I don’t remember… However old I was when I stopped telling people I had a Xanga site.
17… Didn’t want to, didn’t know it was going to happen, but it did.
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Ask your sister. I kid, I kid!
21. I was chained down by Olivia Wilde, Megan Fox, Jeri Ryan and Elizabeth Hurley and they made passionate love to me for 163 hours. Then afterwards they cooked me up my favorite foods, and massaged my feet and shoulders while I played video games.
23. It was more than worth the wait. Because I love him, and will stay with him.
19…I lost it too a hooker at a bachelor party. Not exactly the most romantic way…lol…
15, cried for an hour in the bathroom because I didn’t want to. It wasn’t rape! I was just stupid.
I didn’t lose it: I gave it to my wife on our wedding night (and I was 34)…
21 lol
15.
22…horrible experience.
I’m 23, never been kissed. *shrugs*
I was 16 she was 15. We were only together for four months before we had sex. It was perfect. We spent the next six years together. Glad to say no regrets.
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@MistyEyes22 - I cried in bed for an hour for the exact same reason… Don’t feel bad about it now though, it was the past. Those types of experiences are the worst, but best learned from. I hope.
Fourteen.
22 and going strong. I’m holding out!
14.
24
is that important?
18, almost 19
15.
LOL. What more Xanga, does she want from me today? All my passwords and maybe three decades worth of letters of reference? ARRRG! It was before I was ready, probably a junior in highschool, 16ish and I had been being harassed by boys, rushed and harassed, pushed, rushed, pressured, rushed, gah, teenage boys do not like to take no for an anwer, that’s for sure!
I didn’t “lose” my virginity. I gave it away foolishly to a woman I wasn’t married to and couldn’t even say I loved. I was 21…and I wish I could take it all back. That I can’t give my WHOLE self solely and entirely to just my future wife pains me to the core. I don’t want her worrying about whether or not I’m thinking of or remembering any other woman. She doesn’t deserve that sort of stress. @MistyEyes22 - Mind if I share a personal story? It does have a Christian theme to it, but I promise I ain’t here to preach. Just want to offer some encouragement, if I may. @stationary_seniorita - They certainly do provide some of the “best” ways to learn and mature. Unfortunately, they are often the same mistakes made by others whom we could otherwise learn from if we just paid attention to the mistakes of the past. The School of Hard Knocks is often a private tutor education…of sorts.
A private matter really, but dont tell…i was 2000 years old, too young really…
15 <3
@Rhindon - lol I don’t mind people expressing themselves and sharing…
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I lost it to a saucy watermelon who drenched me in her juices.
@MistyEyes22 - Now, I’m not sure what your thoughts and feelings are towards God, Jesus, the Bible (and its claims), and Christianity in general…so fair warning, I’m quite passionate about my faith in Jesus and my role in His life (I bet someone is thinking I ought to have said His role in my life…heh heh). Suffice to say, I hold God and His Word very dear to my heart, so that may help explain
why
what I’m about to share is such a big deal.
The afternoon I had given away my virginity – I hadn’t even orgasmed…I entered her but I stopped us long before things got really ”steamy” – I realized I had just given away something so dear and precious. It’s not like running out of cash and I just earn a paycheck, or running out of food and simply buy more at the store. Clearly, there’s no reversing one’s state from non-virgin to virgin once again. This fact hit hard to me. Partly because I had promised God, myself, and my future bride (whomever she was going to be) that I would wait…yeah, I attended True Love Waits as a teen. Then, a matter of years later, not even five years, I believe, I had wasted the gift of my virginity on a woman I haven’t even seen for the last 10 years. She’s a woman completely in my past. A shadow, essentially…I wasted the gift of my wife being the only woman to ever know my body, heart, mind, and soul so intimately and privately…on a mere shadow. Sometime during the next three days, I was driving along, listening to the Christian radio station, KLOVE. Thinking over what I had done and only half-listening to what was going on on the radio, I began praying. If you can imagine a man broken in mind and heart, and crumbling to his knees in body, then that would have been me as I sat in the car, praying (I kept my eyes open, of course…after all, I was driving LOL. I didn’t think it would be wise to instigate prayers of fright!).
I don’t remember exactly what I said to God that day, but it was a complete confession of the fact that I had had sex before I was married. I behaved carelessly (ie: I could be a daddy now and I wasn’t even financially ready, and much less ready in terms of maturity then). I behaved selfishly, opting to indulge in instant gratification rather than thinking about how this would affect my then-girlfriend (the one I had sex with), my family, my future wife (heck, I didn’t know if I even wanted to marry the girl I had sex with!), and my future kids, whom would look up to me for wisdom and a consistent track record of living right. Oh…the list goes on. I admitted to God that I realized I had seriously screwed up.
I begged Him for one thing. I knew, by promise of His Word (the Bible), my experience as a Christian up to that point, and the logic behind reason for Jesus’ death on the Cross… I knew that I was forgiven for all my sins. I had asked earlier, shortly after I stopped my girlfriend and I from continuing with our sexual escapade, for God to forgive me. In my head I knew I was forgiven.
But if you have ever tried to reach out to God, yourself, you may know that God doesn’t always seem to answer, let alone be there. That’s how I felt then. I felt very much alone. Alone in a courtroom, standing in the middle of the room with a judge and jury and the spot light glaring down on me…guilty stamped on my head. That’s how I felt since I couldn’t sense God with me. I feared very much that He was furious with me – I was already angry at and ashamed of myself. Even though I know that the Bible says that God is slow to anger, quick to forgive, and often spares us many if not all of the consequences we naturally deserve when we sin, I still felt like God was shaking His head at me.
So when I prayed, I asked God to please, PLEASE tell me somehow, with His own voice (or something that tells me He heard me), that I was forgiven. I needed to from Him that I was forgiven.
As soon as I said “Amen”, on comes the verse of the day on the radio, a verse selected to encourage listeners… The verse was this: “Mercy triumphs over judgment” (James 2:13b). The timing at which I said Amen and the verse was read on air could not be better. Could not be more perfect. Truly and really, God heard my prayer, and He did answer me at that moment. Now, any critics who may read this little testimony to you may call out that it wasn’t God’s voice, but the DJ’s. True enough. But God often works through other mediums, other people or circumstances to share with you and me that He loves us.
Here, in my story, I hope to encourage you with a simple but deep Truth. Your choice to give up your virginity way back when is certainly no good thing when you weren’t even married to that guy. But know this, no matter how grave your mistakes are, that’s what Jesus died for: to give you freedom from your past. Yes, natural consequences may and will certainly follow, and there’s no promise that you’ll escape those things. However, there’s no promise that God won’t set you free from those natural consequences, either.
My point is that if you are willing – if you haven’t already – you simply need to “bow down” to God in your heart and begin living for Him (a simple description, but not so easily done…heh heh, I know). And you can know that you are forgiven. Your past, essentially, will NOT be held against you.
Jesus’ parables, such as the prodigal son and the story of the one son who said he wouldn’t listen to his dad, but later obeyed anyway… Those stories, and others, are to encourage His listeners that while sinning against God is a very serious thing and not to be taken lightly, God’s mercy and grace is MUCH BIGGER than the very big sins and mistakes we have made.
Just as any inmate on death row who has accepted Christ. Yup, definitely gonna have to face the consequences of their crimes, but in the end, because they accepted Jesus’ sacrifice for their sins, they can know that Heaven is still in their future. If such criminals can find forgiveness in Christ, so can you.
You do not have to hang your head in shame with Jesus regarding your past. If you get nothing else from all I shared here, it’s THAT message right there. Hoping you have a great night.
— Michael
Not.
16
I’m almost 30, not till there’s a ring and a vow.
14 years old, worst mistake ever, but that said he’s still in my life
Seventeen.
Why do you care? You offering?
17, he was 14…and super boring. I did all the work and he turned out gay…owell at least he learned early that vagina wasn’t for him and he didn’t even get off. It was his idea and then he realized it wasn’t exactly how he imagined.
25. No, really.
I was 17, but turning 18 the next month.
The summer after my first year in college…so 19. We had dated for 4 years before that, and my experience with her was amazing.
Oddly enough, we broke up a few months after that when she moved.
@Rhindon - Wow..,I can’t believe I read that. I like reading ppl’s viewpoint on god & religion only because I’m not religious and I find it mesmerizing….I most likely will never believe in god, but I don’t feel guilty for anything I have ever done in my life. I also feel like any good or bad in my life had no relation to god and his powers. I couldn’t imagine feeling guilty at any point in time in my life over a celestial being who I doubt is real. I mean I find it very powerful for someone such as yourself to share something that seems so personal and heartfelt of an experience I mean….wow I couldn’t imagine what it’s like to feel as passionate about something as you do with god. I’m glad u have a good relationship with your maker…I don’t know I like reading that stuff cuz it surprises me that’s all.
@Iam_so_fat - I appreciate that you read it anyway. Thank you. *chuckles* Normally, some of the things you said might incline me to try reasoning about the validity of God’s reality and all…but I don’t think this is the time for such a discussion.
However, I welcome you to check out my site. If you ever have questions (or
challenges
), you’re more than free to stop by and we can have a chat about what strikes your fancy regarding the Bible and such. (My other site is NaitoOfNarnia.Xanga.com, but I don’t post to that one anymore, though I still reply to comments made on it.)
Suffice to say, belief ought to be based on truth, but belief must be freely given. So any discussions we
might
have are nothing you will have to worry about – I’ll never pressure/”force” you to believe (as if I could, heh).
I’m curious, though. What exactly about what I shared struck you so deeply?
I was an oak all through high school, then I got to college and everything changed…haha
@kaniix - If you don’t mind taking a moment…read the (big) comment I left previously above yours… A perspective to consider.
@Rhindon - Honestly when I read ppl’s stories they seem legitimately passionate about it and really seem “into” the feeling. I guess what I’m saying is…I’m perplexed at even imagining feeling so deeply about something…I mean I have never even loved a human as much as it seems your relationship with God, and I honestly have no problem with people’s beliefs cuz I have even taken a college course on the Old Testament although I don’t think I learned anything different but uhh…Idk don’t have an answer. I always wonder if one day when I’m like 70 years old(if I make it that long) if I will get a euphoria of God because of fear if what happens at death. I mean honestly I have been to church a LOT in my life but I feel ridiculous there cuz I see how everyone really feels in their heart and believes but nothing I mean nothing in my life has happened yet to give me a change if heart and I always wonder if I will ever see it the way others do. I mean my mom says she prays for me all the time so that I don’t go to hell…but I say “mom…how can I go to hell if I truly don’t believe it exists” and she always gives me the wrong answer and I roll my eyes in frustration cuz I’m hoping maybe I am really confused. I guess I’m just ignorant and don’t understand. I’ll check your page out and subscribe I like different perspectives. I read/research every religion and belief system there is and still I am like not even 1% close to understanding where this feeling comes from.
@Iam_so_fat - The good news is that 1) I do understand your confusion and frustration that you express, 2) there ARE answers to your questions, and 3) you are SEARCHING.
If you’ll allow me…the Bible mentions, “If you search for Me, you will find Me.” Doesn’t quite answer the WHEN, but keep searching.
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15 .. i wasnt ready n i regret it . but it made me stronger … i think .
Not until I’m married and I’m 25 now.
@TheTheologiansCafe – How about you?
@Kiwigummy - Never being kissed sucks. Pikachu bento, however, is awesome.
I was 18 and she was 16. She was already experienced and knew what she wanted!
Trick question! I can’t lose something I hold tight! I mean…uh…Yeah, no one wants it.
I was 18, and it was two and a half weeks after graduation. It was one of the best days of my life because it was with somebody who I love and planned to stay with (two years later and things are still great).
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I haven’t and I don’t plan to, the whole idea of it is just gross. O:)
Under the assumption that I believe in such a thing as “losing your virginity”, I was 18 and we’re still together. (although many people I encounter here think I did at a much younger age, because of how much of a whore I am, apparently).
24 to the person I loved at the time. Don’t regret it.
I was 18. I didn’t want to lose it so quickly, but it just kinda happened. He didn’t force me; I was just stupid and no one had ever liked me like that before so I caved in.
17… don’t regret it he treated me with respect and cared about me… didn’t love each other but there was feelings there.
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I’m 27 and don’t see any reason to give it up any time soon.
17.
16 with my best male friends, we weren’t even dating we just decided we wanted to. 7 years later, we still talk and are still great friends!
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The whole concept of virginity is pretty useless, if you ask me. I argue that we all have multiple “virginities” for each sex act, for each act with a new partner, etc.
Further, I always wonder if [other] people who were sexually assaulted as a child use their adult number and “reclaim” their virginity, or if they feel tainted by their younger sexual experiences…? (I’m sure this is different for every person.)
Haven’t yet.
Maybe I’ll make a blog post when I do … probably not though.
I’ll tell you after i get married. ok? :p
You’re pretty nervy asking that personal question!
~16 and a half. Not together with the guy anymore, but I still love him -____-’
Proud to say I’m 17 and haven’t lost it yet (:
@svrd04 - don’t hate me, but this comment made me go “dawwwwwwwww”
ummm. 16 or 17 for me. i don’t remember the exact age but it was one of the two. i don’t exactly regret it but it wasn’t one of my proudest moments. we weren’t together long and didn’t stay together long. if i could have a redo i’d have stayed a virgin.
I can’t believe people are actually answering this question…
Waiting for marriage.
I was 16.
Not yet I am 28 and still a virgin, nearly lost it in 2010, this female on holiday who was one of the hotel enterainment team wanted to marry me. also I have never been kissed.
Now you have asked us this question, now we would like to know your answer if you don’t mind answering the question.
@xthread - I was thinking about that recently too. I would be interested to learn about people’s attitudes on reclaiming their virginity for their first consensual experience, regard the two dates, reject the notion of virginity entirely or whatever else.
19…and not what I expected at all =P
19. I only wanted to sleep with a person I married or ended up marrying. I did end up marrying him, so I’m happy. I do wish he had lost his virginity to me. I know it sounds a little selfish, but I don’t like thinking about him ever sleeping with anyone else. I worry sometimes that he compares me to them. I wish it had crossed his mind that maybe his future wife would like him to have saved himself for her.
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I was 7 seconds old. I seduced the Dr. who delivered me, and fucked her silly
April 21st next year to my bride to be!!!!
16 and it was great!
21. Was pretty much my first everything that year, still with him now; was and is awesome.
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@grizzlybearr - Thanks, I’m sort of proud of that. So, there’s no way I could hate you. Plus, you being cute is really in your favor as well
17. my first love. : )
I’m ashamed to admit that I was 18. My group of friends were all at 17. I made up for it since then with a lot of sex. (more than my friends) ha ha
I was 18. I wish I hadn’t, although I didn’t really care at the time.
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I still have mine
15 or 16, can’t really remember. Was a sophomore in high school
23, on my wedding night.
@Rhindon - Well thank you for sharing. I’m not offended by others beliefs what so ever. I believe there is a God. I used to go to church and study the bible I’m just having trouble with Jesus. Not if he was real… Just everything.
When I was younger I didn’t really question it as much but now I do. I have friends and family with many different religious backgrounds so I try to respect other peoples views.
I my self was kinda pressured into baptism when I was 16 and wasn’t sure I was ready. I still don’t think I am ready to commit to anything because how I question everything. Actually one of my uncles is a Pastor for the “New Life” None denominational Christian Churches and I would attend services as a kid some times.
I guess you could say I’m just searching. I’m not trying to pick and choose… I’m just trying to find something that makes sense to me.
@MistyEyes22 - Let me tell you that there is no shame in wanting things to make sense. That your search is a good one if you’re truly trying to find the Truth, even if the Bible and all doesn’t seem to fit the bill. I’m sorry that you felt pressured to be baptized when you didn’t yet feel ready. It certainly ought to be something you were ready to do on your own, for it’s not so genuine if you do it just to appease others – but that’s much more a shame on those who pressured you. Keep on searching, and if you like, if you have any questions and need a friendly ear, I’ll do my best to be available to you. You can ask me anything and I’ll give you an honest answer when I can give any answer at all. No question is too “odd” for me to help with.
21. a long waited for, well worth the wait experience with a boyfriend i’d been best friends with. i never had a boyfriend in highschool, by choice. so when it was right it was right and i went for it. we stayed together for 6 years and we no longer speak. but i don’t regret it at all. it was great.
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15 or 16… i have no idea.
18.
21. I wasn’t waiting; just didn’t think anyone was worthy of it.
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18 still hate myself that i did it. Wish i was still virgin
I was 17 and she was 15 going on to 16. We’ve been together for a year and a half before then.
@reginasikora - Thats is so true empress. I hope you find the guy who will treat you with respect and love you the way you deserve.
I was 20. Two or three weeks away from our wedding. My husband (then fiance) had gotten so fed up with the accusations that we were already doing it that we just stopped caring about waiting for the ceremony and one day when we had time to ourselves… waiting seemed stupid. When I was a teenager, the church tried to pressure us into signing those promise cards and all of that. I refused to sign it, not because I didn’t intend to wait, but because the silly thing said that I had to promise not to date anyone who hadn’t waited. I had already thought and prayed about that and it hit me that to write someone off as someone I couldn’t date because of what might have been a mistake, or what might have been something he thought was more real than she did… didn’t strike me as something I wanted to do. I am glad I didn’t sign that card or make that promise… I’d have missed out on a really fantastic marriage if I had. (I tend to keep promises pretty steadfastly… I don’t make them lightly at all.)
14…
16
28. 25 if you count cyber…
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17, to an exchange student in Italy
I was 12, she was 32. It was sheer magic, she promised me an A for the quarter… Is it bad that I was homeschooled?
15 yr old but I’ve got a reason for that
When I was 23, I married my guy on May 3rd, 1980. That night, after our wedding, we gave each other the gift of our pure selves, untouched by any other, unviolated, unscathed…We’ve been happily faithful to each other all these years and find that it’s such a relief to never have had to worry about diseases or emotional garbage. This loyalty is a source of contentment, peace. Boredom was never an issue. I am blessed.
I was thinking about that recently too. I would be interested to learn about people’s attitudes on reclaiming their virginity for their first consensual experience, regard the two dates, reject the notion of virginity entirely or whatever else.
I began reading about it a little after commenting here and it seems many childhood sexual assault victims do feel that they lost their virginity in the experience (notably, that it was taken or stolen from them). I liked this one way I saw things framed: “I’d like to think that someone who is a victim of such a crime [rape] should be able to still feel comfortable claiming their virginity, as they did not give it up, it was stolen from them. There’s a lot of technicalities and personal opinion in there, but to someone who was raped, it may be comforting to still think they can claim some sort of rights and control to their body when so much was taken from them.” I mean, I personally think virginity is just an awful concept (see next paragraph) and thus feel that memorizing any date is useless (let alone multiple dates), but understanding that to many people virginity is still important, well, I agree with the quote- everyone should have the freedom to regard their firstconsensual experience as their first experience. (However, that gets us into two more issues: 1- how people are defining and practicing consent, and 2- how powerful a negative and life-changing experience it is to be the victim of sexual assault {so I can understand all the emphasis on virginity especially for an assault victim}).
don’t know why people make such a big deal about the physical part of losing your virginity. you know when you lose your virginity…sex is more than just a physical experience.
@MistyEyes22 - good for you. to have to confidence to search and question is respectable!
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I was 16. It was…a weird situation where my sister said that she lost her virginity (she was 14) and she kept pushing me to do it and she kept forcing me on this guy, and then I did however. It was terrible, short, and totally not worth it…but the best part is in the end, I found out she lied. She actually was a virgin…
There really isn’t a positive note there…I don’t generally think or talk about it either I suppose.
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17
I was two weeks shy of 17. I wish I had waited for my husband.
lol
20, and my girlfriend (who was also a virgin at the time) was 19. It was a couple days after our four month anniversary.
We’re still going strong! (at almost 8 months)
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meh not proud but don’t regret it either
14….not my choice…horrible experience
14 for me. 18 almost 19 for my hubby. He’s such a prude . Took me two years to get him to walk around with his shirt off.
still a virgin..im 23..
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I lost my virginity at 17 1/2. I had dated the guy since I was 12 and we were totally ready–scared, but ready. LOL. he was 19. Now I’m almost 20 and we’re married with a one year old son.
16. I had been with the guy for almost 3 years. It was still kind of lame because he lasted way too long lol.
Some folks do it for the experience. Others do it on a dare. I suppose if someone sort of exaggerates they can make a big deal about virginity.
Basically sex is an ongoing process. Some folks feel the connectiveness. The old the two shall become one thing. Others just move onto another partner. Basically I lost my virginity at 21. The girl was slightly inebrieted and horny but she plainly told me that I was a substitute and not her choice as her special man. Previously I had girlfriends. One I just did sexplay and not penile penetration. Other did french kissing and a bit of fondling. However there was a bit of bonding which was easily broken later. There are folks who have intimidate relationships via email. They develop the bond mentally. The mental bonding thing should not be overlooked. I suppose Theo Dan remembers the woman who has given him her body to feel. That is a sort of “virginity” that a woman has specially given to him. I am no longer able to touch my ex wife, but the closeness that I had remains a special memory of her. I suppose now I compartmentize the love for my new girlfriend. Any woman that has opened up to me remains special, shouldn’t all acts of sex be a special bond?
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So may claim I waited much too long.
We dissagree.
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@Richgem - I read your comment after I posted mine (above). My husband and I waited, I was 23 as well, and I couldn’t agree with you more. I like the way you emphasize “giving” and not “losing”- there is a distinct difference.
@Rhindon - My husband and I waited until marriage; we were 22 and 23, respectively. So I agree with you- and a few other posters on here-that there is such a thing as “giving” your virginity to someone as opposed to “losing” it. We had been dating for a year and a half, knew each other for years before that because of living in the same community and going to the same church; in fact, we were somewhat friends before we dated. I’ve not regretted waiting for even one second of my life, and though I have made mistakes in my life, waiting certainly wasn’t one of them. In looking at the OP’s most recent post, about “rating” the first time, I am appalled at how awful many people’s experience with losing/giving away their virginity is. I preferred not to comment on that post because I feel like it was too special an occasion for me to try to put a number on it or describe it in detail. But it was nothing like most people described it, and although practice does make perfect (married six years and still going strong!), according to most of what I read there, our experience was pretty much mountaintop. It felt right because it WAS right. I’m a Christian, so of course my views will influence my theory on that: I believe that when we choose to honor God and do things His way, He often blesses what we chose to do wisely. Maybe not everyone who waits until marriage experiences that, but we did… Christianity aside, I think it still makes sense to wait from an emotional standpoint. Sex is a big deal, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. To wait until you are committed for life, and emotionally connected, and have a future together is a great way to start a marriage. So many problems in our society would be almost nonexistent if people would protect their own and each others’ sexuality for the important, priceless, and private thing that it is.
I had my first sexual experience with another person early in college. I have continued to have more and varied sexual experiences since then. I don’t have a specific experience or date when I lost my virginity because I view it more as a continuous thing.
@imsookillerrr - male “friends”? Plural? You lost your virginity in an orgy???? I’m so boring!
@cathurynn - O.o Virginity is something you either have or don’t. Either you have had sex, or you haven’t. You don’t progressively give away your virginity – maybe your heart, but not your virginity.
“This is going to be the most painful and traumatizing experience of your life, but don’t worry, I’ll make it so horrible that you’ll accept pain and trauma as the default experience of sexual intercourse for the rest of your life, and then you’ll thank me for it.”
Average loss of virginity experience. What the fuck is virginity?Shit I was praying to get laid in the 2nd grade. Virginity = sexual ignorance? Virginity = I have not had sexual relations with anyone anywhere at any time ever so help me God? Virginity = Never even THOUGHT about having sex? Virginity = Interest in Sexual MoralityLost Virginity = Decided to believe that all sex is rape/sin.
@stationary_seniorita - doing things because society wants you to and not because you want to…nothing more american than that! praise god for social expectations and the loss of collective innocence in the united states. later guys, I’m gonna go become a porn star for jesus!
Haven’t yet. It’ll be a few weeks before my 21st birthday though – 117 days. That’s when I’m getting married. It’ll be our first kiss too.
@Rhindon - Unfortunately I didn’t know I was in the sort of situation that involved mistakes. I was so blind…
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I’m 25 and still a virgin. Hell like a couple of you, I still haven’t been kissed -_- I’ll have to get back to you on the whole ‘virginity and the loss of it’ thing :-p
The summer I turned 18.
@itsxeverlong - Yes, sex is definitely more than just the physical, but it is, obviously, partly physical, too. The physical is just as important as the rest. That’s why it must be held with equal respect.
@stationary_seniorita - Can you explain further? …if you don’t mind, of course. Reply here or message me, whichever is more comfortable to share.
@mikenpeg - Your own testimony is powerful, even without the (surely wonderful) explicit details (best save those for your husband anyway ). Unfortunately, I have the very opposite experience, as you know. The finer details are here (http://naitoofnarnia.xanga.com/724796622/struggles-with-sex—a-testimony-part-19/), though I don’t get explicitly detailed, either, but I do describe the nature of what I have done generally. From my own experience, I can testify that sex before marriage is NOT the way to go.
22. I wanted to wait for my future husband but I made a decision that I now regret. Since virginity is the high standard by which the church judges and I don’t have that anymore, I go by the (more realistic?) intention of, “it’s not about virginity, it’s about purity.” If it was only about virginity, then why stop after you lose it?
I guess it depends on what your definition of “losing your virginity” means. I had my first sexual encounter (w/out intercourse) when I was 20yrs old, but didn’t really “go all the way” until 4 years later.
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Ear, 15.
Oh man. I was born in a vagina! True story!
I don’t remember… However old I was when I stopped telling people I had a Xanga site.
17… Didn’t want to, didn’t know it was going to happen, but it did.
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Ask your sister. I kid, I kid!
21. I was chained down by Olivia Wilde, Megan Fox, Jeri Ryan and Elizabeth Hurley and they made passionate love to me for 163 hours. Then afterwards they cooked me up my favorite foods, and massaged my feet and shoulders while I played video games.
Or something like that.
14
18.
17 and a half.
@QuantumStorm - love this. lol.
older than i am now… if ever
15.
23. It was more than worth the wait. Because I love him, and will stay with him.
19…I lost it too a hooker at a bachelor party. Not exactly the most romantic way…lol…
15, cried for an hour in the bathroom because I didn’t want to. It wasn’t rape! I was just stupid.
I didn’t lose it: I gave it to my wife on our wedding night (and I was 34)…
21 lol
15.
22…horrible experience.
I’m 23, never been kissed. *shrugs*
I was 16 she was 15. We were only together for four months before we had sex. It was perfect. We spent the next six years together. Glad to say no regrets.
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@MistyEyes22 - I cried in bed for an hour for the exact same reason… Don’t feel bad about it now though, it was the past. Those types of experiences are the worst, but best learned from. I hope.
Fourteen.
22 and going strong. I’m holding out!
14.
24
is that important?
18, almost 19
15.
LOL. What more Xanga, does she want from me today? All my passwords and maybe three decades worth of letters of reference? ARRRG! It was before I was ready, probably a junior in highschool, 16ish and I had been being harassed by boys, rushed and harassed, pushed, rushed, pressured, rushed, gah, teenage boys do not like to take no for an anwer, that’s for sure!
I didn’t “lose” my virginity. I gave it away foolishly to a woman I wasn’t married to and couldn’t even say I loved. I was 21…and I wish I could take it all back. That I can’t give my WHOLE self solely and entirely to just my future wife pains me to the core. I don’t want her worrying about whether or not I’m thinking of or remembering any other woman. She doesn’t deserve that sort of stress.
@MistyEyes22 - Mind if I share a personal story? It does have a Christian theme to it, but I promise I ain’t here to preach. Just want to offer some encouragement, if I may.
@stationary_seniorita - They certainly do provide some of the “best” ways to learn and mature. Unfortunately, they are often the same mistakes made by others whom we could otherwise learn from if we just paid attention to the mistakes of the past. The School of Hard Knocks is often a private tutor education…of sorts.
@QuantumStorm - Wet dreams don’t count.
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A private matter really, but dont tell…i was 2000 years old, too young really…
15 <3
@Rhindon - lol I don’t mind people expressing themselves and sharing…
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I lost it to a saucy watermelon who drenched me in her juices.
@MistyEyes22 - Now, I’m not sure what your thoughts and feelings are towards God, Jesus, the Bible (and its claims), and Christianity in general…so fair warning, I’m quite passionate about my faith in Jesus and my role in His life (I bet someone is thinking I ought to have said His role in my life…heh heh). Suffice to say, I hold God and His Word very dear to my heart, so that may help explain
why
what I’m about to share is such a big deal.
The afternoon I had given away my virginity – I hadn’t even orgasmed…I entered her but I stopped us long before things got really ”steamy” – I realized I had just given away something so dear and precious. It’s not like running out of cash and I just earn a paycheck, or running out of food and simply buy more at the store. Clearly, there’s no reversing one’s state from non-virgin to virgin once again. This fact hit hard to me. Partly because I had promised God, myself, and my future bride (whomever she was going to be) that I would wait…yeah, I attended True Love Waits as a teen. Then, a matter of years later, not even five years, I believe, I had wasted the gift of my virginity on a woman I haven’t even seen for the last 10 years. She’s a woman completely in my past. A shadow, essentially…I wasted the gift of my wife being the only woman to ever know my body, heart, mind, and soul so intimately and privately…on a mere shadow.
Sometime during the next three days, I was driving along, listening to the Christian radio station, KLOVE. Thinking over what I had done and only half-listening to what was going on on the radio, I began praying. If you can imagine a man broken in mind and heart, and crumbling to his knees in body, then that would have been me as I sat in the car, praying (I kept my eyes open, of course…after all, I was driving LOL. I didn’t think it would be wise to instigate prayers of fright!).
I don’t remember exactly what I said to God that day, but it was a complete confession of the fact that I had had sex before I was married. I behaved carelessly (ie: I could be a daddy now and I wasn’t even financially ready, and much less ready in terms of maturity then). I behaved selfishly, opting to indulge in instant gratification rather than thinking about how this would affect my then-girlfriend (the one I had sex with), my family, my future wife (heck, I didn’t know if I even wanted to marry the girl I had sex with!), and my future kids, whom would look up to me for wisdom and a consistent track record of living right. Oh…the list goes on. I admitted to God that I realized I had seriously screwed up.
I begged Him for one thing. I knew, by promise of His Word (the Bible), my experience as a Christian up to that point, and the logic behind reason for Jesus’ death on the Cross… I knew that I was forgiven for all my sins. I had asked earlier, shortly after I stopped my girlfriend and I from continuing with our sexual escapade, for God to forgive me. In my head I knew I was forgiven.
But if you have ever tried to reach out to God, yourself, you may know that God doesn’t always seem to answer, let alone be there. That’s how I felt then. I felt very much alone. Alone in a courtroom, standing in the middle of the room with a judge and jury and the spot light glaring down on me…guilty stamped on my head. That’s how I felt since I couldn’t sense God with me. I feared very much that He was furious with me – I was already angry at and ashamed of myself. Even though I know that the Bible says that God is slow to anger, quick to forgive, and often spares us many if not all of the consequences we naturally deserve when we sin, I still felt like God was shaking His head at me.
So when I prayed, I asked God to please, PLEASE tell me somehow, with His own voice (or something that tells me He heard me), that I was forgiven. I needed to from Him that I was forgiven.
As soon as I said “Amen”, on comes the verse of the day on the radio, a verse selected to encourage listeners…
The verse was this: “Mercy triumphs over judgment” (James 2:13b). The timing at which I said Amen and the verse was read on air could not be better. Could not be more perfect. Truly and really, God heard my prayer, and He did answer me at that moment. Now, any critics who may read this little testimony to you may call out that it wasn’t God’s voice, but the DJ’s. True enough. But God often works through other mediums, other people or circumstances to share with you and me that He loves us.
Here, in my story, I hope to encourage you with a simple but deep Truth. Your choice to give up your virginity way back when is certainly no good thing when you weren’t even married to that guy. But know this, no matter how grave your mistakes are, that’s what Jesus died for: to give you freedom from your past. Yes, natural consequences may and will certainly follow, and there’s no promise that you’ll escape those things. However, there’s no promise that God won’t set you free from those natural consequences, either.
My point is that if you are willing – if you haven’t already – you simply need to “bow down” to God in your heart and begin living for Him (a simple description, but not so easily done…heh heh, I know). And you can know that you are forgiven. Your past, essentially, will NOT be held against you.
Jesus’ parables, such as the prodigal son and the story of the one son who said he wouldn’t listen to his dad, but later obeyed anyway… Those stories, and others, are to encourage His listeners that while sinning against God is a very serious thing and not to be taken lightly, God’s mercy and grace is MUCH BIGGER than the very big sins and mistakes we have made.
Just as any inmate on death row who has accepted Christ. Yup, definitely gonna have to face the consequences of their crimes, but in the end, because they accepted Jesus’ sacrifice for their sins, they can know that Heaven is still in their future. If such criminals can find forgiveness in Christ, so can you.
You do not have to hang your head in shame with Jesus regarding your past. If you get nothing else from all I shared here, it’s THAT message right there.
Hoping you have a great night.
— Michael
Not.
16
I’m almost 30, not till there’s a ring and a vow.
14 years old, worst mistake ever, but that said he’s still in my life
Seventeen.
Why do you care? You offering?
17, he was 14…and super boring. I did all the work and he turned out gay…owell at least he learned early that vagina wasn’t for him and he didn’t even get off. It was his idea and then he realized it wasn’t exactly how he imagined.
25. No, really.
I was 17, but turning 18 the next month.
The summer after my first year in college…so 19. We had dated for 4 years before that, and my experience with her was amazing.
Oddly enough, we broke up a few months after that when she moved.
@Rhindon - Wow..,I can’t believe I read that. I like reading ppl’s viewpoint on god & religion only because I’m not religious and I find it mesmerizing….I most likely will never believe in god, but I don’t feel guilty for anything I have ever done in my life. I also feel like any good or bad in my life had no relation to god and his powers. I couldn’t imagine feeling guilty at any point in time in my life over a celestial being who I doubt is real. I mean I find it very powerful for someone such as yourself to share something that seems so personal and heartfelt of an experience I mean….wow I couldn’t imagine what it’s like to feel as passionate about something as you do with god. I’m glad u have a good relationship with your maker…I don’t know I like reading that stuff cuz it surprises me that’s all.
@Iam_so_fat - I appreciate that you read it anyway.
Thank you. *chuckles* Normally, some of the things you said might incline me to try reasoning about the validity of God’s reality and all…but I don’t think this is the time for such a discussion.
However, I welcome you to check out my site. If you ever have questions (or
challenges
), you’re more than free to stop by and we can have a chat about what strikes your fancy regarding the Bible and such.
(My other site is NaitoOfNarnia.Xanga.com, but I don’t post to that one anymore, though I still reply to comments made on it.)
Suffice to say, belief ought to be based on truth, but belief must be freely given. So any discussions we
might
have are nothing you will have to worry about – I’ll never pressure/”force” you to believe (as if I could, heh).
I’m curious, though. What exactly about what I shared struck you so deeply?
I was an oak all through high school, then I got to college and everything changed…haha
@kaniix - If you don’t mind taking a moment…read the (big) comment I left previously above yours… A perspective to consider.
@Rhindon - Honestly when I read ppl’s stories they seem legitimately passionate about it and really seem “into” the feeling. I guess what I’m saying is…I’m perplexed at even imagining feeling so deeply about something…I mean I have never even loved a human as much as it seems your relationship with God, and I honestly have no problem with people’s beliefs cuz I have even taken a college course on the Old Testament although I don’t think I learned anything different but uhh…Idk don’t have an answer. I always wonder if one day when I’m like 70 years old(if I make it that long) if I will get a euphoria of God because of fear if what happens at death. I mean honestly I have been to church a LOT in my life but I feel ridiculous there cuz I see how everyone really feels in their heart and believes but nothing I mean nothing in my life has happened yet to give me a change if heart and I always wonder if I will ever see it the way others do. I mean my mom says she prays for me all the time so that I don’t go to hell…but I say “mom…how can I go to hell if I truly don’t believe it exists” and she always gives me the wrong answer and I roll my eyes in frustration cuz I’m hoping maybe I am really confused. I guess I’m just ignorant and don’t understand. I’ll check your page out and subscribe I like different perspectives. I read/research every religion and belief system there is and still I am like not even 1% close to understanding where this feeling comes from.
@Iam_so_fat - The good news is that 1) I do understand your confusion and frustration that you express, 2) there ARE answers to your questions, and 3) you are SEARCHING.
If you’ll allow me…the Bible mentions, “If you search for Me, you will find Me.” Doesn’t quite answer the WHEN, but keep searching.
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15 .. i wasnt ready n i regret it . but it made me stronger … i think .
Not until I’m married and I’m 25 now.
@TheTheologiansCafe – How about you?
@Kiwigummy - Never being kissed sucks. Pikachu bento, however, is awesome.
I was 18 and she was 16. She was already experienced and knew what she wanted!
Trick question! I can’t lose something I hold tight! I mean…uh…Yeah, no one wants it.
I was 18, and it was two and a half weeks after graduation. It was one of the best days of my life because it was with somebody who I love and planned to stay with (two years later and things are still great).
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I haven’t and I don’t plan to, the whole idea of it is just gross. O:)
Under the assumption that I believe in such a thing as “losing your virginity”, I was 18 and we’re still together. (although many people I encounter here think I did at a much younger age, because of how much of a whore I am, apparently).
24 to the person I loved at the time. Don’t regret it.
I was 18. I didn’t want to lose it so quickly, but it just kinda happened. He didn’t force me; I was just stupid and no one had ever liked me like that before so I caved in.
17… don’t regret it he treated me with respect and cared about me… didn’t love each other but there was feelings there.
15
I’m 27 and don’t see any reason to give it up any time soon.
17.
16 with my best male friends, we weren’t even dating we just decided we wanted to. 7 years later, we still talk and are still great friends!
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The whole concept of virginity is pretty useless, if you ask me. I argue that we all have multiple “virginities” for each sex act, for each act with a new partner, etc.
Further, I always wonder if [other] people who were sexually assaulted as a child use their adult number and “reclaim” their virginity, or if they feel tainted by their younger sexual experiences…? (I’m sure this is different for every person.)
Haven’t yet.
Maybe I’ll make a blog post when I do … probably not though.
I’ll tell you after i get married. ok? :p
You’re pretty nervy asking that personal question!
~16 and a half. Not together with the guy anymore, but I still love him -____-’
Proud to say I’m 17 and haven’t lost it yet (:
@svrd04 - don’t hate me, but this comment made me go “dawwwwwwwww”
ummm. 16 or 17 for me. i don’t remember the exact age but it was one of the two. i don’t exactly regret it but it wasn’t one of my proudest moments. we weren’t together long and didn’t stay together long. if i could have a redo i’d have stayed a virgin.
I can’t believe people are actually answering this question…
Waiting for marriage.
I was 16.
Not yet I am 28 and still a virgin, nearly lost it in 2010, this female on holiday who was one of the hotel enterainment team wanted to marry me. also I have never been kissed.
Now you have asked us this question, now we would like to know your answer if you don’t mind answering the question.
@xthread - I was thinking about that recently too. I would be interested to learn about people’s attitudes on reclaiming their virginity for their first consensual experience, regard the two dates, reject the notion of virginity entirely or whatever else.
19…and not what I expected at all =P
19. I only wanted to sleep with a person I married or ended up marrying. I did end up marrying him, so I’m happy. I do wish he had lost his virginity to me. I know it sounds a little selfish, but I don’t like thinking about him ever sleeping with anyone else. I worry sometimes that he compares me to them. I wish it had crossed his mind that maybe his future wife would like him to have saved himself for her.
16
I was 7 seconds old. I seduced the Dr. who delivered me, and fucked her silly
April 21st next year to my bride to be!!!!
16 and it was great!
21. Was pretty much my first everything that year, still with him now; was and is awesome.
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@grizzlybearr - Thanks, I’m sort of proud of that. So, there’s no way I could hate you. Plus, you being cute is really in your favor as well
17. my first love. : )
I’m ashamed to admit that I was 18. My group of friends were all at 17. I made up for it since then with a lot of sex. (more than my friends) ha ha
I was 18. I wish I hadn’t, although I didn’t really care at the time.
17
I still have mine
15 or 16, can’t really remember. Was a sophomore in high school
23, on my wedding night.
@Rhindon - Well thank you for sharing. I’m not offended by others beliefs what so ever. I believe there is a God. I used to go to church and study the bible I’m just having trouble with Jesus. Not if he was real… Just everything.
When I was younger I didn’t really question it as much but now I do. I have friends and family with many different religious backgrounds so I try to respect other peoples views.
I my self was kinda pressured into baptism when I was 16 and wasn’t sure I was ready. I still don’t think I am ready to commit to anything because how I question everything. Actually one of my uncles is a Pastor for the “New Life” None denominational Christian Churches and I would attend services as a kid some times.
I guess you could say I’m just searching. I’m not trying to pick and choose… I’m just trying to find something that makes sense to me.
@PervyPenguin - I lol’ed at that.
@MistyEyes22 - Let me tell you that there is no shame in wanting things to make sense. That your search is a good one if you’re truly trying to find the Truth, even if the Bible and all doesn’t seem to fit the bill.
I’m sorry that you felt pressured to be baptized when you didn’t yet feel ready. It certainly ought to be something you were ready to do on your own, for it’s not so genuine if you do it just to appease others – but that’s much more a shame on those who pressured you.
Keep on searching, and if you like, if you have any questions and need a friendly ear, I’ll do my best to be available to you. You can ask me anything and I’ll give you an honest answer when I can give any answer at all. No question is too “odd” for me to help with.
21. a long waited for, well worth the wait experience with a boyfriend i’d been best friends with. i never had a boyfriend in highschool, by choice. so when it was right it was right and i went for it. we stayed together for 6 years and we no longer speak. but i don’t regret it at all. it was great.
16
15 or 16… i have no idea.
18.
21. I wasn’t waiting; just didn’t think anyone was worthy of it.
18
18 still hate myself that i did it. Wish i was still virgin
I was 17 and she was 15 going on to 16. We’ve been together for a year and a half before then.
@reginasikora - Thats is so true empress. I hope you find the guy who will treat you with respect and love you the way you deserve.
I was 20. Two or three weeks away from our wedding. My husband (then fiance) had gotten so fed up with the accusations that we were already doing it that we just stopped caring about waiting for the ceremony and one day when we had time to ourselves… waiting seemed stupid. When I was a teenager, the church tried to pressure us into signing those promise cards and all of that. I refused to sign it, not because I didn’t intend to wait, but because the silly thing said that I had to promise not to date anyone who hadn’t waited. I had already thought and prayed about that and it hit me that to write someone off as someone I couldn’t date because of what might have been a mistake, or what might have been something he thought was more real than she did… didn’t strike me as something I wanted to do. I am glad I didn’t sign that card or make that promise… I’d have missed out on a really fantastic marriage if I had. (I tend to keep promises pretty steadfastly… I don’t make them lightly at all.)
14…
16
28. 25 if you count cyber…
16
17, to an exchange student in Italy
I was 12, she was 32. It was sheer magic, she promised me an A for the quarter… Is it bad that I was homeschooled?
15 yr old but I’ve got a reason for that
When I was 23, I married my guy on May 3rd, 1980. That night, after our wedding, we gave each other the gift of our pure selves, untouched by any other, unviolated, unscathed…We’ve been happily faithful to each other all these years and find that it’s such a relief to never have had to worry about diseases or emotional garbage. This loyalty is a source of contentment, peace. Boredom was never an issue. I am blessed.
@steph843 -
I was thinking about that recently too. I would be interested to learn about people’s attitudes on reclaiming their virginity for their first consensual experience, regard the two dates, reject the notion of virginity entirely or whatever else.
I began reading about it a little after commenting here and it seems many childhood sexual assault victims do feel that they lost their virginity in the experience (notably, that it was taken or stolen from them). I liked this one way I saw things framed: “I’d like to think that someone who is a victim of such a crime [rape] should be able to still feel comfortable claiming their virginity, as they did not give it up, it was stolen from them. There’s a lot of technicalities and personal opinion in there, but to someone who was raped, it may be comforting to still think they can claim some sort of rights and control to their body when so much was taken from them.” I mean, I personally think virginity is just an awful concept (see next paragraph) and thus feel that memorizing any date is useless (let alone multiple dates), but understanding that to many people virginity is still important, well, I agree with the quote- everyone should have the freedom to regard their first consensual experience as their first experience. (However, that gets us into two more issues: 1- how people are defining and practicing consent, and 2- how powerful a negative and life-changing experience it is to be the victim of sexual assault {so I can understand all the emphasis on virginity especially for an assault victim}).
I used to (less than a year ago) know MANY anti-virginity blog posts and books offhand, but it’s a real struggle to recall them now. Some of the ones I can recall include “Virginity: Ditch It” and “‘Queer Sex Doesn’t Count’ And Nine Other Myths Uncovered- And Debunked- at the Harvard ‘Rethinking Virginity’ Conference“. I also know that one of my favorite sex education sites, Scarleteen, has touched on the topic many times (a Google search of “Scarleteen on virginity” brings you to several really good hits, including Virginity, Ideals and Regrets, Virginity in Context, Virginity: Written All Over Her Face? and 20 Questions About Virginity). As for books,The Purity Myth talks a lot about virginity (as does the documentary by the same title), and I know of Virgin: The Untouched History. Anyway… I know you didn’t ask for those, but they just kind of spilled out.
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don’t know why people make such a big deal about the physical part of losing your virginity. you know when you lose your virginity…sex is more than just a physical experience.
@MichellelyNg - word
@MistyEyes22 - good for you. to have to confidence to search and question is respectable!
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15
I was 16. It was…a weird situation where my sister said that she lost her virginity (she was 14) and she kept pushing me to do it and she kept forcing me on this guy, and then I did however. It was terrible, short, and totally not worth it…but the best part is in the end, I found out she lied. She actually was a virgin…
There really isn’t a positive note there…I don’t generally think or talk about it either I suppose.
20
17
I was two weeks shy of 17. I wish I had waited for my husband.
lol
20, and my girlfriend (who was also a virgin at the time) was 19. It was a couple days after our four month anniversary.
We’re still going strong! (at almost 8 months)
15
meh
not proud but don’t regret it either
14….not my choice…horrible experience
14 for me. 18 almost 19 for my hubby. He’s such a prude
. Took me two years to get him to walk around with his shirt off.
still a virgin..im 23..
17
I lost my virginity at 17 1/2. I had dated the guy since I was 12 and we were totally ready–scared, but ready. LOL. he was 19. Now I’m almost 20 and we’re married with a one year old son.
16. I had been with the guy for almost 3 years. It was still kind of lame because he lasted way too long lol.
Some folks do it for the experience. Others do it on a dare. I suppose if someone sort of exaggerates they can make a big deal about virginity.
Basically sex is an ongoing process. Some folks feel the connectiveness. The old the two shall become one thing. Others just move onto another partner.
Basically I lost my virginity at 21. The girl was slightly inebrieted and horny but she plainly told me that I was a substitute and not her choice as her special man.
Previously I had girlfriends. One I just did sexplay and not penile penetration. Other did french kissing and a bit of fondling. However there was a bit of bonding which was easily broken later.
There are folks who have intimidate relationships via email. They develop the bond mentally. The mental bonding thing should not be overlooked.
I suppose Theo Dan remembers the woman who has given him her body to feel. That is a sort of “virginity” that a woman has specially given to him. I am no longer able to touch my ex wife, but the closeness that I had remains a special memory of her. I suppose now I compartmentize the love for my new girlfriend. Any woman that has opened up to me remains special, shouldn’t all acts of sex be a special bond?
20
23
So may claim I waited much too long.
We dissagree.
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@Richgem - I read your comment after I posted mine (above). My husband and I waited, I was 23 as well, and I couldn’t agree with you more. I like the way you emphasize “giving” and not “losing”- there is a distinct difference.
@Rhindon - My husband and I waited until marriage; we were 22 and 23, respectively. So I agree with you- and a few other posters on here-that there is such a thing as “giving” your virginity to someone as opposed to “losing” it. We had been dating for a year and a half, knew each other for years before that because of living in the same community and going to the same church; in fact, we were somewhat friends before we dated. I’ve not regretted waiting for even one second of my life, and though I have made mistakes in my life, waiting certainly wasn’t one of them.
In looking at the OP’s most recent post, about “rating” the first time, I am appalled at how awful many people’s experience with losing/giving away their virginity is. I preferred not to comment on that post because I feel like it was too special an occasion for me to try to put a number on it or describe it in detail. But it was nothing like most people described it, and although practice does make perfect (married six years and still going strong!), according to most of what I read there, our experience was pretty much mountaintop. It felt right because it WAS right. I’m a Christian, so of course my views will influence my theory on that: I believe that when we choose to honor God and do things His way, He often blesses what we chose to do wisely. Maybe not everyone who waits until marriage experiences that, but we did…
Christianity aside, I think it still makes sense to wait from an emotional standpoint. Sex is a big deal, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. To wait until you are committed for life, and emotionally connected, and have a future together is a great way to start a marriage. So many problems in our society would be almost nonexistent if people would protect their own and each others’ sexuality for the important, priceless, and private thing that it is.
I had my first sexual experience with another person early in college. I have continued to have more and varied sexual experiences since then. I don’t have a specific experience or date when I lost my virginity because I view it more as a continuous thing.
@imsookillerrr - male “friends”? Plural? You lost your virginity in an orgy???? I’m so boring!
@cathurynn - O.o Virginity is something you either have or don’t. Either you have had sex, or you haven’t. You don’t progressively give away your virginity – maybe your heart, but not your virginity.
“This is going to be the most painful and traumatizing experience of your life, but don’t worry, I’ll make it so horrible that you’ll accept pain and trauma as the default experience of sexual intercourse for the rest of your life, and then you’ll thank me for it.”
Average loss of virginity experience.
What the fuck is virginity?Shit I was praying to get laid in the 2nd grade.
Virginity = sexual ignorance? Virginity = I have not had sexual relations with anyone anywhere at any time ever so help me God?
Virginity = Never even THOUGHT about having sex?
Virginity = Interest in Sexual MoralityLost Virginity = Decided to believe that all sex is rape/sin.
@stationary_seniorita - doing things because society wants you to and not because you want to…nothing more american than that! praise god for social expectations and the loss of collective innocence in the united states. later guys, I’m gonna go become a porn star for jesus!
@Heartbreakkid123 - Thank you, I really appreciate that.
Haven’t yet. It’ll be a few weeks before my 21st birthday though – 117 days. That’s when I’m getting married. It’ll be our first kiss too.
@Rhindon - Unfortunately I didn’t know I was in the sort of situation that involved mistakes. I was so blind…
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I’m 25 and still a virgin. Hell like a couple of you, I still haven’t been kissed -_- I’ll have to get back to you on the whole ‘virginity and the loss of it’ thing :-p
The summer I turned 18.
@itsxeverlong - Yes, sex is definitely more than just the physical, but it is, obviously, partly physical, too. The physical is just as important as the rest. That’s why it must be held with equal respect.
@stationary_seniorita - Can you explain further? …if you don’t mind, of course. Reply here or message me, whichever is more comfortable to share.
@mikenpeg - Your own testimony is powerful, even without the (surely wonderful) explicit details (best save those for your husband anyway
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Unfortunately, I have the very opposite experience, as you know. The finer details are here (http://naitoofnarnia.xanga.com/724796622/struggles-with-sex—a-testimony-part-19/), though I don’t get explicitly detailed, either, but I do describe the nature of what I have done generally. From my own experience, I can testify that sex before marriage is NOT the way to go.
@tst08 - I didn’t do anything for ‘society’.
22. I wanted to wait for my future husband but I made a decision that I now regret. Since virginity is the high standard by which the church judges and I don’t have that anymore, I go by the (more realistic?) intention of, “it’s not about virginity, it’s about purity.” If it was only about virginity, then why stop after you lose it?
I guess it depends on what your definition of “losing your virginity” means. I had my first sexual encounter (w/out intercourse) when I was 20yrs old, but didn’t really “go all the way” until 4 years later.
@stationary_seniorita - good me neither
2 years ago this October, the day after I wed. We were so tired the actual night of the wedding, we simply unpacked and went to sleep. LOL
@Kiwigummy - Keep it up. *hugs*
I wish I had’ve saved all my intimate moments for my husband’s sake. 
@wordyferalvelociraptor - So, take up your cross, and keep choosing purity. Don’t live in the past. Let it go. I wish you the best!
*hugs*
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