September 16, 2010
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Women Hitting Guys
I have noticed that women will sometimes smack or hit guys. (This post is inspired by Hilaw’s pulse).
At the time I posted this, one woman admitted to hitting her husband and the other woman admitted to hitting her ex. I am sure you will have woman openly sharing and some will even laugh at the incidents. But you would have a totally different response if men were openly hitting their women.
I realize the double standard is in place because men are in a position of strength.
Men, have you ever been hit by a woman?
Women, have you ever hit a man?
Comments (171)
ugh. ok, glad i’m first. to comment. i new you’d twist it and turn it into some spousal abuse crap.
Yeah I’ve been physically abused. By my ex. And I did nothing to deserve it.
I have never hit a man. I was hit by an ex though. :/
Eh, no. I don’t hit people. *shrug*Why does gender matter?
you’re such a whore, dan. of course all the guys are gonna get all upset and talk about double standards. but the fact is, yes, men are generally physically stronger. but even you have to admit, it’s not tantamount, slapping a man, to physical abuse. why? because most of these are isolated incidents. these women haven’t made a habit of slapping men. i’m sure they had very good reason t do it.
i would expect him to slap me too if i was talking to him like he was talking to me. and i wouldn’t pull the abuse card i would the “i fucking deserved it” card.
I frequently beat my wife. At puzzle fighter.
@hilaw - YO good catch! I hate it when I get taken out of context.
@Dustin_wind - Seriously? I never got slapped once that I didn’t honest to god deserve it, even if it was only for being a passive aggressive, taunter and button pusher.
rofl, I was mentioned. I hit my ex a lot. I actually wouldn’t do that to someone I love. After we broke up and I thought about it I wished I hadn’t hit him so much, and the next guy I have I won’t hit him. It is a double standard and if I lose my temper and hit you wouldn’t it be hard to keep your temper and not hit me?
@Dustin_wind - well, see, that’s just wrong. and yeah, in this case, gender shouldn’t matter. sorry to hear that. it shouldn’t happen.
@hilaw - I read your second comment and I agree with that one too. Some of us guys are going to see this your way for sure. I’m one of them.
My brother and I hit each other all the time. That’s what siblings are for.
(As far as significant other’s I have been hit before. I tend to be the get mad and go off on my own to think type of person and somehow I always end up with the confrontational types…. Anyway I have fought back in my own defense to get away before.)
i would never hit a man. just can’t see myself doing it.
No. It’s never right to act violently toward others.
No, never.Don’t like the double standard at all though, but I guess that with time, it will change and women and men will be treated more equally.
I got punched in the face once by a girl.
I think if a woman decides to hit a man she should fully expect him to hit her back. Violence is never a great solution but there are times when I think it is required. Yes, I have hit a man from time to time usually in defense of someone. I haven’t had to in a very long time and I hope I never have to again. It makes me physically sick when I hurt someone, even if society would say that they deserved it.
The hitting stuff is for children. Many people need to grow up.
Hitting people… is really puerile and unintelligent. Coldness is much better. Like they ceased to exist. Anyway, reasoning with them is the best way to deal with problems. If they don’t hear you, and you don’t hear them, part ways! No need for abuse!Hmm wait a sec, is this about the fun kind of slapping? No I’ve never, but I’d try it, both giving and receiving.
@quodmenutriut - I agree with that. Gender doesn’t matter. Either hit people of both genders or don’t hit people of either gender, but don’t be one of those douches that says “I don’t hit women, but I’m ok with beating up men”.
@boilingicicle - hahahaha i haven’t tried it myself.
It’s not about gender, anybody who allows themself to be abused, may have too week of a personality to stand up and do anything about it. It’s never acceptable by anyone, even if they let you do it, taking advantage of week personality like that is despicable. or course by “let you do it”, I mean that they don’t kick the crap out of you when you hit them, if that’s the case you’re both insane, be happy together.
I attempted to hit an ex once (while we were together). He restrained me.That’s my story. yep.I wish he’d hit me back instead.
I knocked my unfaithful boyfriend off his motorcycle in the school parking lot. He had cheated on me – with another guy!
Does 6th grade count?
I killed my brother.
I slapped my ex boyfriend because he called my mom a bitch to my face. No one insults my mother, especially when they call her something she’s not.
Well, I’ve been hit by a man, but I think you’re talking about romantic relationships as opposed to familial relationships, heh. So for a man who is my equal, not my superior like a father might be considered to be, no, never. But I have slapped a guy in the face. He told me to though, cuz his face did this weird reaction-shiver thing whenever slapped, ha. So, it doesn’t count. =P
@meta_k - I’d do the same. Good on you!
@hilaw - So if a guy has a good reason to slap a chick that makes it okay? Hold on…I think I need to make a public service announcement.
@meta_k - right on@snarkius - oh you. you know what i meant.
I know. Sorry for being an asshole. I couldn’t help myself.
I don’t recall ever being hit by a woman, other than playfully which is a different thing altogether. And even though I acknowledge that there’s a good reason for the double-standard, I couldn’t see myself dating a woman who was in the habit of hitting me.
My GF once punched me in the face because she thought she saw a fly land on me…jeez girl, it was just a mole >.-
yes, i have been mad at my ex enough to bitch slap him, but only then to getarrested and thrown in jail for 30 hours hold. it sucked. i only slapped once more after that [[ to again get arrested and throw in jail]] to never hit a guy again, cuz i get hit back.
I always limited my abuse to mental abuse.Is that an actionable offense?In all seriousness, one of my boyfriends had a physically abusive ex-wife. He was a 6’3″ firefighter and kickboxer. But she would throw shit at him…nail polish, hair dryers – anything in her hand (she was frequently in the bathroom making herself pretty as you can tell by the examples). Of course he never did anything back. It was laughable, but still abuse.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - Shitty deal
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - OMG! Yeah, he deserved it!
If my boyfriend and I hit each other, it’s usually a smack across the face during sex (consensual). Or while wrestling over the remote. Or in some kind of humorous fashion.It’s never a mean kind of touch.
@New_dog - Never did anything to deserve it. She lashed out at me for no reason.@hilaw - Thank you. I appreciate it. The double standard is wrong. Abuse is abuse. Society stinks. Some girls (only some) think it’s okay to hit their man for no reason, but when he hits back one of those times cause he’s sick of it all of a sudden it’s wrong. It’s only ok until it happens to you right? At least that’s what those select members of the female gender think. And I would say the same to males thinking along the same lines. It’s downright stupid.Thanks <3
for me, it just depends on how good the woman looks. If she’s cute, she could use me as a punching bag anytime she wanted.
The double-standard here is wrong.It may seem reasonable at first to suggest that a big, tough man can take the occasional stinging slap from a woman — many of us can. Conversely, we’re not invulnerable, and the face is one of the more vulnerable bits. Seriously, you could give us a concussion or even kill us.And if we’re “any kind of man at all,” we won’t fight back and can’t run.There is no provocation short of force or the threat of force which justifies force.If, lacking such provocation, you’ve ever hit a man without his consent and he didn’t hit you back, you need to understand that you’ve broken a sacred trust. Civilized people don’t hit each other. Civilized men don’t hit women, and we have a right to expect reciprocal restraint.
No but I was attacked once.
Yes but not for many years.
Once, LOL… but he deserved it.
of course a woman should never ever be hit but sometimes a guy deserves it? doesn’t a woman deserve it too, sometimes? double standards = hypocrisy = bullshit.@hilaw - your post was taken out of context, but what do you have to say about the women who actually beat their men regularly? does it matter if they’re physically smaller, if the physical wounds aren’t as impactful? what about the emotinal wounds that accompany the beatings? the emascualtion of their spouse? just some things to think about.
@BobRichter - preach.
I slapped a guy hard on the back in junior high for making my friend’s life at school miserable. He took it in stride. I was about 5’2” and less than 100 lbs, while he was over 6ft and a lot heftier. I doubt it really even hurt. :pWhen my husband was first coming around to my house when we were dating, my father told him, “if she hits you, you have my permission to hit her back.”I know that sounds terrible, lol, but his point was that I don’t get to slap him around just because he’s a guy and I think the rules of abuse don’t apply to me. NO way. When my dad was dating my mom, she whacked him on the arm pretty hard one day while HER father was around. My mom’s father turned to my dad and said, “hit her back. She can’t do that.”There is absolutely no history of physical abuse on either side of my family, just to clear that up. I’m talking about brat behavior here, not extremes. ~V
Yup i decked the shit outta of my ex…he dserved it!
I’ve never hit a man or was ever hit by one..
I’m a woman – never hit a man. Never been hit either.
@Dustin_wind - Glad you left her. Men don’t deserve abuse either.
@rizzyBeautifullyBroken - i wouldn’t approve of it. my mom verbally and physically abused my dad. i hated hated hated it. there’s your answer.
@MLeonova - Well, in all honesty, she didn’t make it that hard on me to leave her lol but thanks
I hit my man… A lot. xD I told him about this and he just laughed. xD
ouchy xDive never been hit by a girl. ive never hit a girl. well, me and my sister used to attempt murder but, not anymore xD lol…..jkanyway, of course guys are stronger, their built that way, unless you look like this = gross ( thats just nasty! )
I’ve been hit a time or three but it was usually a playful gesture (or because of something I said knowing it would get a rise out of her).
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - boyfriend? i thought you were a lesbian.
@hilaw - never a good reason to hit unless your life is in danger
@militarymomof2 - exactly. but when your life’s in danger, if you’re a woman, a slap may not save your life against a man.
I’ve hit men and women. I’m not really that picky.
@hilaw - do you hate your mom for it? Or have you made amends?
Not okay to hit a husband. Probably okay to slap a creep or an ex who’s just being a jerk. Sometimes they just need it, you know? If it’s a repeated thing done to keep a man “under control” or whatever…definitely abuse, and definitely not okay. That does happen.
@Dustin_wind - Well, that’s fortunate.
yes i was hit but never have i hit
@MLeonova - i’ve forgiven her for many things. my dad wasn’t her only target.
@hilaw - yikes. I hope you weren’t a target.
Erm not a partner or anything but when I was a child I would get away with hitting my cousins (boys) and some schoolmates (also boys).. then I grew out of it.
I used to hit my high school bf but it was just playing…never really have been violent towards a guy.
i’ve always thought if a woman hits a guy, she put herself in a guy’splace, and has every right to get what she deserves–hit back. you hit her, she can hit back. she hits you, hit her the fuck back.on the other hand, the only time i’ve hit a guy was when he molested mein middle school, so i beat the shit out of him, including and notlimited to shoving his face into the corner of metal lockers. he hardly hit back and when i was done, he vomited and passed out. i was nearly pressed for hate crimes, as he was black and i am snow white, and they considered it not an act of self defense but as hate crimes.shit sucks, heh.oh, and i guess my bro and i get in fights/have knife fights but, well.but if i had someone who hit me, i’m not sure what i’d do. i’ve already been in an emotionally abusive relationship and i didn’t notice then. i would doubt i would notice it was ‘bad’ if it suddenly got physical [at the time of the other relationship, i wholly believed that i was deserving of physical abuse, as well].
I’ve only ever slapped a guy who would not keep his hands to himself.
I’ve only playfully “hit” a dude. I’d never full on smack someone unless it was in some sort o’ self-defense.
No one has ever struck me in anything but jest.
Men are IN GENERAL stronger than women but there are exceptions. I was taller and (probably) stronger than my last three boyfriends. One boyfriend was taller than me but he was also twenty years older (I was 28) and a skinny chain smoker who never worked out. If I had ever wanted to beat him up he would have been in a very bad position… certainly he would not have been able to protect himself very well. Men who have been beaten by women are taught to be ashamed of being knocked down by a “girl” and are told to keep their beatings a secret less they be mocked. Certainly these men almost never report the violence… or report it far less often than women who are beaten by men.Men will continue to be in a position of strength in our society as long as female-on-male violence is considered not serious and even hilarious compared to male-on-female violence. If female rage and violence are seen as not dangerous women will never truly advance… and men who are hurt by women with anger disorders will never really see justice.thanks for putting up this post.
Does a slap on his arm to get attention while arguing count too?
Another thing to consider is women who hit men or whatever it mat be tend to not leave marks or bruises, but when you hear about a woman being abused you always see pictures of her battered (black eyes, cuts etc)I think there’s a difference between actual abuse & just a smack.
The sad thing is that it IS about gender. Our society thinks it’s less okay for a man to hit a woman than for a woman to hit a man. That is absolutely not the case. The man being stronger does not ever give the woman an excuse to hit him.Regardless of gender, if you hit someone, be prepared to get hit back. And don’t go crying to the police if you hit first.
Any woman who hits a man better be ready to deal with his reaction.
i got quasi slapped one time on the face by a gf… it wasn’t anything serious.. I just made a comment when a bunch of us was joking around and she reacted to that comment, which wasn’t to her, by quasi light hearted slapping me…. but i went fucking ballistic… no one has ever slapped me in any manner before or after that incident… so yeah… it’s fucking bullshit… i pulled her ass outside and gave her tongue lashing… we didn’t last much longer after that… she was a class A biotch…
I’ve jokingly hit or pushed my guy friends in the arm. That’s it. While in a relationship (and I’ve only been in one SeriouS relationship – which I’m not married to him for 6 years) I’ve never hit a guy other than the joking push, shove, arm slap. I stopped that habit of joking that way though when my husband (though this is back when we were just dating) told me it really annoyed him. So I had to stop. I have to say the reason I would never hit a man in anger is kind of sad. Of course there’s the reason that it just isn’t right. That kind of “double standard” just should not exist. It’s wrong despite gender, size or strength. My other reason for never hitting a man is the sad/pathetic one – I don’t truly trust ANY man because my dad has slapped my mom a total of 3 times during my lifetime. Once, resulting in stitches. Right in front of my brother and I in the car. And he can’t understand why – since he never did or said anything horrible to us kids – we strongly favor our mother over him. So I guess I’m fearful that if I ever hit a man in anger, that he’d be caught up in the moment & forget he shouldn’t hit back and I have NO desire to experience that. Because if my husband ever seriously hit me because I hit him first, I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t be my husband not long after that. If he ever hit me FIRST (well, I say first but I’d still be too scared to ever hit back physically), then he would definitely be gone. Now, I disagree with double standards. But if a woman hits a man regularly – then he should leave. He should never hit back unless the woman has the capacity to actually hurt him. Why? For the same reasons I explained to my 4 year old son he shouldn’t hit his 11 month old sister even though she was pushing him around and frustrated for him for whatever reasons I couldn’t see. He is bigger than she is. If she hits him, it really won’t hurt. If he hits her, he can seriously hurt her. Plain & simple.
I have playfully hit guys before but not like anger wise.
I’ll knocked a guy out if he ever touches me.jk.. if its a boyfriend,it’ll be overif its a stranger depending on how buff he is, ill have to think about it
One decided to slap my leg hard, this person wanted me to go out with her.
I don’t think it’s ever acceptable to resort to physical violence, regardless of gender, so it doesn’t matter who’s stronger.
I like Archer. Good choice of photo.Eh, there are times when hitting anyone, guy or girl (ie. self-defense) is necessary. If some dude tried to take my purse, I wouldn’t want witnesses to judge ME instead because I bitchslapped him, pushed him down, etc. for touching my stuff. Same goes for life-threatening situations.If it’s playful, don’t whine if it’s not your relationship. Some people do it, and that’s their business.If it’s abusive… that’s another story.If it’s uncalled for, I’m sure most people know it’s bad to hit your friend / SO for a stupid reason. And they do feel bad about it.
I’ve only hit my ex when I was defending myself from him.I’ve never thought about hitting someone so much before. One day I almost beat him over the head with a skillet while he was sleeping, but I couldn’t do it. I was afraid I’d kill him. Other than that, I’ve never hit a man.
@Kimmybeth - exactly. that whole “if a woman hits a man, she should expect to be hit back.” thing is bullshit. Men are obviously bigger, stronger, ect. There is no challenge whatsoever. Very rarely can a woman actually hurt a man by hitting him. Unless she pulls some jujitsu shit out.
Of course I got hit by a dude, and I hit him back. That’s how people FIGHT.I kicked his ass, he didn’t even know I was female. LOL
To me hitting a man is just as bad as a man hitting a woman
i would only hit a man if he attacked me first.
I used to smack my very first ex on the arm all the time. But I was 14… I stopped doing it really quickly. It wasn’t a reasonable response. And I don’t think anyone should be hitting (men OR women) in relationships. That doesn’t solve anything.
I don’t think it’s okay for anybody to hit anybody. Period.Playful slaps could be an exception, but I’ve found that they lead to an unpleasant gray area.
I used to, but it was because I was insecure with my position with him. I also play rough; I just assumed that men could handle it. I don’t know where that mentality came from. I don’t do it anymore though. lol.
I’ve never hit a man and don’t agree with the double standard.
Being attacked, yes, and worse, but otherwise absolutely not. You don’t hit someone you care about and you don’t hit someone whose not physically attacking you. It simply isn’t appropriate. Its something that makes me cringe to see even when it’s done playfully.
hitting is never okay.
Fortunately I have not been struck since childhood. I want to keep it that way.I don’t believe in physical violence outside of self-defense or defense of others. I believe that when a woman hits a man, it is abuse. It doesn’t matter how little damage she may have done- and I would really like to know why when this subject comes up, “strong independent” women everywhere start claiming to be weak and harmless. A woman can do damage. But even if she does not, to strike someone outside of self-defense or defense of others is abuse. It has no place in a relationship of any kind.
I don’t date guys who don’t hit back if I hit them first.
It’s a crap double standard tbh, if you hit someone for no good reason (no matter what your gender) you should expect to be hit back.
I have hit a guy before but I was wrong. I thought I had power over him but it was a false sense of it.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - Now THAT Explains a LOT!!!!!
Yea I’ve been hit… softly though. More like playful hitting… does not hurt at all.
I don’t ever lay hands on my fiance. I don’t ever feel angry enough to hit him. I don’t hit people I love. There is no need for that. He’s never laid a hand on me so why should I do it to him? I think it’s bullshit that women can hit men. I’m not a feminist at all but it’s just common sense. Hitting = Immaturity.
The only time I’ve ever hit a man is if I felt it needed to be done. I can only remember one time doing it because I needed too. The other times guys were curious which one of my friends and I could hit harder so they had each of us hit them.
The only time I’ve “hit” my boyfriend is during play fighting or wrestling. He’s a foot taller than me, and we scuffle in a very playful way. I don’t think either of us has ever, or will ever, strike with significant force. Maybe a little pain from both sides, but nothing serious.
I learned with my boyfriend that a light smack to his face meant a heavy blow to his dignity and self-respect. He told me that a slap felt like a degrading insult. It was an easy habit to get into, but I regret ever doing it. I think it’s worth avoiding if you want to love your man well, at least if he’s anything like mine.
I remember hearing since childhood not to hit girls. The only times I hit girls were when I was also a child myself and it happened twice. Other than that, I have never had a reason to hit a woman so I don’t know, at least not a woman I know personally.I can think of several women public figures I would love to have the opportunity to hit.Also, I have noticed that certain men rape and actually beat up women and also murder and sometimes even dismember or violate the body in such as way as to make you wonder if men in general, are not actually insane just because we are men. Why is this. This is actually plenty good reason for women to be hitting men, if they haven’t been violated just for being a women yet, they are certainly angry at the constant prospect…I can hardly blame women for hitting us just because we walk past and are men.It isn’t right but if you put things in perspective, it doesn’t really seem like something to complain about..Unless the woman is someone like Aileen Wuornos, but then they will electricute her before she can say “hey, if I were man I’d be on death row for years just WAITING to be executed….”…So, go figure…
I think some people are hitters and others aren’t. I would never hit a boyfriend. Only lightly if he made a sex joke about me, haha. Ps- I like this background.
I only hit my girlfriend when I see a license plate from another state.but in terms of ACTUALLY hitting her, I definitely wouldn’t. having a black belt kinda teaches you the peaceful mind way…
I haven’t hit a man, but if a guy was being an obnoxious chauvinist I might.
I can understand play hitting/slapping/shoving. Me and my guy friends do that. Sometimes if they really offend me, I (attempt) it punch them pretty hard in the shoulder… but they’ve done the same to me when I offend them (of course not as hard as they can, but enough to know that I should stop). However, I have a problem when girls or guys take it to the extreme and hit them hard where it hurts, or in the face.My two mutual friends were at one of their houses. She was laying on a pool chair and my friend was messing around with her by picking it up and putting it down, just pushing her buttons. One time she moved as he was putting down the chair (however it was still in the air), and she fell off and hit the ground. She wasn’t hurt, she was actually laughing and she got up and hit him on the shoulder, and we all thought that everything was fine. Then, out of no where, she decked him in the face. She hit his nose pretty hard, to the point where he thought he was going to start bleeding.See, I don’t think that’s fair. Sure my friend should have stopped, but she wasn’t hurt and she was laughing afterwards. In my opinion, she should have been hit straight back, but my friend is too much of a gentleman to hit a girl, especially not in the face.
Abuse is abuse no matter what sex they are. HItting can never be reasoned. I never spanked my kids, or hit my spouse. I also have never been hit by my mate. But abuse does come in many forms. Hitting is just one form.
My roommate has anger management issues. She punches stuff or people when she gets mad, and often I’m the victim.
nope.
@DJ_GiNSU - This gives me a reason to actually get good at Puzzle Fighter. I always lose get beaten =.=;;
I make it perfectly clear that I will treat a woman as an equal in all things, especially if we are dating. I will never look down on her as inferior or incapable of certain tasks, and I will always seek to raise her up where she feels she is lacking. I also inform her that whatever she gives me I will return with interest. If she gives buys me dinner, I will make dinner for her. If she gives me love, I will give it back with even more. From this behavior, I let them infer what will happen if they are ever to strike me without cause. To date, I have never had to hit a woman, and I will not do so first.The few girls who have ever taken a swing at me have not succeeded. That great big slow-ass windup that comes before a slap is so comical to begin with, that the confused and outraged look I get when I simply hold up my hand and block it is like a bonus joke.
If someone needs to be slapped, I don’t mind doing it.
I’ve never been hit by a woman because they are just too slow. Unless you count my big sister when she was 16. She taught me how to fight, and how to take a punch.
I think in every situation where a woman hits a man, people should think about it in reverse. Would this have been okay if the man had hit the woman? If the answer is NO, then it wasn’t okay for her to do it either. I don’t care if it’s just a slap in the face. Men go to jail for that kind of thing. Women get “You go girl!”. It’s fucking stupid. Violence is violence regardless of who is physically stronger.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - Well in that case I would have knocked his ass off his motorcycle as well
I hit men, but I’ll always be joking…It’s nothing really serious.I like the article though.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - :O Oh my!
@ItIsAllGravy - bahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.
@hilaw - You’re so full of it. I am a man, and no stronger than your average woman, but if I were to, in any way, strike a woman just one time, I would be demonized for it. I couldn’t make the argument that I had “very good reason” to do it. So yes, it’s valid to bring up a double standard in this situation. You are being very typical by dismissing a double standard just because you’re on the better side of it.
i’ve hit my ex a lot. he used to do a lot of disrespectful shit. one time he threw a lit cigarette at me and i punched him in his jaw. another time he said something disrespectful, i forget what, and i punched him in his jaw. then he tried to grab me by the shoulders and i pulled a couple of his dreads out and punched him in the jaw lol. i find it to be funny that so many people are all “ZOMG! THUR’SZ A DUBBEL STANDURRD! GAISZ CANT HYT GURHZ SO GURHZ SHOODNT HIT GAIZ.” fuck that. if a bitch is putting her hands on a man he has every right to hit her back. i’m not condoning domestic violence AT ALL. but there are just certain times when physical attacks are inevitable. like when the same ex i was just talking about got another girl pregnant on me. i punched him in his jaw. xD
@Crossed_Out_Name - you wouldn’t be the first to say i’m full of it. yep
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - so then it was like you were hitting another girl ???????????I was never hit ….. but I was stabbed. That changed some of my views on never hitting a female.
@Crossed_Out_Name - not really. i completely agree with her. i dont know if it’s because i grew up on the rough side of town or what, but i feel like if a female is talking shit like a man, she can get hit like a man. by a man. or another female, whatever. that’s just how i feel. it’s all stupid when it comes down to it, but it’s some real shit for a woman to get hit and deserve it and for her not to call the police.
There’s a lot of violence in my life, yeah.
If she fights like a man, then she gets hit like a man. A weak punch or slap or kick in the shin is something to let alone as a man, but if she full on socks you in the face or kicks you in the groin or takes out a weapon of any kind, then as a man, you have the right to defend yourself. Rules of chivalry go out the window once things get seriously violent.
I’ve hit my exes before, usually just playing around. I also smacked my uncle when he told me not to gain any more weight otherwise no one would want me.
Nothing more than a playful slap/punch on the arm. It’s the same double standard that makes the unorthodox woman raping a man concept humorous to some.
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No, I’ve never been hit by a man, nor have I struck one. It would only take one time for me and I would be out of there.
@Alive_in_Vegas - Are you a numb skull who thinks all gay men must be twinks?
My boyfriend and I have fist fights :]. It’s really fun though. We never do much damage and we only hit each other’s torso (unless it’s a slapping fight then it’s face only
). I accidentally punched him in the face once and another time he accidentally hit me in the solar plexus…that didn’t feel good at all -_- But we aren’t abusive :].
I hit Drakonskyr in the face!
I’ve hit a man once, after he hit me. It was self-defence.
I don’t believe that adults should be hitting each other, except in cases of self defense (and it doesn’t count if you’re trying to defend your ‘honor’ or some such other intangible humor). It is very childish behavior.
I’m a feminist.
I’m a girl, and I was always told by my mother that if you hit a guy, you should fully expect to be hit back. I realize that society views this differently, but I agree. The majority of people think it’s “cute” and “spunky” when women punch or playfully hit men, but if the roles are reversed, it’s perceived as a completely different situation.
I’ve never hit a significant other, although I did hit a guy once to defend myself from unwelcome advances after I had clearly told him to bug off and even said if he tried it again I would smack him. Maybe he was into that sort of thing.The thought of doing violence to my husband makes me sick. Even if he cheated on me or something, I wouldn’t beat him up physically. I might have some choice words and do stuff to his stuff, but I wouldn’t injure him beyond insisting he get STD tested and/or leaving him. (I hear those tests aren’t comfortable.)
I’ve never seriously hit someone I’ve been involved with for the purpose of hurting them. I play fight all the time, a few times I have hit too hard accidentally though. My boyfriend did not appreciate me throwing my copy of 1984 at him when he made some derogatory comment about my mother. (At least I had the sense to hit him with good literature instead of Twilight or something like that.)
When I was a teen
i like chicken.
Hellfucking yeah I’ve hit men. If the muthahfuckah deserves it, best believe he’s gonna get it.
@infinitely_invisible - You should have punched that mutherfucker in the dick.
Only once ever. When my husband left me for another woman and I caught him at her house. I told him I would forgive him and take him back if he would just tell her that it was over in front of me. He said something really stupid I no longer remember and I slapped him as hard as I could right across the cheek. He had a bruise for two weeks and told everybody I hit him with the keys. Open hand slap did that. Seven years of lies and deception all wrapped up in my fingers left that bruise. I am not sorry. And one day I may just knock him down with a fist. If he and his latest crack whore pull one more of their shanannagans and put my babies through any more hell. I have a really ugly rant in my mind so I shall stop now. But that man (and I use that term lightly) is not worth the carbon he is made of.
I got slapped during prom by a friend of mine, who is very short temper..and has no sense of humor.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - not at all ……… I was trying to lighten a heavy conversation that causes folks to jump down other peoples throats much like you tried to do with me. Why did you have to resort to slurs and derogatory remarks?
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - DOH!
See yesterdays comment….I hit Bobby once ..then I ducked
My ex cheated on me. Long story short, he got 5 stitches in the mouth. I punched his lip through his teeth. The cops sided with me. The end.
Na. I’m more of the angry sex type.
I have never been hit by a spouse, and I would never hit someone I loved.And yeah, double standards exist. No, it’s not fair, but that’s life. So people need to get over it.
@beebizzle - @Dustin_wind - but you have to consider other women. they can also know that they deserved it if they did BUT can be spiteful and pretend it was abuse.
i hit my boyfriend, but like, playful punches and things, not hitting to hurt. But i’m pretty weak. Whereas, he has hit me (the same way, just playfully) done it to hard and it REALLY hurt. so, if thats a double standard it is, but basically, men have testosterone and can cause more damage.
i never did hit a man because i was angry, and i never did intentionally try to hurt one. yes everyone thinks its a lot worse if a man hits a woman because of the greater strength, but it’s mostly because majority of the abuse cases is caused by a man.
@JohnnySins - See that’s where the double standard is. If they truly deserved being hit (but in my eyes nobody should actually be hit even if they did deserve it).
@JohnnySins - well that’s just a shitty woman then. if roles were reversed that night and he slapped me i wouldn’t pull the abuse card. if he punched me with all his strength or continued hitting me then yeah, thats uncalled for. i guess you’d have to know the situation that night, you would be on my side i’m sure.
I’ve accidentally kneed my boyfriend in the crotch… and he’s accidentally elbowed me in the face…
I’ve hit a guy before… Several, actually. Most were because the guy hit me first, and I’m not the kind of woman that would let a guy beat on me. I have slapped a guy before, because of things he said that someone should not say to another person. I wouldn’t abuse my partner though. Like…I’ll playfully swat him sometimes, but not in a way that would hurt. (Like when you hit someone lightly because they made you laugh.)
Other than playfully punching a few random guys, no, I haven’t hit a man. I would if he was attacking me, though!
Slapped my ex. That was it. Because he pushed me. Jerk!!!!
I fought my way out of an attempted rape situation once. But I don’t hit people. Even when I was a kid being beaten up by my older sister, I wouldn’t defend myself.
It’s because the average man is about 3x as strong as the average woman and women are more fragile and easily hurt. My first girlfriend used to hit me a lot but I never hit her back, even though I wanted to sometimes. Eventually I dumped her.OF course there is also the Star Trek approach where you have Captain Kirk who slapped a woman once because she slapped him first, and another episode where Dr. Mccoy did the same thing.
we just need to keep our hands to ourselves people!be the better person.
Never been hit by a woman in a serious way. Punches on the arm in affectionate ways have happened, but those don’t count.
my girlfriend will playfully punch me from time to time and I’ll reciprocate. Of course I have to pretend it hurts or else she’ll keep hitting me until it hurts
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