April 3, 2013
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Why You Probably Suck at Sex
I was just reading an article titled “Why you probably suck at Sex” and there were reasons why people thought their sex life was not good.
Some might blame a conservative raising. Others might blame porn and unrealistic expectations. Here is the link: LinkDo you consider yourself good at sex?
Comments (81)
Um…
Well, I am enjoying myself, and so is my husband, so that’s all that matters.
I’m not even good at fucking myself.
It’s none of your business what I consider myself.
I’m very good. I was taught by the best.
The guy only guy who matters, he thinks I am great
Well, the fact remains, I
don’t suck at sex. I suck
during
and sometimes before…
Let me go ask my ex’s I’m not on good terms with. They’ll for sure give me some positive feedback!
sex? hmm think i remember that.
@TwinkleSprinkles - hahaha… that’s great!
To answer that question, we first have to ask–what does it mean to be good at sex?
Is it the number of positions you know? How long you can last? How kinky or vanilla? Dexterity of tongue?
I would argue that “good” has most to do with attentiveness. That is, good lovers learn their partners’ needs, and place their partners’ needs above their own. When both participants are doing this simultaneously, of course, the results can be extraordinary… but you see the problem. If this is the definition, then no one person is “good at sex” by himself or herself. That’s like saying that one person is good at being a couple or good at being a crowd. Sex is (masturbation aside) a relational and intimate event, and is–shall we say–something of a group effort.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He still can’t last over 5 minutes in bed.
Am I really really good? Or does he really really really really suck? haha.
I suck
I’ve never failed to get a guy off. But we all know that’s not hard. So no, I don’t consider myself good at sex. It’s also usually somewhat painful. I’m defective.
I’ve never had a complaint. Only a lot of screaming my name.
I wanted to make a joke about your use of the word suck but half of Xanga beat me to it! I think good or not good is related to how much fun both people have together.
I’m good at getting what I like. What the bitch gets or doesn’t get out of it ain’t my problem. Nor is how she gets home after I kick her ass out onto the street once I’m done
Well, right now I’m pretty crappy at sex, because I’m 9 months pregnant and my beach ball sized belly kind of gets in the way… plus most angles and positions just feel awful.
Normally, though, I’m the bees knees.
There was this guy a while back who said I sucked in bed, he wasn’t much better so I don’t know who he think he was. It’s a two way street. IT all depends on what I have to work with and who is willing to work with me.
Ah, the comments. Gotta love xanga.
I’m pretty adventurous, so I would hope to think so.
i was recently told that they’ve had the best sex with me. so yes, i think i am. not too shabby.
My husband thinks I’m awesome. That’s all the validation I need
ill let you suck… i try to lick…
A bad case of diarrhea usually doesn’t help matters.
I’m definitely good at it
I’m awesome at foreplay. I figure that has to count for something.
i’m good IF i’m paired up with the right person. i’m very submissive in bed, so i need someone who can dominate me… and be a little kinky
I’ve had no complaints so far.
That would imply that I’m actually having sex at this point in my life.
I would say I am. I’ve been told and I’ve never had complaints ( although no one ever really complains to the person they sleep with just to their friends ) but either way if ur with someone its always good because the love makes for the pleasure.
Never had a complaint … Matter of fact… Most my exes miss me… For sex or not I don’t know …
I’m awesome at sex.
@megan_davis93 – hahha!!!!! Omg.
That’s what I’m saying
what’s sex?
i’d like to think that i am
lol… I wish I knew what bad sex was.
I suck at sex because I don’t want it and I don’t care so I don’t make an effort.
I’m the best every guy’s ever had! Unless he was into BDSM and then I sucked ass!
Well, not that I sucked his ass, but that I was terrible in his eyes.
Dan you should do a video on how to have good sex.
Well I was told I was good, great and so on.
I actually have no idea how I am, but as long as the customer leaves a tip and compliments I can only assume my driving is fine.
I actually am never too sure of myself until the other person expresses their approval =).
I think it really depends on who one is with. I’ve been told both, so meh? Isn’t it sort of in the eye of the beholder?
I’m pretty good since I watch a lot of training videos.
Oh yea, I suck! lol
Two words, ladies and gents: Kama Sutra!
I think everybody likes different stuff. I have never been told I suck but I feel my sex life with my husband is much better then any of the other few people I have slept with. I really think it depends on the person and how comfortable you are.
It says something about the evolution of xanga when a substantial number of people are commenting about their spouses in response to this question.
I am great at sex. Sometimes we watch porn while doing it, and it even gets better.
I’ll let you know when I actually have a sex life. That might be awhile, though.
My wife has no complaints, she request my skills a lot lol
@SKANLYN - I think I finally get that you say the things you do to pull peoples’ chains. in that regard, you are quite successful.
I’ll have to ask my right hand.
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@Pure_Taint – painful for you? We should talk.
well. i don’t think porn teaches you to be a good lover, and to be a good lover not only do you need practice, lots of it, it also helps to be spiritual and learn about erotic massages,tantric yoga etc. a good resource is jaiya on youtube.
Private? does that mean ANYTHING? guess not…first reason why the question itself is inappropriate: sex is not a performance sport, at least not essentially. Essentially sex is an intimate communion of bodies and souls. So, to even suggest that can be categorized on some performance metric is not only ABSURD, but deviant in its demeaning characterization of love as somehow quantifiable. Second reason the question is inappropriate is that it sex is the most private act, and to expose that is to destroy its … sacred…nature. Then nothing is private, nothing sacred. So this question should not be either asked, nor answered. It can be discussed, in private of course, under suitable conditions, and contexts, i.e. counseling, and the like….
@mortimerZilch - Yeah whateva virgin boy.
Good at sex means learning your partners needs/desires/likes/etc/hoooyahhh! That said, I think I’m fairly good at foreplay and teasing/building up anticipation. Good sex is preceded by great foreplay. Just because a guy can ‘finish’, doesn’t mean squat. A great orgasm is what matters and good foreplay is the key to get your guy there. Call me crazy, but I think this is universal (guy or gal). Being crazy turned on before great sex, usually results in… well, awesome end results
I really liked that article, it was interesting.
@kuai_le1011 - There was really no point in you responding to this blog then, was there?
@ChainBracelets - it was about the same point as you asking me that.
@kuai_le1011 - Rhetoricals are fun, aren’t they. (:
@megan_davis93 - He just needs to learn to pace himself lol, he probably goes all out and that’s the cause of it. All men would last less than five minutes if we just went all out and didn’t pace.
I suk at sex bcuz i cry evr tym xx
@ChainBracelets - Yeah…funny thing is, I don’t really feel that way at all. I just had to say it for the hell of it.
@JinnLedet - OMG I just bursted out into uncontrollable laughter. You must get all the ladies huh? ;D
The sad thing is, a friend of mine actually had a boyfriend who cried after they had sex.. Almost every time.
But my answer to this, is bad. Because I’m a virgin so I have no hands on experience. Blah.
@kuai_le1011 - Alright then, Ms. Serious Pants.
@CarelessConfessions - LOL there’s not reason to rush into it. You have your own style of sex >> it’s called “Not Sex”. Power to the people!
@ChainBracelets - haha I ain’t ashamed. Saves me heartache is how I see it. Thanks though girl!<3
@CarelessConfessions - Yeah it’s definitely something that you want to make “special”. Or at least not regret. I hope your experience is uber speshull
@ChainBracelets - : )
@kuai_le1011 - Oh two can play that game. 8)
@ChainBracelets - I know when and who it will be right with. And that’s the biggest thing.
of course i suck in sex, literally~
Not really but that does not really matter anymore since I can’t have it anymore. All I know is celibacy sucks…lol…I’m not at tthat either!LOL…
I have only myself to compare it to and I’ve always thought I was the best.
@megan_davis93 – It’s quite normal. If you look at all other animals, they have sex for a few seconds and it’s all over. Female orgasms aren’t required for procreation. I had a friend with this problem and his Doctor told him to shag his girlfriend from behind and don’t touch her body. Doesn’t sounds very romantic!
i’m good in bed. you can ask the hundreds of men and women i banged.
I don’t think (for the most part) that anyone is either good or bad at sex. I think it depends on how two people flow together.
My bf says I am awesome so I guess I am pretty good.
I know it’s not Halloween, but I’ll go bobbing for apples, given the chance.