November 1, 2010
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Does He Really Want Oral Sex?
I received a message a few months ago but I never got around to posting it.
The woman that sent me the message said that her friend’s boyfriend said he wanted her to give him oral sex. Then he quickly said he was just joking.
So the woman wanted to know if the guy was joking or if he was serious. She also wanted to know if she should tell her friend. I told her this sounded like a datingish post but there is nothing else happening on xanga tonight.
Was the guy probably joking and should she tell her friend?
Comments (75)
He probably wasnt joking. He was testing the waters, seeing if she’d go for it.
he knew what he was saying.
Doubt he would have said he was joking had she went for his zipper.
She’d have to ask him. It could easily have gone either way, I wasn’t there.
like others are saying, i think he knew what he was saying. definitely wanted to see her reaction and then easily pulled it off as a joke.
I have a better idea. Why doesn’t she just blow me?
No and No.
he knew what he was asking. had she agreed, he wouldn’t have said he was joking at all. she should definitely tell her friend if he’s such an asshole that he’s propositioning her friends…
I don’t think he was joking, and yeah, maybe she should let her friend know. That way the couple can discuss the issue.
it doesnt really matter if he meant it or not, she should tell her friend.
Definitely not joking, just trying to safe face haha.
I think he was just testing to see what she would say…
chick in the pic is hawwwwwttt. oh yea, and uhhh i really doubt he was joking. you know what they say, everything someone says has SOME truth to it!
Haha it was probably one of those things where he’s really only joking if you want him to be. I’d keep my distance. I don’t think I’d tell my friend though unless he didn’t lay off.
Neh. It could be that he was testing the waters like everyone is saying… or he just says stupid stuff like that and forgot who he was talking to. Some guys really do say “BLOW ME!” to people… especially when playing video games.
forward it to the friend
He wasn’t joking..he was seeing how far he can get.
The only person who knows if he is really serious or not is the friend’s boyfriend. If he says he’s joking, then he’s just joking, even if he’s just testing the waters. She probably shouldn’t tell her friend because that’ll only make the relationships more tense. If the girl really feels worried about it, she should talk to the friend’s boyfriend about it, and if she discovers that he is serious about his joke, then maybe she should tell her friend. Or give him oral sex, if that’s what she wants.
Of course he wasn’t joking, don’t all men want head all the time?
She shouldn’t tell the friend though. Unless she likes starting unnecessary drama in other people’s relationships or something.
No guy in his right mind would joke about receiving oral sex! Kudos to him for trying to be modest about it though… HAHA
Not gonna lie, I’m slightly more concerned with the fact that the girl in the picture doesn’t appear to have a spine.
Guys hate blowjobs. Anything that goes in a mouth can be devoured at any time. Guys only get blowjobs from hookers because they don’t have teeth.
@thepsychoticraccoon - maybe she takes alot of yoga
Even if it’s a joke, it’s an inappropriate joke.
Come on, he was testing the waters. If she had said yes, he’d have gone for it.
I don’t know the whole context, but I would say he probably isn’t joking and she should tell her friend. What a dork.
@ShimmerBodyCream - I’m glad someone said it. Seriously, blowjobs, yech
If I was her, I don’t think I’d tell my friend unless the circumstances called for it. I mean, people flirt and joke, and so there’s a chance that the boy just took it too far. However, if he asks again (hopefully she made it clear that she’s not cool with him asking), I would feel obligated to tell my friend. Of course, if he cheats with someone else, I’d feel guilty about not telling my friend, because maybe I could have saved her some heartache. So really, it depends on how well I know the guy and his history of fidelity, how much we were flirting/joking around when he said it, and my gut feeling about the kind of guy he is.
Where there is smoke, there is fire….His question was definately smoke signals. As for telling her friend, her friend probably already suspects his indiscressions. Why cause trouble between herself and her friend. Since you said that the question was put to you some time ago…I would be willing to bet that the situation as already resolved itself… It would be interesting to know if it has.
if she looked like that, i would love to have a bj by her. yum..
am i joking?? maybe. maybe not. you be the judge.
“I’m just kidding” always carries an implied “… unless you really want to” when it comes to sex.
I agree with what seems to be the popular opinion: The guy was definitely testing the waters. Even though none of us are mind-readers, I think the friend should know how her boyfriend jokes around with other people while he’s still just her boyfriend. She needs to know what kind of guy she’s dealing with before it gets any more serious than that, and if she’s cool with that, it’s all good.
impossible to say without greater context. wow people are super cynical.
why would any guy joke about wanting oral sex?
she should know what’s good for him and swallow his goodies.
I don’t know if he was serious or not, but it was pretty tactless. I’d keep my distance from such a guy. As for telling the friend, I think it would depend on the circumstances and personalities involved, but if I thought it was the right thing to do I would definitely tell.
And just because it irks me to see general opinion go unchallenged… No, not all guys want blowjobs all the time. Some guys don’t like blowjobs as much as others. People have preferences and backgrounds that play into their preferences. Blowjobs are not every man’s sexual nirvana. Quit looking at poll answers and stick with the opinions of the guy you’re actually with.
~V
Nope. He wasn’t joking… he was fishing. And no to the 2nd part as well.
When you throw a comment like that, there’s always a little bit of truth in it. He wasn’t joking. He wanted it if she was for it. She should let her friend know, anyways.
There’s always a little bit of truth behind every j/k.
Beats me. I wasn’t there.
Probably wasn’t joking. He was just testing the waters, and when he didn’t get a response, he figured he should cover his tracks.
Definitely would have gone for it if she said yes. I’ve dealt with this so many times. It’s a dirtbag thing.
No. He wasn’t joking. He’s attracted to her friend & has some thoughts. Voiced them & got a reaction from his girlfriend that probably wasn’t good. Then had to back track by saying it was a joke! LOL Oops!
Meh.
@Liquid_Pain_523 - My thoughts exactly!
LOL
She should tell her friend, whether he was joking or not.
Guys do joke around a lot. It depends on what type of guy he was. She would have to talk to him about it more seriously if she is that concerned. I would tell my friend just because he should not be saying that to other girls at all.
All she has to do is sit down with her friend and say that there was an odd thing that happened and that she is not sure what it meant….or if it meant anything. Her friend may get angry and she can only say that she wasn’t sure what he meant. She should say her friend knows the guy better and could give a better explanation and calm her fears.
guy will never joking for this in relationship
hehe
Hmmm..
If it was the girl in the picture….Than no, def not joking. Lol.
It’s kind of a dumb question. When do guys NOT want that? Seriously…..
probably wasn’t joking but said he was in case he got rejected or if she would agree to do so.
@ShimmerBodyCream - That is the funniest shit I’ve ever heard! Thanks for that!
What guy doesn’t really want oral sex…?
Forgive me, but this seems like a rather rhetorical question.
The Rhetorical Questions Cafe.
fat chance!
@MangoWOW - precisely.
He was testing the water, to see if she was easy. He would have accepted if she agreed, but to hide from rejection he said he was joking.
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@MangoWOW - Agreed.
even if he wasnt looking for it, no man would refuse!
LOL why would he be joking? Everyone loves oral!
Men are never joking about wanting oral sex.
uhhmm nah he wasnt joking. tell her friend<3
i like what @MangoWOW - said. he was testing the waters
If I were the friend, I would want to know. Some think that by not telling the friend, they are avoiding drama or unnecessary tension. It is, however, possible that the friend doesn’t know the guy’s true character (or obvious lack thereof). It’s difficult for your friend to make informed decisions about the relationship if there are elements like that they are not aware of.
Asking strangers on the internet to interpret behaviour they didn’t even witness is sketchy at best…Aside from that, whether I told my friend or not would depend on how close of friends we were, how long she’d been with the boyfriend, whether I think she’d want to know, etc.
he probably wants it, but said jk just to make it seem not awkward.. while it still is.. ya he’s just testing the waters, and his gf should be careful of him cheating..
He is asking for the test, if you do he is serious, if you do not he is joking. Just so so.
he for sure wasnt. he said “jk” just to be safe, in case the girl thinks such idea is disgusting…just gave her a hint that he would like something like that
He probably isn’t expecting her to, but would secretly really enjoy it.
after my divorce some friends shared stuff like this with me about me X. I kept wondering why they didn’t tell me at the time and spare me more years of pain.
just a joking, don’t take it seriously
He definitely wasn’t joking.
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It’s good you post when people ask for advice.
She should tell her friend. The fact that she’s even questioning telling her friend should answer that for her. Also, he was serious. He was definitely testing the waters on that one. Like…said what he meant, then said JK to cover his ass if she wasn’t interested.
Plus, what kinda guy even says that to his girlfriends friend, WTF?
Half jokes are ways to test the waters, and sure why not get him in a little hot water for joking around in an inappropriate manner.
He was probably serious being a man and all most are pigs..sadly enuf..but she should not tell her friend..why hurt her when there is still a question of seriousness