April 1, 2013
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Why Men Go For Women On Xanga
I was reading Coolmonkey’s site and he posted about an article of a Princeton mom who told women they should find a guy while still at Princeton because men do not like women who are smarter than them. Here is the link: Link
She wrote, “Men regularly marry women who are younger, less intelligent, less educated.”I am thinking that some women play dumb in order to get men.Ladies, have you ever played dumb to get a guy to like you?
Comments (76)
No never had too.
this one has to be a joke…. because my gut reaction was “Jesus. not just no… but ABSOLUTELY no! do people actually do that?”
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Maybe I should play liberal for guys to like me.
No.
Oh no you didn’t, Dan. Oh no you didn’t.
I have played dumb before, but not to get a guy to like me.
Hmm I am actually the opposite of this…Maybe THAT’S why I have had no luck with women?
I’m not attracted to men who feel insecure about me on any level. So no, it would be silly to lie to try to attract a guy I’d never want.
I play dumb to get along, er, maybe not dumb but I’ve kept my mouth shut when I wanted not to because fools gonna be fools. All the other shit is just complication (I’ve learned) and I don’t really spare feelings for the sake of someone liking me.
I’m older and smarter (in some ways) than my husband and he still wants my mouth to marry his penis every day. It’s sweet, really. : P
I’d rather have a chick who’s smarter and more educated than I am. She can even be wealthier than me if she wants. Then I can call her my Sugar Mama.
Tried to play dumb? I can do that all on my own without effort, thank you.
I do not play dumb, nor have ever. My husband loves me for my intelligence and quick thinking. Women should never down play their attributes, especially if it’s intelligence.
I don’t have to play dumb.
Intellect and intelligence are attractive to me and I’m not intimidated by women who are sharper, wittier, and smarter than I am. If you’re dumb as a brick however and have no interest in anything beyond reality TV, tabloid gossip, and your looks, then there’s no relationship potential there, even if you’re smoking hot. Attractive stupidity has no long-term appeal for me.
I wasn’t playing.
wifey is younger but definitely smarter.
Are you suggesting that women on Xanga are “younger, less intelligent, less educated”?
I haven’t done so, but I’ve dated a guy where I feel as if we aren’t compatible because he doesn’t have a desire to learn or improve. I need a Princeton guy….
Really?
Really?
Must be why I’m still single.
No, but I don’t always show my intelligence.
No
Intelligence is beautiful
Psh! My wife is much smarter than I am… I don’t feel bad about it at all!
No. I sometimes do in a group setting with acquaintances, but anyone I want to be a good friend or more needs to accept my intelligence because I can’t do it for long periods of time.
I have actually done that, back when I didn’t want to be alone…I then ended up with a dumbass boyfriend with a dumbass family who couldn’t understand it when I wanted to study or read for a few hours. I used the word inequality one time and his mother laughed and said she thinks the words I make up are funny. Yep, that actually happened. Now I’m waiting for a smart guy to come along!
No. As a matter of fact, Rick says I am smarter than he is, but I don’t believe it. We are just experts in different areas. And it has always irritated me when I see women do this.
I go for mature, intelligent and educated women whether they are on xanga or not. The trick is to get them to go for me! lol
I really don’t think I’m attracted to stupidity. Intelligence, confidence, awareness, these have all been perfume that I ‘scents’ first in a person.
As it is, I am with Rose and while I am certainly more intelligent in ways of computers, programming, and navigating the Internet, she is smarter than me about important real-life events and things to my painful naivety of trust and mature topics.
In turn she adores things that really scare me and she says it is stupid and childish of many things that I love today, and on varied topics and subjects. But she says it is the differences within us that keep us together, like two halves of a magnet. Positive and negative.
So – we kinna help out each other – and together, I think we might actually make one normal person.
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a less intelligent girl is a less interesting girl
I don’t buy into that whole thing. I get frustrated when people are dumb. I prefer a woman to be my intellectual equal. If I can’t be challenged or kept on my toes things get boring pretty quick.
Women are a little easier to follow one at a time… in a group it’s like an episode of a nature show….
I would prefer her make me look like the dumb one actually. I like feeling smart and all, but I like someone who can have logical and intellectual conversations with me.
No way
My wife had a higher IQ than I, so I am one of those who value intelligence in a woman.
Intelligence is attractive and interesting. I don’t want to be with anyone who bores me.
Sometimes, it is wise to play dumb (and get out of speeding tickets). That is all.
no. but acting smart never got me anywhere! ><
Yes.
Just like women tend to be hypergamous, men tend to be hyPOgamous and seek out women of lower social stature, wealth and intelligence. The idea is that there is a correlation made between intelligence and the likelihood of adultery; in other words, there is an instinctive assumption that smarter women are able to get away with adultery more easily than dumber ones.
Since men are socially expected to invest a great deal of resources into a child without a clear guarantee that the child is actually theirs (unless they do a paternity test), they will tend to gravitate towards women who are on the lower end of the social, material and intelligence ladder in order to minimize the chances of infidelity.
It has less to do with male ego and more to do with mitigating infidelity and maximizing the likelihood that the child being reared is their biological offspring. That doesn’t mean men can’t consciously decide to go for smarter women, of course, but as with women’s tendencies towards hypergamy, this is a tendency that has been around for some time now.
@QuantumStorm - That’s just a bunch donkey doo-doo. Men aren’t that intelligent to figure all that out. (haha, April Food’s) Well, actually it is donkey doo doo, but I kid about man’s lack of intelligence. Men just want hot chicks and don’t care if they are smart.
I admire and generally respect a smart woman. I do sort of find it the slightest bit intimidating to date or have a relationship with a smart woman. I’ll still do it but I probably wouldn’t have a hopeful outlook with that woman.
It’s not that I think women should be a certain way or shouldn’t be educated or any of that. Self determination and ambition are beautiful things. The problem that arises when you have a woman who’s significantly smarter than you or makes more money than you is this: More often than not women seem to value what enhancement you can bring to their lives. In addition to that, the modern woman has a strooooong sense of independence and… a bunch of other individual developments that amount to you being a fairly expendable, replaceable asset If either of the above is true. Then eventually some inadequacy will be your undoing once she takes stock of it and it starts to count for something in her mind.
It’s definitely not true for everyone. I know damn well better than to generalize.. but a lot of women I know who are master’s and doctorate professionals have astronomical standards for men and they get bored when they date someone who’s much less intelligent or intellectual than them. Not saying they shouldn’t. Maybe they should demand more calibre from their choice of men.
But it makes them not so advisable if you are not on their level yet seeking something long term.
All that being said, most women think they’re smarter anyway, and there is no winning any major argument with one anyway, if YOU’RE smart.. and things work out nicely when there’s a mutual understanding of both things.. so.. I could alllways be dead wrong.
Your right a lot of people speak down to people when they need to and speak with a quicker voice when they know someone can deal with it. This post is very short and helpful. Thank you.
“Are you suggesting that women on Xanga are “younger, less intelligent, less educated”?”
lol no he was Stating that lol
@isitreal_no - NOW I’m terrified! Please tell me you made that up?
I do not play dumb.-Friv-
@Zakuru - Sadly, I did not make that up.
no, i don’t see the point. when the dick dies and the hoo-ha dries up and collects cobwebs, what’s left to stimulate each other with besides your minds. if i’m gonna spend time on the porch in rocking chairs when i’m old, its hopefully going to be with someone who finds me interesting.
Never.
I think sometimes I sound dumb because I’m awkward and a nervous wreck. I am in no way a dumb fuck though. -_- I want my future husband to recognize my intelligence and love me for it!
Why would I dumb myself down for a guy? Fuck that!
Nope! Didn’t have to, mine WAS smarter than me.
Never. In fact I have to try to sound smart in fear I come across as a dummy.
We have fun at trivia pursuit cause I B.S. but he gets it right. I like that he’s smarter then I am but I have the heart.
“Men regularly marry women….”
i read it only that far, and said to myself, “hey, i need to regularly marry women too!!”
That is such crap.
Odd.
No. I married a man who is genuinely smarter than me. But he’s super socially awkward, so we’re pretty well balanced
No pretending here either…..
No one ever played dumb to get me…lol…
I’m a genius, and I’ve never had to try to get swarms of men buzzing around me.
If I pretend to be stupid, will more people subscribe to me on Xanga?
@TiredSoVeryTired - your comment made my day, just wanted to let you know.
show what you have that’s
it
Nope, my husband loves that I’m intelligent AND beautiful.
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@Marica0701 - well…if you want the good ones.
This is NOT true. I like smart women, and I am pretty sure there are plenty of other guys out there who think the same way.
nope i haven’t, but i do agree though. i find it a bit difficult to “date” someone because of my education level.
I usually play crazy and poke fun at girls.
No way! I want to be myself…=)
@light_blue_fables - lol Thanks.
when i was 14, i played dumb to get a guy. it didn’t work. so, i decided i’d never lower myself again for a guy. i’m smart as fuck- it’s just one of many reasons my husband loves me.
No.
@isitreal_no - That’s kind of hilarious. Sorry.
I intimidate the hell out of most guys I know. So, maybe your theory holds water.
@phantomFive - No need to be sorry, it is hilarious because it’s so stupid lol