August 31, 2006
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Bisexual
I received this message from someone via the new message feature:
“My dad, sister, mom, and I were sitting down to dinner. My sister mentioned that her friend had just confided in her that she is bisexual. My dad told us that he doesn’t believe that such an orientation exists. He explained that bisexuality is just a way for people to hide their true homosexuality. I disagreed only because I know a number of people in my high school that claim to be.”
Is bisexuality a way for people to hide their true homosexuality?
Comments (215)
1st! yes it is
I really don’t know.
sometimes it is..
I don’t think so …
i don’t think so…if they’re attracted to both sexes, then they’re not homosexuals.
The homosexuals I know tell me there is no such thing as bisexuality. That someone just hasn’t truly come out yet. They however, won’t sleep with both sexes, while the bi-sexual person will…?
You tell me.
No I don’t think so. Maybe those people are just more open to their own sexuality.
Not usually.
Bisexuality and Homosexuality are both forms of sexual confusion, probably stemming from low self-esteem and/or personality disorders.
Wow, let’s here it for ambiguity. “Sometimes”, “I don’t know”, “I don’t think so” ” Not usually”, “my friend says” At least one person stated an opinion
I don’t really know. I never thought of it that way.
nope. i am just attracted to both sexes.
i dont think of it as low self esteem…if i had low self esteem then i wouldnt be getting either guys or girls..i am actually very confident. i could get both male and females if i wanted.
i always liked what Bill Hicks said about being bisexual: ” straight man walks into a party and starts to immediately check out the girls…gay man walks into the same party and immediately begins to check out all the guys…bisexual man walks into the same party and says ‘alright, alirght alright.’”…..i just can’t see how someone would deprive themselves of being one of the few people in the world to able to be attracted to both sexes..i have a hard enough time being straight and only having one option…
What do you think? Never thought about it..
I can see ppl using it as a cover up, but at the same time, for some ppl maybe its not, maybe they do enjoy the company(shall we say) of both sexes, i havent meet any to be sure of this but this is wat would make sense to me……….
Being BI is not a sexual ordination; it’s just being a really horny supper slut. Keep them away from livestock on those cold lonly nights
I don’t think so much because they’re hiding it…. maybe more because they’re just confused.
no, I think is is an out for straight people to experiment.
i think it is a term for people who want to justify experimentation.
no cuz im bi!
Good Grief! I really feel sorry for the kids nowadays and the kids of the future. They have sex shoved at them from every nook and cranny of society so that is what they dwell on. What is their sexual preference? I say again Good Grief! And in answer to your question YES, but why hide it? In today’s world homosexuals are the pampered sexual preference aren’t they? The media, Hollywood, politicians, and TV programming loves them.
I find it as experimenting. I am very curious.
I hardly think bisexual excludes homosexuality to begin with, so how can it hide it?
Just a way for horny people to get twice the sex
It’s not a way to hide anything. It’s a way to flaunt an unwillingness to be a covenant keeper.
No, I don’t think it’s a way to hide homosexuality…because they enjoy sleeping with both male and female.
It’s just an EXCUSE to be a WHORE!
I don’t have a clue. I have theories, but nothing that I know for sure…I’ll pass. Next question.
I’ll have to do some research and get back to ya….
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I think it is. I have always had the opinion that bisexuals were just homosexuals who didn’t want to admit it because they were afraid. As someone put it: If homosexuals were ‘just born that way’(which I don’t believe), then how were bi-sexuals born? Confused?
I think one’s true sexual orientation lies with which sex they are capable feeling romantic love. But I don’t really care. I just think that non-jealous, bisexual girlfriends rule!
For some people it is, for other people, they’re just sexually interested in both.
I am probably bisexual. I have had relationships with both, and ultimately chose to be married to and faithful to a male.
It is not hiding my sexuality at all, because I feel fulfilled sexually in this relationship. It’s hard to explain, there are different needs that get met by different people, and by different genders, not all of them sexual.
I think I am where God intended me to be, and where the richest blessing are for me.
I used to think so, but now I think it’s a true orientation
In middle and high school, at least where I grew up, it was “cool” if girls were bisexual, so I always take these claims with a grain of salt. With males, there are actually studies out there that point to male-bisexuality as being a myth/fabrication.
no, even though (for some reason) my mom believes that…
being bi does not make you a whore. unless youre doing it for the wrong reasons. i dont do it to get attention from males. i dont need that. i do it cuz i have feeling towards girls.girls who do things to get attention from guys are apparently not able to get guys by being themselves, and that makes them whores.theres a difference.
No, it’s not (always) a way of hiding their homosexuality. I was bisexual for a very long time. I wasn’t homosexual, I was bisexual. And everyone in “my world” knew it. To me, homosexuality (and bisexuality) is an injury- just like a number of other things. I was healed in an instant and I believe other people can be too.
Love.
it just means they’re horny for either gender, man, woman, dog… no wait
psh no, people just like guys and girls or girls and guys.
I dont know. I am a straight wonderful female that loves a man.
An interesting question that completely misses the point, and only complicates a very simple problem.
I’m not sure. Most straight people find it non too appealing to sleep with a member of the same sex. At the same time, most homosexuals do not enjoy the thought of sleeping with someone of the opposite sex. I believe bisexuality stems from those who only claim to be homosexual for one reason or another, but are not truly homosexual.
No, I think bisexuality among teenagers is often more akin to curiousity.
No, it’s just for horny people and those who can’t make up their minds.
I think sexuality is a continuum, there are heterosexuals, homosexuals, and bisexuals lie in between to varying degrees.
I’m not sure, but I’ve never really put any thought into it either.
generally speaking, YES.
Not always, but it can be. Sexual orientation is a spectrum from completely gay to completely straight, and very few people are at one end or the other.
No- I tend to think that people are just more open to their own sexuality and are curious.
Uuugh!
We are such a pent-up society…
I think the rest of the world must laugh at us…
no it’s not. I mean, it’s an orientation for people who like both boys and girls, for people who can’t go either way. Why does it have to be one way or the other?
No, I don’t think so. Most of the people I have known that have considered themselves bi at one point or another end up married with kids, but most of my gay friends that I have never started out as bi.
Maybe for some people. But why is it impossible fior people to “swing both ways?”
That’s possibly the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. It’s not like the stigma is any less being bisexual.
I dunno….This Witch is a “hetero” so I am not qualified to speak on this subject. I don’t “think” so, as I know many people who are bi-sexual. I really could care less since it doesn’t involve me. To each their own….
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Wow, with all the bigotry around here, I’d think I was back in western Kentucky again.
Hiding your true sexuality just doesn’t make any sense. As we can see from the above comments, bisexuality is just as socially unacceptable as homosexuality, so it doesn’t make any sense to pretend to be one when you’re the other.
To further support my argument, let’s be a little gross here. If I wanted to have sex with another male, I would have to be physically attracted to him in order to do so. Put bluntly, I would have to be horny enough to get an erection. This would clearly make me physically attracted, and thus homosexual, or bisexual. The same thing goes for women in being sexually stimulated prior to sex with another female. In other words, it’s not something someone can fake.
The question that I ask is, why are so many people afraid of people who are different than you? If they say they like women and men, why does that upset people so much? Why can’t you just accept that fact that people are different than you. My roommate here in college is gay. Sometimes he has other men with him to spend the night. This doesn’t bother me. Why should it?
TEACH TOLERANCE!
-Nick
Nah, they’re just nymphos.
to answer truly, i have no idea. But i don’t really want to know who people sleep with, and i dont really care, so…
It’s akin to douple dipping.
lol@mrguesswho.
NOPE. It’s just a dalliance. It’s all flesh.
Guys have never done it for me. I’ve tried but nah.
Sometimes….It’s possible to be bisexual I’m sure.
I think it goes both ways… there are people who use it to justify the fact they are afraid to fully come out… and then there are people who are actually attracted to both sexes… if something is sexy it doesn’t matter what sex it is, that’s my opinon… I know i’m not confused, I have a loving husband and a wonderful family, but I don’t classify myself as straight because I’ve had girlfriends, and I still see women that I find attractive, just as I see men that I find attractive, I’m not a super slut… I just know what I like… Beauty… it comes in both sexes…
For some, yes. Not for all. For others it’s probably their wa of saying, we’re young, our hormones are hyperactive, and I need to experiment.
For some people it is a coverup for homosexuality. However, it isn’t for everyone. It depends from person to person.
-Guru on the Hill
No, some people really are bisexual
it could be, but usually not.
I think people need to stop focusing on how their ”identity” is their sexuality. It’s really annoying.
dont make me sick
No, but maybe once in a while it might be.
it’s not homosexulaity…….it’s sick and wrong that’s all I have to say!!!!
nahh not really maybe it is just a little sense of adventure or in some twisted way a change of scenery
Hmm… I don’t think so. I think it’s just a point in their lives when they are simply confused, and don’t know really what they are. They have the courage to say they like the same sex, but the nagging feeling they still like the opposite.
i’m a lesbian.
No. I’m bisexual. I like men and women. Both sexes offer different things to a relationship.
I don’t think ANYONE answering this question who isn’t bisexual knows what they’re talking about.
If I was a guy, and had sex with another guy 20 some odd times, and just out of the blue, quit, got married (to a girl), and never strayed from her. I would still consider myself BI, because non the less I still had sex w/ both male and female. If I had sex with a guy and a girl the majority of my life, and counted every time I had sex, and it came out to be 1000 times w/ a guy and 950 times w/ the girl, but ended up living my old age (of being inactive) w/ just the girl, I would consider that love, but I would still consider myself a bisexual.
Sometimes but not all the time.
yes it is just a way to hide a person’s true homosexuality.
I’ve observed that bisexual people definitely have a preference.
Bi = Confused.
I dont tkink so…….. c/b
I have a friend who claims to be bisexual. I have no idea if she actually is. I suppose it’s possible to be attracted to both sexes, but to me it seems a little greedy.
no its not i thinks it’s just that they dont know what they want so they go from oneside to the other~
Agreed, BillBryant.
mmm. some people do use it as an excuse, but i believe it does exist as it’s own form of sexuality.
Bi-sexuality, homosexuality, matters not. Depravity is depravity.
I don’t think so. Don’t some scientists think that we’re all bisexual to varying degrees? I guess “bisexual” people are probably just closer to 50/50.
At the age of four I realized something.
I was attracted to girls, I didn’t understand the stirring in my child loins brought on by breasts and piggy back rides, but I learned through experimentation that you could easily do things with other boys and it felt almost as good.
I have never been attracted to masulinity. Never will. Eddie Murphy had a great quote – “Who could find love in a man’s hairy ass?”
Which is true, its pretty nasty, but bisexuality is simply being comfortable with sex with both sexes, to me.
Gay friends who mocked me were uncomfortable with themselves, and jealous of my options, but sex with men while being scared of girls can become compulsive, and leave you feeling kind of empty.
reminds me of Phoebe’s song on Friends:
sometimes men love women
sometimes men love men
and then there are bisexuals
but some just say they’re kidding themselves
hahahah…
no. not at all.
nah, i think people really do go both ways.
thank you for the encouraging words. funny, trust isn’t the issue at this point in time, but it is something i struggle with. i just discovered some info that brings a huge thing in my life to an end. but i’m not sorry that i have to endure it, for:
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” James 1:2
I consider it an honor that God knew my heart was ready for what I’m going through. I could be bitter at Him, but he knows me better than I know myself. I can’t be angry at Him.
Nope. I have no doubt if some people can prefer only the opposite sex and some can prefer only the same sex, some can also like both equally. Anyway, this is just my speculation, but careful scientific studies have been done on sexual orientation- hence if you make up some bullshit claim like the above you are flying in the face or hard scientific fact. But then Americans are willing to believe anything BUT scientific fact. See evolution debate.
A girl at my school once told me, “They ain’t no such thang as bisexuals… dey jus’ greedy!”
I know a bunch of bisexuals (and homosexuals) and some of them are just using it because it’s more acceptable than being flat out gay… but this one guy… he is straight down the line bisexual.
“Just a way for horny people to get twice the sex”
Ummm I think it could be–but I think it’s harder for guys than for girls: I know girls who are striahgt but make-out with other girls because they think guys think it’s hot . . . or they were just really drunk . . but I don’t know. I guess I’ll see ina few years if my “striaght” girl buds end up being gay . . .
“Bisexuality and Homosexuality are both forms of sexual confusion, probably stemming from low self-esteem and/or personality disorders.”
by Building_A_Mystery
That’s pretty dumb if you ask me.. Being bi-sexual means that you have the nerve to experiment!
I’m bisexual, and I’m in a lasting relationship with a dude, so…No.
I have alot of Gay friends and alot of Bi friends. Most of my gay friends agree that if you say you are Bi, You are just a Homo-Sexual that hasn’t tottaly come out, Yet my Bi friends insist that they like both sex’s. And I didn’t know who to beleive untill, I had a Bi friend turn Gay, and then he said himself that most Bi-Sexual’s are just in denial. So who to beleive? WHO TO BELEIVE?!
Although possible in some cases, I think for the most part no. They proved sometime that there are bisexual animals, and I highly doubt they were just hiding their true homosexuality.
No it’s not a way for people to hide their true homosexuality. Some people are physically and mentally attracted to both genders. Some maybe trying to hide it. Some may be trying to get attention.
Over all, it is not a cover up. They like both. And I think that might be difficult for straight people to see.
no. it is an indescriminate love of all people regardless of sex.
i consider myself equally attracted to and in love with both men and women.
It’s possible that a person isn’t quite sure that they are homosexual so they claim to be bisexual in order to try out being gay or straight and not be considered one or the other.
John Leguizamo said (as his gay uncle) “Bisexuals are just greedy. Pick a hole!”
Bisexuality exist simple as people who are open minded. It’s not a statement, it’s simply being honest about their tastes.
’nuff said….
A study was done a few months ago by scientists who measured arousal centers in the brains of men. They showed them gay and straight porn. The gays were stimulated by the gay porn, the straights by the straight, but the men claiming to be bisexual only registered arousal on the gay movies.
How is being a certain sexual orientation deems you as “horny” or “slutty”? That makes no sense… I know a ton of straight people sleeping around more than my bi or homosexual friends, yet we do not question them to the extent that we do a bisexual or homosexual female or male. Talk about double standard…
To answer your question, I feel very strongly that bisexual TEENAGERS are experimenting. Now a days, us level headed individuals accept homosexuality which makes it ok for our teenagers in the peak of their sexual questioning to try this lifestyle. Who is to say that this is right or wrong, moral or unmoral? We are all members of a society that is becomming open and honest when it comes to the candor and necessity of sex. If you are still stuck behind that Bible of yours, then I honestly pray for your soul.
This reminds me of what my old band director used to tell us, “You laugh or condem the things you do not know of. It’s that uncomfortable giggle you give out when you mess up the first time or the quick, ‘I hate this’ when you are not willing to try.” Let’s all try to accept instead of condeming or we will always be in a holy war of faith.
for some people maybe. but not for all people. i’m straight, but i still find girls to be attractive now and then.
No, it’s not.
i think bisexuality is just confusion!!
No. Bisexuality is definitely real. However, most of the people who say they are bi now are really just saying it to look “cool”. It’s ridiculous.
Bisexuality is just getting sex any way you can get it, isn’t it?
Not at all.
It’s just being attracted to both sexes.
I see it as only seeing someone’s soul, no matter what is in their pants. Woot.
I wish I could be like that.
not for most people. but lately it seems like a trend to be bi and i think some kids are using it as an excuse to mask their true heterosexuality.
I think both explanations could be true for certain people. Some might be hiding the fact that they are completely homosexual, but I also believe in a “bisexual” orientation.
“Bisexuality and Homosexuality are both forms of sexual confusion, probably stemming from low self-esteem and/or personality disorders.”
What planet is that person from? I have all the self-esteem and self-confidence in the world and I am still homosexual. I despise sweeping generalizations!
We’re all human, we’re all sexual. If someone is using an orientation label as a cover-up well, that’s their picnic. Can’t we all just get along. *snerk*
Shalom!
I can’t say I know much about the subject myself, but I do have a friend who claims to be bisexual, and whether she acknowledges it or not, she’s sorta…in love with love? She seems like she’s so desperate for some type of companionship that she doesn’t care what sex it’s from.
Not saying that all bi people are that way, but I think alot of them that I know are just lonely.
It’s just a way to get more sex, that’s all.
No, because it is possible to like both sexes (not that I do, haha)… you can be attracted to the sex you were supposed to be and be attracted to the other.
lol well it’s prolly because they like to fuck anything that moves.
..or it’s another trendy tag they can add on in addition to being “emo” or being “featured”
PAH!
well im a lesbian with straigt tendencies. lol.
Swt
Bisexuals are gays in denial.
Although sometimes people say they’re bisexual for attention.
Bisexuality is sometimes a sort of transition into accepting your true sexuality.. other times, it’s something stupid teenage girls do for attention and to be cool.. other times, people are just bisexual. It can be a lot of things, really.
Uh yea, unless your bi you wouldn’t know…and I don’t know 100% but I do have many friends that are, some of them in my opinion truly are homosexual but one of them yes, does have sex w. both males and females so yea..I’d say it does exsist, though not for as many people that say they are.
I suppose it could be, but people are born that way–proof is by genetics.
No, that’s ridiculous.
It can be.
But mostly-no
No. If somebody tells a lie, he or she is a liar. If somebody kills somebody, (even just once) he or she is a murderer. If somebody want’s to be homosexual but still be with the opposite gender, he or she just can’t make up his or her mind. The Bible calls it a sin, and if it isn’t dealt with he or she can expect eternity in the company of liars, murderers, and other various unsaved people. On the other hand, if they choose to repent from said sin, (and it has happened in the past), then he or she can expect eternity in the comapany of tax collectors, prostitutes, and other various saved people (including some liars, murderers, and former homosexuals/bisexuals).
I wouldn’t know; I’ve never been either.
sometimes. i mainly think that bisexuality is just for people who can’t make up their minds
i think so….
WARNING: Somebody will be offended by the following:
For those with dusty Bibles:
18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.
24Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
26Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
28Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them. (Found in the First chapter of the book of Romans)
*Twelve of the above-listed once applied to me … According to Pascal’s Wager: You have two things to lose: the true and the good; and two things to stake: your reason and your will, your knowledge and your happiness; and your nature has two things to avoid: error and wretchedness. Since you must necessarily choose, your reason is no more affronted by choosing one rather than the other. That is one point cleared up. But your happiness? Let us weigh up the gain and the loss involved in calling heads that God exists. Let us assess the two cases: if you win, you win everything: if you lose, you lose nothing. Do not hesitate then: wager that he does exist.
Maybe I went a little overboard …
NOO of course not its just ur open and like em
I’m sipping hot tea right now. I enjoy hot orange pekoe tea.
I also like orange pekoe tea with ice.
I enjoy both hot tea and iced tea
Therefore
I don’t truly enjoy ice tea. Claiming to enjoy both iced and hot tea is just a way for me to hide my hot-tea nature…
nah i don’t believe in bisexuality…
it’s just a phase. you’re either one thing or the other…
I don’t think so.
I’ve always had a thing for women, but only til a few years ago realized that my sexual attraction to them was much stronger than it is for most girls. I have a boyfriend of 2 years who I would do anything for, and am deeply in love with. I’ve been with girls before… I suppose its just a different sort of attraction for me. The connection is different; it has nothing to do with sex, nor is it a way to be a slut. A sexual orientation doesn’t automatically double the amount of people you sleep with (after all, do straight people sleep with every single person of the opposite sex they come across?).
However, something that does seem to ring true is that bisexuality has come a sort of ‘in’ thing to be. I hate stupid girls who claim to be bisexual just because they think guys will find them more attractive if the chance of a threesome rings in the air. Grow up.
Dan, the comments you get are great. Sometimes they’re like cheesecake–ever so good. Other times they’re like rotten milk–you just HAVE to take a sniff even though you know it’s going to be bad.
I think it’s incredible that people can dogmatically assert that bisexuals are:
– just seeking attention
– gays in denial
– just horny people that want more sex
We could just as easily make a similar claim about people who “claim” to enjoy both hot coffee and ice coffee. These people are really:
– Just trying to hide their hot-coffee nature
– Just hyper people that want MORE and MORE caffeine
– Just seeking attention (it just sounds so cool to tell someone that you enjoy coffee at opposite temperatures)
Now on a serious note, I can speak for myself as a bisexual who is very much attracted to shakira and very much attracted to Brad Pitt (have you seen Troy?). I’ve had sex with ONE person (a woman), a person I dated for 13 months and thought for sure I would “officially” marry (I thought that we were already married in a sense).
yes! bisexuality is just a kind of kinky sex that people are into.
it /can/ be used as an excuse for homosexuals to hide. it /can/ be used as an excuse for straight people to experiment.
however, if someone is a true bisexual and not just using it to hide something else, they mean it. theyre attracted to both sexes, end of story. and besides, only they can say for themselves, not anyone else.
No, that’s bullshit.
Soft_rain_44,
Enjoying hot coffee and iced coffee is just a type of kinky caffeine-rush that people are into…
I do identify myself as a bisexual. I’m simply attracted to both genders…I see the beauty in both. Growing up, it was quite confusing trying to figure out what my orientation was, but I finally realized that I like ‘em both. It’s quite hurtful to see such close-minded people saying these awful things about bisexuals.
Oh my. Bisexuality doesn’t always cover homosexuality (there are a few), and it isn’t for ‘horny people to get twice the sex.’ I have never had sex and I have a boyfriend. I’m not curious. I’m bi. That smashes all those little theories into the ground.
Pissed me off, you ignorant fools. You know who you are.
I think that people can be attracted to people of both sexes.
Yep!
Hmmmm interesting.
I am bisexual.
I do not have sex.
I am not horny.
I “discovered” my sexuality very early. Sixth grade, I believe.
I will date you if I find you attractive, and I will love you if I find you worthy.
Why should something like gender get in the way of that?
No. I think sexual orientation runs along a continuum (A long progressive line) with hard core heterosexual at one end, hard core homosexual at the other, and every combination thereof inbetween.
i think straight is pretty uncommon. i’ve heard all girls are at least 5% bisexual (because they are all at least partly attracted to girls) and guys, they probably just wont admit it if they do feel anything.
I have a very opinionated veiw of homo, bi, etc. that comes mostly form my upbringing. However, I usually refrain from speaking my mind about these thing, so not to offend people. I do disagree with jimmyjazz86 in that even if you don’t like guys, your body doesn’t always react trhe way your mind would want it to. ‘To put it bluntly’, you could get slightly aroused physically, not mentally, by the same gender regardless of your own sexuality.
i think way in the future most people will be bisexual.
I guess anyone can use it as an excuse if they want to. But I really think it is a valid sexual orientation.
Nah. I think bisexuality is a real sexual orientation.
I have no idea, honestly. I know some people at my school that claim to be “bi” but most of them date people of the opposite sex anyway… I don’t know!
it is very real…
I think in some cases it could be. But not in all. I should know, I am bi.
It was for me at first. It’s a good way to transition into telling your parents.
no. Not one single person is 100% straight or gay.
well…i think it is…because like…everybody ive ever seen thats ‘bi’ doesnt even date anybody the opposite sex…they date people the same sex…
Nope, some people just love everyone.
“Bisexuality and homosexuality are both forms of sexual confusion, probably stemming from low self-esteem and/or personality disorders.”
Sorry, I have to reply to this. I’m gay. I’m not sexually confused (I’m quite sure I’m attracted to the same sex) and I’m pretty self-confident and have no personality disorder. This is one of the more absurd things I’ve read– along the same lines as homosexuality is a disease or defect and that it can be cured.
It can’t. Research shows pretty well that there is no cause for homosexuality… it’s simply a part of who someone is. You can’t change it.
Aaaand to answer the question, bisexuality certainly can be used to hide homosexuality. I did it during my freshman year at high school. But that doesn’t go for all people who say they’re bi.
NO! It’s NOT! And, according to Kinsey, pretty much everyone is at least a little bit bisexual. Not everyone, just mostly. I don’t understand why people don’t understand that it’s possible to be attracted to both sexes, it’s like poeple that think everything is black and white, there’s no grey area. It’s so incredibly stupid, and you are SO ignorant if you think there is no such thing. Because, apparently, I’m hiding my homosexuality and I just don’t know it. Because, I promise, I like both. And why is it that people say it’s not just a way to hide straightness? I mean, I guess that doesn’t really make sense, but, honestly, bisexual people get worse prejudices, because we get prejudices from both sides. It’s like how biracial kids sometimes are, neither side accepts because they’re not completely one or the other, so, why would somebody CHOOSE to have prejudices from both sides, if they were just “hiding homosexuality”, and bisexuals get just as much crap from heterosexuals as homosexuals do, so, it would be pointless. //end rant//
Yes, Gay whores
No. It makes me sick that thse people are accusing all bi people of just being horny sluts who just want sex no matter how they get it. That’s not true.
I would think that bisexuals would know if there is such a thing…if they are then there is…
Once in a Mennonite Thrift Shop I asked where the Women’s Restroom was ,the sweet older conservativeMennonite womanwho was attending the shop said “Oh we’re bisexual around here…men and women share the same restroom,there is only one”.I said “WHaaaaa…..Maybe you could just say ‘unisex’,sounds better”
I’m not gay nor am I bisexual. Why don’t you ask those who claim to be bisexual. Best to hear it from them.
Speculation….. why, it’s just speculation.
Christy
I think bisexuals are just more open to their own sexuality than others are. They’re up for experimentation.
No, I think of it this way: I see sexuality as a scale of 1 to 100. On one end is heterosexuality. On the other is homosexuality. Everyone is somewhere on the scale, and it may be a number one or a number hundred. I think most people land somewhere in between those numbers.
Ok, first of all, I’m defending TRUE bisexuals. Not these stupid teeny-bopper “Oooh lets kiss girls so the guys will like us more” fakers.
There MAY be some homosexuals that stick to the “gray area” of bisexuality to really feel out which side they prefer. Social stigmata puts them there. They want to make sure they’re really gay before they full out claim it. At least they’re trying to figure it out instead of just saying “I’m gay, no I’m straight, no wait I don’t know”.
As for those who are GENUINELY bisexual, such as myself, it IS possible to be attracted to both sexes. A fully straight person or a fully gay person cannot grasp this concept. They might tolerate it, but there is no way someone who is without a doubt gay or straight can understand the attraction to either the same or opposite sex. A bisexual, however can understand that a female has qualities that are desirable and sexy and pleasing that a man can never have. The same goes that a man can have desirable/sexy/pleasing qualities that a woman will never have. Therefore, why restrict yourself…your senses and your desires…to ONE “field of play”?
You can relate it to heterosexuality in a way. For a woman, different men possess different desirable traits. A heterosexual woman will pick and choose who she dates/has sex with according to which man has the traits desirable to her. Bisexuals just have a broader perspective of what is desirable.
A hetero woman might find muscles, facial hair and gruff nature desirable. But a bisexual may find thick hair, piercing eyes, and a drawing personality desirable; which can all be found in EITHER sex. Furthermore, a bi woman can find femininity, breasts, hips, and curve attractive in a woman; and masculinity, musculature, and penis size attractive in a man. Either set of those things more prevalent in their respective sexes and harder to appreciate if they were in the opposite sex.
Bisexuals just don’t limit their perception of desirable and don’t restrict themselves when it comes to experience.
I, myself, have happily chosen to remain faithful to a man. Not because I would consider myself straight, but because I happened to connect perfectly with this man and wouldn’t want to connect permanently with another man or woman.
And also, bisexuality is not necessarily being greedy or having twice the sex because a lot of bisexuals actually remain faithful to the one they are with…so technically that’s not twice the sex and nothing to be greedy about.
And true bisexuals are NOT confused.
I KNOW that I like breasts and other parts of women. I KNOW that I like penises and masculine arms…No confusion whatsoever.
Oh some people are truly bisexual, and some people are merely curious, and so its a temporary self identity, or outright lie, but we all must find our own path, and not sit and worry who other people are fucking.
in retrospect, the question is rather strange. Bisexual by definition includes a partial homosexual orientation… not exactly the best way to hide it. If someone were going to hide their homosexual nature then wouldn’t they pretend to be straight? Telling people the following:
”Yah I’m not gay… I’m only half gay!”
is not the best way to hide your homosexual nature
Just when I thought your questions couldn’t get more ridiculous …
I don’t think yer hidin anything with that statement. Pretty much say’s it all.
I THINK PEOPLE WHO CHANGE ARE TRAUMATIZED. MY SISTER WENT FROM BEING MARRIED TO A MAN AND THEM A LESBIAN. WELL…………SHE LIKES BOTH. PERSONALLY, I THINK SHE HASN’T FOUND THE RIGHT MAN. MAYBE HER HUSBAND WAS REALLY BAD IN THE BEDROOM AND IT DROVE HER TO THE EXTREME. WHO KNOWS? I KNOW I LIKE MY MAN! WOO HOO………YES, I’M FROM THE SOUTH!
i don’t think you can be bisexual. i think you can be gay or straight. those are your only two options.
i think if you are being ‘bi’ you are just trying to be ‘cool’
Absolutely not. I have had long relationships with women, and I have had long relationships with men. I fall in love with whomever I fall in love with. There is not just homosexuality and heterosexuality. And to those of you who think that, you mean to tell me that I faked over 5 years of love for one of my loves? Get a life. And grow up. Oh yes, and pull your bigoted heads out of your asses.
“Bisexuality and homosexuality are both forms of sexual confusion, probably stemming from low self-esteem and/or personality disorders” – This statement makes me want to vomit.
nope, it just means someone is confused and hasnt figured themself out yet. i speak from experience.
No–I know people who are bisexual and have an attraction for both men and women.
of course it isn’t, that’s stupid. and i think i would know, seeing as i’m bisexual and i currently have a crush on a boy and a girl.
I think it can be used for that be some people.
I’m bi and I enjoy the company of both men and women. No, i’m not confused and i’m not gay because i’m in a happy relationship with a man right now. Its also really irritating when people keep assuming bisexual people are all greedy sluts.
No you didn’t!
I THIK IT IS FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT SURE
I can appreciate a man and a woman equally and find myself attracted to both for things more than friendship, but also for more than just sex. I’ve always refused to limit myself to selecting whom was worth spending the rest of my life with by their gender, age, or race. I feel deeply sorry for those who do limit themselves. They have no idea what wonderful people they’re missing out on. A pity, to be sure!
Being bi sucks because people feel like that.
You can be bi, I think most people are attracted to the opposite and same sex to a degree, but usually not a high enough degree to give a damn. A bi person just happens to be have enough attraction to both sexes that they could go either way. The attraction is definately not equal though, there are bi people that are more straight than gay and bi people that are more gay than straight.
No, I think it’s mostly a means of experimenting. For example, I once identified as bisexual when I was younger and less sure of myself. I kept the title because I realized that, being the age I was, it was pretty likely that I would experiment, and I did, and I eventually came to the conclusion that I am, in fact, heterosexual.
I think it’s good for people to experiment and not make concrete decisions about their sexual orientation right away. That’s the only way you can truly know which sex you prefer.
Those who can’t see color don’t argue with those who can that color exists. Let those who aren’t bixsexual take a HINT and stfu about what they aren’t wired to experience.
No it’s not. It’s not a way to get more sex. Someone that’s Bi could be less promisscuous than a straight person. And you’re not gay if you still like the opposite sex.
hey!
i think that bisexual people are people who don’t discriminate.
they fall in love for the person and not the the gender. if you get what i mean.
so someone could be bi and never know it until they met someone of their gender who they were attracted to.
or someone could be lesbian and not know it until they met a dude they were attracted to.
or they could just love ‘em both. people are so black and white these days.
nobody ever thinks of the grey area.
i wasn’t aware that there was less of a stigma for bisexuality than there is for homosexuality. i agree with Breath_Of_Dawn. it’s not a matter of obscuring one’s true attraction. i don’t even think that’s relevant.
it’s about experimentation and what one allows him or her to be influenced by. additionally, so many persons are unhappy and use sex to find gratification, even if it’s a very shallow and temporary fix, and whether that sex comes from a male or a female is of no import for a bisexual. more extreme are those who extreme with life forms lower than human…. those who engage in bestiality. isn’t all of that just pathetic? ones so desperate that they take what comes– no discrimination whatsoever, and i do not mean for those who experiment bisexually. i mean for anyone who throws himself or herself about like a rag to be used and all the while naively thinking it will bring about some kind of happiness.
the mornings must be a very lonely place to be for those people. to have that feeling of worthlessness and emptiness.
No! Everyone is BORN bisexual. Yet society stigmatizes liking the same sex so much we’re mainly “hetero”. Which is ridiculus. We’re suffering from overpopulation as is. Least gays don’t have to worry about birth control. . .
I do not believe that you can ask such a question, without stating exactly what you mean by “bi-sexual”. If you mean “A sexual orientation, whereby a person has the same feelings of desire for persons of both genders” then I do not believe in bi-sexuality. There are large differences between men and women, and I do not think it is necessarily possible to view both in the same way, when regarding a sexual partner, or relationship.
On the other hand, if you simply mean “A sexual orientation, whereby a person who desires both genders” then yes, I do believe in bi-sexuality. A man might have sexual feelings towards women, while still desiring an intimate, not-platonic relationship with a man. Equally, a woman who is attracted to men, and enjoys ‘straight’ sexual activities may have a deeply emotional bond with a woman which could just as easily lead to sex.
The only difference is that one would not view their attraction to the opposite gender as being the same as the attraction they feel towards their own gender. In this way, it’s possible that someone would live their whole lives as either Straight or Gay, and never realize that they were actually attracted to both, in different ways. (I’m not claiming that a gay person or a straight person must actually be bi-sexual, only that it’s possible for some)
I’d also put forth the point that true bi-sexuality looks to be a very lonely orientation, seeing as there is no great majority of either straight or gay people who even believe it’s possible.
no
“bi” means both
they like both sexes
no, it isn’t. being attracted to both sexes IS being bisexual. though usually a bi person has his/her preferences. while i like girls, i prefer guys.
Let’s not make generalizations. Sometimes it is a way to hide homosexuality, and sometimes it is not. It’s completely possible for a person to be genuinely attracted to people of both sexes.
–Shauna
i think it gross
No! It’s because they like both genders!
no. i am bisexual. i love guys. i love girls. i can’t just go one way. i’m not homosexual because i love boys, but at the same time, love girls.
so the answer is: no.
Only a bisexual person could answer this question.
No, it just means you have a sexual attraction to both sexes. If anything, it makes you omnisexual.
I used to think what a lot of people here are saying… that bisexuality was stupid and just a way for people to have more sex. But I changed my mind about it when I realized that I AM BISEXUAL. And for me, it isn’t about the sex… I don’t even have any. For me it’s about being open about feelings and about love. I want to fall in love with a person and have that person return the same feelings and I don’t care if they’re a man or a woman.
Ummm… no. If you’re attracted to both men and women, you’re attracted to them. Personally, I’m attracted to personalities and I find that gender is not the most important thing. Whomever I fall in love with… that’s who I’ll be in love with. If I find both men and women attractive, it’s not trying to hide that I’m gay, it’s saying that I find certain traits about both genders attractive and it shouldn’t hinder me in finding someone I’m compatible with. o_O
Honestly, I think it’s another form of sexual deviance, males & females have both slid down the wrong road of what is considered normal sexual behavior & will find themselves suffering the consequences for this behavior. Next thing you know pedophiles will start demanding the right to have sex with small children, only because it’s “normal” to them.
Some people might say they are bisexual so as to lessen the shock when they reveal that they are homosexual…
But people really can be bisexual, though rare. It’s genetics, after all.
some people say that only 10 percent of the population is completely gay, and only 10 percent of the population is completely straight.
personally i think that labels like “gay” “bi” “straight” are to limiting. they breed “homophobia” “heterophobia” and other such social ailments.
“gender” is truly undefinable, and i think sexuality should be the same
um, no, because i like both and it’s not like that
I don`t think so, Some people like to explore many options.
Doesnt mean they are gay.
Kinky maby….
i suppose that, in a sense, bisexuals are like zombies. neither dead, nor alive. gaaah i’m a zombie fear me!!!
Some people are just attracted to both sexes. But yes, I could see other people using it as a cover up.
-KrIsTiN-
I have been in love (not just sexual attraction) with males and females, isnt that proof enough?
I truthfully feel that everyone is bisexual to some extent, but I’m only fourteen, so what do I know?
No…it’s just a way to get it from both sexes. Some people don’t mind doing a guy and a girl at the same time…how else are you supposed to get a threesome?
Yes!