April 9, 2013
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Thinking About Your Ex
It is interesting that so many people think about someone who is their ex.
I have read posts on xanga where people were thinking about their ex years after they were married.You have read the posts. They wonder how they are doing. They wonder what could have been.Which ex do you think about the most?
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I have children with my ex. When I think about him it is usually not in a good way. And I wonder how anyone could be so low cruel and selfish and have no qualms about it whatsoever. And I wonder how much longer he will live.
Tim
I only have one ex. And, well, I don’t think about him that much at all. I do wish him the best in life and I really have no hard feelings, even though he was a douchebag
haha. But seriously… I really don’t care. We were not good for each other anyway.
I don’t think I’d really consider him an ex… but it would be Paul. I’ve mentioned him numerous times on my blog.
The ex-husband of course.
Your mom
Hmphhhhhh.
My first ex just walked back into my life. Ohhh temptation you naughty.
The one with the tastiest dick.
My only ex- the one I thought was the one until that fateful day in Ihop when I realized it was over.. He’s still my friend though… and owes me $1600 so he will be in my thoughts for a while
Scarlett Johansson. Mostly because I forgot to tell her we broke up. She still doesn’t know. Which reminds me, I should probably tell her we were dating. She still doesn’t know.
lax
I have no ex’s.
I tend to focus more on the situations and emotions of the ex, rather than the person themselves. It always ends up being that a break-up for me is just that, a break-up. My mind does this weird thing and forgets a lot of who they were, what they looked like. I mean, I do remember them, but when thinking of ex’s I don’t think of the person themselves, I think of how I felt when I was with them and how I felt when we parted. I might be weird, it might be a coping mechanism. Either way, breaking up is the hard part, forgetting them is easy. I think too, although I’ve only had three breakups, when they happen (either brought on by myself, them, or each other) for whatever reason, I get over it because I think
, we would be together if wanted to be.
Helps to get over the issue of breaking up and with moving on…which is the fun part. It involves beer and dancing, I do both very well…well, I do one of them well. I do the other well after about 20 beers.
5 years later, I’ve been having dreams about my ex. Its driving me crazy.
Exes are exes for a reason. I forget the past easily.
I don’t have any. I turned down guys until I found the one I wanted to marry.
i refer to him as patty duke but it’s time to get over him.
The one I thought was the one. And the one who I knew wasn’t the one… but gave me an inside look to the career I’ve started to pursue. Sometime’s they’re happy reminiscent thoughts, but they always end with the reason things ended. I never forget that. Amen to “the past is the past & exes are exes for a reason.”
It is great to have no exes no drama. I married my high school sweet heart…I got lucky because he is my best friend and always has been.
None of them and that is why they are exes.
I don’t really think about either of my two exes much (even though I did base a villain in one of my stories off of one of them). I do sometimes think about a guy who had a crush on me that I never gave a chance to who went on to marry someone else in my major. He was a good-looking guy (looked a bit like Matthew Gray Gubler from Criminal Minds) and really sweet, and if my old journal entries are to be believed, I was somewhat attracted to him. But I was a bit of a mess at the time, so I didn’t give him a chance. That was about 8 years ago. I still occasionally think about him and wonder what might have been. But I know he’s happy with her, and that’s what matters in the end.
My ex-husband. And it’s really only because I have a child with him . Any thoughts in regards to him are very unpleasant thoughts.
Uh that was not even a relationship
I don’t think about any of my exes all the time, but I never forget any of them either.
The most recent, and if only there was a way to stop it completely!
I just hope they are all doing well and I’m pretty confident they are. In most cases we ended on a good note and of the few that didn’t I understand it was at least part my fault.
One ex high school girlfriend collapsed and died during gym class shortly after I told her I was no longer angry with her. I only then learned she was born with a heart condition and was she was told by doctors not to engage in sports. She’d never told me. She was a cheerleader and also played on the field hockey team. She lived the way she wanted to in spite of what doctors told her. Liked by everyone her death was a tragedy in our school. I’m glad I had made amends but I wonder still if my anger put pressure on her heart. Probably did. People told me she was saddened that I was so angry with her. I guess it took that for me to learn it’s not good to hold a grudge or feel animosity toward an ex and after all, I chose to be with her and others and learned valuable lessons from each. How can I not appreciate them? How can I not wish them well?
I think about the ex before terminate when Daleks greet me.
In all honesty, my last ex, but I haven’t been in too many relationships, so it’s kind of a given.
Oh, I sometimes think about this one girl… very specific, I know.
The man I dated a while after I had gone through a horrific divorce. I fell deeply in love with him but was too scared/scarred to let him propose so I broke it off when I knew he was getting serious.
I have regretted it but on the other hand wouldn’t change it either
I can barely remember any of them.
I appreciate my exes. Especially the worst one, who completely broke my heart. But I appreciate him nonetheless because without him, I wouldn’t have learned certain things about myself and the things to avoid when looking for my next boyfriend. Like what was mentioned in one recent How I Met Your Mother episodes, you need to have that one completely terrible, disastrous relationship to shake you up and realize you want to stop dating around crazy people. So without him, I would still be dating crazy people and would never have dated this wonderful guy I am with now.
I rarely think about my exes unless they come up in conversation or something reminds me of them. I think considering my recent ex happened a month ago makes her the one I’ve thought about the most.
@Grannys_Place - very well said
I’ve only had recurring thoughts lately about two exes. Both are named Noah, and the thoughts are for different reasons.
The first Noah has given his blessing for me to write him as a character in a book I’m working on, so I’m re-visiting that strange, triangular, angst-ridden affair as inspiration for the character that’s loosely based on him. In the process of re-living this relationship, I’ve somehow learned a lot about myself, and it sort of freaks me out how a lot of the things he told me about myself came true, when I thought he was full of shit when he made the predictions.
The other Noah I’ve thought about because we’re both going through a pretty trying quarter-life crisis. He just recently quit teaching for good after working so hard to become an educator and moved with his wife up to Michigan. We’re both disillusioned about our careers, or lack of them.
I don’t think about my exes at all. Unless someone like you asks this question
But yeah. I let go of relationships of the past. They are exes for a reason.
@chaospet - My first real belly laugh of the day. Thanks!
Neither, thank you very much!
I think about my ex, but not as much as I used to. But usually it was along the lines of; “What did I do wrong?” as well as other negative stuff like that. Now I’m learning that it wasn’t my fault and that I am my own person. If they couldn’t handle me, then it wasn’t meant to be. Before, I was depressed about my ex…and now I’ve gained more confidence in myself because of my strength to move forward. I proved to myself that the world always ends one way or another, but it can always be reborn into something even better.
*sighs* My first love. She was everything I needed at the age of 18. My g/f, my lover, my mother, my father, my sister, my brother, my best friend, my partner. I didnt know what “love” really was until I met her. 8 years together but the distance became too great and our love became too small. So I do wonder about her…about life. Why can’t we share it together. Or atleast be civil enough to be in each others’ lives, to get a glimpse, you know? So…*shrugs shoulders* I think everyone wonders on that ex that they loved so deeply…even if its painful. A human thing to do.
-Miesha
Since letting go of all my anger towards my exes I think of them and am strangely thankful because I learned so much about myself, how and why I managed to allow them to do the things they did to me and in the process became a forgiving person towards them and most of all myself.
I hold no ill will towards any of them and when I think of them I think of the good times we did have (because truth be told we all have exes because there were things about them that we enjoyed enough to be with them). I never speak poorly of my exes to anyone (our issues were exactly that … ours), and if I see them around I say hello and wish them well.
I think of them because I did and do care.
three exs I think most. As two of them a super nice guys and one of them is a jerk!
I don’t have any ex-husbands. I give absolutely no thought to my ex-boyfriends. Every now and then I think about one boy who, I was always his second or third choice, but we never dated because he was always dating whomever his first or second choice was. haha I’m still on speaking terms with my ex-girlfriend. I don’t think she ever had feelings for me like that, though; We were “dating” so I could take her to homecoming since she went to a different school that year. I “broke up with her” a little while later due to a HORRIBLE miscommunication that wasn’t straightened out until a couple years later!
I do think of 1 ex who was the longest and most toxic relationship I was with….more because of curiosity than anything else I guess.
Its funny you did this post. I thought about an ex last night. I think sometimes, we think about the person who changed our lives in one form or fashion, and that’s the one that get’s dwelled upon- especially when things may be changing again for you.
I see my ex all the time cause we live in the same town and he and his wife friended me on facebook and we share grandkids.
I don’t think about my ex because it was a lifetime ago. No relevance to my current life.
it really took me a long time to stop ‘what ifing’ things after I got married. I’d say about 5 years… it never helped that we were childhood friends and our parents spent holidays together and things. His dad told me about a year ago that I should have been his daughter-in-law, that kind of effed me up for a little while. I don’t even know why, it was just a fairy tale for me. I was never deeply in love with him as a person, just the vision of what I thought life would be like marrying into his family…
Probably E. I hate it when he ruins my birthday tho, and he does it every year.
@Perfect_HindSight - lol may as well cut your losses. i have an “ex” (a 4 year fling pretty much) that owes me around $4,000+ over the past 4 years we’ve been hanging out and just recently he finally gave me back $100 of it, but i’m not expecting all much else back. after him, i’ve stopped trusting people anymore to loan them money. no one has ever proven to me they will pay me back on their own without me hassling them about it. people can’t be trusted, not even your close friends when it comes to money. if they have to ask you for a large amount in the first place that means they don’t have money to begin with to pay you back.
@xinq - haha yeah. After about a year bc he only paid me back about $200 (then borrowed back another hundred) I made him sign a promissory note. The note is not rock solid but it was enough to say I’m serious about getting my money back. He really was a friend and I gave because I had. I tried to work with him on it setting up installments but eventually it would fail. Years passed and I didn’t miss the money…. until I saw he was vacationing with his next gf. Suffice it to say he now owes me about 30% of the original debt and his gf hates me lol
@Perfect_HindSight - lmao yea don’t you just hate it when you see your ex swindling you but he takes the next girl out on nice vacations and stuff. only reason i think of this guy is because he owes me a ton of money not that i like him anymore. i don’t see why she should hate you! she should hate her boyfriend, lol.
I’ve only got the one so far, but I don’t really think about her as much as I think about the memories of times we shared. Those are a lot more beautiful to me than actual thoughts of her.
Oh man, there is one I think about what if I never did I what I did than perhaps me and him would be married or possibly engaged by now. Now he’s engaged to someone else and owns a house with her and all but from to time I think about that the girl could of being me.
My first ex. But not so much anymore. It is sad but I mostly remember the bad times over the good times because that was a defense mechanism and a healing tool when we broke up. He was the topic of my 2nd blog ever on Xanga. I had a lot of pent up emotions and feelings towards the stupid guy that I just vented here instead of kicking him in the balls. I hope I never run into him again but if I do, well I’m a very different person than back then.
That would be my first love. In and out of each others’ lives for 10 years during college/grad school. Dated for 2 years, stayed good friends for 5, dated for 2 more and almost got married. I had the ring picked out and everything until I found out about the other guy near the end of grad school. Still think about her sometimes and I’ll always love her and miss her like crazy still sometimes even though we haven’t really talked in several years, but it was just one too many things to get past. I truly do hope she’s happy but do sometimes wonder if things might have worked out differently.
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I had just forgotten my ex-wife and then I applied for a US Passport.
For some strange reason the US government wants to know all about our latest ex.
Perverts is what I call’em.
@wildchildofthebluemoon - over 2 years for me and I still dream of her too! And its not like I talk to her or see her either. I don’t like it
i think about my first husband. i think about him being run over.
Fortunately for me, I don’t have a favourite Ex. There was one who I kinda reconciled lately (aka talked) but I found out it’s best to just shut the doors permanently this time.
sometimes when the ptsd comes back
I still sometimes dream about my ex-husband. I have a lot of guilt because I worry I didn’t try hard enough when I was married to him
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Only my daughter’s father since I have to talk to his punk ass every night.
I always think about my exes wondering how they are. Hope they are well. But this time it’s completely different. This time I’m tied down to this ex. We have a baby together. He’s an immature guy and can’t let go of the party life. And has no respect for me. He has his own issues as we all do but I guess what I’m saying is I want to forget about him I don’t wish him well and I wish I never had to talk to him. Is it just different feelings because of the baby? I think about him a lot. I think about everything he put me through and now my life is forever changed. Yet he goes on living life with no responsibilities. I just want to know it gets better and that I won’t think about him let alone care… #easiersaid
That would be my last ex who I broke up with recently. We had a really happy, fulfilling 5+ years together and I learned a great deal about myself being with him, but it just felt like some things were never going to be right between us. I will always love him, he holds a very special place in my heart. It’s hard moving on from something when it’s far from terrible but it’s just not quite what you want for the rest of your life in a relationship. I do still think about him.
Over time, many of us tend to forget about the bad things in earlier relationships, but the great things still shine through. Next thing you know, we start thinking “Hmmm, maybe it was a mistake that we broke up.”
My first real love. It didn’t work out and wasn’t the right one for me, but he still creeps into my thoughts every now and then.
I actually think about a couple different exes. One of them is my son’s father, so he’s in my life quite a bit. The other one just pops into my head sometimes for no apparent reason.