February 7, 2013
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Good Enough
I just read a blog where a woman wrote, “I want to be good enough. And if I am I need to feel good enough. For somebody. Anybody.”
I was reading another blog recently where a woman said she did not want to go to her high school reunion because she thought people would look down on her for where she was in life.I see other people that think they are not good enough to be dating this person or that person.Are you good enough for the people around you?
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I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh darnit, people like me.
I often think Rick deserves so much better. But he says he feels the same way about me. I think when you really cherish someone, and are able to see your own faults, you can’t help but feel that way. Keeps us humble.
yes. the question is are the people around me good enough for me?
Nah…
Considering all my closest friends are drug using slackers, yes, I am good enough.
I’m good enough mentally for my boyfriend. I take care of him and I love him more than anyone else has. Physically though, he’s more attractive and he could easily find a hotter girl. I’m pretty ugly.
Ehhh… Not really…
I don’t know how to answer because I have no one around me.
@mtngirlsouth - I believe she said it best.
Yes. Always have been, always will be.
objectively speaking? probably.
to the people around me? not even close.. the only people that think i’m good enough are six years old.. now that’s sad.
@BoulderChristina - You are one of my favourite people ever! <3
@Shadowrunner81 - Thank you!
And no, I never feel good enough.
No. I am a disappointment.
I think im awesome personally.
@BoulderChristina - best quote ever.
@BoulderChristina - Denial is not just a river in Egypt…
People usually look at my husband and I with an evil glint in their eyes saying we deserve each other. I wonder what they mean by that? As a youngster, I had low self-esteem. Now I don’t care. Like Christina said “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!” She ought to sell that line. Maybe to someone like Jack Handy!
[I was reading another blog recently where a woman said she did not want to go to her high school reunion because she thought people who look down on her for where she was in life.]
Spot the mistake.
You’re not good enough, fo’ sho.
From the comments it would seem that 98% of Xangans are legends in their own mind. I am NOT the 2%, unfortunately.
Oh yeah, definitely! If they can’t accept me for who I am, it’s their loss.
Well I’m trying to sound a bit arrogant, but I guess I kind of mean it too. I have my insecure moments where I feel like I’m not good enough, but generally, I think I am.
I’d like to think that I am. I am an honest person who tries her best to be a contributing member of the society. If people don’t think I “qualify” to their standards, I just leave it be. I can’t really force my way into anybody’s acceptance.
I wish I was. I try to be “good enough” for my kids and dogs, those are the only ones around me. But no, I’m not good enough – never have been good enough for anyone, as a matter of fact, since the day I was born. I’ve tried, but it’s never good enough.
absolutely
I try not to surround myself with people who make me feel inferior. Plain and simple. I try my best to keep things neutral in my immediate circle. All of us are people, if you are contributing something to those around you, you are “good enough”.
I am pretty sure that most people I have met would answer that with an emphatic NO.
I hope so, apart from my increased hypercondriac may be driving some people mad (as well as health anxity)
@WorldWideWatchman - Wonderful outlook, I like it!
hmm I’ve never thought about it like that really. I don’t think about peeps like that. Sometimes peeps don’t like me, but that’s fine. Sometimes we’re liked n sometimes we’re not. We all like different flavors
Yes. I think I have finally grown up in the past year and earned the self-esteem I am entitled to. I believe that feeling failure or inadequacy is a sign of withholding that which is owed to oneself, including success and pursuits, often in exchange for sacrifice.
“Man has forgotten the highest of all moral duties: the duty that one owes to oneself.”-Oscar Wilde
I’m sexy and I know it.
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@Unstoppable_Inner_Strength - thought they what?
@PlatotheSmurf - Oh, don’t worry… I’m a legend in everyone else’s mind as well.
Well, sometimes when I get in with a group of powerful people who are talking about things I’m not up on then I feel not as well imformed or educated enough.
Most of the time since I live in a redneck part of the country I feel like I have to dumb myself up to be on a level playing field.
I’m retired and when your titles are gone; we’re all the same.
@BoulderChristina - lol alright Stewart.
@DougX831 - Heh. It’s a subtle mistake. See…
[I was reading another blog recently where a woman said she did not want to go to her high school reunion because she thought people who look down on her for where she was in life.]
The sentence sounds like it’s begging to be completed. She thought people who look down on her for where she was in life…what? What about those people? But, you do get the sense that that’s not what would fix it, since he had finished his thought. All you’d really need to do is change “who” for “would.” Try it in your head, and you’ll see that it makes sense only after you do that.
But hey, it’s Theo. What else can we expect?
@Unstoppable_Inner_Strength -
Right, I’d caught it. I was pointing it out by asking for the finished thought as it was written
@DougX831 - Oh…my bad. Just rolled out of bed, no coffee. LOL!
Yeah, she thought people who look down on her for where she was in life would mock her at the reunion, and probably spike her drink, and rape her near the dumpster behind the building.
Or, maybe they’d do nothing, because she’s just obsessing over nothing. Not sure which scenario would be more likely.
@Unstoppable_Inner_Strength - no worries. Hell I can barely remember my own name before I have my first gallon of coffee for the day
I didn’t think I was good enough for Jason in the beginning.
We’re always good enough. More than good enough. It makes me so sad to see people feeling that way. I want to hug them because they are perfect!
@TheGuyYouD0ntKnow - well if there are no people around you, there are at least mitochondria, nematodes, and whatnot within you, right? If you’re good enuf that they stick around that counts for something, doesn’t it? I dunno why Dan is only concerned about the people around us and their impressions, it seems kind of speciesist to me.
I do my best. Sometimes it’s good enough, sometimes, not so much
Nope, never.
How does the song go? I don’t spend my time with anyone that doesn’t think I’m wonderful or somewhat cash refundable at times……….probably not, but I’m good enough to wash the dishes.
I know what the response should be, but often times I don’t feel like it… Then I go through this whole thing in my mind why I am good enough…like a dog chasing it’s tail…So, I’ve started distancing myself from those who intentionally make me feel that way…and not focus on—> why I’m NOT good enough, rather why I am…
Great question…
it depends…im good enough for cheaters liars and for my exes lol…
I think it all goes back to self love, and accepting the person you are and not worrying about how others see you, or who is good enough, and who isn’t. -At least it does for me!
as we are all created equal in the hand of the creator , in that sense yes i’m good enough for the the people around me..
I’m surrounded by family and friends that have loved me no matter what. But the self-doubt creeps in whenever I move beyond my comfort zone to start a new relationship.
Hi Dan! I miss you!
I am good enough for God and for my husband, kids and grandkids and no body else matters.
of course I am! If you think you’re not good enough you’re setting yourself up for failure, It’s always good to have a positive attitude.
sure the fuck am. sometimes i think i’m too good.
I used to not think i was after i graduated. alot of my freinds were science oriented or buisness. I english.soc and told that I would always be on the low rung. however that has changed as I’ve gotten more comfortabel with myself and goals. I can always be better, but I gotta love being me.
I had an epiphany a couple of days ago about this very thing. I know damn well that I AM good enough. I’m highly intelligent, creative, multi-skilled, spiritually deep, and fun to be around. The problem is, I’m extremely afraid of showing it, of drawing attention to myself. Which is why I keep trying to hide who I am from the world. I guess when I understand why, I can get to a point where I can fix that.
No.
I believe i am good enough and i also believe that the only thing keeping others from believing that they themselves are good enough is themselves. its time to stop letting what other people think control your life. it you think, no believe that you are good enough than there is nothing that you can’t do or accomplish. believe in yourself you are good enough, because i believe in you and i believe that you are good enough too.
Signing out for now, yours all ways, Denim Dan
I sure do strive to be.
When I feel that way, I know I’m just projecting my own insecurity onto others. No one is perfect.