September 21, 2010

  • Is Masturbation Healthy?

    I rarely read Datingish but I noticed a post was on there titled “4 Reasons You Should Masturbate.”

    What I thought was interesting was some of the comments:

    There is just NO SUPPORT on this site for people who don’t want to masturbate.”

    “I don’t get off by myself, sorry. It usually takes a sexy naked man present for me to even become aware of the fact that my vagina exists. I’m really not that narcissistic.”

    eh masturbation doesn’t do anything for me I’ve given it up completely.”  Here is the link:  Link

    Then I saw an article titled “Masturbation Addiction The Wrong Path.”  It talked about how to treat “masturbation addiction.”  It mentioned all the problems related to masturbation.

    When I was a kid, my mother told me masturbation was healthy.  It is interesting that there are some people that see it as an unhealthy or taboo topic. 

    Do you think masturbation is a healthy activity?
                               
                                                  

Comments (134)

  • I think it becomes unhealthy when you’re addicted to it, but if you’re not addicted then I think it’s perfectly healthy and normal.

  • *shrug* It’s never caused any health problems for me.

  • I think it CAN be. Like everything else in the world, moderation is key. I have known people who do it wayyyy wayyy too much, and in that case it probably isn’t that healthy since it screws up their relationships. If it doesn’t affect your life otherwise and relieves stress/makes you happy, I think it’s fine.

  • Sure. Lets out a good amount of steam now and again. And I really don’t see it any more narcissistic then getting a back massage.

    People are so silly. :P

  • Actually, I guess it depends on the context. I am sure it could become addictive, but that does not mean it is something that should be avoided. For young people with hormones raging, it probably is healthy. Releases tension. I’ve heard of guys doing that before a hot date so that they can think while they are on the date and to relive tension. 

  • Yep.
    Especially for men – regular ejaculation decreases your risk of prostate cancer.

    And uh, it’s awesome. And de-stressing. And since stress is unhealthy….there you go.

  • Yes.  Moderation, though.

  • Yes, as long as one isn’t consumed by it.

  • I say go for it! It keeps me in check and I don’t allow it to get out of hand. Shit without masturbation I might become a sex addict. Hmmmm STDs vs. self pleasure. 

    I choose masturbation!

  • Sex can wait, masturbate!!!

  • I’m just fine with masturbation. I masturbate. I’m not addicted but I do enjoy it. It’s a good way to get uhm… In tune with your body I suppose. Haha. Well, I guess I can just say that everyone is going to masturbate at least once out of curiosity and the people who say they’re not ever going to are lying.

  • I think it’s very healthy as long as it doesn’t take away from a healthy sex life with another person.

  • I’m masturbating as we speak.

  • I think its healthy in moderation. If it gets to the point where it starts to interfere with other activities, then there is a serious problem.

  • only with another family member

  • Narcissistic? Narcissistic is when Christian Bale points at himself in the mirror while having sex in the American Psycho.

    Fireman time is awesome time! 

  • Very healthy.
    Late night phone sex and naked skypes w/ my boyfriend are fun motivates to masturbate with him.
    I have no problem admitting that.

  • @meta_k - So very true. Anything can become a addiction…moderation is the key to life..

    I just don’t care for it..

  • the real question is, what makes masturbation UNhealthy.

  • the only reason I clicked here was cuz of the picture you used.

  • What aspect of the human person are we concerned with when we are wondering as to how healthy masturbation is? I am assuming physical and, if this is the only aspect of health we are concerned with then yes, I suppose masturbation is healthy. But if human beings or more than mere bodies, then that is another discussion entirely.

  • @Hinase - I can’t imagine being addicted.  >_<

  • As long as your not obsessed with it, then yes.  It is healthy.

  • I guess it depends on how it is done and  how often it is done.  Physically I think it has evolved far enough that some mother isn’t going to tell her son “It will make you go blind”.  Emotionally it depends on the person, if per chance they were told when they were kids that it was “nasty” and “bad” then the guilt feeling brought on with the practice could be unhealthy, If they were taught that it is a natural part of life then of course there is no guilt or shame and it would be okay for them.

  • Feels good, man.

  • Do we have any evidence that suggests it is unhealthy? 

    There are other benefits as well, physical health aside.  For instance, some people are more influenced by their sex drives than other people.  Masturbating can help stop you from making some REALLY stupid decisions.  Also, as has been suggested before, anti-stress, helps sleeping etc etc etc.

  • As long as you don’t forget the moisturizer

  • I don’t know, but I try to avoid it.

  • I really like the panties in your photo.

    I read someone on datinglish that claimed masturbation makes it harder to climax during intercourse…baahhh

    Datinglish should have a sub-site called prudinglish. or elizabethinglish. or mothertheresaish…I don’ know….maybe  i’s just that the abstinence movement is getting out of hand and should be stopped!!

  • oh…I didn’t answer the question.  I think it is a “normal” activity.   Any activity, even eating or exercising, can go from normal and healthy to “unhealthy” and “a disorder” if it interferes with our relationships with other people or our functioning out there in the world!

    @mommachatter - I thought boys were told it would grow hair on your palms :)

  • As long as it’s not an addiction.

    And I don’t think you need to be narcissistic to masturbate.

  • how else are you going to know what you like or don’t like if you don’t make love to yourself?

  • YOU’LL GO BLIND!!!!!!!!

  • How is masturbation narcissistic? Pleasing yourself doesn’t equal being in love with yourself; if that were the case, any other recreation would be a narcissistic endeavor also.

    On another note, I can certainly understand that it just doesn’t do anything for some people. If that person wants more support for people who don’t want to do it…they should submit a post himself/herself.

  • well i personally don’t see it as being HEALTHY really, but i don’t think it’s that bad either. If it gets addicting then yes I do think that’s bad!

  • People who need an excuse of using masturbation for health…either has a bad relationship with their hands, or a troubled relationship with their lover.

    Come on now…I can understand this being helpful information (if that), but its all just for pleasure. Its like telling a person without heart problems, that a glass of red wine a day is good for your health.
    When the doctor starts to prescribe masturbation as a daily thing with prescription lotion, talk to me about healthy masturbation then. =P 

  • Masturbation is excellent foreplay!
    However, you’d think that in the 21st century that something as important as masturbation would be accepted more widely.
    But oh well.
    Maybe if those people did it more often, they’d be less uptight  ;)

  • Dear Dan,

    It only hurt real bad once. That was when I got so excited I pulled my dick off.

    I haven’t masturbated since.

    And I have to pee like a girl.

    Michael F.Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool

  • YES 

    YESSS OH GOD YES. 
    pun intended. 

  • How on earth is masturbation narcissistic? 

    It’s nice to let off steam once in a while. Moderation is key! When it becomes an addiction and it affects your regular schedule or have a strong, unusual need for it, then its unhealthy. 
    Why would I go out of my way to find someone to have sex with? I take sex personal and I’m not going to find someone to have sex with just to let off some stress. Come on, being a nursing major is quite a stressful thing and I barely have time for myself ]:

  • If masturbation were truly unhealthy I would have died before being old enough to vote

  • *fap fap fap* …what were we talking about again?

  • @korean_biyatch - If we weren’t meant to masturbate, God wouldn’t have given us hands.

  • @nyfemme - I am sure that one was used too….but the one used in the area where I was raised it would make you go blind.

  • Masturbation helps a person discover themselves, what they like/don’t like, etc. It helped me to understand a lot of things about myself. I honestly did not “know” myself until I was about in my late teens. I never really looked. All I knew was that something happened, it felt good, and if I did something in one way all the time, I’d have an orgasm. I never looked at the parts, explored the area or any of that until I was about seventeen. It’s something everyone needs to do. As for the “extremes”, I really can’t govern that. The things that we might find to be outlandish may feel good to another person. The things that would bring disabling harm, however, should not be done. I think that’s when it gets unhealthy. Other than that, yes. It’s very healthy. ^.^

  • In moderation. Like you know instead of five times a day I can reduce it to once a day

  • someone thinks masturbation is narcissistic? that’s interesting. I’d kind of like to hear their reasoning on that…

  • only once a week, LOL

  • who cares, it’s fun!

  • I think that masturbation helps an individual to develop sexually.

  • Yes.  Masturbation is healthy.

    For women, masturbation sensitizes their nerve endings, which makes sex more enjoyable.  The more a woman masturbates, the better sex feels.

    For men, frequent masturbation ensures that their semen is fresh — because sperm does expire, and quickly.  Not so great if you don’t plan on having children, but it certainly helps with that whole “be fruitful and multiply” thing.

    Just don’t do it in public.

  • I didn’t say it was unhealthy or taboo I just said it doesn’t do anything for me. :/ Boringgggg.

  • I think there can certainly be a point of excessive masturbation, but I think it’s psychologically healthy and normal to engage in it (or at least want to) at some point.  Orgasms also tend to have healthy effects for men and women (it’s good for a man’s prostrate; women release estrogen and such), and it can relieve stress.

    So is anyone unhealthy for choosing Not to masturbate? Not necessarily. Is anyone unhealthy for choosing to masturbate? Again, not necessarily.

  • i very rarely get sick !

  • Well it’s either healthy or it isn’t. I hadn’t looked into it so I don’t know.

  • @grammarboy - lol, why do you try to avoid it? 

  • I can’t do it on my own, just w/ a v. But I do it to destress…

  • nothing seems wrong.

  • That second quote is making me laugh… it’s narcissistic to be aware of your vagina existing when you aren’t being mounted by some guy? That’s like being situationally asexual or having a lower sex drive than average, which is fine, but it’s not narcissistic to feel otherwise.

    And yes it’s healthy. If you don’t want to that’s okay too, but it’s not something to be ashamed of either way.

  • I think it’s healthy and normal.  I do it and I’m not ashamed to admit it.  I see nothing wrong with it unless it becomes an addiction.  Even healthy behaviors become unhealthy when taken to the extreme.  Like if you drink too much water or exercise too much, that’s damaging.  Masturbation is no different.

    But I also think there’s nothing wrong with not masturbating if you don’t feel the urge to do so. 

  • no because it is a sin and yes i have gotten addicted to it i realized i put it before god and putting anything before god is a sin

  • now it’s narcisstic if you masturbate? that’s a new one…

  • As long as you are not addicted then I don’t see the problem. 

  • Yes.  Very healthy.

  • Nothing unhealthy about the behaviour itself. Sure, it can become addictive, but so can sleep, exercise, and food. I think masturbation is great and it’s a terrible shame that it doesn’t work very well for me, though to be fair, neither does any sexual activity so far…

  • I just wonder what Christine O’Donnell does since she isn’t married. 

  • I have some sort’of medical problem or something where I get turned on and it hurts me.  I have to masturbate (masterbate) to get rid of it.  It shames me every single time.  It takes like 1 minute.  Since I’m already “emo,” it only adds to the loser feel.

    It’s normal for kids/younger people to masterbate, but it’s probably nto the best way to go because you form relationships with sex that have meaning. 

  • It helps me get to sleep at night. 

  • I think it’s healthy. :)  

  • Without masturbation the Internet wouldn’t exist. (or the Tea Party)  

  • Like everything else, good in moderation.

  • Healthy? Yes.

    How else will you know what you like or dislike when it comes to sensations?

  • …a hell of a lot healthier than unwanted pregnancies, stds and unhealthy relationships, yes.

    You should love yourself a little. =)

  • Healthy – cures my insomnia.

  • Has anybody died from it? Neit! 

  • @Texana - You should be loved by others, as well.

  • No. It is not spiritually healthy. Sex is meant for union, and there is no union in masturbation.

  • NO! Masturbation is UNhealthy!! Why? Because, it isolates us from the companionship and comfort that comes from being loved, and loving someone else. Sex with another person is good, sex with yourself is isolating and bad.

    Seriously, all you people who say it’s good? Go find a mate!

  • I agree with an HIV+ friend of mine who said, “Masturbation do not knock it…it won’t kill you”. ALL I got to say is that it is biologically impossible for me to do it (can’t get an erection because of my psychiatric medication and I miss it. Unfortunetly I have to be celibate for the rest of my life.

  • narcissistic? what? liking your own body is narcissistic?

    i think it’s healthy. 

  • yes, as long as it doesnt get out of hand!  (lolololol)

  • why is it always pictures of females?

    I don’t know.. I think that if you do it too much, it can lead to issues with you actually getting off during sex..
    But that’s a guess. I don’t masturbate. (:

  • @Invisible_Crazed_Chica - this is true; it’s been a very long time since I’ve been able to get off during sex.

  • masturbation is awesome! so is sex!

    @Invisible_Crazed_Chica - the more orgasms you have the easier it is to orgasm! i believe thats been proven as much as it possibly can be.

  • Anything can become unhealthy if it becomes an addiction or interferes with your life or causes some sort of harm. Masturbation, normal, does not. It’s proven that there’s correlation with masturbating and a good sex life.

    I also find it very sad that one of the commentators needs a man to get off- it’s physically possible to do it on your own, why rely on someone who probably doesn’t even know what they’re doing?

  • Is it unhealthy? I’m not sure. I will immediately retreat to my bedroom and begin a very lengthy and thorough investigation.

  • Uh I just got done masturbating lol

  • uhhh… is every day unhealthy?

  • As one doc told me one time, you have/do anything as long as it’s in moderation…LOL

  • i wonder how many parents actually bring up masturbation with their kids.. mine never did.That would be so weird…unless the kid actually asks about it. But it is healthy..like anything else as long as it isn’t an obsession/addiction for all the wrong reasons.

    Now..an interesting question to ask is at what age did everyone first masturbate?? I was maybe 19 ish, i think.

    interesting topic..i think its a very private matter for most.

  • Masterbation is as healthy as you make it.

  • Well, I posted this as a response to that blog, but I’ll also post here since my response is more specific to the question you’re asking.

    Warning: LOGIC & SUPPORTING EVIDENCE INVOLVED

    I have nothing against it, but I don’t agree that it’s necessarily healthy. 

    Claim: masturbation increases risk for prostate cancer

    (and potentially other health problems)

    Supporting evidence here (all males should read this…you
    don’t have to agree, but just know that there is evidence that supports
    this). It makes sense because the development of the male sexual
    organs, including the prostate, is dependent on levels of male sex
    hormone…testosterone obviously. Athletes who take anabolic steroids
    (chemically related to testosterone, which is really an anabolic steroid
    naturally produced in the body – they have similar effects of causing
    muscle and bone growth, but also share detrimental effects such as hair
    loss) are at increased risk for prostate cancer…it’s not too hard to
    believe that abnormally high levels of testosterone could put men at
    similar risk.

    Warning: Scientific discussion following…
    I had a course where I learned something interesting about a type of
    force (or tendency, if you will) known as sexual antagonistic
    pleiotropy…much scientific evidence supports the idea that sexual
    differentiation has a trade-off…gain genetic variation, but lose life
    span and vitality, as the forces of natural selection are lost after the
    reproductive age.

    If you think about it, all animals have the
    greatest vitality at reproductive age, but start to lose that vitality
    after reproductive age, the reason being that natural selection favors
    those who can produce an raise healthy offspring, but not necessarily
    those who live the longest and healthiest, which is the reason that
    after reproductive age, our immune systems slowly weaken, we are
    significantly more susceptible to diseases, cancer, and we get all sorts
    of age-associated problems as we grow older. 

    Producing higher levels of sex hormones (testosterone for males, estrogen for females) is
    indicative of greater sexual differentiation.  It is these hormones
    that cause us to have our sex characteristics.  Males have higher levels
    of testosterone and females have higher levels of estrogen.  Without
    these hormones, male and female would be practically the same,
    physically.  The same mechanism which drive our genders to be different
    also cause us to expend “energy” (in the sense that our bodies put a lot
    of effort into it) to make us most reproductively fertile, but evidence
    *suggests* that it also has detrimental payoffs that manifest in the
    forms of aging, cancer, and other age-associated problems.  Anyways, I
    say that evidence points in this direction, but this is all not solid –
    it is just what what it seems like, based on our incomplete knowledge.

    I’m not trying to be negative… I just wanted to bring in another point of
    view so this is not so one-sided because the facts listed under the
    argument of masturbation being healthy comes from an extreme
    over-simplification of the human body.  Also, I wanted to bring some
    more logical points to the table, different from arguments with
    arbitrary statements about the morality of it based on one’s own
    religion (which is basically pushing one’s own religious values onto
    others) or simply stating that it feels great which I imagine should be
    common sense.

    The human body is complex, so it doesn’t work to
    oversimplify it.  Hormones are not either good for you or bad for you. 
    Almost all mechanisms in the human body have some effects which are
    beneficial to one aspect, but detrimental in another.  Painting
    something as simply being “healthy” or “unhealthy” is a kind of naive
    and erroneous way to think about it, in my opinion ;]

    But yeah, all in all, take this with a grain of salt…I agree with most of the other things said in the post though.

  • Of course. It’s making yourself feel good. It’s not bad for you, it’s a way to love your body & learn yourself. Plus it fricken rocks. ;P

  • Dude coming from a girl who has never had an orgasm from a man’s weiner OF COURSE MASTURBATION IS HEALTHY… How else a  supposed to get off… rofl

  • I don’t think it’s healthy if you’re constantly watching porn, but other than that I don’t see the harm.

  • Masturbation is not sex. Masturbation is playtime. Masturbation is healthy, in that it helps a person become comfortable with their anatomy, while at the same time giving them a release without the fear of performance anxiety.

  • personally, it’s not something I do because I’m not really into it, but if it’s what you do that’s your prerogative and completely your own personal business.

  • All Addictions are unhealthy, and *everything* can become an addiction, so it cancels out.

    You’d have to list the health factors when it’s not an addiction.

  • Oh my gosh, this is ridiculous. Everyone does it, and if you don’t I’d be wondering where your sex drive is?
    How ignorant can you be to say you’re not “that narcissistic” so you don’t masturbate? Lol. “Gasp, I don’t do that, I’m not that conceited!” You sound like a moron.
    It’s also a good way to satisfy your natural, healthy sexual urges if you don’t feel like going out and sleeping with random people.
    As well, it’s something that is really private I’d say… so why is everyone so upset?

    *I’m so glad I’m married to a sexy man that I lay in bed with every night, without that release people might shun me as a masturbation addict! Lol, people are dumb.

  • Saint Augstine had one objection to masturbation, that it caused something like a loss of consciousness, an abdication of self, for say, just an instant.  I realize that is perhaps its primary draw for many people, who just want to “step out” for a second, perform a “reset,” per se, as their funky, unrealistic beliefs have gotten them into a rutt of unrealistic perceptions and expections layered upon upon another. 

  • @skinny_lovelybones - I was 23, in a station wagon, driving home from Raleigh Durham Airport, after a summer in France with Sopie Nunez, the first girl to give me a French kiss.   Five weeks with her led to a lot of pent-up desire, you might say.  I was still able to have children, 13 years later.  Now, I am able to teach at a university and raise a burgeoning brood of five.  I also am able to juggle five balls with no problem.  Let’s see, what other things can I do?  …   I can write.  I like to write.  I like writing real concise like, look up me some big words and throw them in there.  You know you can use one fifty cent word sometimes to take the place of two or three itty bitty words, and look a lot smart better for it in the works.  So, efferdently, that one wee squirt must not have hurt me too much. 

    For the record, to Drunken Cellist, I read that the findings of a small reduction in the incidence of prostate cancer in masturbaters (curious:  who was in the control group?…) was based upon men in their teens and twenties.  I suspect that we cannot expect much, if any, “protective” correlation after our twenties.   Does that mean we should just up and throw in the towel?  I dunno. 

  • It helps people relax, I hear. Although too much of anything is never a good thing.

  • Sure it’s healthy, as long as it doesn’t interfere with your life.

  • Why can’t it just be a decision that everyone makes for themselves? I personally enjoy it, but it’s not for everyone. My opinion: if it adds something positive to your life, go for it. If you don’t like it, don’t feel bad! If it becomes a problem, take steps to change that when you’re ready.

  • The issue is, it is NATURAL, that doesn’t make it right. Sure, we’ve all done it. Most of us have at least “tried”, but there are a lot of studies that show that too much might make it more difficult for women to orgasm with their husbands, because they become more comfortable with “themselves”… and teaches them to be sexual with themselves. I sort of tend to believe this to be totally honest. I’ve met lots of women who say that they have a problem having an orgasm during sex. Lots of them were frequent masturbators. Often when I’ve spoken to women who have amazing sex with their husbands and don’t have much of a problem orgasming, they didn’t masturbate as often, or at all… Does this mean it’s all true? Maybe, maybe not… but, I tend to think it does.

  • Yes. Normal and quite healthy.

  • Yes because it prevents a lot of people from becoming complete whores.

  • I think, as long as you’re relieving stress, why not? I don’t see any health risks involved with it at all (less you’re doing that weird choking thing for heightened climaxes, R.I.P. Kyle, you jackass). I’ve never heard of anyone becoming addicted to masturbating, though. Except when I watched World’s Greatest Dad, but yeah, not in real life anyway.

  • yes, it is.

    until you start doing it all the time, instead of being productive or having actual human interaction. then it’s an addiction, and addiction to anything is not healthy.

    and i think it’s important to put out there that if you don’t feel the urge to masturbate, you’re probably fine. i’m kind of tired of this idea that EVERYONE should masturbate AT LEAST x amount of times a week. it’s nothing you need to be doing.

  • I don’t see it as unhealthy, unless it’s an addiction. I don’t particularly buy it being healthy either though.

  • It is healthy. You do not have to worry about pregnancy or diseases or emotional factors. It’s just an activity, like anything else in life. People should be happy with themselves to do it. I just did in the past hour because I’m too lazy to call a guy.

  • I’m surprised at some of the comments. So many people in the dark. From a male perspective: A nurse once told me that men who were once sexually active and now inactive will eventually experience health related problems regarding urination, prostate cancer, stuff like that. She basically said, “If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it!” Older guys! Do you have a tough time urinating? Try masturbating and watch the flow and ease of urinating increase immediately after. Knock off the macho crap, boys and girls. Humans are sexual beings. Stop being sexual and you will pay a heavy price with age!

  • I’d like to know where being addicitive to masterbating is unhealthy? While I was going through middle and high school masturbating had become a nightly ritual. Even durin the day while everyone was at work. There’s nothing wrong with it at all. Whether it’s once a year, a month, a week, or 18 times in a day. My personal record was 26 =D. It was a lonely year for me and I locked myself in my room for hours on end and was left alone lol.

    Now if you are married or even dating and masturbation is a constant thing (without the other person) then there’s an issue. It’s not that it’s unhealthy, it’s just appearently you don’t like what you’re getting.

    Now from a rigilous stand-point, it is morally wrong and unhealthy, but that’s only because God would rather have your seed fall into the belly of a whore. And if that truely was the case, then we’d all have more whores to go around and really wouldn’t need our hands. But it’s not and society is cruel.

    Saddly enough I had a lot more to say but I lost my train of thought due to the fact I got porn on the other side of the screen and watchin tatas bounce.

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