July 26, 2011
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When Someone Stops Commenting
I have been on xanga for about 6 and a half years. So from time to time, I happen upon someone’s blog and notice someone commenting that does not comment on my site anymore.
It may be someone who commented on my site for 4-5 years. But for some reason the person stopped. Now I realize that some people just move on in life. And I also realize that I really don’t comment back some of those people.
But when I see the person commenting on other people’s blogs and not my blog, I can’t help but to wonder if I did something to offend that person.
Has it ever bothered you when someone stopped commenting your blog?
Comments (124)
no not really
I don’t have enough followers for me to be offended by someone not commenting anymore.
However, I bet people stop commenting you because they get sick of the drama that is sometimes caused by your more inflammatory posts.
No, if they are my friend I have other ways to get a hold of them that isn’t xanga related. You’ve been pushing the whole six and a half years thing lately as well…
It brothers me that nobody comments on my blog at all, but I suppose with me being me it’s going to take that way. ><
However, if I had someone who commented for a long time on my posts, and then suddenly stopped, and I saw them on other blogs that I follow, commenting, I’d be mildly upset.
It’s probably just that your blog is so public, so trolls are more likely to harass somebody from here. Not you.
lol its so strange to think you might take that personally, idk why. i don’t always comment on your blogs, because most of the time it feels like….. like i’m just saying stuff on the radio to nobody, or commenting for the sole sake of future commenters- never a reaction from the great dan. other times i talk just to talk. part of me suspects that you are collecting data about all the xangans, cause you must know a lot of weird facts about a lot of us by now.
I’m such a terrible xangan. I occasionally notice when somebody stops commenting me, but I’m sure there are a lot who slipped away without me noticing. Bad saintvi!
I assume they are dead
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There was this girl who commented on my blog all of the time but randomly stopped. Then I found out she deleted me off her friends list. I was actually thinking about writing a post about this because this girl is super friendly to me on Facebook.
hmm.. yeah I guess :-s
It depends on who it is and what may have happened before they stopped commenting.
It’s not you, it’s some of the jerks who slum around on your site, looking to pick fights with anyone they disagree with. You know the ones I mean.
Don’t pretend it upsets you Dan. Hahaha. You haven’t fooled me!
not really, it happens
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No one comments on mine, so nope.
I could see ow if you had a regular and they stopped commenting, it probably wouldn’t feel that awesome.
Sometimes. It does bother me when someone I read and comment regular suddenlt unfriend me, though. Especially after they say they love reading my posts.
nah. you win some, u lose some… e props.
meh, it does upset me but I know I haven’t done anything wrong. I guess I figured they only commented before for something else or they don’t have an interest in my blog anyways. Life moves on…
I always assume they got busy with life.
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meh, I don’t blame anyone. there are other things to do.
Never really notice, mostly because I am selfish…my blog is more for me than for y’all.
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Nah. I just assume they find my content not to their liking anymore.
no, it doesn’t bother me since I don’t regularly blog. I mostly leave comments rather than blogging. I currently have over 12k points from just commenting
2points per comment, so I’ve left 24k comments
Rob of the Sky
Aw, Dan! I love you!!
I just feel less special when I’m not first. hahaha
I have stopped commenting on nearly everyone’s blog. It’s time consuming. I don’t want to admit how much time I spent online back when I was a super frequent (and lengthy) commenter.
In most cases I figured I had not commented on their site so it happens. A few times I found out they had taken offense at something I wrote. Thin skin is bad to have on my site so it’s best they leave
I am completely absent minded. Although I do think about a lot of my old and new xanga friends, I understand if someone doesn’t comment because I feel I can’t comment properly on my own friends cause my inbox is so cluttered and I forget to do crap so easily.
No because it seems that the people who read you go in cycles,they change from time to time,
I suppose only those popular Xangans have to worry about that. I’ve only recently (in the last couple of months) had people who comment on my blog sort of regularly. It might be too soon for them to stop commenting on me.
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Yes, it bothers me when I notice. I then start seeking the person out, and feel guilty that I have not religiously replied to his/her comments when he/she actually paid attention to whenever I updated. I think Xanga is about the interaction. It’s one of the top things I think make Xanga a better community than most blogging sites.
No.
Some people are either loyal in commenting or not. It’s ok. You will have other people reading your blog. People write if they have something to say.
Wait….that describes every person to have ever commented on my site ever. I just assumed there was a Xanga rule that prohibits people from visiting my site for more than year.
you probalby just got boring.
if the friendship had been true friends, then i would go to their site and initiate the contact back. friends are worth fighting for. no elephants in the room allowed. be open and not afraid. remove the misunderstanding/offense and be better friends for it.
Nope. I’ve never had many followers who read my blog consistently anyway though.
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Is this a hint that you’re leaving!!?? Telling us that people move in and out, talking about 6.5 years. You’re just letting us down easy. You don’t care if people don’t comment on your blog. There’s some ulterior motive to this.
On the actual question. No, no I do not. I probably don’t even notice. I am completely oblivious to everything around me.
Dan can’t help wonder if he offended anyone? You are a funny man Dan!
And no,it doesn’t bother me anymore,yes it used too.Maybe thats one of the reasons I don’t care about Xanga much anymore,plus I just never have much of anything important to say really,not that anyone on here thinks is worth anything at least….
Nope. I think a lot of people just comment on things that they are interested in.
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yeah, that happens to me. Kind of hurts! So, I unsub ‘em! that’ll show ‘em all…
You really don’t think people are ever actually offended by your blog do you? I, personally, love your blog. And to answer your question, Xanga people can’t do much to offend people because I’ve sometimes moved on from certain blogs.
I assume it’s because I was unintentionally being a prick again. Which happens a lot I’m told.
people comment my blog? :O
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Not really. I blog for myself. Although my blog isn’t private, my entries are personal. They’re about my life and aren’t necessarily written for an audience even though I keep in mind that at any moment I could get one. But to go back to your question, if someone comments my blog, that’s fine with me. If it’s regularly that’s cool too. If they don’t comment, that’s okay. If they used to and then suddenly stop, that is okay too. Esp. since I don’t really read anyone else’s blog anymore on here…
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So few ever comment on my site to begin with. My writing is not everyones cup of tea. My style is old, and consistent, though there is change. It really doesn’t matter though, my writing is for me. It is my heart. It is real.I have had readers stop and spend time with me from all across the world…… I am happy enough.
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Most of time I don’t comment because either someone else has already said it and I have nothing to add to the conversation or the topics are devoid of interest (coughLovelyishcough).
depends on the person
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I think it’s more of a reflection of the disconnect between celebrity types (you) and others. For example, when I first jumped on twitter I would reply to messages from most of my favorite follows. But I quickly realized it was kind of a waste of time and wouldn’t ever be noticed, much less make an impact.
my blog is kinda not worth commenting on ;] so no…it does not bother me.
it used to…
LOL not many have commented on my blogs. I comment on those I find interesting, I share those I find uplifting or make a good point. I don’t know I just never thought about it. I left Xanga for a few months this year trying to convince myself I didn’t need a blog. Err, umm figured it that I do like flappin my fingers
Comments are like money. You can never have enough.
Dan with you it is probably a religious issue. Even though you don’t offend many do and because you are Christian you will get the heat by default.
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Not really. I’m just here.
Why Dan…. I didn’t realize you cared what others thought about you.
I’ve had a couple stop commenting on my site; One was on purpose cuz we stopped liking each other. Therefore we’ve not only stopped commennting on each others site, we’ve gone so far as to block each other. The other I think is just no longer on Xanga anymore.
That bothers people?
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nah, not really.
In your case, people probably feel like there are already so many comments they’d just be repeating what other people have said. I know I feel that way sometimes when I ready posts with lots of comments already.
No, I’d assume they have no interest in the topic/subject on the particular post.
Not really, I’m not really interesting enough to have a regular comment person anyway.
well, we can’t worry about every way the wind blows can we?
I notice that if I don’t comment on others blog, people don’t comment back.
For more popular blog, one may have comments even if he/she doesn’t comment back. After all, with so many blogs in the world. it’s kind of impossible to keep up.
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I’d say yeah you did do something that offended that person. You never communicated back. It’s kind of obvious if you think about it.
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I dont have enough people to comment me. None really. But if your posts start fires thats to be expected.
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i hardly get any comments to begin with. so, no not really. It was fun while it latsted.
no
Not really, as I never really have many people comment my blog. n_n Haha. But when people go for a while without replying, I worry about them and hope they’re okay. If I think about it, I usually find myself checking out their blog to make sure they’re okay. If they are, then like you, I just assume their life has taken a different path and they have moved away for a while. n_n I don’t take it personally. Try not to, at least. Now, if it’s my sis-in-law, that’s a diff story. I try to always comment back people who comment me. I like to let people know I care, and if they care enough to post a comment, I always try to reply.
I sometimes fail, but I often try to succeed. 
I do.
I always wonder why if we’ve been friends for a while/commenting on each other’s blogs daily.
No. It doesn’t bother me.
Instead, it reminds me that I should read THEIR blog and leave comments for THEM.
Likely then they’ll reciprocate.
I don’t usually comment on your blog b/c it feels like you don’t read the comments. You get so many…how could you have time? Plus, you never respond to the comments. And did you comment on that person’s site? Maybe he or she got tired of a one-way relationship.
No, I write for myself. I don’t care about being popular.
No comment.
Well, i used to do political blogging. I don’t think people stop commenting because they’re offended, I think it’s more likely that people just can’t figure out how to respond.
It bugs me when someone who previously likes me takes to (mysteriously) hating me.
Just because I stopped commenting doesn’t mean I stopped reading. There are a few people on my friends list that I don’t comment but I read most of their posts. In that case I don’t comment because I feel like my comment wouldn’t be helpful. I don’t get bothered when people some commenting. I rather like it when random people stop by and make comments.
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Yes, but mainly only if they continue to be active elsewhere and I actively comment on their blog. 90% of the time they are busy and maybe update their blog but don’t comment on other’s.
why don’t you just ask them?
Nah, only like one person comments on mine to begin with.
it doesn’t bother me because I don’t comment anywhere
Actually I know how you feel. I have two ppl in mind who have stopped replying/commenting on my blog and comments on their blogs so I just removed them from my friends list and stopped visiting their blogs altogether. This may sound psycho, but I don’t care and it’s for my sanity. I don’t want to read your new updates and keep being reminded that you don’t care about me anymore.
nuh uh.
they forget about Dre.
I notice, because I don’t get a billion and six comments on every post, if one of my regular or semi-regular readers hasn’t commented lately. I don’t take it personally, though. I figure that they’re either not seeing my posts (since I don’t time-stamp things) or they have better things to do or they just don’t feel like visiting. Some people do have lives outside the internet, and my posts are usually just me babbling, so I’m okay with it if someone either doesn’t want to read or doesn’t have anything to say about them.
I learned and taught myself long ago: SCREEN INDIFFERENCE.
It is a mirror, you can just use it to analyze the self. All those feelings of doubt etc that come up, they are all YOU (reader)
I came here to spill my stuff and I never looked back.
Hurt feelings are for the real world.
The internet is void of face. I think when people, ( I am speaking of supposedly mature adults I have no clue about how the internet is SCREWING UP THE MINDS of youth) have their feelings hurt by something they INTERPRET, an action or worse an INACTION in cyberspace, it is nothing more than a wonderful opportunity to analyze the SELF.
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It’s a reliable format, but people can get bored. Just saying.
Honestly, I don’t know how you could tell since you have so many here commenting. But as for me, I have been here as long as you so I’ve developed friendships with several. When they begin to stop commenting, yes, I’m curious and start finding if they are all right. At my age, you think more of the lines of those non-commenters being ill or dead than just leaving.
yes but the sting of others soaking their letters and words in gasoline to then play with matches is often unpleasant to sort through too.
It’s nice to get comments cause you get feedback and that’s all I really want I suppose is to know if someone out there read my blog and what their thoughts were…Or even just to say Hi
I don’t think I would take offense but I would wonder if I did something to offend them.
lol i almost called you out. . but then i realized. . i haven’t been posting ::shrug::
There are only certain people that I would be questioning whether or not I did. But generally, I don’t care.
I think at one point, your interests are the same, or just something about that particular post struck a chord with you. I also think it has to do with dialog – if you continually ignore someone that comments, why should they bother to keep up their end of the conversation?
I would be bothered… if my posts were as popular as yours. :/
My guess is that in your case, some readers get bored with the “survey” material (as apposed to your super, insightful and personal posts) or feel they didn’t matter as a contributor; Unlike a lot of the less popular sites, you just can’t possibly respond to every comment, lol. oh, the problems of having 2bagillion readers!!!
As for my little Xanga world, I know I get busy in life and don’t always have time to comment on even the sites of the few people I really care about and enjoy. So I hope the ones that I don’t visit as often as previously don’t get offended, and don’t get offended either. Yet, truth be told, when someone has actually offended me I usually let them know and block them. That has happened, I admit, a few times. But I’m pretty up front about it (as in real life). I’ve been on Xanga two years and most of my friends are “lifers.”
Yes, It really does bother me when I see them commenting on the blogs of Christian women who are nicer than I….. am.
Then I consult Dale Carnegie and I feel even worse….And then some atheist or Patriarch makes some annoying wise crack…and my Irish gets up.and then I’m not nice all over again.
I’ve a codependent relationship with snarky remarks. Mr. Carnegie says snarky remarks do not win friends NOR do they influence people.
So I’ll read the comments of old friends on the other blogs.
117 comments in, I wonder if you’d even notice me.
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It’s disappointing.
No
doesn’t bother me. I don’t comment much on the posts of others very much.
no
Maybe my newest topic is not interesting enough for them to comment. Maybe I just have few Xanga friends. Maybe I myself rarely update and when I update, it’s just something that doesn’t attract them to comment.
To look at it from a positive different point of view, I think maybe they are busy.
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