August 10, 2011
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Making Friends On Xanga
I read a pulse tonight on xanga that said, “I shouldn’t talk to anyone I don’t know on xanga.” I am not going to link that person because I do not want to cause that person stress.
Do you feel uncomfortable commenting on the site of someone you don’t know on xanga?
Comments (102)
First?
Not at all
Sometimes. Especially when they don’t talk to me back.
AWKWARD….
Lol joke, I don’t care if I don’t know them.
Nope. I don’t really know you and here I am making a comment.
I sometimes feel a little weird about it, but hey, if they didn’t want strangers to comment on their blogs, they either a) would have put their blog on friends lock or b) not started a blog in the first place. So there.
Now that that’s done… I think that’s the whole point of Xanga, isn’t it? I mean, that’s what I think it is anyway. There are so many Xangans who’ve taught me things and brought me outside my comfort zone and I’m so thankful that I’m a part of this great community.
No. It’s Xanga! Point blank.
I COMMENT WHEN I WANT! haha.
I comment on sites of strangers and friends, and I’m fine with receiving comments from strangers as well.
Used to when I first discovered the community, but it’s pretty normal now.
then what’s the point of having posts made public?
Depends on how many comments that person gets. If they rarely get comments, then I tend to not comment when I stumble upon their site as they might be more private than most Xangans.
Nope. Once I feel them out though, I will either avoid them entirely, read without ever commenting, or feel comfortable to not have to be on eggshells with them. That last group are the ones I consider friends. You would be part of that.
If I felt uncomfortable commenting strangers I would not know all the amazing people I know today
I probably wouldn’t even be apart of this site anymore.
i dont know anyone on xanga in real life if thats you are saying. i dont really care I just comment if i need to say something
No I don’t. It’s when people start commenting like they know you and know what’s best for you…now that’s the problem.
No. I couldn’t have gotten to know anyone here otherwise.
Thanks to talking to people I didn’t know on Xanga, I’ve made pleasant acquaintances, come to know good friends, and met the man I <3.
To the person who pulsed the inspiration for this post: Go ahead and talk to people!
It’s like real life, just exercise basic caution and you’ll see that the vast majority of people online are great.
Nope. They made their blog public, and open to comments.
Not usually but sometimes it blows up.
Nope. Almost everyone I’m friends with on Xanga is someone I don’t know in real life. xP
some people, perhaps like the one you are referring to, come to xanga to chill with people in their real world circle. i can understand their reluctance to socialize with strangers. i think mostly people move into this neighborhood because there IS life here and they want to meet new people.
Not at all! Although, sometimes I do find it creepy to receive comments from people I don’t know. But I just get over it and move on.
Rob_of_the_Sky
I don’t feel uncomfortable but I really only comment on afew blogs. People usually respond and the more in depth the post; the more time it takes to have a good discussion. I do like a good discussion and have grown fond of those who engage.
I mostly comment on the front page ish sites, datingish/lovelyish and healthkicker. I often avoid commenting on personal blogs or religious or other blogs bound for drama. I’m here to be amused, not for drama. some might get offended easily, so the top blogs, I mostly comment on people, who I know won’t usually take it personally, such as this quizilla-like blog of yours. sometimes I might feel obligated to comment if I subscribe to someone, so I just don’t sub anybody and am free to come and go as I please, no strings attached blog/commenting
I dont have an issue with it, I figure if they didnt want comments from people they didnt know, they would have their friends lock on and I wouldnt be able to see the post anyways.
I don’t really see why it would be wired really. How are you goingto meet people if you don’t talk the ones you don’t know. So no. Not wired to comment on someone you don’t know.
not usually~ if I don’t feel comfortable, I don’t comment!
nah
Nope
Of course not. That’s what Xanga is all about!
Kathi
Not at all.
Nope, I comment on everything and everyone i find interesting. I actually do that in real life too, I’m that guy who talks to you in the line while waiting for your food lol
Not anymore! It took me a couple of years to not feel shy about it though.
nope.
I get a lot of negative reactions from people. I don’t know why. I think it’s peoples’ agendas because most of what comes out of my fingers is nonsense. If I can ever write, I’m going to write a book about a character that’s completely out-of-it where people complex attribute meaning to it for themselves to represent that people only see from their eyes when the issue is myopic and stretches further than a human’s mind. Who’s the real idiot would be the question? I get sick of these “I am, thus we are” observations to cliches.
maybe I’ll put that out there and hope someone else writes it.
I comment on anything I think is interesting/deserves a comment/that I have something to say on the subject being discussed. That’s what Xanga is about. If I didn’t reach out and comment, I wouldn’t even know half the people I know on Xanga. You have to start somewhere, right? In related news, I commented on another popular Xangan’s entry today and they came back and commented on mine… it made me very excited. Lol Xangalebrities. Wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t say something on a someone’s blog that I didn’t know haha
It’s my job to make others feel uncomfortable!
Sometimes, depending what their post is like and what type of person they are. There are times I want to comment but the post was more personal and I’m afraid of offending in some way. Other times what they said might be interesting but I don’t necessarily want them coming to my journal.
I mostly comment in response to public questions asked by the other Xangan. I’m not much of a chatter, even with Xangans I’ve known for a while.
There’s people I want to talk to but they’re on friends lock and won’t accept my friend request.
I’m not that mean, I promise.
Shallow chit chat or deep delving and getting in the doodah, lots of interesting people blogging here. I’ll tak to anyone, I’m a slut.
hm. i find that really strange. I wouldn’t mind at all jsut chatting it up with a stranger via xanga.
but with facebook, i realize i find it creepy when somebody that doesn’t have ‘mutual friends’ adds me.
I was under the impression that Xanga’s ultimate purpose was for people who dont know eachother to interact. So definetely not. I dont feel uncomfortable cuz I’m not shy in the real world, nor am I shy on the internet.
Nope! How else am I going to get to know them?
No.
I don’t see why that would make anyone feel uncomfortable.
Nope. I’ve actually made several friends on here and met them. One of them inadvertently completely changed the direction of my life.
Not at all! Xanga is oriented toward building a community.
I read many blogs and most-often leave nothing behind but my footprints. Subs and friends can see that I took a peek at least. And I’m fully aware that, merely by visiting a stranger’s blogsite, I have revealed myself to and opened a channel of communication with that person.
When I read something which begs a comment, I comment and leave a trail of eProps. I reserve my recommendations for blogs and comments which reflect something of myself so that my recs carry some weight to those who sub me.
To me it seems, when someone posts a blog on Xanga, he or she is opening up to conversation; so I’m quite comfortable responding in a respectful manner.
No. =)
Dear father of xanga:
that is the whole point of xanga!! you can leave comments on anyones xanga site!
Isn’t that the only way to make friends is to meet strangers?
So let me get this straight. You guys think just because you have chatted online you guys are now friends?
Friendship is not spending twenty years together. You can spend forty years with someone and not have really been friends.
Listening to each other out of agreement is not friendship.
Acknowledging each other’s existence is not friendship.
Having business interests is not friendship.
Feeling a connection with someone is not friendship.
Someone of your race and religion is not friendship.
Having good times is not friendship.
Laughing and having good times is not friendships.
Humans are living inferior lives at all socioeconomic levels.
The most important thing to the white man, leaders of this planet is comfort and security. Friendship gets lost in this type of world.
Friendship is me admitting to you guys there is nothing better than apple juice, meaning: you get what you can, and you meet who you meet, but in my platonic world you all fall short of the actual meaning.
If I was god I would ser too many boundaries/ walls. The racist doesn’t like to talk about racism because he is 100% convinced of his superiority.
@Cestovatelka - OMG STRANGERS!
…next they’ll expect us to start meeting people FROM THE INTERNETS and stuff…
Oh the humanity!
@theacematt2 -
*runs away scared* OH MY GOSH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, PLEASE NOOOOOOOOO haha
At first, then I was like … ah well, if they think I’m wierd, they think I’m wierd. They’ll move on.
nope. I don’t care at all.
I always read their profile first.
I’m good with it. One thing I like about this site is how it encourages traffic between blogs, and most people aren’t afraid of striking up a conversation, no commitments required.
At first I didn’t because of all the drama I was seeing and didn’t want to get involved with any of it. However, since it was pretty much drama free for the past six months, I started posting and friend-ing people. I am cautious about adding people I have never heard of before at least until I’ve read a few of their posts. If they’re filled with thin-spo or drama, I tend to leave it be and walk away. I don’t need it in real life, why waste time on it on the interwebz?
No at all (: (:
Not really. Sometimes it’s kind of awkward thinking of a comment to say when you want to tell them you liked their post, but you don’t want to look like a creeper. Other than that, it’s not a problem.
*contemplates silently*
Hell no! (Morning, Dan!)
Sometimes, have done and get no response so you feel like you invaded their profile.
No. I consider all xangans my friends although they don’t know me and I don’t exactly know them. It won’t hurt if I join the interaction uninvited and they don’t give recognition for me.
Nope. I have noticed it seems to make some people uncomfortable when I do, though. Or maybe my comments are just awkward…?
I might have felt odd at first, years ago – I can’t exactly recall. However I don’t feel odd about it at all.
Like another commenter said, I feel the person out first. If we seem to agree on things & think similarly, then I feel we’d get along & I’ll comment and go from there.
There are a few people here that I consider friends.
There were a couple of Xangans that I met year ago & they were great people. Unfortunately due to distance & their lack of being on Xanga anymore those friendships have kind of dwindled (though we are FB friends). One of them is the reason my husband got the job he has and why we are where we are. So I may get irritated with Xanga(ns) at times but I am always thankful for it/them.
Meh, as long as they’re not men or women pretending to be the opposite sex, why not?
nope
I like to make friends. I dont mind people reading my blog, i want to be able to connect with others!
I don’t, but then, I am USUALLY very respectful. When I’m not, I hear about it right away, and pretty loudly. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
I’ve done it multiple times
Nope. Not at all. All the people I’m subscribed to and all the people I’m friends with are people that I don’t know. And when I say “don’t know” I mean…the only interaction I’ve had with them was through comments and I haven’t even actually messaged them or vice versa. Doesn’t stop me though, and I hope it doesn’t stop other people from commenting on mine! :S
No, I comment on most anyone’s blog if I have something to say. Perhaps this was a young teen who was told by their parents to just talk to ppl they know on Xanga???
Yes, but I still leave a comment because I don’t want to seem like a stalker or something.
No. I don’t feel uncomfortable commenting on a post written by someone I do not know personally. I don’t mind making new online only friends.
how would you make friends if you didn’t? :0
I don’t because it is one way for my blog to get out there and noticed since I am new here and everything. Have to find friends some way.
Nope! If something catches my attention, I’d like for the person to know!
no, that’s the beauty of xanga. i have such a good filter in real life than when i come on here, i can say what i really want to say
I thought that was the point of blogging…
Isn’t commenting on sites you don’t know the point? To explore unknown knowledge?
I’ve started out here, trolling anyone I agree or disagree with. So no, I’m not shy. =D
depends on the nature of the post. actually all commenting or non commenting depends on the post.
I would feel more awkward talking to people I actually knew if they were on Xanga. I like coming on Xanga so that I can talk to people I don’t know.
No, I think that is what makes xanga special.
hello old friend… I have grown tired of my Peace movement fight
I hope i will try to start writing again..
you are a judge now!!! lol
Peace
Depending on the topic and the comments that have been left, I do sometimes abstain from commenting. Some people on here are more opinionated than others and just lash at you if you happen to disagree with something they said….I’m guessing whoever posted that pulse must have had a bad or not entirely welcoming experience.
Send them over to me i’ll greet them with a smile =)
ha ha ha
I comment wherever i like, im free 
never. that’s what friend lock is for!
I go out of my way to comment on random people’s blogs
nah i used to care more, but i don’t really now. but sometimes it still takes a lot of effort for me to comment on something, even if i liked it. like at work i blocked myself so i only have one half hour of xanga during lunch, and i don’t really have time to comment or engage in one of those crazy comment wars. but yeah. no, i don’t really care.
Not at all… I thought part of the reason to visit an unknown is to possibly leave a comment. Friendship has to start somewhere. It doesn’t matter to me if they reciprocate in kind or not. But when I visit a rec’d post, I always leave a friendly comment.
I honestly dont have a problem with it, heck its how I have met some of my friends was through talking with random people on Xanga.
Of course not
I used to. But then I got over it and actually made some friends. I figure, I’m open to anyone commenting, so…
Hey!!
My advice for being friends with strangers is to forget about trying to make friends with the internet, and concentrate on something else, like a hobby. I was in your shoes for a while trying to make friends with strangers, turns out I wasted too much time and made a real a** out of myself.
I don’t feel uncomfortable commenting on anyone’s xanga, nor adding people I do not know. It’s what you say that gets a positive or negative reaction out of the person, so choosing your words wisely is key.
If someone didn’t know you, than they wouldn’t comment on your site. Therefore, you asking doesn’t make much sense, because obviously people here would be comfortable with commenting on a site of a person they don’t know.
It really depends on your content really I suppose
nope!
dont care . thats what xanga is for. i’ll comment on anyones page if i feel it
People who get offended at strangers commenting on their non-locked, comment enabled blogs are dolts.
nope