during times of transition. Graduation, job loss, death, divorce, natural disaster – transitions can happen at any stage of life and it’s good to have family or friends willing to help you get back on your feet.
I gave up and took up my grandparents offer of housing. First time was right after I graduated from undergrad, but I knew I was going to grad school that fall so I guess it was just a between thing. Then when I graduated this last May, I spent almost 3 months on my own still looking for work. Time came that my lease was up so I had to get something. I went back to my grandparents again for a couple weeks til I got my current job and moved. If work runs out before I find new employment, though I hate doing it- back I’ll likely go. I’m not too likely to move back in with my parents. For one I’d probably go crazy (grandparents was rough but at least they gave me space). Other factor going against me moving in with the parents is that they are on the other side of the country right now.
I didn’t after college but after grad school I had no money and no job so I had a choice between the streets and moving home.
I chose the internet.
I moved back in with my parents after I graduated college. I thought I’d be there for a few months while getting a full time job. It’s been over two years, I’m still living with my parents, and I’m bouncing around between being unemployed and doing temp jobs that preclude the possibility of being promoted to full time.
NO Way No How…I would have slept in my car frst but then there were some extenuating circumstances. However it happens so often in Texas that we have started calling them the “boomerang generation”
I barley lived with them in high school. My mother and I get along better when I don’t live with her. After playing ‘mom’ to your mother for so long, you feel like bashing your head against the wall. It gets old, fast. I think if you get along with your parents, then great! I’m all for it. But, with the way things get between my mom and I….I’d rather never live with her again. My dad…maybe. But, I’m his baby, so he can get overprotective without realizing it. And, we’re both very stubborn, hard headed people.
I did. After freedom.. I think it was the worst. Moms have a hard time letting go. We faught a lot. I moved out last year. 4 years after graduating. .. I have friends who still live at home due to the rough economy. Jobs that actually pay well are tough to come by.
I havent left yet! LOL. I mean it’s not like I’m free loading. With the exception of extreme sickness, I have worked or gone to school. I do want a place of my own but I want to move out of state so I have to save a while longer. The economy is a huge factor right now so no one can give people crap over moving back/staying home.
I still live at home, and I’m in my second year of college, so… *shrug*
I’m not sure when I’ll move out, because I’m full-time and don’t work. Since it’s just my dad and I, I take care of the house and do all the cleaning, cooking, etc. I’m hoping that he gets married within the next couple of years, cause that would help with me not feeling bad about moving out (when I choose to do it).
@Inspectorgrampy5 -
indeed.
I can’t say much, though. David and I moved in with my grandma shortly before Damon was born. He’ll be three years old next month, and we’re still here. But at least we’re in her garage and not her house, now.
I still live with my family since I am still unemployed. I still will when I got a job because I feel obligated to take care of them, well at least financially.
Hell to the NO. Once you leave you shouldn’t come back for more than a visit. End of story.
I did, albeit not right away.
Ha. no but my home dynamic wasn’t exactly happy. I never even wanted to go home for holidays.
I’m 28 and I’m currently living with my parents to save money!
I really hope not.
@PervyPenguin - Amen.
I still live with my parents, still unemployed, have a disability. (I am 26)
My sister when she went to university after she graduate from uni and got her own place (well rented) now rarely come back home only to see her friends back at home, Christmas and than go to down to see her boyfriend parents., we go up to see her.
Nope. I’m married… and I don’t think my wife could handle it. They still have some kids as young as 6 and 2 in the house.
I moved back home when I was 30. It made economic sense for all of us. My mom had semi – retired and my rental income picked up the slack in their budget. Included in my rent was meals so I was able to save as well
I left my parents house and moved into an apartment with my grandmother. Honestly I don’t see the reason to have my own place at 19. I think families need to stick together through these hard times.
We did for a year while we were trying to sell our house back East. It sucked. I fully expect my kids to move back in with me later in their life, it seems like that’s what happens these days.
I love living with my parents, and I think they love living wit me, too. I had tried to move out when I started working, but about a month ago, decided to move back in and everyone’s happier again.
I still come back home every other week since my school is about 1.5 hours away. Lol, my parents would actually want me to live w/ them for the rest of my life.
Dan, this post is a perfect example of the undeniably positive role you fill on the web-platform. So many interesting vignettes from commenters; who else could inspire such a neutral experiential data-base? Bravo. (Oh, and I tented in a corner of our farm in ’67 after college for six months. Helps to have 500 acres. In the desperate world of the future, looks like anyone with un-re-possessed real-estate will be a Mecca for his kids and grand-kids. Not the world I grew up expecting…
O god help me, no. I just got out. Don’t send me back there. I literally did choose being homeless over living with them. And I’d do it again… and being homeless, let me tell you, is not cake.
No. Once I thankfully moved out, that was it. But now that my parents are up in years and need help due to failing health problems, I would gladly have them move in with me so I could take care of them.
I don’t currently have a job. I’m attending college full time (15-18 hours per semester!) and a full time mom to a beautiful little girl who is about to be two. I live with my dad. Sometimes it’s MISERABLE. My dad’s wife is seriously the devil incarnate. I know, I know – typically “evil stepmother” mentality, you’re probably thinking “oh she’s probably not all that bad” – trust me, the woman is Lucifer in disguise. I could go on and on about all the reasons why (for example, she waited until my dad was out of state for a week long conference to tell me that I had 24 hours to pack my stuff and get out or ‘all your things will be in trash bags on the porch and the locks on the doors will be changed’. Oh, and I was 8 months pregnant! My dad had serious words with her upon his return, as it was him who INSISTED I stay home instead of trying to move out as I had JUST turned 20 and had no high school degree, he wanted me to stay home, raise baby, go to college.)
However, at this point I realize that the benefits outweigh the drawbacks. I may be miserable sometimes, but I’m able to focus completely on school and my daughter. I’ll be done with school in less than three years – it would take me a LOT longer if I had to find a full time job to pay rent, bills, etc. without any kind of high school diploma. My daughter is surrounded by family instead of day care workers. I never have to worry about having enough for her to eat or clean diapers or anything. Even though it can really blow most of the time, it’s only temporary and it will make for an exponentially better quality of life a few years down the road. I’m patient – despite coming from an instant gratification generation lol!
Never happened – in fact once in college even spent summers away from home. I was home for the holidays and a couple weeks during summer if it did not interfere with job,
I grew up over seas, as soon as I graduated I came back state side. Lived on my own for a year and then the parental units moved back and bought a house so I moved back in because I was going to college and needed cheap rent.
i just turned 18 but i have a full time job so i suppose i should move out soon.. im saving for a car and then savin up a bit for my own place but i am not sure when i will move out. i get along with both of my parents great, i live with my mom and she likes me there and if i wanted to stay with my dad he would be thrilled. i think ill soak up as much free rent as possible : )
i live with my parents and maybe i’ll continue to live with them until i can support myself.. then move out or move to a apartment with a friend or two
I had to move back in with my parents for 3 weeks in between apartments when I was 38 years old. I thought I was going to die. My parents mean well, but my mom actually came and found me once while I was out for a walk at dusk. She scolded me for “being insane enough for going out alone without a cell phone”. They live in a very small town where nothing ever happens so the chances of me being mugged while out for a walk at dusk are nil. I lived most of my life there and I knew that. I told her I couldn’t handle that level of interference with my life. Predictably, she didn’t like that very well and was very miffed.
i don’t think i’ll have to.
I moved in with my parents after college. I do pay rent though. A small amount, but I do pay it. I’ve been here a little over a year. I’m currently looking for houses, now that I’ve saved up some money. I wouldn’t be entirely opposed to staying here longer and saving a bit more. My stepsister lives with us now, and its been a good thing that i’ve been here to help her get back on the right track.
yes
My parents are frickin’ awesome and not overbearing at all so it’d be doable. They actually offered to finish their basement into an apartment for me if I needed to live in that area. However, I’ve lived on my own for over 7 years now, the last 3 of which I’ve been either alone or with my fiance. I can’t imagine having to share a space with more people again.
I never moved out, I went to a local college. My parents vehemently do not want me to move out unless I am financially stable/ready to do so. I have amazing parents.
If I get accepted into OSU-Newark then I’ll be living with my mom, second step father, and my 5th grade sister and 2nd grade brother. I’ll only be living with them for my Bachelor degree and then go to Canada for my M.A. English and M.A. Early Childhood Education. I’ve been living with my grandmother since December 2009 when my husband dropped me off before he went back to his country January 2nd 2010. I moved out of mom’s at 19 when I ran away to get married to my husband 3 years, 10 months, and 4 weeks ago.
two words: jewish parents.
Sometimes, you can never get rid of your kids Dan:)
I moved back in temporarily a few times. Once after a roomate kicked me out because her sister was moving back into the aprartment we were sharing, and then again, more recently, for a short time during my divorce. Even my now 45 year old brother settled back in 14 years ago into one of our parent’s apartments (next door) and never moved out!They are in their 80′s and they still can’t seem to get rid of the kids! Maybe it means we love them, lol!
To be honest, after I got my undergrad (before I started my Master’s that fall) I moved back in with them for like a month before getting a fulltime job. I don’t that’s so bad…and hey, I’m still not living with them. I defintely don’t think that’s odd to do that. I’m happy they allowed me to during rough times (being broke, a recent grad, etc).
I’m about to have to. I’ve been outof college 2 and a half years now, living on my own, paying my own rent, with a full time job. I got laid off in January, and have been working part time every since, and money is getting tight. I’m doing everything possibly to avoid having to move back home, but when push comes to shove, it may be my only option.
my parents are MAKING me live with them after college… at least for a little so I can help them (and myself) pay college loans.. lmao I think mine are the only ones begging me to stay
I plan on living with my parents for as long as possible.
not in a million years. i’d rather homeless.
LOL After my divorce I moved back home for a few months it was nice helping Dad out when I moved into an apartment Dad missed me and I found him watching TV and hogging my recliner many an evenings when I went home from work
It’s normal for Asians to go back to live with the parents after graduating, and while in a transition period before getting a job, car or a house of their own.
I think it depends on your family, but I know my mom is actually encouraging me to live at home, to save some money for a down payment on a house or to give me time to set aside a chunk of future rent payments on an apartment… It’s really sweet of her. Since she’s a single parent and I have a younger sibling, it’s really like we’re all just roommates when I’m home anyway, so I don’t mind. I go home a couple weekends a month as it is.
I will admit a big factor is your parents’ method of… well… parenting. And if they’ve come to terms with the fact that you are, by all legal standards, an adult, and if you’ve started acting like that in return. I think my mom and I get along fabulously now, but we have spent the past few years on some fights (some tiny and quick, some catastrophic) that have really changed how she views me and I her.
After graduation I directly moved 1300 miles away from my parents, so I didn’t move back in. But they sort of expect me to move back in with them once I finish law school. I have no idea why they would expect that, but the offer is certainly nice. Saving money is a plus, esp when you have a ridiculously high amount of student loans.
I am now…I’d been living on campus, only crashing at home periodically on weekends (partly from guilt), but since I graduated (and not yet in grad school) I couldn’t continue living on campus unless I paid that large sum of $$ –but I have a job…on campus. I hope I’ll get to move out soon, claim more independence…I feel like I did before I lived on campus when I’m home…not uber happy
I moved in with my parents for six months after I got back from Vietnam (Navy). I almost reenlisted.
Yes, I would. It’s the typical ”Asian” thing to do. =P
No, bc it’ll be their house “their rules” no matter how old I am.
Last year I came back home to stay with them “temporary” and they started throwing me curfew times! I’m 24 and I have to be home by 11pm? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Thank God I don’t live with them anymore.
It’s more pathetic when people never move out.
Moving back in until you’re established enough in a job for your own place and to support yourself is fine.
A lot of people don’t even support themselves through college now-a-days.
I don’t, so I guarantee my parents will have to put up with me after I graduate.
Just like they have to put up with me through December break and the Summer >:3
Never moved out. I’m in my last year of college, and probably won’t be able to move out until my parents say I can :/
My sister, 26, has been wanting to move out, but because of the economy and my dad getting laid off, my parents insist her to stay and help pay the bills since my parents helped her so much through out college.
Well, I got my hours cut in half. I now work 14 hours a week. I was already renting this house from my parents, and now they want to live in it, so either I find somewhere else to live (which I can’t afford) or I live with them. I may not like it, but I don’t have a choice.
I did and I’m still living with my parents. Unfortunately, moving out is not an option…
Most of my friends back in Hawaii still live at home for one reason or another – tradition, money, their parents need them, etc.
My brother, for example, still lives at home with my mom. He moved back after my Dad passed away so I could go to College.
We live with my grandfather. We moved here when DH lost his job to save money. Then my grandmother got sick, so we stayed to help care for her. Then she passed away & it’s just my grandpa in this huge 4-bedroom house. So we’re still here. It’s working well for us, really. My kids know this as home, and there’s enough room for all of us. Besides, the cost to keep a 100-year-old is almost prohibitive for one person. With my husband & my grandfather working, it’s comfortable for everyone & makes it possible for me to be a homeschooling SAHM.
I didn’t move out for college, seemed like a retarded idea to me. However, my parents are awesome. For instance, Mom wants to help pay off some of my student loans, etc. ;p
@Drakonskyr - that is funny..
After I graduated college…long time ago.. I moved home with parents..then 2 years later moved out..lived with a boyfriend. He cleaned out my entire savings…well..I let him borrow money all the time.. naive fool in love. Oh, yeah..he was a drug addict too.. i did not heed the warning signs. SO..anyhow after 2 years living with him..I had to move back home with my parents..my money was all gone.. the kicker is, I stayed with that man,dating..for 6 more years! and i lived at my parents into my 30′s!! Saved money..I worked full time all the time. My bother died suddenly when I was 28…so after that parents probably were glad i lived with them for support. we neeeded each other. Grief is life’s hardest work IT sucked for real..but am thankful..now I am happily married and own a home. It was a bit daunting being with parents..I could not afford to live in my own place though. Life happens…and steers you off course . the cost of living in America is insane though. Insane.
I’m not in college, but have been on my own for a while now! I would never move back in with my parents! I’m going to be 28 yrs old. I doubt my parents want me to live with them! They’re stuck with my 29 yr old sister! LOL The only way I would move back was if I lost my job, apartment & needed somewhere to stay. I would give myself a time limit though….
NO!
If I can’t find a job in my field after I graduate I will happily find a shitty job just to make sure I can stay out on my own.
I did, I’m still there and I can’t wait until I have enough money to move out. They’re cool, but I miss living on my own. I live in a culture where the norm is to live with your parents until you get married, so I’m not looked down on as being immature, but there’s such a stigma attached to living with one’s parents in my native culture that I still feel really embarrassed about the fact that I live with my parents.
I will be graduating in a year, and my parents actually asked that I live at home for a year after I graduate. That way I can work on paying off my loans and finding a real job, instead of paying rent and working odd jobs to make ends meet.
My kids are 23 & 28 and have both moved back in twice. I don’t mind helping them out. The 28 yr old is still at home. Once he’s out again, I’m hoping that’s the end of the revolving door.
I moved out at 19 from Las Vegas to Atlanta. Lived there for two years until, after a whole lot of other outside events, we decided that it would be best for me to move back in with my parents. I do pay them rent, and contribute to other household stuff. I never understood how people live with parents and are legal adults and don’t at least pay their parents rent or do something of that sort.
After I left college I moved back home and then decided to stay while I finished college, because my mom and I were getting along. Unfortunately, everything went back to the way they always were and now I can’t wait to move out again.
I grew up in a college town, and went away for my actual college experience, but for grad school, i think i will move back in while i get my masters at said college town’s college, to save on living expenses….so i don’t have to live with them for very long while i’m actually a ‘non-student young professional’…or so i say now.
I did… I had no choice. I’m ok with it as long as they’re ok with it. Plus I cook for them all the time, which they love. It gives me the opportunity to save up my money for a rainy day. Plus, I have my ENTIRE life to pay rent or a mortgage. I’ll be out soon though.
I plan to. Where else am I gonna go on my lifeguard wages?
My mom wants me to but I haven’t yet and don’t plan to.
I did. I never had a job because my parents wanted me to focus on school, so I don’t have the money to move out. I get along with may parents though, so it’s not too much of a problem.
If I had to I would but I hope that I don’t have to.
Hell No!
I still live with my mom.
I had to from last year until now due to the fact I had to quit work due to an injury. Then from December to February I been out of the hospital and even got hospitalized for two weeks for spinal cord pain/problems so yeah. I’m still not 100% because of it. But I agree. Had this not happened, fuck it I would have worked 16 hours a day at McD’s if necessary. It’s unbearable but
Nope, never.
I’d just live w/ my sister. Or any other of the tons of fam that are around my age or friends.
Never living at home again if I can help it.
I moved back in with my parents recently and it’s more a mix of good and bad. Bad cause at almost no time are you alone in the house, good because I get nice home cooked meals. I have little siblings though, I think it would probably be easier for those without any.
I did. And it has been absolute Hell. Once I get out, I don’t care what I have to do to stay out. I won’t come back.
I have no clue how people in other cultures live with their parents until they are married. I suppose because it’s what they know, their parents recognize them as adults even though they’re at home. Not so, here.
The situation might work for less independent people, or those with reasonable parents. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself taking the long way home just for a few more minutes of peace.
I wouldn’t need to move back in after I’m finished school because I’m married, but my parents would happily accept me back if something went wrong between me and the significant other. I will mention, though, that I lived with my parents until I got married. So, there.
I always feel so lame because I’m one of those kids who moved back home with my parents after living on my own for two years. On a side note, I’m only 20 and haven’t graduated college. My parents wanted me to come back home to save money. I plan on moving out on my own again once I’m done with college. It’s stressful living with parents. I don’t think I can handle telling them every single thing I’m doing anymore.
I moved back in with my parents when I got out of the Army, but I won’t be living here by the time I’m done with college.
My grandparents and father would LOVE for us to stay with them.
When my sister graduates, she wants to move out, and the only reason my family would see to it, is they cannot stop her. Even if they think we go out too much, and aren’t the best kids, they still want us there where they can see us. Traditional Chinese families don’t believe in the children moving out until they are married, and even then, it is customary for the son and his wife to stay with the parents.
i think that it is harder if you lived on campus or with friends through college. you get used to doing your own thing–which makes things much harder to move back home. i’m still in college and i hope i dont have to move back home. my relationship with my parents is much better being away from home.
I promised myself I would never do that (there were six before me that moved back in after they moved out). I never want to do that to my mom. My brother, his wife, and their kid live with us right now and it’s a nightmare. I could never take advantage of her like that. I would try to work something out with a friend first or even another family member. Maybe if times are too tough, I could mooch off of someone who mooched off of my parents ;].
That was a long time ago for me, but I never moved back in with my parents after leaving home.
I hope my son doesn’t want to move back home after he graduates. lol I’m selling the house and buying an RV. I don’t think we will both fit.
I Love living at home, and I can hardly imagine enjoying living anywhere else… I do NOT want to live with a roommate my age and I do NOT want to die of boredom… So I’ll probably live here until my sisters leave or I get kicked out or MAYBE (least likely of the three) get married…
I don’t even have a car………Do you think i’ve got a choice?
hell no!! there is absolutely no way i’d move back there. You’d have to buy me loads of booze, let me get black out drunk, then drag my drunken body into that house before I’d move back!!
The more days that go by I think I’m going to have to move back in after next year, but God forbid…seriously. I’ve come such a long way…I’ll do everything in my power not too.
If I had a choice, heck no!!!! Unfortunately, this economy DOES suck and my husband and I had to move in with his dad for a while due to the company Hubby worked for closing down. Luckily his dad doesn’t mind…Sometimes people don’t have a choice in the matter.
I still live with my mom. We both work, and share bills.
Not too long ago in America, families living together wasn’t considered weird. It makes a lot of sense.
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No, after I finish post secondary- I want to live my own life free of my mom.
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personally i think it makes a lot of sense on a lot of levels to move home after college or at least be willing to take on a roommate. the truth of the matter is even when the economy was good a lot of kids coming out of college think they know about the real world of bills and things of he sort when they have no real clue on how to be an adult in this society. there are some who acquire the wisdom before leaving college but many of them do not. If i had parents to move in with for at least a year after college it would have made the world of difference. it is a great time to pick their brain about being a young adult. while contributing a little to the house you can save tons of money so as to have a good solid base when one does go to venture on their own. Or you can use that time at home to pay down some of that tremendous debt that came with said degree. I can understand that some people cannot stand living with their parents or feel it is beneath them to do so. there is nothing beneath getting a good start off in adult life. I am not saying stay there for ever but i think one to two years makes a lot of sense to me..
Dire financial need is the only thing I can think of for moving back in after college. You know when you are graduating so you know you have to find a place and a job a very long time beforehand. In my book, paying back student loans doesn’t count since you were financially irresponsible enough to get a debt-load in college you can’t handle. That’s stupidity on the part of a child and not a true financial emergency.
I actually stayed in a bad marriage to avoid moving back in with mine! Its all good now, divorced and happier and still NOT living with the parents
Financially, I would move home in a heart beat. Emotionally, my heart would stop beating.
There comes a point where you just have to have your own space no matter what the financial and emotional cost.
My wife and I actually did with our American Parents for four-and-a-half months, between our landing at KCI on March 30th and our move to Blacksburg and my taking a position at Va. Tech on August 11th. It was tough, being a 38-year-old former and soon-to-be-again College Professor moving in with Mom and Dad while we job searched, but it was all good.
i didnt graduate yet, but hopefully will this yr, and will be living with my parents…im looking for a job….dont have one yet…nor did i ever have one…so thy dnt seem to mind. and thy’ve been paying for tuition…
only catch is when my lil sister who is 14 gets to college i have to pay cuz obv i dont have any money now but thy wnt me moving on with my life and making money asap and thy also think they wont have any money left for my sister because of me…., so no pressure right now for me..lol, but will in the future
i actually started commuting this yr tho to save money and i hateeee it. i mean i like my fam and all but almost 24/7 is a lil too much.
My fiancé and myself are currently living with my dad, we just moved in at the beginning of the summer. Although it is nice not to have as many bills to pay, that’s not the reason we moved in with him. He had kids late in life and is approaching 70 and his health has been steadily declining. Once he started falling the decision was easy for us to be there just in case. We are lucky because he is very independent and doesn’t like to be in others business so it feels like we haven’t lost our space. I’m not going to lie not having to pay rent and only having to pay half of the utilities is really nice. I think if the house is big enough and the relationships are workable that it can be a good option for some people. If my dad was to some how magically be okay after the doctor’s try switching his med’s again, I think we’d probably still stay here for a bit to save more before we move on. It’s unlikely that will happen and we don’t know how long he’ll need us to stay with him but at least its working for us.
My sisters do that. (graduated 8 and 2 years ago) I’m planning to do that too. But yeah one of your first comments mentioned that Asians and Latinos are pretty family-oriented… and we’re Asian.
Its normal in my culture,The kds can leave with their family until they get married,then they can move out.
So far none of my children who have moved out have moved back in but mine typically move out later than their peers. We like each other and so we just do what works best to get us all into a better position. If my kids ever need to come home they can and likewise their homes are open to us if we ever need a place to stay. I think independence is a good thing but if a family can’t come together when times get rough and peacefully coexist in the same home I think that’s really sad.
I would like to move out before I graduate college. But that date is getting closer and closer and I don’t have money -_-. I never lived on campus so that makes it even more sad.
I’m trapped with my grandparents. I was liberated at 17, and it makes me express an inner voice of guilt, though I don’t feel it.
It’s weird because it’s their stuff, and they have a way of doing things.
My parents wouldn’t let me live with them. If my grandparents die, I’ll be on my own, which, even if I have an apartment, due to people, causes homelessness.
The same thing happened to me when I was 17 because some guy got mad that I could do everything at a young age and thought it was wrong. When you’re alone, you’re at everyone’s mercy and your own wit.
I thought it was wrong that all of my “friends” could live at home and not have to balance everything else. Then you have to serve them because they are above you status-wise. Like, they used to throw things at me because I rode a bicycle, and they had cars. They used to say, “get a fucking job.” I had several and was sending money home.
He wasn’t mad in exact terms, but that’s what it was because he was struggling because he did things. I didn’t do anything ever.
I never left home :p
I’d really, REALLY prefer not to :/
I’d better be on the verge of homelessness to ask to move back in.
My 39-year old brother and his wife and kids moved in with my parents over a year ago. Now my parents are raising my brother’s kids and paying his bills so he can go out and party. Sad.
But – i would love it if my kids moved back in with me as responsible, employed adults. Because i’ve verbalized my contempt for my brother’s behavior multiple times – my kids will be on their own come hell or high water.
Well I kind of still live at home. I go to school 5 minutes down the road from home. It’s cheaper for me to live at home. But I’m getting married before I graduate so no I will not be living with them after I graduate.
I’m leaving and never coming back.
But my brother is mooching off our parents after he graduated and can’t find a job . . . Annoying.
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no ways! i stayed with my parents for 2 months while my husband was TDY and i hated it! it brought back so much memories of me being a prisoner in my own home. hahahah. i’m so used to having my own house, my own family, my own routines. i dont like it when everyones always asking me whats my plans for the day
i come from a typical asian family. the one that pays for everything just to make sure you’ll have an m.d. at the end of your name. my mom WANTS me to move back in until i get married and settled. then when she needs help i’ll take her under my roof and take care of her cuz i love my mommy.
I never moved out for college. (My college is like…a mile from my parents house) I’ll probably stay until I get married, to be honest. (I have a long term boyfriend, so it’s not like I’ll be searching) My parents actually want me to stay, because as they say, it makes no sense to go out and rent an apartment that you will never own, and it’s better to move out when you have a house.
I’m one of those “kids” that had to go back and live with my parents cause I couldn’t afford to continue to go away for college. I wish I still was away, cause I hate being home
Well I couldn’t afford to graduate college but being unemployed or underemployed for the last several years I have moved home, but I do pay rent, and do chores.