October 19, 2011
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Mother Dies To Save Unborn Baby
A mother gave up her life in order to save her unborn baby.
The woman had cancer and refused to receive treatment because it would harm her unborn baby. So she had her baby and then died. Here is the link: Link
If you were pregnant and had cancer, would you save yourself or the baby?
Comments (88)
Myself, sorry but I’ve got three other kids who really need me still.
Sorry. But I have to pass on this one.
Seeing as how my son is my only child, I definitely would
Honestly, I’d save myself. I’d hate to leave the father to deal with the whole situation alone.
Myself.
The baby obv. I wouldn’t spread my legs to make a baby if I wasn’t willing to take care of it.
since I do have children already, I’d try sto stay alive to be there for them
besides, growing up without a mom is pretty painful., and growing up knowing your mother died for you seems like a heavy load to carry
I commend her for what she did. Every situation is different,and if it were me, I probably would have to save myself, because I have another child to take care of. What good is two children without a mom? But man, I really do admire her. Tough decision!
I’d save the baby……the way I see it, I’ve experienced life already…..why not give the baby a shot to experience it?
depends…….
It is a mother’s instinct to save her child. However, it is different for everyone. Some people have a lot of things to put into consideration. And whichever way she chooses, it is admirable. If she chooses to live, she chooses to fight for the right to keep on going, For herself, and for everyone else she loves. And she knows that if it costs her the unborn child, it is going to hurt deeply. But she keeps going anyway. If she chooses the child over her own well-being, it is also admirable. To see a mother’s unconditional love for her child, it’s a beautiful thing. It’s a fight of the heart and the mind. And whichever way she chooses, it’s not going to be easy. The most admirable thing about all of it is that… SHE MADE A DECISION.
Even though I already have 5 other children, I would definitely, without a second thought give up my life to save my baby’s.
What greater act of love could you show your child? I commend that mother for being so brave and strong.
Me. I don’t want kids anyway though.
If I were pregnant, I’d freak out…
D:
Well, this is kind of like the hamster situation. Once, my hamsters had babies and I guess she deemed them not healthy and instead of still trying to raise them she just ate them. They nourished her and she was able to give birth to another little litter that was healthy. I’ve always wanted to tell that story.
I’m not sure what I’d do, and hopefully I never have to make that decision.
it’s a lose-lose situation either way.
Aw hell no. I disapprove abortion but if it comes down to me and satan’s spawn…. It’s me.
The baby without question. Of course, then they would most certainly grow up famous as the 1st child born to a real man. In all seriousness though, it would be a far more heart-wrenching question if it were one of having to choose between a spouse and a child.
What a dumb bitch! The baby probably has her cancer cells swimming around inside so it will probably die too after a short life of suffering.
hm, this is a tough one.
i honestly can’t say. i guess it would depend entirely on the situation, if i had other kids at the time, if i was married, idk. this would be a decision for future laura.
you asshole lol
more!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let me be the first to say. You totally missed this whole discussion over on momaroo.
http://www.momaroo.com/755903917/mom-with-cancer-refuses-chemotherapy-to-save-unborn-baby/
I would definitely save my baby.
So I woke up feeling sorry for myself. I feel better now. I was just thinking about what makes me happy. I don’t even believe in jesus, I can’t explain the reason of my happiness. I am happy because
1. I get say what I want, like how I hate the fact I have an anus, and ya’ll can read it.
2. I cummed three times yesterday, I have become so sexually frustrated… I am losing my mind worrying about how I can get pussy. Unlike DearRicky, I don’t have women nearby to do the honors. My unused dick aside, masterbation feels good.
3. Women. That’s right. Women turn me on, I get tingly on the inside when I see a woman with a great ass and legs. Nevermind she’s fucking other guys, I still love that pussy.
4. Food and liquid.
5. Talking to myself. Yes I know talking to others is a whole lot more fun, but you spend hours upon hours caged in your room with noone to talk to, I have decent conversations with myself, I will always be my own company.
6. Music.
7. Sometimes I imagine how satisfying it must feel to cum in a woman’s face and she doesn’t feel disgusted. That’s true love. The ultimate sign a woman loves you.
P.s. I still do not get any requests from girls to come to my place and get it on. I have no std, my virginity remains. You have to be fat or skinny insecure, I am 100 percent sure a confidant woman would not lower her standards to sleep with an unconfident guy as myself. Bring the smallest size condoms, most condoms won’t fit me, I’m dead serious. Don’t listen to Dan, he has no right to interfere with your sex life. Do not worry, if there is no initial attraction, I am old enough to buy beer. Peace.
Both – me and the baby. God willing.
Myself.
OMG…This story put a tear to my eye. As a man I find it hard to answer this question, but I think I would save the baby.
That is the kind of question that brings laughter and joy into my life. Thank you for your effort….
aww…what a great mother. I hope the father raises the kid well.
I would probably save myself. x_x
I think I’d sve the baby but idk.
Yeah, I saw that episode of House MD too. It was stupid.
Regardless of what someone would choose in a situation like that, it is all so incredibly sad. That poor woman, poor baby.
I find this post very hard to masturbate to.
@relaxolgy - I agree. People already knew and loved the woman. They didn’t know the fetus.
The only way I can make sense of it is the fact that she died so soon after her cancer was diagnosed. If she felt the odds were miniscule that the chemotherapy would do any good, I can see her choosing to forgo the treatment and just have the baby.
I would choose the baby. I am a only child and so is my child, but i would rather give up my life so my child would have the chance to live, than be selfish and choose myself, even though growing up without a mom is hard.
This woman is a hero. As for me, I risk my life for strangers who never, at least not here on Earth, say anything to me. That means for my kid it is a no brainer as well.
Loving thy neighbor as you do yourself brings on new meaning at the point of dying for them doesn’t it!!
Wonderful question and should have A LOT of “Christians” rethinking exactly what that last one of the 2 GOLDEN RULES really means.
If you’re not willing to die for your child you shouldn’t have one.
Save the baby that’s my first thought. Even if I had other kids. I wouldn’t want to be there for my other kids while knowing in my heart I let my baby die so I could live.
I’d save myself. I have family and friends who I love, and I don’t want to leave my boyfriend to bring up an unborn child alone.
@Persiankitty - but what if you already have other children? You’re CHOOSING to leave them without a mother. That’s incredibly selfish.
@Elizabethmarie_1 - but that’s really unfair on your other children, and I believe they’d resent their future sibling for essentially taking their mother away from them.
Depends. I would prefer to save the baby, but not if I had other children dependent on me, and not if I had no one to leave the child with if I should die. I would have to analyze the situation and make the best choice for the baby, whether the baby lives or not.
As I sit here and think on this… I would save the baby. Yes I have two children. those children are in their teens and are very well taught and capable. They would be devastated, but they would also be proud of the fact that I would save their little brother or sister. My life is settled and I am happy, but I would still save that baby. And I know my kids would be safe and well taken care of by my soon to be husband.
I don’t know what I’d do, but I respect her decision.
@written_conversations - I can understand how this would be a terrible decision to make. It would be very hard to look at my other children knowing that I am giving myself a death sentence, but there are a couple of things to think about.
1. Just because I end my pregnancy and start treatments doesn’t mean that I would end up living either. At least I am for sure giving my baby a chance to live a longer life.
2. I would also be afraid that my children would resent me for having killed their sibling so that I could live.
I feel like it would be a selfish thing for me to do…save myself at the expense of my baby. As for the children resenting their sibling…I would make sure that my children knew that the decision was mine and not that of their siblings….that way they would not resent their brother or sister.
without a doubt in my mind, i would save the baby.
@ShimmerBodyCream - u’ll be doing so much baby caretaking when ur ded, after all
I’d save myself. I can always get pregnant again; and besides, it would be horrible for my child to live without a mother.
@written_conversations - I thought about that. But sacrificing yourself for your child only if you have no other children would be incredibly hypocritical. Choosing not to save one child just because you’re already other children would be incredibly selfish from the point of view of the unborn child. Either way you’re being selfish. But the way I see it, I’ve already lived half my life. I might as well give my unborn child a chance to do the same. I know my kids will be left without a mother, but better a life without a parent than no life at all. Of course, I would only do this if it was almost certain the child would live. If there was no chance, it would be pointless.
My first instinct is to say yes, but upon more consideration I’d say it is a tough call. I’ve got a disabled son and a husband with a host health problems. If I died, there’s a good chance my husband would not be able to care for him or her for long, let alone himself. My son would mostly likely end up with his mentally ill, violent biological father but I’m sure there would be a huge battle over who gets custody of him (because my family is nuts, too, and one of my sisters actually wanted to adopt them). The courts would first pass custody to the bio-dad I’m sure knowing what I know about the legal system and custody. There’s a good chance my son would not live to see to result of the custody battle or get placed in foster care since his bio-dad can’t manage to stay out of institutions. My son is tough to handle and my babysitters need a bachelor’s degree. I can’t think of anyone in my family with the ability or resources to care for my child and mythical baby, with the exception of my brother-in-law and his wife in Haiti, but I don’t know if they’d be willing. Believe it or not, option 2 would be my husband’s ex-wife. It would be nothing short of a complete and traumatic disaster for my son and husband.
I say this as a woman who desperately wants another child. I had my son after I divorced my first husband and realized that having or keeping him was one of the most selfish choices I ever made. I didn’t make the choice for him, I made it for me. Parents need to make choices for the best interest of their children, not the based on the best interest of the parents. It was my first mommy-fail. So, if I did have cancer, I’d probably freeze my eggs and find a
surrogate instead of getting pregnant. I realize that may not have been
the choice here, but if I was able to know before hand, that would be my
choice. I could not endanger my son because I wanted to fulfill a dream
before I died.
It’s very difficult to make this into a general question because everyone’s situation is different and you have to do what is right for your family. Obviously, the choice the woman from the news story made was right for hers. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn’t be able to justify sacrificing four people– my husband, my children, and myself– for one.
@DontTurnAway - Actually, with chemo and other treatments, I think your eggs pretty much rendering you infertile. You wouldn’t be able to get pregnant again.
@carrieaulait - you see, if i wanted a child to begin with then I probably would change my statement. But it’s just not meant to be. I have cancer, I shouldn’t have a child. Oh well.
But alas… I don’t want kids..
I honestly have no idea what I would do if I was in this situation.
@DontTurnAway - I guess I’m not really sure what you mean, except you don’t want to have kids and you were answering hypothetically. I was pointing out that with cancer treatments like chemo from my understanding, you become unable to become pregnant (you could use IVF with donor eggs and pregnant maybe?) and your hypothetical answer did not fit the question, unless I’m wrong about treatment ruining fertility. My wrongness is possible and has happened before.
@carrieaulait - oh sorry, i was responding to the thought of not being able to be pregnant again. My answer would still be myself because I don’t really want kids to begin with. and i’m sure you’re right lol
I am 8 months pregnant right now and If I had decision, I would save the baby. It’s not as if I don’t like my life. I just care too much for the baby that I carry for 9 months..
That is so selfless and brave. It’s also so sad. I would not do the same tho as I already have two children who depend on me.
@ShimmerBodyCream - if you died for the baby, you wouldnt be around to take care of it..
i would save myself. i have two other daughters that need me.
@ashleyrhea@lovelyish - That’s why you don’t have sex until you’re married, then you have another partner to take care of your child if you pass and you don’t have to kill your own kid.
@relaxolgy - I think that’s the best answer
@ShimmerBodyCream - You can still have sex before marriage. You should reword it an replace sex with children. That is why you shouldnt have children before marriage. Sex before marriage is okay if you are safe.
I wouldn’t save the baby, sorry to say.
I don’t want to sound cold but to me the mother is always more important. Why end a life that’s been started and established than save one that hasn’t? I’m sure the mother touched more lives than the baby has.
I’m sure the mother contributed more to society than the baby has.
I’m sure the mother had loved ones who tried to persuade her otherwise because they felt that she was more important.
Treatment doesn’t necessarily mean cure. She probably figured she would’ve died anyway so saving the baby was best so that at least one of them could live.
@College_Ruled11X85 - oh, thank you
@ToMarilyn - good point. Nothing is ever for sure, the baby would’ve died during the pregnancy even if she didn’t receive any treatment.
Oh, how tragic! That would be such a tough decision. I would die to save my baby and leave my other four children with their wonderful capable godly father who has a huge support system.
Further to what I said above, my military husband would jump in front of a grenade to save civilians even if that meant I had to be a single mom to our four children. We would have no military members if they were more concerned about their kidlets at home than fighting for our country or for others. I consider an unborn baby a HUMAN and I would not murder my baby. God and my good family will take care of the ones left behind.
My friend Vanessa made a similiar decision. She didn’t know that she would pass away, but ultimately she did.
But she had the kind of loving heart for another life to take that chance. And, it’s going to be a harder road for her daughter without her, but there’s going to be a road. We’re all born into challenges, some harder then others, but i don’t believe there is one that exists which makes life not worthwhile. I certainly believe his child, as with Vanessa’s child, can live a fruitful life with happiness. Both children will go through life with the unbelievable feeling of love from a mom they will never remember the face of, cause they’ll know what their moms have done for their children.
I think sometimes, when we look at a new life not yet arrived, and talk of deciding his/her fate, we look at a hard circumstance as insurmountable. As a life of torment. In that moment we seem to forget that many of us have suffered horrific losses, injuries, heartbreak, opression, ect, and yet we wouldn’t give up our lives. It’s hard decision to die for someone else, but i think we have to remember that if we would be willing to consider keeping our own life, that unborn childs life might just be worth saving.
@College_Ruled11X85 - There’s no guarentees. It CAN still happen. Not that i’m against premarital relations. But both people involved aughta be ready for anything and everything, it’s the responsible way.
I have never been pregnant so I just don’t know. If I already had a child to care for I admit I would save myself. She was one hell of a mother, though, and what she did can help you to put your troubles and difficult choices in perspective.
I’d save myself. I hate kids and think that abortion should be legal up to age 12…..just saying. haha
I’d save myself.
I can’t have children so I do not have to worry about making that choice.
@written_conversations - I agree. This is an unborn fetus, it’s not the same as throwing yourself in front of a train to save your toddler. It’s that old idea again that pregnant women are not human. The people who argue to refuse abortions even if the mother will die also would argue for the fetus to be saved here, even if it kills the mother. Once women become pregnant, they lose the right to live in the eyes of many. I don’t buy it.
This is one of those horrible scenarios that I don’t think many will truly know what they would do until they were actually going through it.
I’d like to think I’d save the baby. I’m, obviously, pro-life and I’d want my baby to live and wouldn’t want to do anything to harm that child. At the same time, I do have a daughter already. I think that would be a very tough choice and one many people should be thankful they don’t have to make.
And that’s why I feel that this woman should not be judged so harshly by some. It would be an incredibly tough decision to make and this woman doesn’t need grief from people who have no idea what it’s like. I do think what she did was incredibly selfless and quite the gift to that child. But it’s still sad that this child will grow up without it’s mother.
Talk about loaded questions!
Let’s put it this way: Are you in favor of lLife or Death – if Life, would you value yours over another’s? Why?Or how about: Would you favor a living person over the potential of another living person – or a person who might or might not live, or who is not living yet?
uhhh. well- I already have a son. so I would save myself, for him. and pray to god that cancer didn’t kill me anyway.
like- what if she as going to die anyway, and she killed her baby to try and save herself.? that’d be shitty as fuck.
If the baby had a good home to go to, I would choose the baby. However, if not, I would say abort and save yourself. It depends on the situation.
I believe that I would do the same in her position. It’s a hard decision, though, and I can understand going either way.
Myself.
I will never take chemo or radiation whether I were pregnant or not!
@TiredSoVeryTired - I agree. I have three very young children that needs me too.
Myself. Once I die, who the fuck will be there to care for the baby? I couldn’t imagine many boyfriends who would jump up to the plate and both of my parents are too old to deal with an infant. My sister is raising her own child and is in over her head with debt.
Wow, I don’t know. That’s tough. I want to say the child, but I’m still so young. I commend her actions though.