December 3, 2012
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Remembering the Life of an Abuser
I want to join the Kansas City Chiefs and their fans in celebrating Jovan Belcher who killed his girlfriend and then himself.
Fans came together to celebrate his memory:
The above is a great photo showing fans lifting up his jersey.Some fans expressed their sadness:
Women put aside the petty issue of domestic abuse for the larger good like this woman:
Players and coaches embraced:
The team owner offered his support:
More tears were shed:
They bowed their head in silence:
Fans wanted him to rest in peace:
Now ordinarily people would think this is the time to talk about domestic abuse. But this would be a huge mistake. He killed Kasandra Perkins and she was just your typical victim. It does not take much to get shot.Jovan Belcher was a professional football player who played before 50,000 fans and millions more on TV.Join with me in expressing your sadness for Jovan. May he rest in peace.
Comments (64)
OMG. I can understand those who knew him being distraught, but where is the tribute to his victim? I hope she rests in peace. He can rot in Hell. This is a great post, and you make the point.
A world out of touch with what is of true value and of greatest priority. Welcome to America!
And I laughed at myself, as the tears rolled down, for its the world I know.
I’m from kc. I think this whole thing was a tragedy – especially for his girlfriend, murdered in cold blood, and their infant child left behind.
He’s no hero.
It’s too bad he died quickly. He could have died much slower and more painfully. Coward cocksucking fuck face.
It’s insane how just because he’s a “celebrity,” the true focus shifts completely to make it seem like he’s a victim. People just never cease to boggle my mind sometimes. Pathetic really. May the true victim, whose life he selfishly took, rest in peace.
Yes, you are living in Bizarro World.
I certainly do not agree with what he did, but he obviously had psychological problems. Just because what he did is a horrible thing doesn’t mean his friends/family/whoever can’t mourn his loss.
It’s tragic he killed his wife and cowardly he killed himself. The real tragedy isn’t just his wife being murdered but their infant baby who will grow up without her parents, let alone that daddy killed mommy then himself. I can’t imagine how hard of a pill that will be for her to swallow when she is old enough to learn the truth
@TheGiantSlayer - Collective Soul. Good stuff. They put on a great concert.
I was hoping you would cover this. I read an article about it yesterday and it made me sick that everyone was talking about what a great guy he was, while the woman he murdered was barely mentioned in passing.
Yeah, let’s deify the dead football player and disregard the woman he murdered. smh.
@sonnigenmai - well hello neighbor..
Dan, you have to realize that, as one of my co-workers said Saturday morning, you never know what troubles another person could be going through. I mean look; the guy made just over a million dollars a year playing a game, he had a beautiful girlfriend and a new baby. It had to be rough.. real rough.
jovan is a gay-ass name.
Fuck sake.
That poor murderer. May he rest in peace. <3
I think this is my all time favorite post of yours. Well done.
@iones_island - Small world.
I can’t believe how this story has been portrayed and retold, all focusing on Belcher (who I had never heard of) as a victim to celebrity, money, and depression. As if he weren’t a murderer. As if the only story were his suicide. My husband has some friends on FB that posted about this today – and it was all I could do not to smear those story spinning bastards a new one.
Michael Jackson died and suddenly we are supposed to forget he’s a child molester.
Whitney Houston died and suddenly we are supposed to forget she was a no-good druggie and had been for years.
Jovan Belcher died and suddenly we are supposed to forget he was a murderer.
I don’t think so. Death doesn’t re-write your history.
I probably wouldn’t get tears like that if I died saving abus of children.
The game was dedicated to all victims of domestic violence. There was a moment of silence before the game for all victims of domestic violence. The team is understandably grieving because they lost someone they knew and who some were close to. Some fans may feel the same way, though that’s a little stranger. Their grief shouldn’t be viewed as supporting what Belcher did. It’s simply grief.
I know this is exactly how you post, but you are misleading people that read this.
There are degrees of domestic violence and domestic harm. The stock broker Bernie Madoff made a lot of people sick to their heart when he stole millions of dollars. People who hate dog abusers want more punishment for the quarterback who participated in harming pit bulls. Now we have a sort of suicide murder which unfortunately people can’t seem to think that his death is punishment enough.
You cannot punish the dead. You can not get a drop of blood out of a stone. But here is Theo Dan and others wanting more punishment. Even temporary insanity can’t stop people from wanting more punishment. I am sadden by the events but I donot want to ever get revenge. Revenge is stupid at times people. Repress revenge and work to seek justice for the living.
Great post.
Unfortunate that he took the woman’s life, fair do’s that he knew the punishment and wanted to save the tax payers some money.
Mostly I’m curious of the ever looming question of why he did it.
Let’s also have a moment of silence for the Chief’s season.
@PPhilip - Nobody asked for more punishment, although I did suggest he rot in Hell. Luckily for him, there is no Hell. I do think, however, given the fact that he murdered somebody, a public tribute to him is despicable.
Wow. =[
@EmilyandAtticus - Really a public tribute? I think Theo dan crafted this article to make you think there was a tribute to him. His picture of Black women sort of forgiving him……anyway a suicide is a pretty cowardly way of bowing out of life and has its own sort of hellish fallout. The investigation continues and no one knows all the facts, furthermore the thought that there was domestic violence was also suggested by theo Damned…..him stirring up the racial pot is despicable.
@EmilyandAtticus - “…however, given the fact that he murdered somebody, a public tribute to him is despicable.”
Despicable for you perhaps but there are those of us who can look past a moment’s misjudgement and to judge a life as a whole.
Is it awful that I read the second picture as, “Sad day in KFC?”
Such a tragedy — he was definitely close to finding a cure for cancer and peace and peace in the middle east!
I agree with you 100%. Murder suicide is very common among domestic abuse homicide cases. It sickens me that we “overlook” it. The public would be outraged if this guy was a plumber, but since he’s a professional athlete, they glorify him and gloss over it. A really sobering thing to do is check out how common domestic abuse is among professional athletes overall.
It’s horrible what this guy did and it gives me an even more horrible feeling seeing everyone wearing his jersey and acting like he was such a great man and this was such a great tragedy, as if this would even be so well-known if he wasn’t “famous”. How easily our minds are warped… I have never understood the need to exalt athletes to the position we do, anyways. The Romans used the Gladiator games for a few different reasons, but I want to focus on one of them; to pacify the people. The “government” of the time aka the rich people – oh wait, that’s still how it is Lolz! – gave them entertainment and what do you know? The people were less interested in politics and thus, did not interfere. We have a lot of that in our society. Sports, Hollywood, “Entertainment”. And it’s our right! We deserve it! We work for it, don’t we? That’s how effectively we’ve been pacified. I know! Little rich coming from somebody typing from their laptop.
And in case anyone wants to know… “they” are blaming it on brain damage. It’s also mentioned that he drank heavily and was on pain medication, although that’s from an anonymous writer, so who knows if that’s true. I don’t know if I’ll argue against the violent collisions in the sport causing brain damage, ’cause it seems likely!, but I still have a hard time sympathizing when Belcher is the sixth player to have killed himself in two years and the sport is still played with nothing changed. Society sucks!
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/jovan-belcher-death-car-article-1.1212182
I have to admit, sometimes your “satire” expresses ideas better than just spitting it out there.
you seem to think we should talk about spousal abuse?
he must have been sick to kill and then kill himself.
I understand what you’re saying, but if I had a friend who killed his wife and himself (I’m assuming that this was unexpected from the people that knew him), I would probably cry. It is not very tasteful to have a big memorial and gloss over the fact that he was a murderer, but surely his team mates who knew him can be excused for mourning their buddy’s tragic downward spiral.
I heard she was two-timing him. When you do bad to others you get badded yourself. I’m sure the lord will have mercy on Jovan’s soul on account of the wrong that was done to him.
There is a sickness in our society when people want to “celebrate” a murdering coward. If this man had been a nobody – it would only have made the local papers. If he had been a no body the focus would have been on the the woman and the child. People can spin it however they like, but the simple fact of the matter is they were commenorating him. Not the girlfriend or child.
Imagine if Rae Carruth had shot himself, and the Panthers mourned him with such spectacle. Everyone’s priorities are backwards. A woman was murdered and a baby left without parents This guy shouldn’t rest in peace. He should do the opposite. Not 100% sure what that is, but seriously, damn.
@blonde_apocalypse - Yea, satire is his strength. It’s a safe place for cowards to be.
Depression is one nasty disorder.
I hope that all of the family members on both sides may heal of this awful harmful hurt.
the sad thing is this is apparently what it takes for the chiefs to win a game
ouch; your keen wit scarce suffices to conceal your fury; this is very well said
Then an experience that perhaps no good man can ever have in our world came over him, a torrent of perfectly unmixed and lawful hatred. The energy of hating, never before felt without some guilt, without some dim knowledge that he was failing fully to distinguish the sinner from the sin…
(from C.S. Lewis’ Perelandra)
he left this existence with her lifeblood in his hands; no matter what one believes about the afterlife (or lack thereof) something like this is deplorable on so many levels.
I am supposed to express my sadness for Jovan? Football idiots are catholics – no matter WHAT their members do - the crimes they commit and the children they rape – they just can’t seem to shake the fake hero worship. What is too bad is that someone wasn’t there to protect his girlfriend against this violent thug and murderer —-
@SKANLYN - Ha ha ha — you really are a NUT JOB CHRISTIAN! So spread the rumor – true or not – that the mother of his daughter was “two timing” him and then justify MURDER – it in your own mind – that it is OK to KILL a family member when they “two time” you! You know what the difference is between christians and Islamist’s or Muslims??
NOTHING!
@Captric - I’m not justifying murder you imbecile! He clearly should not have killed her. I was just pointing out that actions have consequences and at certain point one begins to question who the real victim is. It’s a tragedy we lost such a talented young athlete and I would even say that what happened to her was probably tragic as well.
@SKANLYN - You question WHO the real victim is?? You mean the MURDERER is the VICTIM?? Who’s the imbecile here!!!! You have no sense of right and wrong and that clearly puts you in the subset of the American population who call themselves “christians” and elevate criminals to the status of “talented hero’s”. You are ridiculous. No wonder people still hand over their hard earned money to organizations that RAPE little boys and then blame the publics outrage on the media! You are the imbecile boy.
@Captric - I’ll let that straw man you constructed provide the rebuttal since you insist on debating him instead of me
@SKANLYN - Straw man? One of the most overused and understood terms on the internet. So you SAID:at certain point one begins to question who the real victim is ” and then later in your sentence you said: “what happened to her was probably tragic as well”. So you question WHO the real victim is and IMPLY that she got what was coming to her.And you state that this murdering thug had some type of valuable talent. This would only have been a tragedy for this violent and illiterate gun toting thug if he had been a talented Doctor or Scientist.
@Captric - Would you be calling him a “gun toting thug” if he were white? Or would you then be calling him a tragic victim of circumstance? No need to answer – I’m already pretty sure of the answer.
@SKANLYN - You totally underestimate and misunderstand me! I could care less what race he is — there are plenty of cases of violent white thugs as well! Why would you even bring race in to the conversation? Are YOU a racist??
At least he didn’t fight dogs like that jock in Florida.
@SKANLYN - OJ’s wife deserved it too. When will women learn to respect sports heroes?
@Captric - I’m certain that anyone of sound mind reading your comments and mine will come to the correct conclusion as to which one of us is the racist.
@SKANLYN - Ya — its you — probably a black racist
@Captric – WELL I DNT THINK YOU’RE BEING RACIST.. NOT ONCE DID YOU SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HIS RACE..
Where have our values as a nation gone when we celebrate this man? God forgive him- yes. But to celebrate an act of murder because he was a professional athlete? This is scary.
Where have our values as a nation gone when we celebrate this man? God forgive him- yes. But to celebrate an act of murder because he was a professional athlete? This is scary.
Oh gosh, I don’t know how to contain My sorrow…
People are fucking ridiculous, if that was some dude off the street working in a factory, even in death he would have been reviled, but here’s society, going into mourning over some murders jackass because he was a famed athlete. Friends and family mourning is a different story, but that scum didn’t deserve the hero’s send off he received.
@SKANLYN - Cheating wife or not, the point of disgust here is that society is lifting this Murderous suicide to idol status, instead of admonishing his actions, merely because he was a professional athlete.
One should refrain from martyring a murder, it is bone-chillingly telling of how corrupt and vapid We are as a society.
Let him rot in hell!!!
How do we know who was the abuser here? If a woman was being abused and killed her abuser, she would be a feminist hero. But, when the genders are reversed, everyone assumes the man was pure evil. No details have been released; we just don’t know. Stop assuming!
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