February 14, 2013
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Watching Porn
One thing I read over and over on xanga is women who have discovered that their husband watches porn.
They walk in on them. They check their history.Would it make you mad if you found out your spouse views porn?
One thing I read over and over on xanga is women who have discovered that their husband watches porn.
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My only issue with porn is when porn replaces… me. If my husband would rather turn to porn, than to turn to me, that’s my issue and YEAH it does make me mad.
I think you mean DID it make me mad. Hell yeah, it did!
It’d make me made that my wife is snooping through my browser history.
Only if it wasn’t hot.
Porn always replaces someone. If there is someone there, then there’s no reason for porn.
Regardless, my husband and I are both VERY open about what we do/have done. So, it’s never a “secret” if one of us happens to slip.
My boyfriend watches porn, and I don’t find it offensive or insulting. They’re just dirty videos, not actual people. Besides, how many women or men watch movies with hot men/women in them and find themselves hot and bothered? I’m pretty positive it’s not uncommon for men or women to have sexual fantasies about celebrities either. *shrug* Anyways, I don’t find it a big deal. I sometimes watch porn with my boyfriend, and I admit, they are visually enticing sometimes.
the only thing i’d be slightly annoyed about is why he didn’t include me in the pornfest!! couple watching porn together? super hot. use it to get ourselves in the mood.
honestly, if i discovered it in browsing history, i would call him over, then jump on him and play it in the background. if i caught him in the act… again, would join in the fun.
Is this a cryptic message that my video was leaked?
I used to not care until I realized how many of the girls in porn are really slaves. Now it would make me mad because he’s getting off on rape.
No, that’d make me a hypocrite.
Oh hot damn.
I would so check out what kind of porn and make fun of them for it.
Also, you shouldn’t snoop on someone else’s internet history. For me that’s like hacking a mobile phone. It’s only okay to do that if you’re the PoPo.
Oddly enough, one of the most shocking things for me to discover was that girls watch porn and masturbate as well. (well, then again, I am quite young, so I haven’t exactly had the most sexual experience in the world).
I think the key idea here is that it is fine to watch and enjoy as long as it doesn’t replace others. I’ve expressed to all of my girlfriends that I do watch porn and masturbate, and it hasn’t been too much of a big deal.
However, one of my friends broke up with her boyfriend because of an issue related to sex. She asked him what he was thinking about when he closed his eyes during sex, and he replied something to the effect of him imagining having sex with another girl who wasn’t my friend. Yeesh.
That’s a dealbreaker for me. I wouldn’t marry someone who has even 1% of tolerance for porn. If he watched it after we were married, that would mean he’s letting himself down as much as me. I’d want to lovingly help him get help.
I wouldn’t care at all. My boyfriend watches porn and jerks off, like every other human male on the planet. I watch porn and masturbate on a regular basis. It’s completely normal.
Now, if someone starts barricading themselves in their room for 12 hours on a porn binge. You have a problem.
My husband does look at porn and so do I and sometimes we watch it together, so.
He watches it beside me. No reason to snoop around or hide it.
I would only be upset if I found out my SO was a closet dook fan.
It depends on the circumstances. Once it hurt me a lot. Normally it doesn’t matter.
@Lithium98 - Agreed. If anyone went through my browsing history I’m 100% sure it would result in them divorcing me.
This is why a passionate and frequent sex life is a prerequisite in any relationship I participate in. I don’t want to ever want to watch porn when coupled.
Fuck no, we watch it together sometimes. Honestly, I’m more computer savy than he is, I can definitely say I’ve watched more porn in my short life than he has with his 12 year advantage over me. I’m also definitely into weirder shit than he is. If he searched my history I’m sure he would have some opinions about it.
I learned a lot of moves from certain kinds of porn earlier in my life. If and when I get to use them I figure I will have to be open about how I learned them. I wonder if this is what it feels like for someone who is benefitting from an experiment first begun during the Holocaust.
I don’t know how I would feel, my first husband watched it and I found it distasteful………I cant understand watching something you can do.
I watch it too so I can’t judge them. Though admittedly when I’m in a relationship I don’t think they should need to watch it by themselves. I mean of course they can, but if they did it everyday I would feel like I wasn’t enough for them. I’m fine with watching it with them, and if say we had to go away for work or weren’t together for a few days then that’s fine. The only reason I watch it now is because I’m single. I hardly ever watch it when I have a boyfriend. That’s what they’re for lol
It would bother me because that means I’m not good enough to be his fantasy.
@Pickwick12 - …get help? lol
No, never.
well since i am single there would be no spouse, but since i myself watch porn, i wouldn’t have a issue if my spouse or boyfriend watches it, it’s also fun to watch together
It would be AWESOME because then he’d be a bit more normal. I am the one in the relationship who is sexually open– watches porn, is open to new things, masturbates, etc. I wish he was more open with me. It’s abnormal to encounter this with a man.
no… i’d probably make my sig other watch it with me.
Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I’d probably be more surprised if my partner didn’t watch porn to be quite honest.
Although, for some reason strip clubs bother me A LOT. Perhaps fantasy getting a little too close for comfort to reality?
I would be rather upset because I would hold her up to the same standards that I hold myself. I would not be angry, but I would try to fix what ever issue was going on if she was calming her sexual desires by watching other people. It would most likely sadden me.
Get mad? For watching porn? Are you kidding me? Pffft. I send him some porn to watch. And he appreciates them! lol!
@striemmy - Yeah, as a Christian, I have conservative views on porn because I believe it isn’t what sex is meant to be. I plan to marry someone with the same views
By “help,” I mean counseling and freedom.
I think the whole porn jealousy is stupid. I’ve said it before, porn was there before you, it’ll be there after you’re gone.
Nah, unless it was like gay porn or some other type of porn that would raise red flags.
@ninetailedevee -
No offense, but thats not really an argument for it…
Unless you are ok with rape, too, since the same facts apply to that.
I watch porn. I’ve watched really fucked up porn.
If anything, if I see that said other was watching porn, my reaction would be “WHY AREN’T YOU WATCHING THIS WITH ME.”
no. and hope he wouldn’t stop me from watching pr0n either. but then again i’m not married.
It doesn’t bother me because porn doesn’t replace me in my relationship. We have sex about 4 times a week… Considering we have three kids, that’s no small feat. I watch it too. Men are visual creatures and it’s unrealistic to think that it can be cured or helped. There is nothing to to cure! Unless of course he’s being excessive about it.
I used to watch it with my ex husband so no big deal
Right now, no it does not make me mad that my SO watches porn. We’re both in college and live 2 hours from each other – I don’t view it as an issue. Of course, I am not married, so I suppose it would be a different situation if I was. As @Megabyyte mentioned, if it gets to the point where porn replaces me, then yes I would feel uncomfortable and irritable about it.
@xDark_horizonx - I’m all over that.
OP-
I think if you have a partner, jump them. All the time. Repeatedly. Get the handcuffs, the feathers, the whips, the lace, the whipped cream, the role playing. Hell, get whatever drives you crazy.
It wouldn’t make me mad, but my boyfriend watches it and it makes me feel so insecure about my body
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Watch it together!
No, I wouldn’t be mad.
yes unless it was porn that we made and distributed and she was criticizing my lack of effort in the movie.
Yeah, if porn replaces me(which it has in the past), I have a big issue with it. A while ago I found out every time my boyfriend said he was going to be over at,say, 7:00, he’d tell me his mom was talking to him, he had to shower, or change or something like that, and he was actually watching porn. He would be up to 3 hours late sometimes, but normally 1-2. I’d ask if I could come over instead sometimes and he’d tell me no, he’d be right over. Keep in mind, I’ve always been up for sex anytime, anywhere with him, yet he’d feel the need to watch porn and masturbate before coming to see me, or he would leave early(when I wanted to have sex) and then go home and do it. I knew it because he used to tell me about things he watched and what he did like I was his guy friend, and as far as the lies went, I was suspicious and yeah, I looked at his history and I was right.That I have a major problem with.
ALSO, when guys get ideas from hardcore porn and pressure you into trying what they find that looks interesting to them. Guys: porn is not real life. Most girls don’t like spluge all over their face. Some girls have terrible gag reflexes, and you know how you like your junk in things? Women usually like your junk in theirs, but I hear of so many men pressuring for anal and oral(either all the time/they never want vaginal sex or not reciprocating). It’s unfulfilling for the woman, but it doesn’t look that way in porn and I think guys feel like porn=real life…and yes, it’s true, many women loathe anal. We don’t have a prostate, it can make a girl pregnant if you are not careful, it can tear, it can get messy, and it will likely be painful. Sorry to break it to you.
Also it makes me feel inferior. Women will usually always size themselves up against another woman, even if she’s in a porn video. I’ve seen things that my boyfriend looked at and started wondering what the women had, or did, that I didn’t. I wouldn’t go so far to call it cheating(because that is seriously absurd), but I will admit that it makes me feel more insecure, highly uncomfortable, and similar to how I’d feel if my boyfriend did actually cheat. I hate feeling that way, but at least I do acknowledge it and I haven’t mentioned that to him at all.
I hate porn because I view it as degrading and of course at times violent. But that’s just my opinion. I’m aware that most men and plenty of women watch it. I’ve even watched it in the past, but the only thing I could ever bear to watch was lesbian porn because I hate the way the men treat the women.
In another light.. I don’t mind when my boyfriend watches, well, non hardcore porn. Currently he’s into hentai(again), and I just try blocking the thought out of my mind because it’s better than some of the stuff he’s been into honestly.
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I’d be awfully weirded out if I walked in on him. I’m not sure how I’d feel. I guess I’d feel like I wasn’t enough, or hot enough, etc. I know my boyfriend watches porn, but he’s a teenager so I feel as though that makes it different. But even then, how does it? I would only be concerned if he was masturbating more than having sex with me, whether that’s because he didn’t want to have sex with me or he feels like he doesn’t get it enough.
The only thing that pisses me off is when my husband can find all the high-quality BDSM porn sites that are still free while I can’t. Seriously, I must be the only person in their twenties that cannot figure out how to access free porn on the internet.
lol kinda begs the question..are porn watchers gay? lol if ya think not and ya watch and are male then..do you like to watch porn with umm “large” sized men involved or “small” sized men…lol see..gay…
I don’t want my spouse watching porn. Besides the fact that I find lusting after someone else to be wrong, I’m a nympho. If he is feeling horny, I want him to come to me for all that. I’m more than happy to accommodate.
It’s no secret for me. Usually when I first meet a guy I ask what kind of movies he likes. I could never be with someone who doesn’t like it. I dunno, I just can’t have sex with the same bfs all the time
I am no better than any of you guys. But don’t you guys feel sad and lonely after masturbating to porn? And if you are in a relationship or married, don’t you find these sexual activities very self-serving? It seems like everyone is in it for themselves. Pornography and masturbation is so “ME ME ME,” and at the end of it is just loneliness. When was the last time you tried to sexually please your spouse (without being self-serving so like doing it even when you don’t want to), and your spouse tried to sexually please you? I don’t think anyone had said anything to this degree yet.
do what u wanna do
do what u wanna do
I don’t have a spouse, girlfriend, so I am okay the moment with it.
I don’t watch porn.
Porn is a great thing. As a side benefit, it helps the sex drive, which is a healthy thing. There is nothing wrong with fantasy.
(By the way – have you ever seen any of my videos?)
I am surprised by the amount of women who have a problem with it. I don’t care if my husband watches it.
my SO and i watch porn together once in a while. i’m not sure if he watches it solo, but i certainly do.
I’ve talked about this recently on my blog. While I don’t think its helpful for him or our marriage… I accept that it’s not something easily dropped and I know he tries really hard to get passed it often. I’m not offended by it, most of the time and it doesn’t lessen my respect for him or make me feel any less loved. I view it as his personal conviction and battle and I’m here for him to help whenever he needs me but I really try not to shame him with it like earlier in our marriage. I know he knows its an addiction. I just don’t chose to make it an issue… he comes to me often feeling guilty about it and I’d really just rather he keep being honest and open with me about it.
No. Just because he married me doesn’t mean I’ve automatically replaced all his former interests, nor should I. I kind of wish he would actually. Then maybe he’d be somewhat interested in trying it for real. He has zero interest as it is.
i enjoy the occasional porn myself, so no, it wouldn’t bother me at all.
marriage is the reason why men need porn in the first place
If i was married, my husband will have no need for porn at all.. haha
Watching porn, at least occasionally, is a pretty natural thing, and it always blows me away when people, most often women women in my experience, are so shocked their SO does it.
My bf watches it when I am not around…and since we are 9 hours apart, that is most of the time. I watch it when he isn’t here and sometimes we watch some together. Not a big deal for us.
Nothing is wrong with a significant other watching porn,
And if its becoming a daily thing or its taking over his attention to you - You should probably figure out why he wouldn’t rather be in the sac with you.
I might be a little concerned if it were gay porn lol but otherwise no. I watch porn. I don’t know anyone in the world who hasn’t/doesn’t (I’m sure there are people like that, I’ve just never met any). I mean, not everyone has the best imagination. I say if it bothers you, make a sex tape (make sure you reeeeeally trust the person and are possibly married to them first, though) and give it to him. He still might watch porn occasionally, but 9 times out of 10 he’ll probably reach for that sex tape.
This is a complete non-issue, unless one of the parties is completely neglecting the other in favor of porn. Other than that, it’s ridiculous and pointless for anyone to give their SO hell for it. If your SO likes porn, there’s very little that you can do to change him/her, and bitching will not accomplish anything. You’re better off moving on to someone else.
Simple as that.
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Personally, I think porn is dumb. All that slapping butts and private parts and the faces they make look like they are being tortured. I usually laugh if I see it. I would only care if Hubster snuck around watching it and wasn’t open about his interests.
Hell yes and I do not need to justify my minding. I worry about those whose minds are so warped or weak they see nothing wrong with porn
No, not mad…
I think I would feel different about him. But not in a bad way. He’s just mentioned how he has no interest in watching other people have sex, and would rather just have sex himself to “get off“.
So if it came up that he does watch it, I guess I would just wonder why he felt the need to lie about it, as I’ve never said anything negative to him about it.
And I would hope that he would feel open enough to let me know if he wanted to watch it with me/during “sexy times”.
Curiosity is natural, and exciting. I can’t blame anyone for it.
It’s only a problem if it becomes obsessive, but that goes for anything.
Porn is encouraging the enslavement, belittling, and objectification of others as merely sexual objects. The women in those films are someone’s daughter, sister, or mother. They are REAL people and all of you watching porn are supporting an industry of enslavement-not just of those in the film, but also people who are in real relationships. Porn causes the end of marriages. It also causes pornography addiction-and not just in adults either, but in children as young as 8 years old. If you want our culture to be one that is a culture of life, and one that honors the diginity of each human person, than the porn industry has got to go.
I think that porn fuels the sex-trade industry and watching it (sometimes) can be detrimental to your sex life within marriage. I’m very open with my husband about what I view online and we both try to be super transparent. I’m just glad I married one of the few men who is not addicted to it. I, on the other hand, am a recovering porn addict. My husband supports me through it.
I’d be bothered by certain types of porn. But for the most part, it’s whatever.
If he’s watching tentacle monster chicks with dicks gangbangs, I’m going to feel a little uncomfortable.
Who cares? I watch porn and my man loves that I do
He can watch it whenever he wants as long as the kids or my grandmother or someone like that isn’t there hahaha Shouldn’t we accept the ones we love for who they are?
@LKJSlain - Love you, girl!
My BF watches it and I don’t care because sometimes I do as well. We do not live together so can not always be with each when needed. However if we were married or lived together and I caught him watching it INSTEAD of wanting to make love to me, then I would be mad. I wouldn’t have a problem watching together if he wanted or something like that. Just don’t use that to get off if I’m around to help instead.
@Lithium98 - I agree!
where you do think they learned all the tricks they know? id’ rather know she watched some porn and thought about what she saw and learned, and hopefully it turned her on as well, than say knowing she had about 1000x d-cks in her and experience led the way to her insatiable sexuality…
would you rather they got their talents from experience or from educational tools like pr0n (and no im not talking about sex-ed movies, pr0n teached you to open your mind and try new things)
always remember!!! a girl with an open mind and a bottle of lube – thats a keeper!!!
then again, im ahead of the curve here
@BrowneyedGirl1017 - their weakness causes these things, not the actual porn….their attraction to it causes the addiction, not the porn itself….OH PLEASE, with the 1950′s moms and sister and daughter thing…..the sexual revolution happened, you might have missed it, and women have become increasingly independent, AND if you missed it, women are paid more than men, and most the woman that do porn (that I know at least, or have had the pleasure of spending time with) love what they do, and the freedom it gives them…
dont judge what you dont know.
@TheEmeraldPixie - There is a lot of different kinds of porn. It’s not all ass smacking and what not. That’s like saying experienced kama sutra sex is the same as an inexperienced 18 year old dry humping his girlfriend.
@lyrra_askavi - LOL! I know…if any sort of animal or inanimate object + xxx showed up in the browser, I’d be a little freaked.
Early on, it bothered me that my husband watched porn but I like it too, which is hypocritical. We don’t mind if the other watches it because I can’t exactly call my husband up in the middle of the day to come home from work when I’m feeling randy nor can I drop the kids off somewhere and meet him at work for a quickie. Porn doesn’t replace me because I’m not there when he does do it and vice versa. Besides, we communicate about when we want to have sex and it doesn’t replace our sex life. For some it can become an addiction and then I do think it’s unhealthy but not everyone has that problem.
When you have kids and a busy life, sometimes being able to get yourself off and not have to physically exhaust yourself more after an already exhausting day can be really nice. Porn is a great way to do it quickly too.
My husband loves only me and I love only him. We’re both very secure in our relationship. It’s not an issue for me any more and I don’t check his history.
AND OH YEAH> NOT EVERYONE WHO WATCHES PORN BECOMES ADDICTED TO IT. That it the largest misconception I’ve ever heard. It’s not crystal meth. And it’s as ignorant as saying everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. Some struggle with addictive natures and it is bad for them but what makes someone addicted is their own nature.
I don’t know why watching porn is such a big deal… or why women or men care of their significant other does it. it’s just enterntainment… not like you’re watching someone get raped or murdered kinda thing. people need to calm the fuck down.
@Jaero215 - http://www.truthdig.com/arts_culture/item/20091011_the_victims_of_pornography//. Women became increasingly independent, or increasingly enslaved by men like you who only value them for what they can offer you sexually?
I feel there’s lack of morals and self control tbh. And no one really cares. lol
@BrowneyedGirl1017 - wait WHAT? so you think we are the cause and their independence is the effect?? i know more than a few sexually free women that can set you straight ….lol…because they will be the first to say embrace what you love and enjoy what you do… saying I am the type of man that does anything of the sort is insane…I am the first to build a woman up so she can be independent and free…I am the first to support their dreams and to celebrate their successes with them….and I could care less if she is an attorney or men across the world worship her ass….as long as she comes correct when she is around me
unfortunately I am not one of those men that needs anything “offered”…since a child, who grew up with no family, ive had the pleasure of spending my time being in the loving company of beautiful women …and I dont mean those that arent ugly,….i mean beautiful women who arent judgemental or angry at men for what they havent been able to acheive for themselves yet
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but lets be straight about this all…there are limits…like no animals, no two girls one cup, no DAMN tubgirls!!!! (especially this one!!), no midgets with ropes around their waists getting spun like a top on top of a man, no peeing on each other, unless you are in the shower and she made you mad last night (joking!!), and definetely no triple anal…..double is enough FFS!!! LOL
@trunthepaige - you have got to be kidding me….weaked and warped…lol…best thing ive read on the internetz all day!!!
@lyrra_askavi - i think everyone should, except the tentacle monster chicks with dicks who are into that sort of thing…..
@lovepattyx0 - I CARE!! if we run out of ice and cant pack her with ice afterwards then no more scenes today… (LOL, once again JOKING)
I don’t think it would bother me unless they did it all the time and it got in the way of our relations
I guesss.. not? I don’t feel threatened that easily.. Allthough i would get worried if i’d know she would watch it every single day.. Haha
He uses pictures of me instead
@carolinavenger - omfg this x 1000
All I got is….porn, porn, porn, porn, porn.
off to xnxx.com to get caught in the act!
Unless you like to watch it together I don’t see a need for porn if you have a good sex life with your partner. Last time I was sexually active I didn’t feel a need or desire for porn or self pleasure unless we couldn’t see each other for awhile or weren’t getting along. I never got tired of seeing my girlfriends naked or making love to them. I’d much rather do things with them then by myself because, like someone said, it’s really not all that great rocking it solo.
Speaking of solo, watching women go at it, or two+ chicks getting it on. Watching a guy and a girl just doesn’t do that much for me.
@carolinavenger - What if there were looking at dook pron?
@Super_Rob_of_the_Sky - does such a thing exist? Given the average attractiveness level of the student body… I’m scared o_O
oh,my
Porn isn’t an accurate depiction of what I like in bed… I don’t think it would benefit my relationship and depending on what kind of porn he was watching I might be seriously offended.
We are old and think that crap is boring. You seen one you seen them all.
nope
@Jaero215 - enjoy masturbating to video of abused drug addicted Russian sex slaves
I for the life of me, never understood why women want to down grade themselves and do this garbage. Guess they have no morals. Glad when my wife was a live I never cheated on her or she with me in smut. Bro. Doc
why not watch together?
@Pickwick12 - .. lol.. ok.
I think it should be watched as a couple. It tends to help some relationships sex lives. So I heard >_>
As long as it’s not a hobby.
Hmmmm, I think I’d be mad if he were hiding it from me. I like porn.
I do not have a problem with it. My BF watches it, I dont mind. Not because I watch it too but because I dont feel like im being replaced. Its not like he watches it everyday. Sometimes he watches it when Im on my [ . ] lol or when Im at work. He has never said no to sex to me. Its better than him going to somebody else.
Hec yeah!!!!!!.., I would get mad I’m not married or anything but I have been cheated on multiple times by guys and I just gave up love. I mean guys are such pervs.., I been on this kik messenger and miu meet site just to talk to you know nothing freaking just young guys to talk to who is my age and I be getting pics of their cocks. Now who would see that,,m that is so disgusting and gross.
Dude. You said “porn”.
I watch porn. Lots of porn. Dirty, sexy, hardcore porn. My porn collection makes my fiancee blush. The only problem I have with his porn viewing habits is how vanilla his viewing preferences are compared to mine, when our sex life is anything but vanilla.
I don’t have to even think about….since she never would watch it.
@ShimmerBodyCream - 100% they’d divorce you? Isn’t the idea of being in a relationship, having that person know more about you? hehe, I’m just messing girl.
Personally no, we watch it together, and 100% of that time I reap the benefits of it.
I don’t care about the porn star porn, its the amateur and weird porn that angers me.Or when her lies to me about it.
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