December 23, 2011
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Celebrity Beats the Crap Out of His Girlfriend
A celebrity is coming under fire for beating the crap out of his girlfriend.
Actually, it wasn’t his girlfriend. It was his boyfriend. Adam Lambert got in a fight at a bar with his boyfriend. Here is the link: Link
I just knew that no one would care if a guy punched another guy or if a woman hit a guy. It only matters to everyone when a guy hits a woman. If Adam had hit a girlfriend, he would be nailed in the media right now. But instead he wrote a tweet joking about it and another celebrity made light of it.
If Rihanna had been a man, we would not have cared if Chris Brown hit him.
Why do we excuse violence against men but freak out concerning violence with women?
Comments (46)
Sad that I clicked on this just to figure out which celebrity was violent.
The real question is who would win in a fight: Chris Brown or Adam Lambert?
Sometimes you just need to smack a bitch.
People think men should be able to defend themselves. It’s a double standard.
Same goes with sexual harassment.
@emily_shannon - Chris Brown…he’s on the steroids.
If it’s the same guy he was with last year, Adam probably got the shit knocked out of him.
We have a stereotype that men should be able to defend themselves. Or just take it “like a man.”
Its simple woman do not have a chance in hell in a fight with a normal man.against a big man we need a big gun
I hear South Park has a Christmas Special featuring bigotry against Christians. I wonder what would happen if they tried the same thing against women or gays?
The title is wrong, Dan. God.. false advertizing much!
Personally, my first thought when I saw this story, was that it’s just another example of how fame and so-called fortune don’t buy happiness. Something that Yeshua taught frequently, but is the antithesis of what Republican-Christians teach.
Well, obviously a woman is not going to be able to defend herself against a man…unless she’s Cyborg Santos (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cristiane_Santos). Or the man is a bitch.
But yeah, the media blows everything out of proportion, sometimes a good backhand across the eyes is justified…JP.
That was for the haters.
That being said, I’ve run into many women who instigate and prod men into a physical altercation. They might slap the guy, kick him in the balls, and call his mom a “fat whore”. That being the case, I think a man should be able to defend himself with a slap. I think slapping should be allowed, regardless of the sex.
A good slap in the face never killed anyone.
Because we’re naturally at a disadvantage. That’s not to say ALL women wouldn’t be able to hold their own against a man. For example, George Clooney wouldn’t stand a chance against his girlfriend. Personally, I know self-defense. I’d probably have the crap beat out of me, but I’d be giving it right back at him, as well, if it came to it. And then he’d find his ass in jail because I don’t stand for that.
A better question, Dan. Why does society think it’s funny for a man to get his ass beat by a girlfriend and rightfully deserves so, but a man can’t to do same shit to the girlfriend under the same circumstances?
I think it is a double standard.
So there’s this tiny Jewish chick next door who physically beats up her husband and I want to call the cops, but I know they’re not going to do anything because it’s a girl and she’s little, and if call the police I figure they won’t do anything, but now they’ll hate me on top of it. Ugh.
It depends the circumstances. Was is actual domestic violence? Or was it two men drunk, going at it?
A woman is physically smaller and less muscular then a man. We don’t run races in the same category, we don’t pro wrestle in the same category. For a reason. It’s like a teenager bullying an eight year old. They’re just physically not as capable.
If it was him abusing his SO, then no it’s not okay, man or woman. If it was equal parts then whatever, hit away. But I absolutely hate it when people say it’s okay to hit a woman if she hits you. Are you kidding? Firstly, you don’t fight violence with violence. Lets use the eight year old versus seventeen year old analogy again. You pull the twat off you and don’t hurt them unless you’re defending yourself. If a woman could do that physically to a man, I would encourage the same.
@mr_jin_tonic - No person, especially not a man slapping a woman, should be able to slap anyone.
If a woman kicks a man in the balls, that is battery. He should call the cops. It may be self defense to hit her back, but real men don’t hit women and they sure as hell don’t slap her.
@BenelliMan - You do understand the it was once legal for a man to beat his wife. We should never go back to anything like that.
@FuhkAwfThere’s a big difference between the West coast and the East coast. A woman who aggrevates an assault on the east Coast gives a man a defense for hitting(or slapping) - a woman. However on the west coast there is no aggravated assault defense.
There is assault and there is mutual combat. If it is two women or two men it is mutual combat if both are fighting each other.
It’s not that it is a double standard. The question is, was it two guys getting into a fight or was it a case of domestic violence? There is a difference. A guy and girl who are dating can get into a screaming match and throw things at each other and shove each other and that is violence, but it is not domestic violence where one of the people in the relationship (the guy OR the girl) is mentally, emotionally, or physically abusing the other person. I think any possible double standard comes from people thinking that men can’t be the victims of domestic violence. As you said if the case were a guy hitting a guy OR a girl hitting a guy, then you figured nobody would care. The truth is that anyone can be a victim of domestic violence.
@mycontinuity - If you suspect something, then call the cops. At least then, if something really bad happens, then it is already on the record that there was a domestic violence complaint against her. Even if the cops don’t do anything, there is at least going to be a record of having been called to a residence for a domestic violence call.
Gay fight.
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It’s because women are (in general) physically weaker than men are. So it’s not an equal match.
Women are hopeless, thats why. And I am sick of people thinking im weak and cant take care of myself because I am a women. I definitley dont need my boyfriend to stick up for me and Im not like those other girls. If I am getting beat up (which I wouldnt, I would fight back) Im gone unlike alot of those girls who just stick around..
Because according to society and I suppose statistics. Women are physically weaker like everyone else says. Personally I find it stupid that media only cares when it is a man beating a woman. It puts women on a higher pedistool than men. Maybe they deserve to be?
Bottom line is, Violence is violence regardless of genders.
Say it, girl ..
Dan, you threw me off a little with the title of your post, hon. If Lambert wasn’t with his boyfriend, would we hear about him beating up a guy? Wouldn’t society expect him to “beat up a guy” because he is flexing his teststerone? I believe so. I wouldn’t give it a second thought … just roll my eyes. If Lambert had beat up a woman, I’d say castrate him. But when an individual “comes out”, it a big hoopla. Give me a break.
Because then it’s more equal. E.g., when an adult hits a child, it’s not right. When a child hits another child it’s also not good but it’s just a fight.
First off, title is offensive. Just say boyfriend, ‘kay?
Second, both Adam and his boyfriend hit each other, it wasn’t one sided.
Overall, abuse, hitting etc. is always wrong and shouldn’t be made light of. No matter who hits or who’s being hit, it’s wrong. Period.
I don’t approve of anybody starting a fight. I saw a “Cops” episode once where they took the woman away because her SO reported her. That’s the way it should be.
I read that as “If Rihanna had been a man, we would not have cared about Chris Brown”.
I think it is a double standard. I see no difference in a man fighting another man or a man fighting a woman. It is just the way society thinks. You can argue that women are smaller and do not have as many muscels (sp?), but if they can not hold thier own in a fight, then just don’t instigate a fight. Same thing with men, it should all be treated equally. I do not see the difference in the crime but our justice system would.
I don’t buy into to the argument that real men don’t hit women. No real person is going to let themselves be attacked and not defend themselves. And to all the people that say women are physically weaker than men, tell that to my friend who had is lip and eye gashed by his then girlfriend, that weighed no more than 115 and stood about 5 feet tall. But I digress, the cops probably also felt the same way to as they shoveled him in the police car for assault after he pushed her off him and she hit the ground. This was after him taking the gentlemanly route and walking away and having multiple people try and restrain her.
Adam Lambert is a celebrity?
@SentimentalDoll - Couldn’t have said it better.
domestic abuse is domestic abuse, doesn’t matter the sexes of the people in the relationship.
because our stereotypical thinking makes us assume men are able to defend themselves. so if they end up getting hit- at least they had a fair chance to hit back. Whereas a woman would be less likely to be able to hit back.
excellent point.
@hectoramemnon -
“I hear South Park has a Christmas Special featuring bigotry against Christians. I wonder what would happen if they tried the same thing against women or gays?”
You mean if South Park suddenly took its script from your blogs?
Too tired to explain the obvious correctly with all the exceptions from the rules and bla…I wish you a merry Christmas nonetheless.
It’s a stereotype, of course. Women are supposed to be the “weaker sex,” and the man is supposed to be protective of her, especially if she’s his girlfriend or wife. If he hits her, he’s obviously not living up to his part of the deal. Although, some traditional teachings say that the man has the right to “discipline” his wife just as his children, even people who agree with that will say that hitting a women badly enough to leave bruises is, just like hitting a child bad enough to leave bruises, a bad thing.
There’s some basis in reality, of course. Genetically speaking, men statistically have more upper body strength than women, who have more lower body strength. So a statistically typical woman would be at a disadvantage against a statistically typical man, unless the man had his hands tied behind his back and the woman was allowed to kick him (especially if she was wearing heels and/or was a kickboxing champion). But the thing with Adam and his boyfriend is more seen as a fight between equals. Just like women hitting women is just a funny thing that people laugh at. And women hitting men, well, she probably can’t hit hard enough to hurt him anyway, so let her try. He’ll just puff out his chest and laugh.
Of course, this is not always true, since there are some wimpy guys (like Adam) and some really awesomely strong men. The stereotype persists, though.
Violence these days,dudes.
Violence against a man isn’t being “excused”, the article says that they were both released because they both weren’t injured, if he had actually beaten the crap out of his boyfriend it would be different.
@emily_shannon - ha me too
@SentimentalDoll - rihanna hit chris also!
Why do you fucking think? it’s not exactly rocket science here: men fight. End of story.
Me and my boyfriend were watching a pillow fight between the family guy characters, and of course they all had to bring out their guns and kill each other. Highly exaggerated, but I think you get my drift.