February 11, 2011
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How Easy is It to Be Your Friend?
You ever notice how it is easy to be friends with some people and difficult to be friends with others? Some people are just warm and friendly. They are kind. But they also just make friends quickly. They also tend to keep their friends.
But some people just don’t make friends easily. They sort of push friends away. Some of these people may stress such things as quality over quantity but even people that are close to them tend to not know them very well.
Is it easy to become your friend?
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Easy. As long as they know, ahead of time, that I don’t answer my phone or hang out on the regular
I am high maintenance. I demand kisses and food.
I can be obnoxious for sure. i talk a lot and when i get into the zone talking about what i love i sometimes forget that other people don’t give a crap about the stuff i like lol. i’d like to imagine i make up for it by being there for people though. i can be a good listener when i concentrate on it =p
easy
I allow people to be themselves as long as they allow me to be myself and return the respect that I give them.
I think it also depends on the personalities involved. Like, I am easy to be friends with according to some people, and still others would say it would be too difficult. For those who get along well with me, I am an easy person to be friends with. For those who don’t, I’m not. Funny thing is, when I was in school, I was convinced I had no friends. Since, I have found out that more people than I realized considered me their friend. I was just so programmed that everyone hated me, I didn’t realize the ones who liked me.
I wish I could say yes, but the sad truth is that no, it’s not easy. I have two people in the entire world who I allow myself to be completely myself with, and those relationships took over a year each to build. Around other people, I compulsively judge everything I do, and the result leaves me feeling and acting awkward. Yet, it is a habit I have not been able to break.
easy peasy but harder than heck.
I must be easy! (not in that context). I’ll strike up a friendship with anyone.
I’d say that’s it’s easy to become an acquaintance of mine, but not so much a close friend. I have more fair-weather friends than anything.
I’d say it’s easy to be friends with me since I’m nice and stuff, but I tend to be really awkward sometimes too, so it just depends.
Not really, but that’s because I take a while to open up. I can be friendly with someone for ages and they’ll still not know that much about me. That’s just me.
I hope so…I try to make it easy, anyway.
yes
I’m super easy to be friends with as long as you don’t mind someone who’s honest, transparent and will occasionally photo stalk your FB page. Just don’t ask me to send you topless photos for a post that never was written.
Wait… is this public?? Crap! 
i only tend to have fiends that are like me – make silly jokes and laugh at silly stuff. i dont become friends easily with people that are so serious
Easy to be my friend and talk to yes, hard to gain my trust.
yes
Friends may come and friends may go.
Friends may peter out, you know.
But peter out
or peter in…
you will always be my friend.
Cheers.
Yep, I have a very outgoing personality, so it’s easy for me to reach the lower levels of friendship with just about anybody that I meet. I only have a handful of close friends though.
But I used to be pretty shy. It took 3 years of public speaking and a summer job before I learned the art of striking up a conversation with just about anybody.
I have BPD, so I going to guess it’s extremely difficult to be my friend.
It’s super easy to be my friend. It’s not as easy to be one of the stick-around-for-a-long-time friends.
I’m shy and quite so it’s hard to get to be friends with me. Once I warm up to people I’m a great friend though!
Yes, I’m a slut bag.
I think I’m a high maintenance kind of friend. I need reminding that i’m liked and that we can do stuff together. So I guess it would be hard to be my friend. Plus I forget stuff like crazy so I might actually forget about a person. Yeah I”m that bad.
So incredibly easy haha I love making friends.
When I was younger – yes. But now that I’m older I find myself withdrawing from people.
Easy? No. I suppose not. Takes a bit of effort to get me out of my shell, though some people are extremely good at that. I’m quiet. I’m not into small talk, and rarely even feel the need or desire to pursue it. My attempts at conversation usually fall flat. Excessive chatter grates on me. Otherwise I’m a real catch.
Only if you rec all of my posts.
Probably not very due to my avoidant personality disorder.
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It’s very easy indeed =D Though to be my best friend, that takes a lot of work.
very difficult. i am super awkward.
It’s really easy to be my friend, and it’s very, very rare for me to get in fights with people. But, sometimes I spread myself too thin friend-wise.
I feel uncomfortable around extremely loud and talkative people, though.
I used that pic on my blog once. Now I kind of want to go get some milkshakes.
yah definitely, dont’ know if thats a good thing or not though
I’m really easy to befriend and I’ll be friends with just about everyone.
I keep picking the wrong friends and getting treated like shit.
I don’t think so, no.
I think so. My problem is that sometimes I’m too quick to be friends with people who maybe aren’t friends to me. But I seem to meet and make friends easily, and I think I’m pretty low maintenance. Interesting question!
I’m easy to get along with, as long as things go my way!!
I don’t think that the more friends one has, is necessarily better. I prefer to take my time and choose my friends carefully. I don’t go around looking to make deep-heartfelt friends. I only have 3 of those kinds of friendships. I have one hard and fast rule I do live by with no exceptions…. Don’t ever lie to me!
yea….its my job.
I’m shy and very irritable so no.
it’s not easy being my friend
I never meet a stranger, I trust everyone until they do something to convince me different. To me friends are often closer than family, you don’t get to choose your family. So I would say I am pretty easy to be friends with. I never mind putting an extra can in the soup, or find a blanket and a bed for someone that needs one. So I have had a few that take advantage of that. But total it all up and I wouldn’t want to be any other way.
I’m pretty shy, but I think I’m easy to befriend. Actually, you should be telling me.
i try to be nice, so i hope it’s easy. idk though.
Nope, but get there and it’s well worth it.
It’s easy to become my friend, but difficult to become a close friend who can truly understand me.
Nope, its hard to become my friend but once your my friend I am loyal to the death…..just don’t become my enemy.
I find it easy to make friends… but i’ve also been accused of being a phony. can’t make everyone happy.
One thing about having an attachment disorder is that it doesn’t just magically disappear once someone turns 18. I’m friendly and I have a lot of superficial positive relationships, but only a handful of real friends, and really, I think only 3 people do know me pretty well and are really close to me other than my children.
depends on my mood. now that i think about it though most of the time i come off looking serious and people tend to think there is something wrong when really i just don’t smile that much. I like to make friends with people that i can bond with. usually i only bond with chicks that have things in common with me. i have friends that are warm and friendly and they really do care, but i don’t share myself deeply with anyone unless i feel they have some kind of bond with me somehow. i crave that bond lately because since i moved from my hometown i grew up in a few years ago i haven’t had any friends like that since. my best friend kind of stayed in touch but she was angry i left really. i definitely pick quality over quantity. i don’t like fake friends either. i don’t make those ones much anyways. if i do i don’t have them for long.
I find it hard to make friends because of my disability, do not have good communication because of speech is not clear and people find it hard to understand what I am saying (do find it hard to open a conversation)
Becoming my friend if you want simple, I dont drink, don’t like clubbling, rarely have my mobile phone switched on.
Casual friendship is easy. True friendship takes a while.
Depends on the personality of those concerned. I can make friends easily with certain people. However becoming my best friend is difficult.
Depends on the personality of those concerned. I can make friends easily with certain people. However becoming my best friend is difficult.
It’s probably hard at be my friend. I’m quiet, I push people away, and I’ve definitely got a shell to crack. But after all of that I’m the nicest person in the world.
No, not easy.
This just made me want to blog about something… too much of a coincidence… I don’t think i am easy to be friends with, too many knife wounds.
In most cases, it’s not. Far too many focus on falling below the spectrum of human like behavior to be accepted as friends by others who already have. Then they expect me to follow. Why don’t we try going the other way? Then hardships will mostly end. If someone acts like a human, then we can get along; after a period.
I have this tendency to not be able to keep in touch (esp before when i had no phone and no net) but now i kinda realize some people just dont consider asking me out or whatever just because they’re so used to not seeing me. I admit sometimes I prefer being left alone, but mostly because I feel awkward around people who can’t seem to be able to hold conversations
I reckon it’s easy to get to know me, but hard to be my friend. My friends and I sharpen each other. We’re as hard on each other as we are on ourselves. My friends and I tend to spend more time arguing than most enemies lol, yet the love we feel for each other is never in doubt. The fact that we’re still arguing proves it, we’d have walked away from each other long ago without that genuine love among us.
On the other hand, I find it easy to love and be a friend to just about anyone, even people I’ve never met. Sometimes I wonder if the greatest friendship isn’t the one-way friendship, the unreciprocated kindness. I honestly think it might be.
For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:7-8)
I actually get stressed sometimes when friends ask me to do things. It’s not that I don’t want to. I love spending time with my friends. I get an emotional high every time I do. But I have so many demands on my time that when I have to say no to invitations I feel like I’m a hard friend to have. I feel like I’ve let them down. If I didn’t have 3 kids, a husband and a job, and if I weren’t the type of person that needs and enjoys a certain amount of alone time everyday, I would be an easier frind. Thank goodness so far my friends haven’t given up on me yet!
Ahahaha…this describes me to the ‘T’. I don’t make friends easily I guess.
I’m not particularly outgoing, and I don’t think very many people know me all that well. But I do care a lot about the people I am close with. So maybe it might be a bit difficult to get to know me and become my friend, but once you are my friend, I try to make it worthwhile.
its very easy to be my friend
Requirement: have to look hot !!
No fat chicks allowed
It depends. I have a lot of people that like me, but I do tend to push them away. I am trying to be better about that. I’d say it depends on your personality. There are many many people whom, I meet once or twice and within one or two meetings they are extremely close….but for others it takes months and months if I developp a close relationship at all.
it’s hard to be my friend. because of my work schedule, I can’t meet new people sometimes. Also I’m kind of shy, it takes me a while to warm up to you if I want you to be my friend. I’m also bad at keeping up with friends once they move so I’m not good at keeping friends either.
But on the other hand, I like meeting new people and I’m pretty funny and a good conversationalist so people want to see me again.
I’m quiet and socially awkward. It’s hard to meet new friends, but pretty easy for someone else if they get past that first bit.