I know there are all kinds of surveys going on around xanga. I received this message a few minutes ago:
Hey, Dan.
I have a possible topic for a future post for you, if you don't mind. So, I had an interesting convo with the bf today. I happened to order a *ahem* "toy" call the "Rabbit" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rabbit_vibrator) out of curiosity on why so many women seem to like "playing" with them. This is my first time dealing with an adult toy. The bf expressed discontent and a bit disgust in the idea. Said I'm learning all the "bad things." I am really curious on what all the guys' views are regarding women using sex toys (i.e., dildos & vibrators). Do they mind women using it? Also, do they find it unappealing or the opposite? I want to also ask the ladies on how many actually have one or would be keen on the idea of having/using one.
Guys, do you mind if your woman uses a vibrator?
Ladies, do you have a vibrator or have you ever used one?
Guys, do you mind if your woman uses a vibrator?Ladies, do you have a vibrator or have you ever used one?
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I have so many vibrators.
I had one...
got rid of it...
biggest mistake ever.
And, who cares if he's okay with it? It's your choice, girl. Go for it! Have fun!
I think that's a hare not a rabbit. :) And who cares if a guy minds?
OMG...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
See how I didn't answer the right question LOL? <3
I have had a few. I had an ex that wouldn't let me get one "bigger" than he was.. needless to say, I couldn't find one small enough..
Do rabbits use vibrators?
I had one until it stopped working. I miss that thing. I haven't replaced it because my husband feels that if I have a vibrator it means that he isn't adequate enough, even though I've said it isn't true. So, since he is uncomfortable with it, I am vibratorless.
As long as she doesn't prefer it over the real thing, it's not a big deal. If she were to let me watch her use a cute pink one that would be very sexy. TMI?
I think that if a guy demands his woman not use toys then he should be expected to give up porn. :P
I was gonna suggest a similar topic: girlfriend who used dog for sex--
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/29/brittany-angelique-sonnier_n_2212694.html
Idea for TheTheologiansCafe: What about having a dedicated entry for topic suggestions for the site?
@leaflesstree - Exactly!
To answer the question, no, I've never had a vibrator, mainly because they're expensive. I don't have anything against them, though.
If he's not comfortable with it, maybe have him use it while you guys are together. Then, he'll get a feel for it. I had an ex who was super against them, thought it was because he wasn't adequate, and said it was like 'cheating'. I made him use it on me one time and he thought it was awesome afterwards and never said anything bad about it again.
Never had a problem with two of my exes that actually used them. I was cool with it.
I have several.
I have a couple, plus other toys. Theyre awesome for when im single (not into permiscous sex anymore lol) and they are good fun to use with a bf :) your bf sounds controlling and jealous. Do what you want to do :)
Ok, going to throw my voice in here- (rare but it happens, so give me a break)
We have a couple modest vibrators- one for travel, one for home.
My view is that my wife deserves as much (if not more) than I do to be pleased and pleasured. The most common complaint that I've head about sex is that it's a lot harder, on the whole, for women to achive oragasm than men. Knowing this, we tentatively stepped into the dildo/vibrator/misc other sex toy arena after a bunch of research.
Frankly, and bluntly, if my wife isn't being pleasured, for one reason or another, that's as much my problem as hers. I adore her, I love her, and I want to see her pleased. It takes a lot of effort to consistently make love in an amazing way, that pleasures her. I love spending the time to cuddle, to kiss and... you get the idea. The problem is, when there's a lot of emotional stuff going on in the course of the day that's making it hard for us to get our minds in the game, or one of us doesn't feel up to spending 45-1hr on sex, or a million other reasons you might not want to have sex, a toy of some kind is a godsend- we NEED that kind of release, all of us.
Both sex and lovemaking are for BOTH of you- you should both enjoy it. If she's not, get over yourself and get her something yourself. You'll be happy you did.
Two awesome places to shop for toys are amazon and http://melroseurbanfemale.com/
^ Hawt...
The rabbit is gooooood. I've had boyfriends enjoy the fact that I own sexy toys.
1) No comment as I am underage ,blah blah blah
and 2) Men have two heads and not enough blood to work both at the same time, so they work one and are out of their minds otherwise so..who cares?I have 2. Every guy thinks its awesome
I have a "cheap" vibrator. My husband bought it for me for my 19th birthday, so obviously he's okay with me using it. I have 24 'free' hours per week where he's working so it's not like I'm ever choosing it over him or anything.