February 27, 2011
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If a Man Says You are Beautiful
I was reading a pulse by nsfwchristian and he mentioned “I wish I could convince my wife that I find her beautiful. I think she always suspects me of lying when I tell her so.”
The first lady to comment said, “Most women are hard pressed to believe him.”
I think that is my general observation too. I think women tend to push away compliments like when a man tells a woman she is beautiful.
Now a woman can argue that men just tell women that to have sex with them. I am sure that happens. But I think men are visual so if a man is in a relationship with you, he probably thinks you are attractive.
Ladies, do you believe men when they tell you that you are beautiful?
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Rarely.
Nope! I would think there would be some hidden reason for it!!!
Depends what time of the month it is,sometimes yes and sometimes I feel too ugly to believe it.
Generally, no, unless I’ve gotten dressed up for some special occasion. I’ve been programmed to believe people give me compliments only when they want something in return, or they’re otherwise trying to manipulate me. Kinda sad, really.
Yes… Not because I’m bragging, but because I’m confident.
sometimes.
hardly ever.
Nope. I don’t remember anyone ever telling me that, to be honest.
I do.
@leaflesstree - i’m 100% the same way.
I’d like to say I believe it. I find that my SO says “you look nice, you look cute..” more often. He’s very careful with what he says, and rarely says the word beautiful. But when he does, I can tell he means it.
I used to not, when my boyfriend would tell me. But when I realized he meant it, I believed him. And now I believe most people, as I don’t talk to people who would say those things to get me in the sack.
I always believe them. I KNOW that I’m beautiful.
no. i don’t believe them.
I always feel gross anyway
No, but that’s because I can’t see myself being above cute. Pretty if I had makeup on, but beautiful?
Nope. I’m always “cute.”
Yes, I do. Unless he’s completely wasted.
I used to have major self-confidence issues. Now I know I’m beautiful in my own way. That’s why i believe it when a guy says it. Even if a guy doesn’t mean it or is just trying to suck up to me, I know for MYSELF that I’m beautiful.
I never found one of my exes attractive, I just tried to pretend he was when I was with him. Then and now I can’t make eyecontact with him because I found him “ugly”. Basically he’s too ugly that I couldn’t make eye contact.
I think there are at least a few songs on the subject, apparently it’s not an uncommon point of view to think that the person who loves you is going to be slightly biased.
When a man tells me what I can see with my own eyes what’s not to believe?
I believe them (:
No, but I wish I did.
Yep
No… my fiance compliments me regularly and I never believe him… not because he’s a liar but because I do not accept compliments well (which is more a reflection of low self esteem, I believe.) ::shrug:: I think it’s a learned thing, accepting compliments for what they are.
I don’t think its a matter of whether I believe my boyfriend or not. I know he thinks I’m beautiful, do I think so? Sometimes it depends.
What? He should be too buried between my thighs to be able to talk.
Yes, because I have self esteem issues. I’ve always been cut down and told what a bad person I am etc; etc; etc; so it’s hard to take compliments.
I tend to believe them considering men don’t actually randomly say it IME. I mean I believe that he thinks so, even if I don’t think so myself. And there are women who never get told… so I consider myself lucky that some have told me they think so. I actually don’t think guys always have an ulterior motive for saying it though. I’ve had really old guys say it and I’m pretty sure they weren’t delusional to think they were going to score with me. lol
Yep
@theflowerstem - How does it feel being rotten on the inside?
it depends who says it. but i believe that everyone who has said it to me has meant it.
i don’t associate with people who waste my time and i’m careful about the company (especially boys) that i keep. so i know they’ve all been pretty genuine.
Depends on the man. If it’s a friend and/or significant other, then I usually do. If it’s some drunk in the bar who tries to hit on me just because my band happens to be playing there and I’m the lead singer, then I don’t care if he means it or not, I just figure he has some sort of ulterior motive.
If I say you’re beautiful you best believe it
Sometimes. It really depends on the guy and the situation.
I never believe family members when they tell me I am, because I’m convinced they only feel obligated to assure me of my beauty.
With everyone else – usually, my guy friends tell me I’m beautiful if I’d recently did something different, like get my hair done or clean myself up for a party and wear a dress with a pair of heels. Or, if it’s one of those days where I feel insecure because I believe my female friends are prettier than I am. So, I’m more likely to not believe them, because I think they aren’t being genuine.
But sometimes, people I don’t even know randomly tell me I’m beautiful, and for some reason, I believe THEM. XD
I personally don’t think I’m anything beyond cute or pretty. *shrug*
it’s not that a girl doesn’t believe a guy when he says she’s beautiful… i think in her mind, the question is more, “am i the -most- beautiful?” girls are stubborn about that kind of stuff.
sometimes. usually not.
Depends on who is saying it and the situation. He could just want some booty.
Half the time.
Sometimes I’ll tell a girl that I think she’s cute/pretty/beautiful, but I have no ill ulterior motive. It’s when I don’t say anything that women should be anxious about what I think of them. And yes, a lot of men are visual creatures, so we might think someone is ugly, but it wouldn’t be PC to say so.
Only if the dude is my boyfriend.
i just think he’s biased.
No I usually think they are lying.
Ladies, modesty is well and good, but STOP IT!!! We guys tell a woman she is beautiful because she is beautiful. If there is an ulterior motive, it is sex, and we want the sex because we find the girl attractive. Is that clear enough? No matter why we tell you that you are attractive, it means that we find you attractive.
When you refuse to accept your man’s compliment, you make him feel as if he has done something wrong, and you will soon not have to worry about whether his compliments are sincere; there will be no compliments to ponder. So what is the harm is just saying “thank you, and you look nice too.”? Try it, it beats the heck out of doubting your self and driving your man slap crazy..
Depends on the guy. When my guy friends tell me, I know they mean it. When some random guy does, I question it. Sometimes I can tell by the way they look at me when they tell me if they mean it or not.
I’m not actually a lady, but hell yeah.
Yes, I believe them. Beauty is not one look we can point to. What is and who is beautiful is different for everyone.
No, but thats because he doesnt even look at me when he says it. =P
If I see him actually looking at me, then yes, maybe.
Depends who’s saying it.
I would say Bollocks!
no i dont believe them at all and besides he rare hardly hardly compliments me
@MelFamy - Now THIS was a good piece of advice. Thanks.
Yup
@freebirdheart - O.O you dont believe?
If someone says my face is beautiful, I’ll believe them. If someone says my body is, they are sure as shit lying.
My girlfriend believes me. I’m good.
My husband tells me I’m beautiful everyday, and I don’t believe it all the time, but I know that HE thinks I’m attractive. As far as me feeling that way, it varies.
Depends who. When my boyfriend compliments me, I believe him. Honestly, I don’t think he’d be with me, or at least as crazy about me, if he didn’t love how I look. A lot of people wouldn’t be willing to go out of their way to tell me I’m beautiful if they didn’t actually think it. It doesn’t make sense to assume everyone is insincere, or even just looking for sex. But seriously, if they didn’t think you looked damn good, why would they even want to have sex with you?
No. I’ve had two guys tell me I was beautiful, and 1 of them sounded surprised when he said it. I look pretty on a really, really good day but that’s it.
I know that I am beautiful in general. So I never think about hidden motives or whether someone is lying or not. I smile, say thank you, and go on with the same beliefs I’ve had all along. That I am beautiful, whether that person is lying or not. As should all women. Everyone is beautiful to someone.
My answer varies. My husband tells me I’m beautiful every single day. Almost always I downplay it, mostly because of the societal expectation that women aren’t supposed to think they’re beautiful, or else they’d be considered supercilious. So I usually say something like “You’re stuck with an old chick” or, more likely, “I’m very happy you think so.” Which is true. I’m not sure if I’m beautiful, but I know without a doubt that my husband thinks I am, which is really all that matters.
It might be interesting to post the opposite of this question. Whenever I tell my husband I think he’s very sexy, very attractive and very handsome, he reacts almost the same way I do. Do men have the same type of ingrained reaction?
I accept the compliment, but I do find it very difficult to believe, yes. Not because I think the man is lying, but because i don’t believe it for myself.
Well. Being told by a few people (that I’m beautiful) who know they aren’t going to get any sex from me (because they know my position on sex/marriage) puts the whole “he’s just saying it hoping I’ll have sex with him” argument out of my mind. I feel pretty sometimes but I don’t know about beautiful. If the person I love tells me so I’ll generally believe he feels that way.
I believe my boyfriend when he says it
When soneone calls you beautiful its a flattering compliment and a simple thanks will due, I especially believe it coing from soneone who loves me.
No, I don’t. =/
I’ve had enough people tell me I’m ugly to not believe the ones who say I’m pretty.
lol bitches and low self-esteem
I Like Being Called Beautiful By Men.
It Makes Me Feel Good, But Of Course,
It Doesn’t Work If They Want To Get In My Pants…
nope nope… maybe if it’s a comparative thing, but not as a compliment on its own.
I’ll tell you when someone aside from my dad says I’m beautiful.
it depends on which guy. there was this guy that kept saying, “hey beautiful” whenever he saw me. it turned out that he forgot my name, so he just called me beautiful so that he won’t get in trouble
when it is a guy that I like, who calls me beautiful, I’ll smile with my eyes to acknowledge it
if it is a random guy, it is flattering but doesn’t affect me that much. this old lady told me that she thought that I’m beautiful and I believed her. old ladies don’t lie.
No.
Never will either.
I don’t care if a guy thinks I’m beautiful…I want him to tell me that he thinks I’m awesome. Not only is that more likely to be how he really feels (since most people tend to say things like that pretty spontaneously), but it usually means more than “I find you appealing on a superficial level…that’s good enough, right?”
So screw being beautiful, I want to be awesome!
Ladies, remember this, it only counts if he makes you feel beautiful.
Yes. It’s such a specific compliment. It’s gentle and heartfelt. Now, “look good” and “hot” are a lot less believable because they throw them around to get what they want or because they’re not paying attn.
I have yet to have any guy say that to me so I particularly don’t believe when men do tell me I’m beautiful.
Yes, but only because it happens so rarely. I get “cute” a lot, but I tend to think that a guy who uses the word “beautiful” believes it, even if I don’t. And I’ve only been called that in relationships that were getting fairly serious, so I knew the guys probably meant it at the time.
I didn’t until I found things that I loved about my own self/body. Lol. Then yes, all the time even when I thought I looked ugly.
xo
Yes. Guys dont say “beautiful” unless they mean it. If they want to get you in the sack it’s hot or sexy or pretty.
Depends on the context. I was shopping in Best Buy once and one of the employees just politely came up to me, told me I was beautiful and then said goodbye and walked away. To me that was the highest compliment I have ever received from a random stranger. He didn’t have any agenda but to tell me this and it’s nothing better to me than for someone to tell me I’m beautiful. To me beautiful beats sexy, cute, or fine any day.
I think it’s other ways to tell someone they are beautiful without actually saying it. Just by the way you touch them, look at them, hug them. If she can’t see it then maybe he should try other ways.
I’ve had this problem with so many girls…
I have never dated a guy that didn’t tell me I’m beautiful. I totally believe it when a man compliments me and I am very comfortable receiving and giving compliments. I was sad to see so many skeptics on the comment area…. Interesting question.
Yup. And I say thank you.
I love compliments, and the more a guy gives em to me, the better I feel. I don’t ever reject em. I always believe em, too. Unless it’s pretty obvious what the guy is tryna get at.
Even if the guy has ulterior motives, I still know that there’s truth to the compliments, cuz I know what I am, what I look like, and what I can do. ;D
ok sorry.. last comment. also, hearing compliments is such a good ego boost. even if you know something that you’re being complimented on, it’s still nice to hear — sometimes, we still need to hear that confirmation that we’re pretty or we do something well.
kbye
@PseudoEuphoric - well, there’s no need to disagree, or to say “yup, i am.” saying a simple thank you can go a long way.
That’s because women need more than merely words; they need to see their man live it out in the way he loves her.
Yes.
I do, because even if a guy is saying that just to have sex with me, that means that he finds me attractive. I would never fuck someone I’m not attracted to, no matter how horny I was.
@Ancient_Scribe - that’s an interesting point, though i have a however.
there are those whom i know, whom i am not “their man”, and i am in fact, not physically in their lives. how do i convince them of their beauty? how do i help to build them up when i am not there on a daily basis to “show” them how prescious they are(not merely physically, but as people.)
How we feel often makes us believe things that may or may not be true. My husband thinks I’m beautiful; whether or not I believe him usually depends on my state of mind or my evaluation of myself; nothing he says or does. I think we women tend to judge each other, and be very harsh critics, and for some stupid reason we will put more weight on what other women say about us than men. Men usually do not place as demanding expectations on women as women place on each other.
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It helped me when my husband told me one of the most attractive traits a woman can have is poise and confidence: being comfortable in her own skin. And the more I believe him when he compliments me, the more confident that makes me, which in turn makes me more attractive to him… so it’s a rather complex cycle.
(Since when has anything about women been simple? That’s not how we roll.
I pretty much always dislike what I see in the mirror, so i don’t believe if anyone says I’m beautiful.
Depends on who, what the situation is, etc.
But I think I can definitely tell when someone means it and when there’s an ulterior motive.
i think it depends on who says it and how it’s said.
I believe he thinks I’m beautiful, but there is usually a reason he’s saying it.
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Ok, I’ll bite. I think YOU”RE beautiful but the gloves distract! SO, you must be trying to send a message by wearing them, perhaps by saying, there’s more to beauty then external packaging, ie, look beyond the gloves, both literally and subjectively. Men ARE visual, no doubt. We see first and hear second. Women perhaps are the opposite. But if a man tells his wife that she’s beautiful, he probably means it, and he might mean the whole package, or if he says it with ‘that look’ in his eye, he might mean sexy, hot, goodlooking. If he tells you that in a bar, what time it is is a direct barometer of his honesty and intentions. There you go! :)
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My boyfriend says the most annoying thing a girl can do is deny a compliment, so I accept them with grace. And I believe them because I’m confident in how I look. And girls, you are ALL beautiful. If you weren’t, no one would tell you so, whether they want in your pants or not. And if the only time you hear it is when someone wants in your pants, then you’re looking for guys in the wrong places…
It’s not specific to just you when they say it because two seconds later, another woman walking by is “beautiful” to them. Beautiful to them describes so many things other things as well. Their vocabulary is limited so… *shrugs*
Part of me wants to believe them and mainly because they’re not getting anything out of it but other times I don’t know whether I do or not… I guess it’s our insecurities but I love hearing it though.
I want to, but I don’t…it’s all messed up
I’ve come to believe it over time.
My SO had a way of saying it that made me feel beautiful. That’s what I always told him when he said it to me.
My girlfriend used to act like she didn’t believe me, even though I meant it. She began believing me once I started describing to her in detail all the REASONS I find her beautiful.
umm.. the best ive ever gotten to was saying, “look, i believe that you think im beautiful, but i dont believe im beautiful.”
I usually do, but it all depends on context.
I do. But I can also tell when a man is simply trying to impress me and giving half-assed compliments. Lol.
nope
It’s not just the word. It’s HOW it’s said. I’ve always been rather observant of people’s physical behaviors, so that’s just my opinion on it. I can call the bullshitters and I can call the people (or in this case men) who use the word and mean it.
it depends on how they say it.
it generally helps to show them that you think they are beautiful rather than just telling a woman that they are beautiful. You know, make them a nice dinner, plan an evening solely based on her interest, something she would like to do. Show her that you genuinely care about her, thats how you show a girl that you think she is beautiful.
My boyfriend and I are very close, and I love him so much, but I seriously wonder about him saying I’m beautiful…he has a huge problem with this, which I can’t blame him for. There are several reasons for this – 1.) All of his ex girlfriends are really unattractive…I know that could be my personal oppinon, but they just look…different to me. This makes me wonder if I’m just anotehr ‘different’ looking one. 2.) My boyfriend is extremely attractive (at least I think so) and I find him more attractive than me… How could he possibly not see it? 3.) I see myself in the mirror and say ‘Damn, I look nasty,” and yet he says I look beautiful…that can’t be true! I SEE THE IMAGE! lol
I haven’t heard that in so long, except from my daughter, bless her heart. If I man told me I was beautiful, I would think “what does he want?”
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yes I do
Sometimes I do… like 60% of the time.
only if im that close to some guy…. yes i would believe him oh and if out of the blue he says that to me…. sure
I feel bad for all these women (girls?) who don’t believe their boyfriends or others who tell them they are beautiful. To tell someone they are beautiful is akin to saying:
“I think you are beautiful to me!”
To have someone say that to you is a wonderful thing. I am attractive, but I’m not “model” beautiful. Few women are. But when someone looks in my eyes and says “you’re so beautiful” I take it as it is meant: he sees something inside that is beautiful to him. It’s a wonderful comment that should be savoured. Not looked upon with distrust. Poor girls, with no self-confidence…..
I believe them, although I’d tend to be skeazed out by some random stranger saying I’m beautiful, depending on who it is.
Also, I don’t know why so many women on here think it’s cute to have low self-esteem. It’s not.
I believe my girlfriend when she says I’m beautiful
Mostly because of the context…I will catch her just staring at me with a funny look on her face… “WHAT are you looking at?” …’oh nothing, you’re just so beautiful.’ Love that girl…
How dismal! To think that so many ladies are thought to be beautiful and instead of accepting the compliment they’d either think there were ulterior motives, or such a thing is hard to believe.
I tell my gf she’s beautiful regularly. I don’t think she believes me completely, but I think I’m starting to win her over.
It depends on who’s saying it. If it’s someone that is clearly just trying to get something from me, then obviously no, I don’t believe it. But if it’s some one I’m dating or family of course I believe it.
It depends on who’s saying it and the way it’s said. Sometimes you can tell if they really mean it. I do have enough self esteem to find myself beautiful sometimes, so if a guy tells me I am, I probably will believe him.
Depends. If my fiancé says it, then I believe that’s what he thinks. If some other person says it, I’m like eh..I dunno haha.
If a woman doesn’t believe me when I tell her she’s beautiful, then it’s time to go. A woman who does not feel good about herself, her looks, and her body is a complete turn-off for me.
i always believe him and i’m grateful for the compliments…even if he does want ‘sex’ or not.
Beautiful is a bit of a heavy compliment, especially when said in a serious/adoring manner.
When its coming from a guy who I don’t believe could possibly know me beyond a first impression, I suspect other intentions.When its coming from a male friend, I find it difficult to accept because it might indicate/encourage something other than a completely platonic friendship.Even though people say you ‘look’ beautiful, it sometimes sounds like an admission that they’re emotionally vested in you to some degree. I dislike having any hold on someone’s emotions if the vulnerability is unreturned. Accepting the compliment is, in a way, indicating that you’re aware and not discouraging the idea that you may feel similarly.
Sometimes yes, but most of the time, I’m just too insecure to believe it.
Sometimes
Well, ladies, your suspicions are based upon the hard reality that how
you view yourself will be how your partner will inevitably view you. If
you reject the compliments and remind your man of all your flaws, he
will eventually believe you. If his compliments only reap negative
feedback (“No, I’m not pretty.” Which is interpreted, “You are either a
liar, a pervert, or an imbecile.”), he will eventually stop
complimenting you altogether. I call this a perpetual victimization
mindset: even when everything is right, something must be wrong.
@AndrewMiethe - Well stated.
Depends on the person. If I think he’s the type to say anything to get what he wants, then no. But if he’s a nice guy then I will believe him. I wouldn’t think that I was beautiful, but I would believe that the guy thinks so.
I believe men who tell me that but i have asshole/douchbag/bitchy girl friends. We gossip and i have no problem throwing it in their faces(in an inconspicuous fashion ofcourse ) about guys telling me that i’m beautiful/gorgeous or whatever and the first fucking thing they say is Oh he’s just saying that so he can fuck you…. Well thanx alot best friendsssss. That really hurts my feelings and makes me feel ugly and unlovable. I never fish for compliments or opinions like they do. I dont like to draw attention but they always seem to point out some ‘flaw’ on me and make fun of it when they’re all haggard themselves. Thats why i like men more. They look at the whole picture and not bits pieces like us gals do. Plus they’re not assholes like girls are.
I believe him, but I think he just tells me that because he has to. haha I’ve learned not to argue with him about it, though. So I just say thanks.
once when we went to my 35 yr high school reunion he said,”honey, these are the parent’s of kids you went to school with, right?” I said,”no, these are my classmates.” So he really believes it and I am always surprized by how he sees me so I guess I don’t believe him.
Well, I believe HE thinks I’m beautiful. Which is good news when it’s my husband, but not so much when it’s a psycho stalker guy.
I believe HE thinks so. It affects my personal standard for my own looks probably 50% of the time. If I think I’m not up to scratch, it’s very difficult to accept his compliment actual truth rather than just his perception.
I think I may have to post about this, haha.
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@ionekoa - This is done by living one’s life in a manner that is consistent and says with every word, deed and breath that every woman is beautiful and worthy of love. Women are very watchful, very intuitive and they notice the consistency by which men live their life. They know that many men who are seeking only some temporary satisfaction will tell them everything they want to hear, will act a certain way, but only for a short time. If they do not soon receive what they are seeking they drop the act and move on. A real man who seeks to show women–all women–that they are beautiful and worthy of love does not put up an act but simply lives a life that speaks the truth of who women are. You will find, as will any man who endeavors in the truth, that as you discover more and more who woman truly is you will come to understand more fully the mystery of who you are as a man.
God bless you in this and all things; it is so very hard especially in our culture today that seeks to exploit women and you will have very little support. But I promise you that every drop of sweat and blood you exert, every tear you shed when it seems every good deed ends without thanks or reward, is completely worth it when you by no intention of your own, by merely doing as you are compelled to do because of who you are, inadvertently change a woman’s life for the better, forever.
Yes, I do.
I am pretty honest to myself. unless something goes over my head.
i will tell a guy he is attractive if i really think so and i am comfortable with it. Doesnt mean i wanna bang him or date him. I will tell a girl she is attractive for the same reasons.
When i look in the mirror, i hink, what would someone say about me if they just glanced. I wouldnt be very attractive.
but i do have people who call me beautiful, pretty, cute, attractive. Do i believe them? 89% of the time no. sometimes ill take the compliment if i am feeling kinda cute but most of the time i feel like flattery is the only language compliments belong to.
I would depending on the guy. Some random guy… Nope, he wants something. But if I was dating or married, I would hope that I’d believe my boyfriend/husband. I do think I’m pretty, but not really beautiful.
Yes, I believe my husband. His definition of beautiful is different from mine– but if he likes it, that is good enough for me. If it’s another man I know, then I usually think that they are referring to the whole person, not just my body. Heck, I’m 53 years old, and look reasonable enough for that age. Smiling genuinely and being truly interested in others covers a lot of physical bulges.
I don’t deny that my husband finds me beautiful, however, sometimes it’s hard for me to believe I’m beautiful.
I do believe them because I am confident and usually when a man tells a woman she is beautiful, he means it with no false pretenses. The way I can tell the difference is when they say “you’re hot” or “you’re sexy.” I take that as a “I’m looking at your body” Beautiful means your face, your body, your personality. When a man tells a woman she is beautiful, he means it.
I brush off compliments most of the time, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t believe them.
I sure do.
Honestly, I really don’t believe them. There always has to be some ulterior motive behind the compliment, at least the way my twisted mind works. I don’t buy it.
@FictionalCharacter102 - You make a good point here.
I believe it when a guy tells me I’m beautiful. Not because I think I’m all that, but because that’s their opinion.
The general response from most of these women is kind of irritating. This is why men have such a hard time approaching women everywhere, because women automatically scrutinize everything a man says and tries to read between the lines and find alterior motives. LAME
rarely.
Wisdom from Lazarus Long- ”Always tell her she is beautiful, especially if she is not.”
I didn’t with my ex, but I do believe my current boyfriend. He doesn’t believe in sex before marriage, so I know it’s not to get me in the sack. He tells me almost every day that he’s amazed that God brought me into his life, and I feel likewise! I think that maybe the reason why I believe him is because of how he treats me when I’m at my worst. We have a term for how we see ourselves even at our worst– “Beautiful Mess.” We’re imperfect and fallen, but we can still love and be loved, and it’s Beautiful to be loved with all of your brokenness. So when he tells me I am beautiful, I know he means it, because I know he sees all the imperfections and the good qualities, and he loves them all because it’s “me.”
I sometimes question if I feel beautiful or not, but I never question whether my boyfriend means it or not when he tells me I’m beautiful.
Sometimes.
Even if I don’t necessarily believe them at the time, it still brightens my day and makes me feel more beautiful, regardless of who said it or why.
A many faceted question. My ex used to say, “you have to tell me I’m beautiful, you’re my husband”. She was wrong. I didn’t have to tell her for that or any other reason. I did tell her, because to me, she was. She could never quite believe…. sad really, and there’s so much more involved in that statement. Most of the time,I think we’d really rather not deal with it all.
I believe them, but whether or not I believe their motives for complimenting me is another story.
@AceValentineRocks - the one that pops to mind is Sammy Kershaw “She Don’t Know She’s Beautiful” but I know there are so many more
I’m not the sentimental type nor am I the desperate type… and my friends aren’t either. So when I hear my friends say that, I know they must mean it. If a stranger says it, then it must be true because if I wasn’t then they wouldn’t be talking to me. I guess I just think that when someone compliments you as a way of getting what they wan’t, it’s pretty obvious. I’m not saying it never happens to me, but if someone tells me I’m beautiful, I just think they’re stating what they see.
depends on who the man is. ha ha
@Ancient_Scribe - excellent answer
I don’t. But I look at it statistically. Statistically, a women that is overweight is not very attractive. Most men aren’t naturally attracted to a women who is over 200lbs. So I just assume he is being nice. He may find my personality attractive or beautiful but he isn’t naturally coming to the conclusion of my body being attractive.
I don’t believe it whether it’s a man or a woman telling me that. There are just too many insincere people these days, it’s hard to tell when someone means what they say and when they’re saying it just to be saying it. For instance, say you get a haircut. Most people who notice the haircut will tell you “OH, IT LOOKS GREAT!” Right? How many of those people actually mean that?
I believe it, especially coming from my SO or close guy friends. Coming from strangers, how I perceive a compliment depends on how they approach me with it.
This is a sad testament to the self image of women these days. Where is the confidence???!!!
I just need ONE man to tell me that…and he does! Not only that, but he says…and I quote…”I think you are ADORABLE!” And I absolutely believe him!!
Isn’t beauty in the eye of the beholder? So do I believe it, rarely but that’s because I guess I lack self confidence.
Nope. Men say what women want to hear.
And even if it was someone who i thought genuinely cared about me, i would think he was saying it to make me feel good or make me happy instead of actually assessing my looks.
But I can believe it when someone i’m dating calls me “hott” or something along those lines, because obviously theres some spark of physical attraction or i assume he wouldnt be with me. And hott can refer to my body, not including my face (facial features being what i primarily think of when someone says “beautiful”), and i’m fairly confident about my weight & shape.
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No, I feel like he says it because he feels like he should say it.
@armnatmom - Absolutely, agreed.
I believe them, I’m not the insecure type.
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nope…and my husband gets really mad at me for it, but for me it’s hard…7 pregnancies and almost 40…wrinkles and bumps that used to not be there…*sigh*…
i know im beautiful whether or not someone tells me ^^
Two years into dating my boyfriend, I still have a hard time believing him when he says I’m beautiful.
I blame insecurity.
Whenever my boyfriend tells me I look good, sexy, beautiful, and so on, I believe him in my mind, but things like “Oh shut up, you just want some tonight” comes out of my mouth. I know he finds me attractive, otherwise he wouldn’t be with me, it’s just hard to let him know that I believe him cause I think that if I tell him I know he does, he’ll stop telling me.
i think it depends on the situation and who’s telling you “you’re beautiful”.
I do indeed.
I typically believe them, just because not every guy tells me it. I don’t hear it that often. So if I do, I’m like, “Well, they must really think so.”
My husband tells me I’m beautiful all the time. I can’t help it but it sounds so rehearsed. and it doesnt matter what I look like when he says it. Since we’ve gotten married, i’ve gained weight, and i just really don’t feel as pretty as i used to. And he will come right out and tell me I look beautiful, even if i just climbed out of bed, not showered, hair a mess etc. and like i said, it just seems so rehearsed. i’ll tell him, you’re just saying that and he’ll tell me, nope, he means it. I think i could believe it more if he waited til I looked my best and paid me a compliment.
My boyfriend doesn’t even tell me I’m beautiful to start with .