October 29, 2007
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Parenting and Britney Spears
Lynne Spears, the mother of Britney Spears, is writing a book about parenting.
The book will be titled “Pop Culture Mom: A Real Story of Fame and Family in a Tabloid World” The focus will be “Lynne Spears’ personal story of raising high-profile children while coming from a low-profile Louisiana community.”
The book will focus “purely on her skills as a mom.” Here is the link: Link
If you were writing a parenting book, what one piece of information do you think every parent should know?
Comments (95)
That at the end of the day, your kid MUST know that they are loved unconditionally. Both by God and you.
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
“Keep your daughter off the pole” – Chris Rock
Love your kids–discipline them.
Don’t be a stage-mom.
Tell them to always wear underwear!! Actually, BEWARE of the teens!!
Proper and reasonable discipline never hurts a child; allow them to know, understand and experience the punishment.
As the first commentor stated that at the end of the day they know they are loved unconditionally by God and their parents.
Ok…so I had two peices of information, they go hand in hand.
Also, don’t let your children get the slightest idea that they run your house.
don’t take advice from tabloid moms!!!
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
x2
Don’t overcompensate for what your parents did wrong
Or undercompensate what they did right
But hell if I know.
Don’t shake the baby.
Spare the rod, spoil the child. = spank
Ultimately, they need to know that they are loved.
WOW there is just SO much a parent should know… It isn’t all preprogramed unfortunatly.
How about make them wash their hands before they eat and after…
If they are being quiet it isn’t always a GOOD thing…
Communication is paramount. No child should ever be afraid to talk to the parents. Parents need to keep a lid on their feelings and let that child/young adult talk about everything. The best way to get to know your kid is to communicate and not pass judgement! Everything else falls in line from there.
Lynn Spears is writing a book on parenting. Isn’t that a bit like the Captain of the Titanic writing about sailing in the open seas?
Rather than write a parenting book, I think Lynne Spears needs to read a few. If Britney learned her parenting skills from her mom, the book will head parents in the wrong direction. Advice I would give is to allow your child to have chores and responsibilities from a young age. Also, they have to reap the consequences from their actions. If a parent always sweeps in to take care of things or make excuse for their child, they will never learn how to cope with real life.
Love them, discipline them, give them opportunities to grow and learn and let them know that their “idols” like Britney Spears are real people with real problems and should not be idolized just because they can dance or sing or act.
When Vanessa Hudgens had the whole nude picture scandal I told my child what happened and that Vanessa immediately owned up to her mistake. We talked about not taking naked pictures or ever letting someone else taking naked pictures. It was a learning opportunity.
Spears + Parenting = Bad.
No matter how tired you are of the non-stop screaming, whining, yelling and annoyingness – NEVER throw, hit, drop or scream (at) your child. EVER! Babies have a reason for fussing – sometimes it just takes a little longer to find out WHY… Oy, parents!!
[My mom worked at the peds floor in a Hospital here - sooo sad]
Your child is not a toy to put aside whenever you feel like it.. Treat it with TLC.. Raise with a strict loving household..
Never tell your child that they “can’t” accomplish their goals or reach thier dreams. If a child thinks they can’t, they can’t and they won’t; but if they think they can, they will exceed.
Why would Britney’s mom write a book about parenting? She obviously did such a great job with her daughter being an immodest drug abusing, child neglecting party hoochiemomma.
Don’t repeat the mistakes Lynne Spears made!
I think I would much rather read “growing pains in a full house” if you don’t know who wrote that parenting ook then you don’t watch TV.
as for advice? I think I would recommend sending the family to church as a whole. there is no problem that getting saved won’t fixed.
I agree with ProudToBeAChristianFruitcake
Dont be a friend to your kids be a parent….they already have friends, they only have 2 parents! Demand respect, be worthy of it. Respect them….expect more! Tell them they can do anything and help them realize it. Be there for them, there is no such thing as quality time….if your never there how can you tell..quality -quantity? You can never get the time back once its gone…be part of there life, even if your just sitting outside looking at the clouds together…the house work will always be there. Parenting isn’t for cowards..its the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the most proud of. I have great kids and I’m thankful that i got to spend time with them. There both married and have lives of there own and it went by too fast. now i get to enjoy my grand kid
The thought of B Spears mom writing a parenting book is really kind of sad……
Kids are not perfect little angels that you can mold and control exactly the way you want them to be. They will be children, and are unique individuals, and will make mistakes, and that’s okay. You cannot program them to be you. They will make messes, spill things, break things, disappoint you, frustrate you and drive you crazy at times. Forgive them their childisness, and learn to be a child with them, if you can’t relate. Most of all, love them UNCONDITIONALLY, and have fun with them!
Patience! Patience is paramount. Kids will drive you absolutely nuts — and that’s okay, it’s their job. =) Discipline is important, but they have to understand why they’re being disciplined. Someone already said it, but communication is key. Parents need to be available to their kids whenever the kids need them. But yah, I think what all this boils down to is letting them know that they’re loved. They get in trouble when they do something wrong because you want them to know that it’s wrong and help them to do right. It’s all about love =).
((Ha, don’t I sound like I know what I’m talking about? Maybe I should start having some kids .. *wink*))
Oh, RYC Dan — Thanks; the class actually isn’t until tomorrow, but I need to give my primary critic time to review it, so I’m working on it now. Hopefully I’ll be done in a couple of hours. =/
Your children are people.
From the first time your eyes meet, to the day one of you dies, you have to treat your child as a person. They are your equal, not an extension of you, not your slave or your workhorse, and not a princess either. Demand and give equal respect.
Your children are people, too.
One piece? You’re killin me here! Other than the basics ie: consistancy, be the example and all that good stuff? 2 things… Remember with ever action and every word you are teaching children how to be parents themselves and how to care for the upcomming world and the one that frustrates me the most with people and which is why i do want to write a parenting book but, ar ya’ll can read, I CAN’T WRITE, have some forethought and don’t be lazy… sit down continuouly from birth even to think about the characteristics you need to instill in the child and what are common problems people have and come up with specific, direct gameplans on how to start early instilling these character traits improving upon them until mastered. For example: My daughter was preschool age and seperated her allowace $ into long term, short term savings, charity, and spending. Later she would have had taxes taken out and then mock budgets etc. ( but I lost both girls before any of that could even happen)
That you will beat them senseless if they misbehave? All out of love of course.
How should I know?
My son is about to turn 4. I’m still learning and I can’t tell other people how to raise their kids. Each parent has their own techniques, some good, some bad… I really don’t know what to tell other parents because I had to sacrifice my son and I’s relationship when I went to Korea.
I guess the one thing every parent should know is don’t give your kids sugar. Holy shit.
Don’t exasperate your children, but instruct them in the way they should go.
Don’t listen to anyone with the last name of Spears. I’m kidding. I kid. I kid because I love.
Be a parent, not a friend. Kids need boundaries and consistent, loving discipline, no matter how hard it is to enforce (I struggle with this myself). But above all, love on your kids. They can’t get enough of your love and attention.
Tell your child you love them and teach them to respect others. This means no running through the clothing racks and throwing a tantrum trying to get candy.
You gotta be kidding. I think that lady needs some help herself in that department.
The advice I would give is: respect your children as people, be aware of their level of ability; teach them to think for themselves; give them the skills to navigate the highs and lows of life safely, maturely, wisely. Learn to get your needs met without hurting yourself or anyone else in the process.
Set reasonable boundaries, let them know (when able to understand) why those boundaries are there, teach them to set their own boundaries in life.
If I wrote a book on parenting, I would start it by quoting the chorus from John Mayer’s song “Daughters”. It would probably be a book focused on father/daughter relationships; I have a very dysfunctional relationship with my dad, and I don’t want other girls to go through what I did/am going through. I would talk about divorce a lot too, because I don’t think a lot of people understand what divorce can do to a child. And I would include a lot of stuff on Godly parenting, specifically praying for your kids on a regular basis.
Kids have thoughts and feelings too, you selfish-as-fuck parents.
To remain the parent/adult….or at least until your children are adults.
Respect your Children and always keep the lines of communication open.You have to look out of the Box and treat them like people , Not just like your Kid.
Don’t take parenting advice from celebrities’ parents.
Don’t let your kids grow up to be pop stars.
“Keep your daughter off the pole” … I thought that was a great quote.
You can’t be perfect parents, you’re going to make mistakes.
As a mother and my husband is on side, I think teaching children from a very, very young age the Fruit of the Spirit is very important. If they are taught those things, life will be easier. I wish those virtues had been instilled in me growing up. For those not familiar, The Fruit of the Spirit is in Galations 5: 22. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (a biggie!), against such there is no law.
To instill those values, a parents needs to take time to teach them and listen to them. This is SO hard, especially when the house looks like a tornado went through it. So “doughhgirl” above sums that up real well in the comment above.
Also, I would want my children to know that following Gal. 5:22 is to show thankfulness for what Christ has done on the cross. They don’t do those things to earn salvation, but to show a life of gratitude. If they don’t do these things and sometimes slip, they can be comforted knowing that God is merciful and forgiving and we are made perfect in HIM alone.
Taking advice in Parenting is like buying snipe-hunting equipment. The concept of “Parenting” does not exist.
Don’t read Lyn Spears book
Careful about turning our kid into a loser.
Read books to your kids instead of books on how to raise them. Learn to read your own child. If it were as easy as following a textbook there wouldn’t be so many parenting books out there.
give them rules, but let them be flexible as well. Allow them to make some of their own decisions.
Uh…
be sure to beat your kids ass…
None of this time out crap…
Uh…
Don’t spoil them by giving them crap just to shut them up, because then they’ll throw a tantrum everytime they want something because they know you’ll fork it over…
Teach them not to end every sentence with an ellipsis…
Give them hugs and tell them you love them! A lot!
That’s my whole book, right there.
Also, put your kids in karate.
Wanna know why? Here’s the LINK
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Explain WHY you do things. ALWAYS be honest with them. You may think that they’re not mature enough to handle it… they’re more mature than you want to believe.
Be loving and consistant
I have no kids yet, so I feel I can’t properly say anything. But one thing my parents did right was that they allowed me to be who I was, even when they got pressure from others to make me change (I had different interests than the other kids, dressed differently and refused to get a “modern” haircut). They still offered guidance, but they picked their battles and only fought for the important things.
Love your children and make sure they know it.
The inner cynic in me would love to spend this comment going on about how another pseudo-celebrity is getting a publishing deal increasing the odds that one day a future civilization will regard our current culture as a collection of self-indulgent dolts, and with Lynn Spears’ book, unable to raise normal children.
On the other hand, I have no children of my own but if I were Lynn Spears, I’d have to say that what I want people to take away from my book is to be careful not to raise your child to be a teen pop star who goes on to steal another woman’s husband, morph into a tramp, lose her mind, panties, and children all in one row of a collossal explosion of madness.
Than again, we could always do that most of American things – blame the parents.
Here’s a note to my mom and all other moms out there: Your children, especially your daughters, are not you. They have different personalities, traits, dreams, and temper. Sure, they may resemble you, but do not expect them to do what you want to do or act how you acted at their age.
Take the TIME and ENERGY to teach them the “Fruit of the Spirit” as in Galations 5: 22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. I wish that when I grew up that my parents would have instilled those values as what living in Christ is about. Living out of thankfulness and gratitude for what Christ has done.
that lynne spears is not who i would ever take advice from on parenting
Talk about why Lynne Spears should had abortion.
not to let your children be celebrities without reminding them that they are not #1
Get a decent hair cut.
i can’t even answer this question. the fact that shes writing a parenting book is funny enough.
No idea really. I just wanted to read what everyone else wrote.
That as a parent I have taught my children right from wrong and that I did the very best that I could.
I think Britney should be wearing undergarments and should have never shaved her head bald. Honestly I dont know if Her moms book will be popular.
I wonder what authority she has to be selling books, when the result of her parenting skills has shaved her head, has been kept from her own kids by the courts, and is doing booze and drugs like it’s going out of style.
Why would anyone read a parenting book by Lynne Spears?!?
We’ve seen the fruits of that labor!!
Boundaries are terribly important. Kids may not think they want them, but without them, kids feel scared and unloved and unprotected. Do not fear to say, “No, you can’t. That’s not allowed.”
Is it meant as an advice book?? I don’t think this is the right time to be talking about your parenting skills, when your daughter seems to be going off the deep end and keeps spiraling further and further down this hole she’s dug for herself.
Right now I have two teenagers and one preteen. In the 16 years I’ve been a mother, I’ve made plenty of mistakes and have learned from those mistakes. Personally I find that the following are two very important pieces of advice based upon my own experiences and as I’ve been the “block mom” where many latch key kids come to after school.
Never place your career before your children. You can always go for that career after your children are grown and out of your home. Until then focus on your children. This doesn’t pertain to single parents who are forced to work outside the home in order to put a roof over the children(s) heads, food on the table, and clothes on their backs.
Don’t sweat the small things when your children become teenagers. Stop worrying about the weird style of clothes they want to wear, the wild colors they want to color their hair, the wacky hair do’s they want to try out, or the oddly placed piercing. Teenagers NEED to express themselves as they figure out who they are and where they fit into this world. Allowing them to try out these small things allows them that freedom. To stifle this ends up pushing your children away from you and they will find alternative ways to express themselves some of which may be very harmful to them and/or others around them. So don’t sweat the small stuff with your teens.
There is one rule “Obey.” There is one discipline, used properly, and that is spanking (up until they are 13). To discipline means “to train”. You don’t just spank out of anger, or tiredness, but you train/teach them the difference between right and wrong. You train/teach them to know that in everything there are limits. There is more, but you get the idea.
I would like to point out how so many are blaming Lynn Spears for how Britney Spears has turned out. I am NOT defending nor putting down Lynn Spears at this moment. I’m NOT defending or putting down Britney Spears at this moment. I would like to ask all those who are blaming Lynn Spears for how Britney has turned out, when does the child become accountable for their own actions and is a parent always to blame for their child’s poor choices in life even when they are adults?
The mother of Britney Spears wrote a book on parenting? Bahahahahahaha!
That’s all I have to say about that.
Discipline is a good thing. It is not a four letter word. Also, kids need to be held accountable for their actions. Letting them get away with anything they want is just plain crazy. I doesn’t help them in the long run. It only works to destroy their lives.
I agree with ok123LetsGo.
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wow. she didnt a very good job did she?
yeah because she’s a wonderful role model and all. pfft.
i don’t offer advice. people who read these sort of books don’t act on the advice given because it’s “too much work” or it isn’t what they want to hear.
LMAO….don’t listen to anything a mother who raised someone like Brittany has to say.
thanks dan. you rock.
I’m sure Brittney’s mom is the perfect mum to write a parenting book.
Oh please…
When you think the baby is done taking a poo wait ten minutes.
They really do love you no matter what as long as you treat them right.
Children really are our future.
Don’t be too strict.Kids need structure but you have to let them be kids.
Take your sons and daughters to Planned Parenthood for STD screenings.
And give the kids condoms.
Be open about sex and maybe they won’t feel compelled to lose their virginity in the back of a pickup truck and then have a baby out of wedlock and live in your house for the rest of their lives.
know when to say no. even though we all hated it, all the “nos” we got for our supplications ended up doing us a whole lot of good.
Well said, LadyValkarie
Love your child no matter how they turn out to be but, guide them as well. That mean if they did something wrong punish them using reasoning instead of just saying “because I say so”. This way they will respect you and learn to make good judgment instead being rebellious. Yes, I’m not a mother and maybe this doesn’t work. However, this is what I believe in and will try out in the future when I get marry and have my own child.
LMAO!
Rule #1: Keep large bottle of aspirin handy at all times.
That’s all.
Oh yeah, one more: Don’t hit, smack or beat. Ever.
Be there for your child.
read THE instructions.
pray. a lot.nod your head in friendly agreement to those who offer good advice.
that you can’t live your life by a parenting book. lol and people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones…. oh, and to treat people as you would want to be treated….
REMINDERS
Well, in all reality, I’d say that while young children will push boundaries, and it will feel especially testing when you’re a tired parent looking after them… expect them to need lots of REMINDERS: reminders of safety cautions, boundaries, how to treat others (including friends and sibblings), using manners, and general life skills. I’m not a stay at home mum yet, but i think expecting this will make days a lot easier: children are children and they shouldn’t be expected be silent and play happily all day. They are likely to get emotional, tired, silly… they need someone to love them and give them encouragement and a cuddle.
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
They need someone who can love them, care for them, and be there for them. Most children desire boundaries (even teens)and they need emotional support. It may be a world of absent parents, but just being there physically isn’t enough – kids need parents who will connect with them. That is long-term valuable input.
Can you please help me try to figure out how to use this video?
I cannot seem to get it to work. http://www.britneyvideosite.com
If I were to write a book about Parenting, then…one of the Most Important and Main Points and Hightlights of the book, would be to NEVER EVER CRITICIZE OR PUT YOUR CHILDREN DOWN, AND ALWAYS LOVE THEM AND TELL THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM, AND ALWAYS MAKE SURE TO SERIOUSLY BE EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE TO THEM AT ALL TIMES!!!!!
Oh, and…as for Lynn Spears, (the Mother of Britney Spears), I do somewhat agree that, the timing of her Parenting Book, may not be the most appropriate timing, what with her daughter currently going down hill, but…all the same…Britney is an Adult now, and so therefore…Her Mother can no longer be blamed or faulted for Britney’s problems. Because, once you’re the legal age of being an adult, then…you’re from there on out, accountable and responsible for creating and dealing with the consequences of your own problems in life.