I am not sure I fit in here. I have friends here but I am not sure I fit in the group.
I always feel left out of the little circle group of friends. It is hard to put a finger on but I will try to explain.
It feels like xanga has these circles of friendships. People all get together and they have their circle of friends. They talk together and interact in a personal way. But I always feel left out of the circle. I am not sure why. Have you ever had a friend in a circle of friends and you liked the person and could talk to the person but when the person was in the group, you felt left out? That is how it feels.
So I can interact with people on a personal level but I never feel apart of the group.
Another way this manifest itself is a person can be critical of me and say something really hateful about me and for the most part, people keep walking. I am not that way. If you are my friend and someone is critical of you, I will clean their clock. But that is me. I tend to see friendship as loyalty. I am sure there are reasons for that response. I don't expect people to defend me when I get more negative posts than most. (For some reason I don't get this negative response in real life so it must just be the internet).
But every once in a while, I would like to be part of the group. I want to join a clique and laugh along and feel like I am one with the crowd. But I want my group to include everyone and not leave anyone out.
Perhaps I just take things too personally.
I always feel left out of the little circle group of friends. It is hard to put a finger on but I will try to explain.It feels like xanga has these circles of friendships. People all get together and they have their circle of friends. They talk together and interact in a personal way. But I always feel left out of the circle. I am not sure why. Have you ever had a friend in a circle of friends and you liked the person and could talk to the person but when the person was in the group, you felt left out? That is how it feels.So I can interact with people on a personal level but I never feel apart of the group.Another way this manifest itself is a person can be critical of me and say something really hateful about me and for the most part, people keep walking. I am not that way. If you are my friend and someone is critical of you, I will clean their clock. But that is me. I tend to see friendship as loyalty. I am sure there are reasons for that response. I don't expect people to defend me when I get more negative posts than most. (For some reason I don't get this negative response in real life so it must just be the internet).But every once in a while, I would like to be part of the group. I want to join a clique and laugh along and feel like I am one with the crowd. But I want my group to include everyone and not leave anyone out.Perhaps I just take things too personally.
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This sounds like my whole life growing up as well as an adult. I have friends but I don't ever fit in any group. Even here I have friends but I am never part of a group. Sorry to hear you feel this way as well. As your are uber popular I am really surprised. As for me I have about 10 people that read and only 3 or 4 that comment.
... Hmmmm I feel this way irl and no so much on the Internet... Maybe it has as something to do with the Internet? Ha. Um but hope you don't feel as such any longer..
Perhaps you are just too popular
Awwwwwww, Dan, you're in my group of friends (not sure if it's a circle? more like a blob haha) and I greatly value you
I think you're wonderful.
I don't think there's much of a problem of you taking these sorts of things personally. You're a genuinely caring and thoughtful person (people who might say otherwise can go eff themselves, because I've experienced your kindness personally).
I, on the other hand, know that I am not very outward in expressing my feelings of friendship, concern, etc. I'm working on it now, though. But please know that if people were being negative to you that I'd have your back. :)
*hug* you're too much of a celebrity ... celebrities are very much intimidating
I'm sorry you feel this way..you know that I believe you to be a friend of mine, and I always respond to you when you comment. <3
DAN YOU ARE MY FAVORITE PERSON.
@Marica0701 - I think you're doing well. <3 you :D
That's pretty much how my life has been since I was little. I mean, I've been diagnosed with Asperger's and people always tell me that that's one of the reasons I can't relate to people and never feel like I belong to any group, but I think it's also just part of my personality. I'm not a likable person.
If you ever figure out how to belong, let me know. I've been looking for the answer for twenty two years.
I tend not to fit in either - but you can be my friend.
What I enjoy here is writing, art, pictures of flowers and beautiful land and seascapes and food, subjects uncontroversial which everyone can enjoy. I'm glad election day has passed. I felt it my civic responsibility to post and debate political issues but I'm happy I can go back to spending more time primarily on the things I enjoy. I guess my humble advice would be to find whatever you enjoy and go for it.
Aww come on Dan you run the place. Do any of us really fit in here and this is only a cyber world some would say, but to me this is a world I enjoy being in.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((old granny hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))Maybe you just want to be "Popular!"
Take a couple of minutes and watch this Broadway clip from Wicked. It's worth a chuckle.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsKH2tqoFJ8
What? Oh cut it out, lol, you are the most praised Xangan on here. What are you talking about?
I have sort of a group of friends, and am grateful.
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There is a give and take in relationships/groups. You put out interesting questions for discussion, but you don't often respond to comments, and you almost never comment on the posts of others. Groups and/or 'circles need communication both ways.
I don't think I have a group, but I have good friends on here, and you top that list Dan. You know that if I ever see somebody say something rude to or about you that I go after them. I do that for all of my friends. Like you, I expect my friends to be loyal to me, but I also don't understand staying silent when a friend is attacked. As for why it happens people are jealous of how popular you are so they are petty. <3
I thought you had your own group and u were the 'leader'
Dan, what are you talking about? So I think you never understand how big my love is for you (-,-) Oh fine.
Since you are sarcastic a lot, this is one of those posts that it's hard to know whether to take it serious or not. I'm leaning towards this being one of your sarcastic posts, just to see what people will comment. The reason I believe this is that you don't strike me as someone like that. If by chance it's real, maybe it's because you never comment back to people on any of your posts. Hang in there Dan. I'm sure you will be ok.
i'm sorry to hear that. i think maybe i saw the thing that upset you today. i'm not sure though, because it was incomprehensible to me, so i couldn't really read it. in any case, it feels awful to be left out, ignored, attacked and i'm sorry that you feel that way.