January 4, 2013
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Loyalty and Friendship
I must admit I tend to base my friendships off of loyalty. But it is based on my definition of loyalty.
I will never forget when one of my best friends who is a goldy older man told me one day, “Loyalty is everything.” I knew he was not talking about compromising myself. I knew he was not talking about never correcting anything. But I also immediately knew what he was saying.He required loyalty in his friendships. He told me anything because he knew I would never repeat a matter. He knew I would never speak against him behind his back. He knew I would never attack him with information.I must admit I need to be more careful on what I judge as disloyal.What is the most important quality of friendship?
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Loyalty too, and reciprocity. One-sided friendships are not friendships.
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loyalty, honesty, reliability, and laughs.
I think loyalty is huge. But love an trust and honesty all tie in.
People trust me too much. I’m like, why would you tell me that? They betray me, and I betray them, but they give me way more than I give them. They just don’t write everything down like I do. They always try to find something on me, and I usually don’t have anything worth anything. They make stuff up, and I let everything blow up.
I’m a bitch. Don’t be my friend. I don’t want another friend.
At the end of the day, my behavior is a “vicious cycle.”
I find humans are rats. I don’t like a one. I liked Putin for a while. I hoped for redemption.
The ability to jump off a bridge.
ad infinitum.
Never volunteer information.
I make the worst friends. In the end, they get what they deserve.
Xanga friends are different though.
How friends treat others (and with what intent) plays a big part in how I view that particular person. Particularly during an argument, as I seem to get into those quite often.
@ShimmerBodyCream - You took my answer
A friend is someone who knows everything about you, but still likes you anyway.
Loyalty and the humility to apologize. I could forgive betrayal if there was repentance.
I don’t know…I don;t have any friends. My entire life all people have wanted is to stab me in the back and that’s all they have done.
@Semper_medusa - amen.
Love
loyalty
Money. Money’s cool.
respect I think covers it all
Honesty. Secrecy and doing things behind someone’s back.
And not doing things behind people’s back.
To appreciate its value, and – unfortunately – its rarity.
@ShimmerBodyCream - I bet you have a lot of friends girl.
@letusbeforever - I agree with you! Trust and honesty are big for me. If you can’t trust your friends then what good are they being called friends.
trust. without trust, there is no friendship.
Tolerance, haha.
Loyalty and trust about sums it up. I think honesty and trust are pretty much the same thing as far as that goes.
it’s hard to talk about it but if you got it be grateful.
I don’t really know? I know some people probably talk behind my back and say things that would hurt me, but I don’t usually pay attention to that. It seems to me that people who want to hurt me are generally suffering themselves. I guess I would say open minded would be what I am attracted to in people, nothing is a bigger turn off than hearing people nay say everything and everyone. I don’t spend time with negative people because I don’t want to catch it.
Keeping your promises.
I really agree with what @EmilyandAtticus said about reciprocating. A lot of people expect me to be their friends, but when I want or need a friend they aren’t there. I also need someone I can trust.
Loyalty is way up there.
Loyalty is an important part of friendship. I think dependability is also a big part of a healthy friendship. There is nothing that agitates me more than fair-weather friends… if it is a meaningful friendship you will want to be there for your friend and can expect that they will be there for you. This is why I have few true friendships… but the few that I have are strong!
Loyalty is as loyalty does. That is what I migfht say about it… since its you… and I think you always love to examine deeply Xangan logic, I elaborate.
But “Loyalty is everything.” Well now… that is unfathomable like omnipresence. One being cannot usually be loyal to all that there is; not to anything. We simply are not capable that way. Although, I’ll stop short of saying that it cannot be, I think it may not be. Loyalty is everything may mean that a person must be loyal to everything about anything. It actually may mean that we must swear an oath to get into a private club for purposes of keeping secret what occurs there (I’d stay away at my age). It might mean from a friend, that I gotta off someone if it is criminal or that I gotta kiss-ass if a boss sort of friend. In effect, I think, it means nothing and therefore of course you knew exactly what your friend meant by it. Only you would have known, because he was your dear friend.
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For me the most important quality of friendship is enjoyment in each others company.
loyalty. but i don’t have friends these days. as i get older, i tend to not want anyone but my family around me. people annoy me. even my family. i’d rather just be alone.
but i’d say loyalty is pretty important.
Loyalty, honesty, dependability, and trustworthiness.
I’m horrible at making and maintaining friends. So I can’t really say what’s the most important quality. Perhaps that’s something I need to give some thought.
Honesty. When someone comes to me and says, “can you keep a secret”. I just say, “no, I can’t”. And it is true! What you tell me will always be told to my mother. I’m almost 50 a d I share everything with her. She is my very best friend. And she will tell her sister, because they share everything because sisters are friends for life. And her sister will tell her husband because they have been married over 50 years. And the husband is pretty much so deaf, so it all stops there.