February 1, 2012
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Talking Back To Parents
Maybe my memory is off but I never remember talking back to my parents as a child. Ok. One time when I was 12 I talked back to my mom. That was it. I never talked back to my dad. I never even remember questioning anything after he was finished with the final word.
(Sure they are cute when they are small. But they turn into demons).
Did you ever talk back to your parents?
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Yes…and then I died.
Most of my visits to Confession were because of my vociferous disagreements with my parents.
Yes.
My mom, yes. My father, no.
No. I had older siblings who talked back to them. I was the smart kid who learned from others’ mistakes.
No, my parents are pretty chill. They are bigger partiers than I am.
No, I quickly learned to fear doing so.
Way too often. I don’t think they really cared though.
I was once an awful, insane child before I was diagnosed and treated for bipolar. I would scream and yell. But after I was stable, and I wasn’t dealing with confusing fits of rage, I never did again. Seriously never.
My brothers do constantly though. And it really upsets me. We have wonderful parents, I can’t fathom the lack of respect.
Heck no!… I never wanted to experience Slovak Fury.
Never. Well. Once. I had the taste of soap in my mouth for days.
I did, but they didn’t care…which made me madder…and they laughed harder…you get the picture.
i really don’t think ever
I know I talked back to my mom, but never my dad. And that’s not because he was scary or mean or anything…he just never provoked me to be that way with him. My mom and I clashed at times. Probably the girl/girl hormone thingy.
I would say I talked back twice to my mom and once to my dad as an adult. I never did when I was a kid, though
never with asian parents. otherwise you will have no next morning…
I talked back to my mother A LOT as a teenager, but not so much my dad. My dad had very low (read: zero) tolerance for arguing, back talk, rule-breaking, etc.
I am guilty of talking back. I had my fair share of behaviour issues while growing up. I’m sure I got them from my older brother, as I looked up to him until I realized how unstable he actually was. Once he was out of the house I began to behave appropriately :3.
Only all the time. My dad used to blame everything on me… so I of course had to defend my honor. I was too stubborn to put up with it.
My mom.. I had a natural banter of snarky sarcasm as a teenager. Terrible really.
@sometimestheycomebackanyway - You’re CATHOLIC!!! It all makes sense now!!! Jk…. a little.
My parents didn’t put up with that shit.
I argued with my dad a lot about college junior year. That’s it really.
that’s a taboo in my culture.
I sorta think kids should be allowed to talk back politely and with no curse words to their parents. yell is okay just so they can release all their anger instead of just keeping it all inside.
I’ve always wondered how parents/teachers/authority figures gives off the sense of you just don’t talk back to them. ever.
I found children have a sense of compassion for their parents and fear at times to hurt them. So not answering back could be mistaken for something else. No i never did.
yupp. got sent to my room on many occasion cause i just can’t keep my smart cracks to myself…
Yes as a teen. I was trying to figure out who I was as a person and I thought their rules were dumb.
I had my moments but then sometimes I knew that discretion might be the greater part of valor. In 2nd grade, when my dad asked me what part of no I didn’t understand, I was SORELY tempted to blurt out “The ‘K’ and the ‘W’!!!” Even then, I knew EXACTLY how that would go. ”Oh, you think that’s funny?” he would scold with raised voice. ”Not any more.” I’d have said sheepishly, knowing that I’d have just caused my punishment to worsen though also knowing that he’d have been fighting back laughing.
Yes I think I should have more… My parents were druggies and abusive.
ah yes. from 13-17 their nickname might as well be lucifer. in fact, during the middle school and high school days, my dad used to call me a velociraptor and that was even the picture that came up on his phone when i called <3
one thing that i am most ashamed of is talking back to my parents. its pointless and stupid.
Yes. I had to get the last word in the conversation ALWAYS! It might explain why I spent so much of my childhood getting back-handed or grounded. I am still immature enough to believe it was completely worth it!
yes, every time. to my mother. when she is being particularly bitchy. like today
Lets see if anyone can say that their parents are always right. I suppose parents could get used to authority and start to abuse it. Still the consequence of a child disobeying a parent is different than a child being willful. When given the reasons and the child understands the reasons and go against it might be cause for banishment/punishment.
i have disagreed with them before but NEVER talk back to them. i wouldn’t dare.
Yes and I regret disappointing them every time I did.
Usually too scared to. Becoming less of a worry now that I’m getting old enough to be “taken seriously.” …Sigh. I wish it were easier to talk to my parents.
@temporarilyinnocent - Mine either. But I am very strong willed. If I was doing something holy instead of something bad maybe I’d be a martyr.
Nope not really…a few times with my mom cause she was hardcore at nagging and complaining. My dad, nah.
I did once to my dad and I got a back hand smack so hard I thought my face came off. I deserved it though. That’s the day I learned not to do that again. My parents are puerto Rican, you kind of learn as a kid not to questions or sass them. A look usually is suffice. I decided to test boudaries that day. I failed miserably. Then he came to apologize to me about it later and made me feel even worse.
As a kid, never. As an adult, within reason. Almost always within reason.
My parents would have beat me if I talked back.
I went years without talking back. Then the system got me and now I talk back all the time. It’s because I was stuck living with them. I’ve moved out by now though… Now I just send texts.
But there’s a different dynamic, Theo. when you’re schizophrenic. I’m not saying you have to stand up for yourself… but the parent can actually have no idea what they are doing. So they need a little help.
I basically told them my doctors said it’s time to move out and when they didn’t let me, started criticizing EVERY little part about them, from the bottom up. It was productive in a way yet disrespectful.
After reading some comments, I’d say it’s different when you’re an adult too.
Dear Theo (Hahaha)
This guy gave me a number to call so I can get laid. The problem is, I am not sure if this is the way I want to lose my virginity. In three months I will be 26. I think it’s about time I experience sex at least once. But I know, if I have a bad sexual experience my first time, it could scar me, I could end up being afraid of sex for five more years.
RulerofMasons
P.s. Who is closer to you, shimmerbodycream, or trunthepaige?
Pss Did you enjoy being around asians when you went to one of mr chan’ s asian meets? In my town there is an asian ping pong recreation. A lot of asians. Some have doll faces, some are plain looking. I am usually around hispanic or black. How are asians like?
I back talked my parents on a regular basis.
My father is a retired Drill Sarg. So no way did I talk back to my dad! I could get away with a lot with my mom, but as soon as she threatened me with “I’m gonna tell your father!” statement, I straightened up.
Yeah, I did. More than once too. And I questioned them on just about anything they wanted me to do too.
yes, I talked back as a teenager but I had a head start to another room that I was able to slam the door and put my legs up and hold it closed and since they weren’t as fast or strong as me I could hold them off and not come out until they forgot and cooled down.
Usually when they said,”no.” to me.
There’s a reason why I was called the strong-willed one of the three. I’m not proud of the fact that I talked back anymore though. Now I’m at the age where my parents are more like friends than parents. Now there’s back-and-forth talk.
Yep definitely have.
Probably at some point or another, but I don’t remember.
yes, but because they let me… they didn’t really incite the RESPECT ME OR ELSE fear in me, so I saw nothing wrong with it :
Oh definitely. My entire family is stubborn and can’t let go of grudges. The silence was always worse than the back-talking.
I talked back a few times, but I never got away with it. My mom might be almost a foot shorter than me, but I guarantee you she can still put the fear of God in me.
Yes, but only when they were acting more idiotic than I was…pretty much the times when I had to be the voice of reason… i’m Asian too but I survived it.
I was accused of talking back all the time, but all I ever really did was ask questions because I genuinely didn’t understand what the hell they were talking about 80% of the time. I was a smart kid, good vocabulary, but a good chunk of my verbal communication (as far as tone of voice) was mere mimicry until I was about 15 or 16 and finally learned what sarcasm was… I had no idea up to that point that I was sounding sarcastic when all I did was copy those around me… I also learned at that point just what people meant by what they said. I took the sarcasm literally. (Think Sheldon on Big Bang Theory.)
All the time. Especially when I was in my early teens; I had a lot of anger problems and a pretty foul mouth. I used to talk a lot of crap back to my parents and since there were no repercussions beyond getting grounded, I didn’t really care if I got in trouble.
One time when you were 12 … you rebel.
Oh, yes. It never happened without due punishment following soon after.
Yes. But by that time my mother had already done so many (truly, not just perceived) foolish things that she’d lost my respect.
Yes. I remember laughing in their face when they said “don’t talk back to me” cause…what does that even fucking mean? I can’t question anything you do? This isn’t the 1800′s. We have come up with better ways for parents and their children to properly communicate. It’s one thing to endlessly argue with them when you’re clearly wrong. My younger sister sometimes does that. But if my parents are just plain wrong and it’s worth discussing then of course I am going to “talk back”. Sometimes my Dad is a racist, sexist asshole and my Mom can be overly judgmental and doesn’t know how to respect privacy. Frankly I feel like I have to parent THEM at times.
did anyone else get a DON’T TALK BACK when talking back, and a “WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY FOR YOURSELF” (or something along those lines) when you decide to just be quiet and expressionless? Lol..
Not after seeing what happened when my brother talked back to my parents……!
I hear a lot of people say they didn’t but I’ve also seen nearly every teen I know (And as a teacher, I know a lot) do it at one time or another. So I’m skeptical when anyone tells me they didn’t do it.
haha, oh yeah. you bet. I was awful. Truly awful.
Yup. All the time. I was a horrid child.
I did once, and I got a pretty solid whuppin’.
when I was younger, I did. but now I learned to just go along with everything.
I did a handful of times, but it was rare because I got in a lot of trouble for it. By the time I was a teenager I had learned my lesson.
When I was a freshman in college, I was on the phone with my mother and she said something I didn’t appreciate. I hung up on her. I then panicked because I’d never done something like that.. ever. I was terrified. Something like 12 minutes went by and I was all but crying because I was so terrified of what would happen. She called and I answered and the first thing she said was “Don’t. You. Ever. Do. Something. Like. That. Again.” Each word was punctuated and it was absolutely horrible… I’ll never do it again!
@locomotiv - i’ve recently started feeling this way. however, up until college, it was definitely fear of a spanking that kept my mouth shut.
…and thatsprobably why you ask so many question, Dan. As a child you were a very submissive type boy, now as an adult, you ask all these questions here to feel validated. We Xangans are very proud and happy to be of service to you. In regards to finding your true personality.
Death for Hitting Dad Whoever strikes his father or mother shall be put to
death. (Exodus 21:15 NAB)Death for
Cursing Parents 1) If one curses his father or mother, his lamp will go out at the coming
of darkness. (Proverbs 20:20
NAB) 2) All who curse their father or mother must be put to
death. They are guilty of a capital offense. (Leviticus 20:9 NLT)
Christianity — the most bloody religion of all.
@sweetboxc00kie - Dont tell me you were spanked until college !
I have cussed my parents out and reemed them new buttholes many times. I regret it now though. Everyone makes mistakes, so they didn’t deserve to be told off for what I percieved to be theirs, right or wrong. When I disagree with my parents now, it is best to talk it out with them to the best of my ability. I learned my lesson about posting bad things about my mother on Facebook. If I can’t get my parents to even consider my opinion or point, then it is time to walk away or be silent.
definitely