March 5, 2011
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Parents
It is interesting in that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
But what is also interesting is that so many people describe how their parents fought all the time or that they did not really have a functional relationship. I think very few people can point to a positive relationship that their parents had.
Did your parents have a positive, healthy marriage?
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Nope. Divorced when I was 2. Things are better, but being legally forced to live with my dad and step-mom after a nasty court battle sure isn’t helping things.
Yup. Well, sorta…
Not even close. They did a very good hand drawn facsimile of one though. The interesting thing (maybe) is that my mother divorced my father when I was a baby because of his rage issues, then married a man with emotional issues. Which one gave me the ‘rage’ handicap? Nature or nurture? Who cares? DRINK!
Yep. Other than having to deal with me. =P
yes
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Nope. Never married. They hate each other now.
Nope. Dad got mom pregnant when she was 17 and had me. They were married for a bit because of my birth..but she started cheating and they fought all the time..and then divorced. Happier that way, except that they hate each other.
I think so. I know them well enough by now to say with confidence that if anything had gone bad, my mom would have been perfectly capable of leaving and raising me herself, and they’re still together, so they must be doing something right.
Mine did…for 19 years. They divorced last summer. Or rather, my mom divorced my dad. Nobody saw it coming, not even him. So…Idunno what to think anymore.
Bahaha. My parents got divorced after 20 years of marriage. I don’t even have any memories of them when they weren’t fighting. I still don’t think either of them have a “normal” relationship with their new spouses. But then, I’ve kind of quit believing in “normal” relationships. No one is as happy as they would have you believe.
And most people get divorced so they can stop fighting and having problems, right? My mom and dad’s only got worse and worse after they got divorced. They won’t even talk to each other on the phone now to organize when I visit her. Which means I get to tell mom that dad doesn’t want to meet halfway, or tell dad that mom wants to meet earlier on friday because she has church. Then, I get to hear (in a rather loud volume) all about what an ass my dad is, or how ridiculous my mom is for wanting to go to church. So I guess you couldn’t even say that my parents have a normal post-divorce relationship.
Not just no but, hell no. They didn’t even sleep in the same room. If my dad walked in a room, my mom walked out. Every day was a fight, and I survived by concentrating on the “some day” when I would be out of that hell and making my own life and home. It made for a very bad basis for me to go on when picking a husband of my own, and clouded my judgement because I just wanted out so badly. It is much better for the kids to have a peaceful home. If this is not possible – to stay together at peace, they should split. If they do stay together for the kids, they BOTH need to commit to making it work. But in this day and age, too many people are just too selfish for that.
yes. my parents are great.
Bwahaha. No. They’re still married, but I haven’t seen them speak to each other in so long that I can’t hardly remember. Their “conversations” are about two words long, from what I’ve seen. I suppose at one point they were in love, but not that I ever saw in evidence. I brought it up to my mom once when I was in therapy as a young teenager and she was insulted and said that they loved each other very much, but I haven’t seen anything that proves that.
nope…i am 40 years old and my parents are 67 years old and i still wish they would get divorced…my dad is an alcoholic douchebag
Some of the time.
No, my dad beat my mother in front of me. He threw her over couch and hurt me too. I was happy they got divorced when I was four.
My stepdad and my mom do okay, but that’s because Q is so laid back.
I will never get married. Males torture me because I’m single but they don’t want me either.
I don’ t think marriage will last modern civilization but will ancient ones in the future. We’re only meant to partner 7 or so years. After that, that that keeps us together falls apart.
define positive and healthy…. hahaha
my parents are just really stressed all the time. I feel bad for them
No. It was actually a one-night stand and followed-up many, many court trials for child support. Ehhh.
My parents are still together. It’ll be 25 years this July. They nag at each other, but they still talk and tell each other about what they did that day. They still have sex (which I only know because my mother insists on talking to me about it). They just decided to redo the floors in their house, so it was interesting watching them go to different stores and try to agree on a hardwood floor.
No. They were always distant, even when I was a child. They wanted to divorce earlier, but my brother and I were to young to deal with it, so they held out until we were 17. No harm was done, high-fives all around.
We’re a strange family.
As for my relationships, I never really had one, and I never cared to. However, my brother seems to have really shitty ones lol.
haha no.
Yes and they are still going strong at 37 years!
i don’t know what my mom sees in my dad.
My parents used to fight all the time. Medical problems, drinking problems, and a cocaine addiction made my father a hard person to be around but now that my dad is clean and sober and money isn’t an issue my parents get along great. I always wanted my mom to leave my dad when I was little but 10 years later I’m glad they states together.
My parents marriage was and still is horrible. When I was a kid both of my dad was an alcoholic and when I was about 18 both of my parents struggled with drug addiction. That alone was bad, but my dad was also physically abusive towards my mom. My parents are still married today, some how, for some reason. While the physical abuse is no longer an issue, thank God, my dad is very controlling and emotionally abusive towards my mom. It breaks my heart to have seen and heard of all of this. So needless to say, I do not want a marriage like my parents.
my parents had 4 children without ever marrying. but no, their relationship wasn’t that healthy. cocaine’s a helluva drug.
Well, before they got divorced I remember a lot of yelling, some screaming… ooh, dishes were thrown and broken I remember that. Then my Dad would go smoke pot in the shed… and then the other members of his band would come and jam… and that was fun. Probably not a healthy environment for me… think I got second-hand stoned at five or six years old. Hey, that explains a lot about me now! I’ll say, that’s probably a no on the positive, healthy relationship question.
I don’t think so; I think they’re deluding themselves.
It seems to me that a lot of people marry with the secret intention to get rid of the other eventually at least unconsciously. My parents for sure never loved one another. Interesting that they managed to make four children.
Uh, ha. lol.
My parents divorced when I was 12, I think, somewhere around there, but they’re currently working on getting back together, so I really don’t know what it is, because they never really fought much, and were always pretty close even though they got divorced.
My parents have actually been happily (as far as I know) married for about 20 years now I believe. I don’t know if my parents example really has had any impact on my own personal relationships though, I’m just grateful that I had 2 loving and supportive parents who loved each other.
my parents are the coolest (;
I barely remember my parents’ marriage, they divorced when I was five/six. Both of them have since had pretty failed relationships. My mom’s boyfriend of the past fifteen years is a good twenty something years older than her and homeless (except when he stays with her). My da got engaged to his 19 year old intern after he left my mom, then she left him when I turned into a terrible teenager ten years later. My dad has since dated a stream of bitchy gold diggers, but his girlfriend of the last few years is pretty great. It’s nice to see him in a functional relationship finally.
Mine did, and still do. I remember the occasional spat but nothing that lasted more than an evening.
I’m glad my so called dad wasn’t in my life. I didn’t need to be in that type of unhealthy environment. my mother raised me on her own just fine. girl power!
My parents are both still children pretending to be adults. So I guess they both deserve each other. I’m not being rude or complaining but that’s really the truth. Theyre marriage is rocky and they hate each other and they have fought so much. But they will never separate because they are both too old to find someone new and it would take way to much work on either sides.
Have they had a positive marriage? No, I’m afraid not
Yes. My parents love each other and are still together.
Nah.
Women are princesses in this country.
And when they’re not, they’re attracted to abusers.
Kinda makes it hard when you always have one person looking down on the other.
No.
I wish my mother had the balls to end it.
Nope, they argued and fought all the time yet they are still married (probably b/c they’re in their 60s and 80s…they figured it’s too old to get divorced)…although they were united on making sure their needs were met above their children’s needs to this day.
It’s really interesting reading about all these other parents’ marriages.
It makes me wonder if it’s a generational thing – my parents were married for forty years, and would have passed fifty and sixty by now, if my mom hadn’t died of cancer. I don’t ever remember hearing them fighting….if they did, they kept it from us kids and did so behind closed doors. They worked very well together in everything they did, from managing us kids to projects around the house, long car trips/vacations, whatever. My brother was a handful for a few years, but even then, they really kept their calm and handled him with love and peace and a gentle firmness. There was never shouting, yelling, drinking, any of that. It was a peaceful, loving environment. I think the only hostility came from normal teenage angst from my brother and I.
It’s an ideal kind of relationship that I wish I had, but at this point, probably never will.
i’m a little surprised to hear that most people don’t consider their parents’ marriage to be functional…. a marriage isn’t like eating marshmellows… it’s supposed to be hard and require a lot of work.
my parents’ marriage has definitely had its stressful and hurtful moments…but after 23 years, i can say that i’ve learned what a healthy marriage should look like… lots of communication, lots of patience, and lots of forgiveness..
In September 2011 this year parents will have been married 30 years, still going strong
my folks, 63 years + @ShamrockLover - you got the most positive-sounding reply on the page (hope I didn’t steal your thunder)
hell no. my mom’s working on her second affair and my dad might be gay
My parents HAVE positive and healthy relationship.
My parents were definately old school…. Dad worked, mother stayed at home and raised the kids. Looking back, I don’t think it was healthy, but he didn’t abuse her either. Divorce was just unheard of in their day.
As far as I know (mostly from my elder siblings) my parents had a pretty great marriage. Unfortunately my mom died several years ago (just doing the maths, it’s coming up on 9 years now), but my dad and step-mom are having a rather good marriage, too.
My parents were amazing. Anything they didn’t do well they were upfront about and tried to address, showing me it was okay to not be perfect as long as you were aware and willing to work. Their love for each other increased by the year. They fought sometimes, got impatient with each other, snapped, all that jazz. But it was never so bad that they couldn’t work through it. They got counseling at one point, for which I’m grateful. It can take a lot of humility to admit you need another person’s input on your marriage.
My parents’ examples gave me a realistic and positive impression of marriage in general.
~V
My parents have been married for 49 years. They love each other, need each other, get angry at each other, fight, cook, eat, support and often get aggravated with each other.
I think a “perfect,” “never-a-conflict” marital relationship is a fallacy. I had one of those. We NEVER fought. We looked like a very very happy couple to everyone on the ouside. But we had compatability issues that werre unresolvable. I actually think the lack of my ex’s ability to have a good ‘ol fight was very detrimental to our marriage, to our relationship which lasted just under 20 yrs. His lack of ability to have an emotional life and connect with me was a deathnail in our marriage. My parent’s marriage was my model, afterall. I had nothing else to go on. I felt like we were existing like a well functioning corporation, not a loving, fighting, “norma”l couple.
Our daughter who now splits her time between our residences doesn’t recall any fights between her mom and dad. That is because there were none. That is, until we began the divorce process and it became horrific. My lawyer told the judge just this Thursday, (we are still embroiled in legal issues, despite the fact we are divorced now) that we had the most brutal custody case she has ever been involved in during her 25 years in divorce law practice. This was bad for me, for him, and my daughter. I have no idea if I answered your question, lol.
50%
My parent’s are still married after almost 55 years. They’re both teacher’s (now retired). Hard working, happy people who raised 4 pretty awesome people. I don’t have any recollection of them fighting and neither of them smoked, drank or did drugs.
Yeah, my last name is Cleaver.
Parents still together. They were never demonstrative in their love for each other. I know though when they did stop loving each other. But they stay together for convenience and finances, security and us. They are very involved with family. Things are just easier without step parents and such. One thing they always have been…unselfish and responsible. They say why trade the problems we have together with new or different problems. Everyone has problems.
Nope, not in any way. And – it’s like an echo in here – they still don’t get along. Ah well.
No. They’ve split up now after thirty years, the last ten of which were horrific.
I’m hoping I’ve learned from their mistakes. I don’t want to be anything like them–particularly in my marriage.
So far so good
Hmm, well they don’t “believe” in divorce. And while they don’t fight very often, they’re constantly bickering. Both of them live in their own little worlds and don’t care enough about each other to try to understand the other.
It was okay, yes, and now that they are older I can say that it is good- which I believe is a positive reflection of their 48 years together. My husband’s parents have an awesome relationship, and have been married for nearly 30 years.
My parents have always fought alll of the time and I always thought that they’d get divorced.
But they’re still together.
My parents used to fight all the time but now they hardly speak to each other. They aren’t divorced but I think it would be better that way. They believe in staying together for the kids and trying to set a positive influence for when we have our own families one day, however, it was more of a headache than it was a “positive” influence because they never showed each other they cared about one another. So, I have no idea where they got their thinking. I now have my own family and so do most of my siblings. We’re all still married and going strong so I guess in some ways my parent’s marriage taught us to not be like them.
My mom and dad did not divorce–they preferred fighting and arguing too much. They were 39 and 59 when I was born, and the 13 years dad was alive was a sad sight for a kid to see. They agreed on nothing, so he just did what he wanted and let her yell. She took it out on me an my brother. Divorce would have been better.
Yes. We also hold a strong bond for the value of family, which is also why my aunts, uncles and cousins are close.
My parents are great together and I love being around them. And they still slow dance in the kitchen!
Nope.
Yes but they had their rough period.
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Nope, but to the outside world, they pretend everything is perfect. We all know better though.
My parents have a very loving relationship. They are best friends and have been married since I was 3 (almost 22 years now). They didn’t have the funds to get married before I was born, plus they were going to school and figuring things out.
yes! it hasn’t always been easy for them, and they’ve had to work through many struggles including financial and medical. but they took their vows seriously and stayed together. now their children are grown and they love spending time together! they will be married for 36 years in may
They certainly did not. I cannot imagine why they even got married in the first place.
My parents have a fantastic relationship. Going on 31 years of marriage and more in love than they were at the beginning. I hope some day to have a marriage like theirs. I believe it’s because they both love God, and they’re committed to staying together forever.
my grandparents raised me and they had the most loving, caring, amazing relationship I’ve ever seen.
yup.. 28 years and going strong
My parents actually just recently got divorced..
Things were okay when i was in elementary from what i remember but from jr. high on (i’m graduating next year) they’ve been very distant. Throw in a bucket of lies and an affair and you’ve got yourself a divorce.
YUP!
Well, yes. Their relationship was and is rather fabulous. just like all parents they’re had their fights, and rough patches, but there has always been lovin’.
i think so, at least my parents are still together and i think they are doing okay as parents together. So i guess they are doing fine. They argue almost everyday, i think my dad is cheating and my mom knows, but it somehow works out.
Nope. My dad had his issues… I haven’t seen/talked to him since I was in the 3rd grade.
separated, so no. because their both immature.
One in a million marriages. I will never forget …in their last days of their lives (Both died three weeks within each other). My mother riddled with cancer, kneeling and helping my dad with his socks and his spoiled depends. He had dementia. What do you call this, I screamed at my mother for being out of bed. And she turned around and said, “It’s called love.”
I truly miss them and their love story of over 50 years.
not at all. they had a messy divorce about a year ago.. Still not officially divorced, but seperated.
they are still happily married after 38 years so i would think so. no kids in the house and they still go out and do stuff together and have fun by themselves.
mashAllah my parents are like idol!
Nope. My parents divorced when I was 7. My dad constantly threw my mum’s and granny’s stuff away w/o asking. He was always wanting things that was out of his league. He wanted a good life, but he didn’t want to work for it. (He frequently took leave from work to sleep -.-). My mum wasn’t perfect but she told him her flaws before marriage. He claimed that he could accept it, but I guess not. Also my mum didn’t quite go with what he asked her to do but it was for the family’s good. Like I’ve said, he wanted a good life. He wanted to buy another house etc and my mum disagreed. We should live life the way we can afford it, right? What he wanted just didn’t make sense. After divorce, we received calls from banks about loans from him. He gave what wasn’t his number anymore to the bank which really made me disrespect him. Other than that, I think he was just a crazy antisocial person. He never once ate together with my mum or granny at home. And he bickered w my mum because his relatives didn’t come to our house during festive season. I mean, c’mon. It’s not that my mum stopped them from coming… they were the ones who didn’t show up!
But who cares right? My mum’s better off by herself
No they were abusive alcoholics who should have never had children.
uhm, my parents didn’t really fight in front of me and they are still married…. but that’s only because my mother thinks it’s a sin to get a divorce and that she’s supposed to be submissive. Like, when I was a young child, my dad would abuse me and my sister and call it “discipline” and my mom would just let it happen because she didn’t want to be “out of submission.” Even when the abuse stopped, my dad could still act like a tyrant and my mom wouldn’t disagree with him. At least, not in front of my sister and I. So… yeah. I don’t think their marriage is functional. But it’s their marriage.
I think it’s better to fight once in a while than to have one person not express themselves or be treated as an inferior. And if a marriage is a really bad marriage, then divorce is better than being miserable.
Not her first marriage with my dad, but my mom’s second marriage is awesome. But now her relationship with my dad is really good as well.
lol no, but it was for the better, he was an asshole. she left him when i was born and married my step dad when i was 10
Haha my parents were never married. They had me in high school. They both went to college and are both Accountants for the big four. My mom always watches that show “Teen Mom” and says “I swear to God, it was so not like this!” In all honestly things probably would have went to hell if they were married.
My parents have one of the most harmonious relationships I’ve ever seen. They’re very selfless with each other.
Yes, they’ve been married for 29 years, and I am so thankful for that.
yeah they do…
they do have little quarrels but its all out of love.the secret to a long healthy marriage is that the mans got to put down his ego and try to accommodate his wife, . a high school teacher said the same thing about his marriage.
It could be worse, and I guess they do have a pretty good marriage… But there have been times when my mom threatened to leave in the heat of a fight and I decided that I wouldn’t care if she did. She’s crazy…
My parents are still married. Of course they fight. But they stay together through thick and thin. They definitely are part of the “you complete me” cliche.
My parents fight constantly, but at the end of they day they always make up. My mom has this thing about never going to bed angry at somebody.
Yes, they do.
Reading all the comments that say their parents had bad marriages, got divorced, etc., makes me very sad. Everyone deserves to have two happy parents. It sucks that so many people don’t get that.
My parents fought so hard, that half of their fights …they ended up laughing because either:
A) They forgot why they were fighting, or
B) They were so determined to “win” the argument that theirargument became so ridiculous…it was laughable.
You’d think they were getting a divorce as much as they fought, but they knew how to communicate too. That, and they knew how to make each other laugh and stayed on the same page with each other on their goals. They both don’t believe in divorce, although my dad had been married twice before my mother… both of his previous wives were flake-y and just took off, leaving him no other choice. My dad is a good man, and so is my mom. I loved them dearly and admire how much they love each other. About 27 years and going strong for them.
Nope. Only got married not even three years because my sperm donor is a whore. Cheated on my mom with a 14 year old and got that 14 year old pregnant… oh well…
There is so much that I took for granted when I was growing up at home. My paarents were happily married for sixty-two years and all six of their children (I’m the eldest) have been relatively successful in our relationships. One of my brothers died at the age of twenty. Our parents were always loyal to us, and to each other. They encouraged each of us to marry wisely and to trust in the Lord Jesus as our Saviour and Friend. We had our share of misunderstandings, but even today as an 80-year-old grandfather, family is next only to God in my personal list of priorities.
Hell no. They don’t even share the same bed anymore. One sleeps in the living room. They nag at each other constantly. No fun. Not fair to my brother and me. Shit sucks.
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my parents never really fought in front of us, but they got a divorce when i was about 10 because my mom was having an affair. mom’s still not content as far as i can tell, but dad and my stepmom have a relationship that is the stuff of fairytales.
My parents didn’t bother with marriage, so I guess I don’t get to answer this one. LOL ooops guess I commented on it anyway.
nope, divorced when i was 4
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Yep… and the funny thing is their marriage was arranged.
My parents got separated when I was 10 and my mom moved out of the house. They fought and yelled at each other every time they saw each other. The only holiday that we could celebrate without getting them getting into a fight was Thanksgiving 2009.
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My parents are so happily married it’s ridiculous. It took a lot of work for it to happen, though. When they celebrated their 30th anniversary, they said they were celebrating 17 happy years together. It’s all about commitment.
Yes, no question. For 52 years, until my father died.
By the way, the statitic that 50% of all marriages end in divorce does not mean 50% of all married people are divorced. Many, like Larry King are serial divorcers.
Mine are happily married, as far as I can see.
yes
Not even close. There is a song by the Goo Goo Dolls called Black Balloon. It says in the song something like “your mother married your father because she had nowhere else to go.” That was my Mother, and she told me that numerous times before they finally got divorced (and before that song ever came out.). My Mother cheated on my father the whole time I was in high school, and eventually divorced him because he was “too mean”. They fought all the time, and it was quit obvious to me the whole time I was growing up that my mother faked loving him.
Ermm… my GRANDparents did/do! Lol. My parents are both assholes. I wish I could move out. ><
When I say move out, I mean move away. My dad moved out ages ago. But he still tries to have a relationship with me. I brush him off constantly. Want nothing to do with him, at all. He is the reason my family fell apart and probably the reason I’m so cynical and distant with people. Oh, and I’m angry ALL the time.
I won’t be getting married mostly because of them. Unless my boyfriend can magically change my mind. Or I am on medication in the next few years to help me with all the problems I have. @.@
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Honestly, sometimes I think they hate each other, but if they really did, then the divorce would have been made final. XD
I must say, my parents do love their kids, though my dad almost knows nothing about me and my sister. He thinks I’m some sort of goth and that my sister’s two favorite things are the color pink and Barbies. We both grew out of those respective phases years ago.
But, in short, my paren’ts relationship is normal. They argue, they make up.
I would consider my parents’ marriage extremely positive and healthy. In fact, I’m jealous in a way because they were each other’s first girlfriend/boyfriend. It’s been around 18 years since their marriage, and hopefully it will last. Both of my parent’s parents’ marriages are also positive.
maybe not the healthiest, but they never fought in front of us kids. they worked out their disagreements between themselves, which i think is rather a healthy thing to do. they are still making it work, thankfully
Maybe for a while. I remember some good times. Divorced when I was seven and Dad remarried shortly after. Dad later said that the grass is greener. I kept in touch with his widow for a while, but I lost contact.
I determined to do better. We’ve been married for over 30 years and are best friends. She holds my arm when we walk and takes my hand.
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my parents are happily married
For the most part my parents had a good marriage. They were married 48 years when my dad died. They were equal partners – they did almost everything together – grocery shopping, leisure activities, cooking, etc. I just wish my mom had been a little more independent. When my dad died, she just fell apart, lost the will to live, stopped taking care of her diabetes, and died about 7 years later.
My parents did, and still do. They’ve been together 33 years, married 31. I’ve only heard them fight once that I can remember. My dad still pinches mom’s butt when she goes up the stairs ahead of him. They are best friends and have the best relationship of any other married couple I’ve ever met.
No. My Mother married 4 times. But my Grandparents were a different story.
They married as teenagers and stayed together until they died. My Grandmother was my role model.
I’ve been with the same man for the last 25 years of my life and I have no plans of changing that nor does he.
No.
Yes and almost 30 years strong. I’ve never seen them do more than simple bickering and they’ve always been a solid part of my life. My parents give me hope that my marriage can and will last.
My biological father and my mom got divorced when I was a baby because he wanted to be a woman… My mom was crushed. She has been married to my stepdad for going on 20 years, and they’re very happy.
My grandparents have been married for about 60 years, and they hate each other. They don’t believe in divorce, my grandpa had multiple affairs when he was younger, and she has yelled at him (in front of me) That she is sleeping with a knife under her pillow so he better not try to sneak in.
My stepgrandparents were together for about 60 years as well… He was verbally and mentally abusive, and would do things to her like make her peel potatoes all day to make him a completely homecooked meal even after she had arthritis and parkinsons. He refused to help her even when she couldn’t talk and was in a wheelchair, telling her that she was “useless”. She tried so hard to make him happy and keep the house clean for a man who wouldn’t even make his own coffee when she was too sick to get out of bed. She died two years ago. His kids refuse to talk to him because of how badly he treated her.
I don’t think the divorce rate is going up because peoples’ relationships aren’t as healthy… I think its because people are no longer willing to sacrifice their whole lives being unhappy.
My parents were in love and had a great partnership – right up until my dad died about 5 years ago at the young(for our family) age of 72. While my mom was already reconciled to the idea that she might live alone for many years and is having a great life, he is very much missed by all of us
And fwiw, I’ve been married for over 30 years myself.
Considering they are still together and in love, YES.
My parents did not, but they stayed married until my father passed away. Now my grandparents (maternal side) had a fantastic marriage. That is everything I want my marriage to be.
My parents had and have a very healthy and positive relationship. It’s made me extremely picky in my relationships because I’ve always felt I wouldn’t settle for less than what they have. I think I’ve found it
My parents are pretty good in this regard.
Yes, they’ve always had a healthy relationship. Struggles? Sure, but you can TELL they love each other still. Both my and my boyfriend’s parents are still married. I think we both realize how rare that is.
Yes, my parents have been married for almost 21 years now. They very rarely fight, and I have few memories of them fighting when I was young. My mom never wants to let us forget that they love each other, and that they’re soulmates. It’s rather cute sometimes.
Just a quick little note, when discussing this you must understand it is 50% of marriages that end in divorce, and not 50% of people who get married get divorced. A lot of those numbers come from people like Elizabeth Taylor, who marry and re-marry repeatedly. (My parents fall under the latter category. They’ve both been married three times, twice to each other)
And no, there’s a reason why they got divorced the first time and are probably going to get divorced again. There was fighting, yes, although much of it was kept away from me. My dad cheated on my mom, has had an alcohol problem on and off, and at one point became addicted to gambling. When he’s not doing any of those things, I think he really is who my mom’s “one.” However, so far that hasn’t really lasted . . . at all.
My relationships are relatively few, and usually not very good. I tend to settle, which is really unfortunate.
Yes, and they get along great still.
29 years and still going.