May 26, 2011

  • Stretch Marks

    I really don’t find stretch marks all that unappealing.  I can understand why women are disappointed when they look different after giving birth.

    But I think that stretch marks are not as ugly as some women think.

    They are a sign that a woman was willing to sacrifice herself for something else.   I have always thought being selfless was one of the most appealing qualities a person can have.

    I just read a status update on facebook where a mother said she was selling her wii to buy diapers for her baby.  I could tell that was a huge sacrifice for her.

    So to all the mothers out there, you look as wonderful as ever. 

    Are stretch marks really that unattractive?
                                                       
                                                                           

Comments (116)

  • “So to all the mothers out there, you look as wonderful as ever.”
    :)

  • I got them from being fat. What about that?

  • Stretch marks don’t bother me. Mine aren’t even red. But I got mine from a gigantic growth spurt in my hips when I was a teenager.

  • Awww.
    There’s nothing wrong with them no matter how you get them, it happens.

  • Love this :) I’ve gotten horrible stretch marks in my pregnancy and I still have 7 weeks to go. Thankfully I’ve heard they get lighter once the baby is born :) My hubby doesn’t care about the stretch marks and believes the same thing you do. Whenever I get down about them he even says “You’re growing a person inside of you, what do you expect to happen?” <3

  • I’m wondering the same thing as MangoWOW. I got mine from gaining a bunch of weight :/ this post still made me feel a bit better about them, I’ve been really self conscious about them. I find mine unappealing and just..gross. 

  • Luckily mine are fading.

  • I got stretch marks when I gained weight, but they don’t bother me as much as they used to. 

  • I think they’re fucking nasty. *cringes*

  • Looks like my scrotum.

  • I like my stretch marks. They’ve turned silvery, and I feel like a zebra.

  • @andij777 - how don’t you have them? mostly every girl has them even skinny girls lol!

  • It’s not stretch marks that bother me. I don’t like seeing pictures of bare bellies, big or little, male or female, pregnant or not. It’s just a personal preference of mine.

  • My first pregnancy was twins. I looked like a cat attacked me. I am still surprised I didn’t get them until a few weeks before I delivered. They did fade some, But I hate them. I’m not sure I’ll have be ok with them. 

  • @andij777 - Thats actually not true. Tons of women use that lotion and still get horrible stretch marks. 

  • I still think mine are gross :(

  • @andij777 - well all i have to say is you’re a very rare kind lol. :)

  • @MangoWOW - Me, too. I feel bad about them because I didn’t even get them doing something noble like childbearing. Just from gaining and losing weight.

  • I never got stretch marks when I was pregnant with my  three.  I guess we just have good, stretchy skin in our family.  I did, however, get them on my boobs when the milk came in.  They’re barely noticeable now. They were always white, never red or purple.  Everyone’s different.

  • I am terrified of getting stretch marks from pregnancy.  Call my superficial, but if i had a stomach with stretch marks and loose skin, i would have a tummy tuck.  I’m way too vain, so i’m lucky i’m not one of the ones that gets stretch marks from pregnancy.  

  • Yes, I think they’re unattractive but when you have a child you have nothing but to live with yourself… Yea… I don’t look in the mirror…

  • I’ve always claimed that I’ve earned my stretchmarks.  And I kinda like how they curve around my belly button like angel wings.

    I would have to really be in the moment to take a picture, though.  That takes a true belief that the stretchmarks were earned.  That they are, in fact a beautiful symbol of your willingness to sacrifice for life.

    I like that.  Thanks for sharing.  =)

  • Stretch marks from babies, or when men get them in their shoulders/arms from working out are A-okay!

    Stretch marks from being 300 pounds are not.

  • @musicmom60 - I never got them, either.  Although, I wouldn’t have cared if I had.  I never wear revealing clothing, anyway, so nobody would know about them but me and my husband.

  • I guess I’m one of the lucky ones… I do have some around my hips and my boobs, but because I’m so fair, they hardly show.  You have to get really close and personal if you know what I mean :)

  • Nah, I have them on my thighs, my upper arms, and my stomach. They’re fading now that I’ve lost weight though. I kind of hated the ones on my upper arms because they were noticeable but the other ones never bothered me much. I got mine from being fat and gaining a lot of weight really quickly.

    Somehow I managed to escape having them on my breasts…they are completely stretch mark free. And they’re not like veiny either. I have very nice large boobies.

  • it happens lol. I don’t have them though (:

  • My stretch marks don’t bother me at all, strangely. However I absolutely can’t stand the extra skin that comes from having a baby and then dropping 60 pounds :( I’m finally at my weight goal which I thought would never happen and I still don’t feel attractive, naked, that is.

  • I may not have had a baby – but have stretch marks. They make me feel like a tiger hahaha

  • My hubby thinks I am beautiful and I now have wrinkles and sag over my stretch marks.

  • i hate them still =[

    i’m not a mother, but I have stretch marks on my tush and i hate itthough when isee them on other girls I don’t think it looks bad at all, i think it’s that whole overly self critical thing 

  • I don’t mind my wifes at all. I think of them as badge of women hood. 

  • it’s not attractive but it’s part of life.

  • well if you’re married to her and get her pregnant, then you have to deal with it and accept her no matter what. I can still be picky and intolerant since I didn’t make any unconditional vows:D

    *sigh*jensen ackles

  • I have a couple…but I don’t remember where because they’ve faded that much and I can’t find them

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  • I seen so many guys be nasty about that. A friend’s husband used her “disgusting” stretchmarks as a reason to divorce her. My roommate thinks they completely override any physically attractive qualities I have because they’re so gross. 

    Props to Dan the man for being able to see the big picture!

  • I have them on places where I gained a lot of extra weight after I stopped dancing in high school. My inner thighs and my love handles mostly. This happened because I grew outwards very quickly when I quit, because I no longer was working on lean muscle. I hated them for many years, and still think they are incredibly ugly. It’s just a reminder of something I regret, and it’s not something I’m fond of. I’ve begun to like them just enough to wear short shorts, but it’s counter-productive because I try to hide them when I cross my legs as I get really embarrassed by them. 

  • Stretch marks are only accepted by the man to whom you birthed his children.  Other men (after the end of a marriage/relationship) will not find them attractive, at least I haven’t heard some guy say, “Well, she’s a mom so she has stretch marks.  I still love her even though they aren’t my kids.”  Blah blah blah.  Glad that you feel that way, probably about your own wife’s possible stretch marks (if she has any and ya’ll have kids).  

  • i hate my stretch marks.. but that’s just one more thing i can use against my son later :) that, and his 26 hour labor and delivery and his damn near month late arrival. i kid :) they’re gross, but yes, they are a sign of what i was willing to do to have my boy. the war scars of birth.

  • Strechmarks are way better than having acne on your face like mine. :(

  • I don’t think my wife’s “battle scars” are unattractive at all. She might not have a bunch of them, but I’d love her all the same if she did. I have had a few friends/co-workers tell me that they can’t even stand touching their wives tummies due to their stretch marks, I couldn’t believe it.

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  • Dan, that is really sweet. It’s a great perspective and it’s true, they are a mark of sacrificing the self to bring someone else into the world. A mark of the deepest kind of love. So in a sense they are not unappealing. But as a woman, I probably won’t be happy if I ever get them on my belly. Even though I don’t even know if I’ll have children I’m still looking into how to minimize/eliminate them.

  • Whether they’re attractive or not, I have them and I live with them. 

  • 5 pregnancies no stretch marks….gaining weight stretch marks….go figure

  • i got them on my boobs and my butt and around my belly button a little when i was pregnant with my first. they lightened up a considerable amount though. i cared at first, a lot, but now i think i’m ok with it.btw, huge props dan. that’s really sweet of you to feel that way about something so many women look down on themselves for. and it doesn’t really help when others say they’re ugly as well.

  • most aren’t that bad, and they do fade over time.  i have some light stretch marks on my hips that happened from rapid growth when i was in middle school.  i barely notice them anymore though as they are almost completely gone.  my sister has dark noticeable stretch marks on her hips though and i can tell she’s self conscious about them..makes me sad.

  • It should come as no surprise to my friends, knowing my sensuality, that I find any and all indications of a woman’s history and experiences very attractive, appealing and sexy.  Stretch marks, whether from pregnancy or battles with obesity, are especially so!  Sorry Girls, you all are beautiful and alluring; but women of maturity are simply sexier!  Just sayin’.

  • That’s all very well and good but what about if its because of excessive weight gain? Thank fuck they fade, that’s all I’m saying. 

  • Sounds weird, but I actually like running my hand over them, though she hates when I do it lol. 

    @TiredSoVeryTired - My wife had already had 2 children when we met.  She had stretchmarks, and I really didn’t care.  If I cared, we wouldn’t have had 3 more! lol

  • I wouldn’t go so far as to say that they aren’t unattractive. However, I have been lucky and not gotten them as bad as some women. Hopefully this pregnancy continues to be kind to me. The stretch marks from the first two have faded, and I don’t mind them too much. By the way, it is totally false that lotions of any kind will prevent stretch marks; they’re just going to happen. 

  • I am lucky.  I didn’t get stretch marks on my stomach during pregnancy.  I did get some one my thighs that faded.  The ones on my breasts are barely noticeable.

    I will be honest, I am too vain to accept stretch marks on me.  If they had them, I’d get a tummy tuck after my last pregnancy.

  • Yes, it is.  Then again I’m not a mother. 

  • I had two kids and only a couple very tiny silvery stretch marks on my hips that you can’t even see unless you’re 6 inches away. I have heard that your skin type and genetics determines whether you get them or not. I used lotion to prevent them with my first, and then didn’t even bother to use that with my second because I didn’t get any from my first baby. But if I would have them, I hope I could view them with pride for what they stand for. :)  

  • Im on my second pregnancy and have no stretch marks on my belly… I hope I dont get any atleast. This will be my last child if it is a boy, so I would like to leave my child bearing years free of belly stretch marks. I did however, get stretch marks on my butt from it growing so fast. With my first pregnancy I lived on the third floor in apartments… so my butt and thighs got really muscular really fast. You cant see them anymore, but I did get them. I guess my family just has stretchy resilient skin.  Im about 30 weeks along in this pregnancy and dont have them yet, so maybe I just wont get them. My husband feels the same way you do about pregnancy and so do I. But I know I would get down and self conscious about them if I had them.  My close friend got them on her belly from pregnancy and she complains that she cant wear a two piece bathing suit, but I always tell her that she can… because SHE CAN. No one looks at stretch marks and says EWWW THOSE ARE SO UGLY. They are natural and most women have  them… so whoever does think like that will regret it when they  get them. There is nothing wrong with stretch marks.

  • @TiredSoVeryTired - Really? You must know some asshole guys then. My friends dont care about stretch marks or if the girl they are with has a child that isnt theirs. Alot of my friends are in relationships with girls, whom probably have stretch marks as well as children, and dont mind at all. I have a friend that recently had a child and when our guy friends saw her in a bathing suit they told her how good she looks and she does in fact have stretch marks on her stomach. 

  • For being 40 + weeks pregnant with my second, my stretch marks are really not that bad. Guess I just have good skin. Yeah, I don’t really “like” them but they could be like the ones in the pictures above..

  • I shuttered at the fourth picture. No lie. Ew. I am grateful that I didn’t end up with stretch marks from my pregnancy and that the few that I do have from fluxating weight (going from working out 6 days a week, to anorexia and depression, to running around with four jobs, to a desk job, to a desk job and a home remodel that saw us without a kitchen for 9 months, to being fairly active again…wheeee!!) aren’t noticable and aren’t what most women would even really call “stretch marks”. (Just slight lines that are only really noticible when you’re really looking or, well, me…of course we all notice our own flaws more readily than others do.) So, to answer the question, are they that unattractive, I guess it depends on the marks and the person viewing them. The “I’ve-been-mauled-by-a-tiger” look? Not so sexy to me.

  • There are no lotions or creams that will prevent stretch marks, even if you use them religiously.  Avoiding pregnancy or sudden, significant weight gain or a growth spurt will help prevent them.  The real key to preventing stretch marks, however, is winning the genetic lottery. 

    My stretch marks don’t bother me at all.  I have far more unattractive qualities that distract from them. 

  • definitely gross.

  • For the first time, I am rec’ing a post of yours. :)

  • They are when you haven’t had a baby yet. :|  

    Like me. -.-

  • Thanks for saying that. It’d be great to have more posts like this from you.

  • Until I saw milfncookies stomach I’d never seen anyone with worse stretch marks than mine. I don’t know why but for some reason seeing hers made me feel not so self conscience about mine. I think it helps that mine are no longer an angry red but are now a silvery color. I thought they’d never fade. Thankfully I was wrong, it just took longer than I would have expected.
    I don’t find them unattractive on other people if that person is fit or in shape.

  • @MangoWOW - Still nothing wrong with ‘em!

  • I hate them. For some reason I thought I wouldn’t get stretch marks, but I have SO MANY. I mean of course looks aren’t everything, but they’re still ugly and gross. I do see them as like telling a story and everything, but I still won’t feel hot in a bikini ever again.

  • I think they’re unattractive. Not everything to do with giving the gift of life is beautiful.

  • We know they symbolize, doesn’t mean they are less gross.  

  • This is the one post from you that I can fully agree with. I think stretch marks are beautiful; they make a lady look womanly, because she has used her body to create life.

  • “They are a sign that a woman was willing to sacrifice herself for something else.   I have always thought being selfless was one of the most appealing qualities a person can have.”

    Mothers populate the earth; it’s not as if the choice is hard to make.

  • @Happily_Married_Man - Those men need to have their penises removed because it’s partly their fault. And it shows what they married their wives for… only the physical.

  • @jules_surveys - I’ve never even been in a bikini… even when my body was hot…

  • I think they’re pretty gross but then again you make a great point on saying they sacrifice themselves like that. Thanks, ladies!

  • I remember when I found my first stretch mark on the side of my butt/hips when I was like 15 years old and around 100 pounds.. They are slightly lighter than my skin tone so you really don’t notice. Now I realize that EVERYONE (even skinny people) have them so my stretch marks don’t bother me much anymore.

  • lol what a loaded question after all that you wrote.

    I think that we all sacrifice something sometimes. Some people more than others, I guess.

    And yes, I think they are unattractive.

  • With my first, I never got any stretch marks on my belly, however, I did get some on my breasts after I had her but they quickly faded away after I stopped breastfeeding. I can still see the lines but they are very faint. I am now 30 weeks pregnant with my second and I still don’t have any stretch marks. I am expecting to get them on my breasts again but I can say I’ve been very fortunate to have not have gotten them at all on my stomach.

  • I don’t mind the marks. It’s the stretched out sagging skin I hate…
    ~V

  • I tried to think of them as a badge of honor, but I couldn’t. Perhaps I’ve been brainwashed along the way, but I think they’re ugly.

  • I personally don’t like them 

  • What about the guys? I actually have a few stretch marks along the sides of my buttocks because the “junk in my trunk” grew rapidly during high school. And yes, I’m serious. Maybe I’ll post a picture of my big ol’ butt of stretch marks. lol Meh… the wife doesn’t seem to mind them.

  • I am 24, no children but have had stretch marks since I was about 9 when I hit puberty and went through a growth spurt. They are on my hips, backs of knees, backs of arms and breasts. Faded now, but I know when I do have children, I will be one of those women who gets intense stretch marks, but it’s OK, I’ve already got them, whats a few more? 

  • Mine are on my thighs and my ass. I guess they really aren’t that bad, but I can’t help comparing myself to other women who I think are more attractive than me. I cry sometimes when I look in the mirror at them. I wish I could change them, because in a way I hope that maybe it’ll make me love myself more and make others see me as more attractive.

  • This is so sweet! I agree, selflessness is an admiring quality. I do wish more guys would comment on this post saying what they think about stretch marks though. 

  • That was weirdly really… kind… like almost unbelievably sweet. 

  • I’m not going to lie, those were hard to look at. I have stretch marks on my breasts and I don’t know why I have them.

  • I know a lot of people who were pregnant and never had them, or at least never had them to the extent in the pics. Gee

  • @Murphy_Rants - ditto, that’s how I got mine. No baby holding for me :

  • Apparently they’re only acceptable if you have a child. High cortisol levels? No one knows what that is. Likely the cause of my weight gain though, and definitely the cause of me looking like I was mauled by a bear at some point during my life, because it creates deep gnarly looking stretch marks, they look terrible. But they aren’t attractive apparently. So throw rocks at the fat girl who dared to wear shorts in 90 degree weather because she has them on the back of her legs. Heh. Story of my God damn life.

    People constantly tell me they are. At this point, I don’t care what people tell me anymore. They can do and say whatever the hell they want. People are heartless and ignorant, and don’t care. Personally, like scars, I think they’re interesting. Regardless of what they’re from.

  • Yes, yes they are.

  • It’s what’s inside that counts. :)

  • I have stretch marks too but I care less about it. My husband doesn’t make me feel ugly seeing them. Stretch marks because to pregnancy is nothing to be ashamed of.

  • I don’t like mine, but I’m not going to bug out and hide myself in my basement over it. Also, it’s not just pregnant women who get them, you get them from growing fast…so if you’re like me and you grew to 5’9″ epically fast and got boobs quick… it happens. 

  • @grim_truth - Awww, well perhaps you are one of the few open-minded nice guys around!

  • @alayshaj - That’s great that you know guys like that!  Maybe there is some hope.  And yeah, I reckon I know a lot of assholes then.  :(

  • @MangoWOW - some of mine were just from a growth spurt in 6th grade.

  • While I am not overly fond of mine, they don’t bother me much.  I only got ones on my breasts from my first pregnancy.  None anywhere else.  The ones on my hips from growing aren’t noticed by anyone, really.  All are faded, of course.  It is also true that lotions and potions don’t reach deep enough to make a difference.  I suspect the massage of rubbing in lotion may stimulate the deeper tissues enough to encourage collagen and elastin production, reducing the stretching.  I do not know this as fact.

    I agree that you are charming.

  • I have stretch marks on my legs from puberty. I wish they would fade. -_- They’re not so bad though.

  • they’re not that bad.

  • @fromprivatetopublic - I don’t have many, and I used to weigh almost 200 pounds. I think it’s genetics. My grandma had 5 children, and doesn’t have a single stretch mark on her stomach.

    Also, I don’t think stretch marks are necessarily unattractive, but that does not mean that I want to see someone with extreme stretch marks wearing a a belly shirt in Wal-Mart. That said, when I waitressed at a strip club, the girl with stretch marks made the most tips every night, so I just say “meh” and chalk it up to personal preference.

  • This is touching…. “I just read a status update on facebook where a mother said she was
    selling her wii to buy diapers for her baby.  I could tell that was a
    huge sacrifice for her.”  

  • Mine don’t look that bad but that doesn’t mean I’ll like them, regardless of the reason.

    “I just read a status update on facebook where a mother said she was
    selling her wii to buy diapers for her baby.  I could tell that was a
    huge sacrifice for her.”

    It’s expected of a mother to sacrifice a lot for her children.What would be the point otherwise?

  • @MangoWOW - Me too. Still makes me feel like shit.

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