June 1, 2012
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The Value of a Person
Years ago I was approached by a woman who apparently had sex for money. What surprised me was that she was willing to trade sex for something that was worth about $18-22.
I listened as a guy told a woman that $60 was worth more to him than she was.
Obviously people make mistakes.
But in general, I cut anyone out of my inner circle of friends who makes me or others feel worthless.
I suggest you do the same.
If you have a boyfriend who makes you feel like you will never achieve success, find a new boyfriend. If you have a girlfriend that causes you to feel like crap in her presence, she will only destroy you and make you give up on your dreams.
Replace these people with friends that make you feel good about yourself.
Comments (68)
I agree 100 percent.
First! Well said.
Thanks, dad.
Very good advice.
This is one of your finer posts, Dan. I agree 100 %. Life is hard enough without the Toxics hanging around.
I agree to the fullest.
Who are you and what have you done with our Dan?!?! Is the little man with the pipe taking over?
You also make a very valid point. I fail to see why anybody would hang around somebody who makes them feel worthless.
yes. i agree.
this has to be one of the best posts you’ve had
don’t throw pearls to swine
@iones_island - I agree with you.I think I liked everything Dan said until the last sentence.It needs to be rephrased.Yes,it would be nice to just hear good things about yourself,but it isn’t always true.We need to see the truth about ourselves to improve ourselves.I would say try to be around people that know how to balance their criticing of you.Someone who isn’t afraid to tell te truth to you when they see a mistake,but also someone who looks for and compliments what you do right.
I think there is also a transverse side to this, of people who “make you feel good” or feed your ego in order to manipulate you. i always try to support my friends, but i draw the line at certain behaviors, and i won’t ever encourage them to lower their standards to chase a dream or any other thing. to me, they are more important than that.
I agree, except I would like to add “… and disembowel them” at the end of each sentence.
@Somefishytales - exactly. a true friend will confront you when you’re wrong and stand by you while you get right. i’ve seen too many people end up throwing out their standards and changing in ways they said they never wanted to, becoming things they never wanted to because of “friends” who flattered them down the path.
I agree. Great post, Dan.
I agree
There are many people that value money over people. A person doesn’t have a price. People have a value. There is a difference. Economic theory doesn’t apply to the worth of a person. If you think it does, you’re a nihilist and you should probably just kill yourself. After all, there’s no value in this life and there’s nothing in the afterlife anyway, right?
my parents make me feel worthless. i never felt special or had much value as a woman or a person…i guess that’s why im negative most of the time…
If a woman offers herself to me for $20, I’ll say yes, and pay her $80.
You should post more posts like this with heart
“Replace these people with friends that make you feel good about yourself. “
BEst quote to start my day today:)
thankk you
good advice – surround yourself with positive people and magically you start to feel more positive yourself!
You speak the truth, but sadly, society does not agree. People are judged by their financial status. As someone who is on the lower end of the monetary spectrum, I know this all too well. I know how people look at those who lack the funds others possess. We are branded as lazy, incompetant, undriven and even stupid. But because one is poor they are not necessarily any of these. Some of us are just born into unfortunate circumstances, others have made bad choices and some were robbed of all they had by shear misfortune.
Unfortunately, society doesn’t care. They take you at face value and nothing more. Why bother to take the time to find out why that man is begging on a street corner, or why that single mother is struggling to keep her children fed. No, its easier to judge them as “bums” or “losers” and go about their own way. People dont understand because they dont want to understand. Understanding takes time, and goodness forbid anything take away any of that time. Its more important they abuse their priviledge. Because, in the end, thats what matters most, right? Looking at the way society is, it certainly seems that way. Who cares about those who fell between the cracks? No one it seems.
Ironically though, when those who have are the ones to fall, they are the ones who cry the loudests for help when before “help” meant “weakness” to them.
Agreed.
i once went to the helmet section at Camrod Motorcycles. a small sign on the wall said, “If you have a $10 head buy a $10 helmet.” i pointed to the sign and asked the guy behind the counter, “Do you have anything for five bucks?” i thought it was funny and expected him to laugh. instead he gave me a “are you going to buy something?” look. i realized i was probably the 50th guy who said that to him that week and it was only Monday. i did buy a SNELL approved full faced helmet for $400.
it’s important to value oneself. we tend to attract people who reflect that self respect and tend to respect others in return. there will always be those who appear and show no respect like online trolls for example but they are easy to pick out and they don’t really see and reflect you. they only see and reflect themselves.
A great piece of advice that many people need to hear. There are those who willingly stick around these type of people because they truly believe that’s the best they deserve. It’s kind of heart-breaking to see.
Couldn’t agree more .
So you’re saying I should shut down the sweatshop I got going on in my basement?
You’ve posted something like this before already.
but obviously, fat people, unemployed people and socialists ARE worthless.
I go by the philosophy that one shouldn’t rely on others to make you feel good about yourself. happiness starts with yourself
be happy with yourself, then find someone to compliment the awesomeness that you already have, not find someone to “complete” you. I think the people, who have very low self esteem, are too dependent on caring about what others think about them. change begins with yourself, and bring out your own confidence. I’ve been independent most of my life, so others might need some help. it depends. that’s why some people don’t really care about people. if working hard for my money and using that hard earned cash to buy things makes me happy, then so be it. I’m not heartless, just intolerant of some things:D because I used to be the one, who moped around, but I turned my life around, and now I can’t stand the person who I once was and can’t stand others, who are like that. I’m also an elitist. I have like two people that I value and don’t care for the rest. if I value everyone, then what’s so special about it:P I honestly can’t stand slackers. I surround myself with like minded people, who continuously strive for excellence, not whine and blame. rather than say that the expectations are too high, they see it as a challenge to improve. each situation is different. I take my work very seriously and I earned my salary. I already can’t stand my coworkers, because they tend to use every chance they can get to waste tiime and slack off. I actually prefer if my boss was more of a dictator and made the work place strict as if in the communist military lol giving them too many privileges and spoiling them rotten is not good. anyway, laterz.
I think the whole paying for sex thing is absolutely wrong…but also, I feel like most guys who pay for sex aren’t spending money to have the night of their lives unless they’re paying 4-5 figures, they are mostly spending petty cash to give themselves an ego trip.
I would think no physical feeling could mask the loser-ness feeling of spending $20.
hmm. I think how you value yourself is more important.
@godsmythandlegend - It looks like to me that a lot of tax money is spent on help for the financially disadvantaged, and many people, wealthy and not so wealthy try to help through various means. I don’t think that the world is as cold hearted as you say.
Human life is so well organized that people are paid by the hour for their work. I wonder if working horses understand their conditions.
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Well said.
agree
i agree. i never liked being around someone who’ll only make me feel down just so they can feel better.
So you’re not going to sell me your body, then?
Very TRUE!
What if those friends are in your family. Immediate family to boot. :-/
Sometimes you come up with some good stuff. This is one of those times. I totally agree!
we attract people who are ,”our equals.”
Surround yourself with people who will feed your ego and help you avoid self-examination. Good plan.
@Shadowrunner81 - Right. Give ‘em the boot. Just quietly walk away.
That’s why I deleted those friends on xanga who makes me feel worthless and replace them with others who are worth my time.
I agree but there are people who you can’t get rid of that are toxic and can’t help it and I fall intot hat category sometimes and so do some other people that I know who are basically good people but they can’t control their moods or personality. You have to take the good with the bad sometime.
i rather try to help the other person understand what it really is before anything. if they know and continue bringing me down, its best to separate. patience and compassion go a long way.
Danny boy, I suggest you give advice to Shimmers. She seems to be losing it.
Nicely said.
and DEFINITELY don’t hang out with struggling folks on welfare, gays, or minorities. you certainly don’t want THEM feeling good about themselves!
This is a great post and so true, and such good advice. I also realized I need to be a good person, a much better person than I have been in the past, in order to have friends and people treat me better. It is a two way street and
I need to make those changes to be a better person.
I need to remember the law of Karma-what I put out comes back to me. I am reminding myself and the words I just typed are for me and not anyone else. I am only pointing fingers at me.
True that!
where’s the question?
Bravo
and then win the lottery and be like, “WHAT!”
@soccerdadforlife - No I meant to boot as in….in addition. They are immediate family to boot. Not to boot out immediate family. lol. Anyways I just deal with em and move on, they’re my family. I just give them what they won’t give me.
Awesome post!
Sadly though, there are some people that always feel like crap in other people’s presence due to traumatic upbringings and experiences. Sometimes, instead of looking at others as the source of the problem, people need to recognize their insecurities and learn that everyone isn’t out to get them, don’t be too paranoid, don’t read things into conversations that aren’t there, etc. These people may push others away, and not helping themselves in the process. That’s the other side of the coin I thought I’d mention.
Who is this guy offering such sound advice?
Right on!! Ive learned recently that the majority of people are controlled by thoughts and often what others think, they begin to think.
To become the voice that devalues yourself because you listened it to and accepted it for too long, is a horrible fate.
i totally agree. my mom has always taught me to only surround myself with people who are going to help me and lift me up. life’s too short to surround yourself with negative people.
Excellent wisdom; I totally agree!
Nice one Dan.
so true.
glad i stumbled upon this post. i needed it.
Yeah.