November 30, 2007
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Sex Discussion
I have always been surprised at how uncomfortable people are in talking about sex. I mentioned before that my mom explained sex to all of us kids at an early age. I am convinced that I knew more medically about sex at the age of seven than most kids in high school that were actually having it.
My mom had a mom that lied to her about everything. So my mom decided in all things to be honest with us kids. Her mom’s mother lied to her and cheated on her father. My mom decided it was a better plan to deal with sex like she dealt with any other issue.
It is interesting to me that God actually created sex. It was his idea. Hold on to your seat for a moment. I actually believe that God is the one that created the orgasm too. It may be my upbringing but I have never struggled to talk about sex.
It has always been my understanding that there was never a command in the Bible against talking openly about sex. (I have read the entire Bible over 30 times). The idea of not talking about sex or making it a private matter in my opinion is man made. The thing the Bible talks about is making sure that sex happens within marriage. Any reference to sex being a private matter will probably reflect the preference of the person than what the Bible actually teaches.
I think most people would do well to educate themselves more on the topic of sex. They would do well to read about it and become the best at it.
Do you consider yourself comfortable in talking about sex?
Comments (157)
Aye.
You have to be comfortable talking about it before you can really be comfortable doing it.
I am very comfortable talking about it. It is great!
Honestly? No. And I don’t need to give any reasons, I think.
That depends entirely if we’re talking about “sex” in general or sex that I myself have had. I’m no prude, and this certainly isn’t my first rodeo, but I generally try not to give the play-by-play on the vertical mamba in my own personal life. Now as far as general “who dunnit” or discussions of the act itself, or even vague details of specifics I’ve done? No problem.
..and somehow I find this mini most appropriate to the topic. **nefarious grin**
Depends entirely upon who I am talking with and how frank the discussion needs to be.
yeah. sex, with the bewbies and the vajayjay and the wanker and the orgasm… yep, sure do.
Yes
I feel comfortable enough about sex that I even talked to the person-who-I-had-sex with’s mother about how I did her daughter.
Even told her the little details. The whole situation. (she wanted to hear it, so that both of us could better understand the situation, because I for one was definitely confused–since I was done once and then dropped)
Anyhow yeah.
I see no reason why one can’t talk about sex. Sex is REPRODUCTION, LIFE.
Life is good, right?
We sex the genitalia on animals all the time–in our very house may be several cats or dogs with visible you-know-whats (though granted they may have been castrated and so have less to offer)
and we don’t mind that, hardly think of that.
We are animals too–mammals–it’s kinda hypocritical to not make our pet wear clothing and then say all sex is bad. When it’s only out of sex we even get the bodies we have, are even BORN.
If we welcomed sex the world would be a better place!
I do actually. I think i’m pretty laid back talking about it..but it depends a little bit on who i am talking to.
yes, I am comfortable in talking about it as a subject, and having to be open to discussing with my 13 year old son about the facts, but no, in discussing intimate details of my sex life, I like to keep those details private~
Whoops. When I said
“We sex the genitalia on animals all the time”
I mean “we see the. . .
I’ve also discussed the sex I had with several other people. . .
No no. I meant “with several other people I discussed the sex I had.”
NOT that I’ve discussed OTHER sex I’ve had with OTHER people.
I’ve only done it once. . .and actually I still rather consider myself a virgin because it didn’t go quite as planned, not how I wanted. Not really at all. . .
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but that’s sex for you, it blows.
(lol, blow-job, lol)
Very. And I agree with you 100%.
I’m pretty comfortable talking about it, though I believe it can at times be inappropriate to discuss.
I think the unhealthy view of sex that is sometimes perpetuated by certain church groups is a result of misunderstanding in the past by people like Augustine as well as the groups that thought of all things physical as bad and all things “spiritual” as good (e.g., the Gnostics).
Well, it depends on the people I’m talking to about sex.
My parents never had a sex talk with me. I learned about the physiology of it in school and learned the rest of it on my own, talking with friends and from experience. I have talked about sex with my kids from the time they could understand because I knew it was a huge mistake that my parents made by never mentioning it. I am very comfortable talking about it now, but in general terms. I don’t think people need to be discussing their private sex lives.
Sex is a lot easier for me to talk about than politics. I think I’ve informed myself more about the topic of sex than politics. I don’t understand why it is such a big deal to certain people. One mention of the word and they freak out claiming they’ve been offended.
Everyone (hopefully everyone) has sex or will have sex at some point in their life. It’s how we reproduce and it’s an extremely healthy act to be engaged in, when practiced safely off course. Infact, if people where more educated on sex and how to practice it safely, we would probably see a huge drop in the number of STDs floating around globaly.
In the wise words of Abraham “Grandpa” Simpson, “SEXXXXX?! I HAD SEXXXXXX!”.
My mom was responsible for teaching sex ed at my highschool, so I lost any discomfort I had about the subject a long time ago.
^ *laughs with PacifismPlease* Those misplaced modifiers can lead to some crazy misunderstandings…
I think I’m fairly comfortable discussing it.
I am comfortable talking about sex, but I’m cautious in when I talk about it. God created sex and wanted it to be fun and enjoyable, but He also says that sex is to be kept within marriage. I realize that this may mean you should only HAVE sex with your husband or wife…but about talking about sex…should we reserve that for the confines of marriage, too? So…I can talk about the topic of sex in general, but not in specifics and not related to my own life.
Sex is no longer a special subject.
Talking about sex is so common now.. I find it funny.
It’s also annoying because it’s EVERYWHERE.
Penis sizes, boob sizes, nice butts, masturbation.. yeah.
Sex sells.
How many messages do you usually get a day? You chose the penis subject over the others? I just found it funny. That’s all.
Comfortable in every situation except when it comes to my parents and my kids. Still working on the latter since they’re breeching teenage-dom. Not interested at all in the former.
My parents were pretty open about the topic of sex, but there was a definite sense of propriety conveyed (I think that a lot of people confuse openness about the topic with an “anything goes” type of attitude). With others, I’m relatively open about the general topic, but my personal business remains personal.
I can’t stand it when people get all awkward at talk of sex. Why is it so hard for people to be comfortable in their own skin? I love sex, and it’s something that everyone in my life is able to be extremely open about, which is pretty fantastic.
Time and a place. Sometimes it’s okay to have these conversations, other’s it’s inappropriate. Much like discussing how regular your bowel movements are and whatnot.
I’m extremely comfortable talking about it, but then again, I’ve had a very unique background and my girlfriends and I have had very unladylike private conversations discussing flatulence and whatnot. But we wouldn’t do it while picking up our children from school or in church. I guess for me it’s a matter of courtesy and tact than discomfort.
Yes, I am very comfortable.
Infact, just the other day I came out and asked someone if they were having oral sex. My Mom was shocked. I don’t find it embarrassing at ALL. I find other things MUCH more hard to talk about.
I grew up in a big Greek family that talks about everything all the time. My favorite movie when I was 3 years old was Beaches. I’ve been immersed in the arts, naked paintings. I also work at a pregnancy center. The whole modesty thing died a LONG time ago.
Except for with, like, my parents. Yeah.
i never had the sex talk with my dad before.
sex seems simple. in the bible it tells us to not have sex before marriage and that it is sacred.
the two people become one flesh
it’s a spiritual, physical, and emotional act
It depends on the situation, and its appropriateness in the context of the conversation. I am more so now than ever before, but even so, it can be a struggle at times. Growing up, it was secret- another missionary told we children that “sex” was a bad word (on the level of an expletive), and that we should never, ever use it. My mother handed us a book as our sex “talk” and education when I was nine or ten. The rest I picked up after I moved to the US and attended a public junior high. There’s an ingrained shame concerning the topic stemming from the way I was brought up.
My sister has been much more open with her daughter than anyone ever was with us. It’s progress.
I don’t feel awkward… I homeschooled all my kids and I had to discuss it with them and they’re pretty comfortable talking about it and asking questions… However, I don’t really want to hear people telling every last detail of their sex lives…. Sometimes they think they’re bragging and all they’re really doing is embarrassing themselves!
ha, funny because steph and i were talking about something along these lines last night.
anyway. yes. i think you only have to read any entry on my xanga to realize i’ve no qualms about talking about sex or my sex life. my theory? if you don’t want to hear it, you don’t have to come by and read it.
I’m very comfortable about having sex.
Sometimes I’m fine with talking about sex. There’s times for it and times NOT for it. If it’s talked about outside of marriage, those talking about it need to have a big group together to hold each other accountable. It’s never good one on one between a man and woman alone. Too much temptation for both…I don’t care WHO you are and even if your motives are pure.
Reguarding sex in the Bible, have any of you read Song of Solomon. That is some of the most intimate sex talk there is!
LOL, have you read my blog lately? Absolutely comfortable about it.
I am very comfortable discussing it. I LOVE girls night when we sit around and talk about all aspects of sex. The best times, the worse times, trading tips etc etc. Our men like it when it is all said and done too since they reap the rewards of the shared knowledge. Sex is natural. No, I am not going to discuss blow jobs in a 5 star restuarant sitting across from the President, but in the company of my friends with a beer and a some laughing? Heck yeah.
My parents never openly talked about it so the only people I’m learning it from are some of the oler youth leaders at my church! Quite ironic actually.
But as for me, 18-years old, and I’m not comfortable talking about it. It makes me blush but I don’t really worry all that much because I won’t have sex until I get married so it wouldn’t matter if I know or not, I guess.
it depends who i’m talking to about it. some people i know refer the subject as taboo, but others i can speak freely.
only over instant message
haha
I am usually pretty open with people when talking about sex, some more than others. But its definitely taken some getting used to, we really didn’t talk about it much in my home until after I got married that is. Not exactly the greatest timing in the world…
Nah. Sex is everywhere.
I am kinda in the middle, I feel somewhat uncomfortable but see nothing wrong with discussing it. However, if you are going with the argument that speaking about sex is ok cause
God made it
then the real question is not “does penis size matter?” but “Does God care if men enhance their penis size?” the like, would be: Does he care or is it sinful for women to get breast implants (to enhance their size)? Personally, I think we should be the way God made us – the only exceptions may be horrible deformities from birth, disease, or accidents.
Daniel (doubledb)
Totally.
Many have said, and I agree, that I am not uncomfortable talking about it, but there is a time and place and it seems to me that many people are unable to distinguish between the appropriate times and places and those that are inappropriate. That includes much of the posting/commenting on xanga. We really don’t need to know about intimate details. Those who seems compelled to tell those details are likely insecure and telling the details somehow gives them a sense of security, belonging, worthiness, etc. That, I believe, is sad.
Sure, I am comfortable speaking about sex. However, it depends in what context the conversation goes. There is a time and place for “everything” and sometimes you have to refrain or make full disclosure. I think you have “broad stroked” this topic too much. Would you be speaking about…hmm, let’s see…diarrhea in the same broad sense….or the ugly manisfestations of cancer..its locality or what the muscle/tissue looks like when it is ravaged by cancer? As I wrote before, there is a time and place for “everything” good and healthy and sometimes…sometimes it ought to remain personal….not hidden, not arcane….just personal.
My mom was very open and honest about talking about sex with us kids growing up, and my husband and I strive to be the same with our kids. We know that a good portion of the population do not wait for marriage and so we teach themwha the bible has taught us. We do answer all questions to the best of our ability, and as honestly as we feel is appropriate.
In general? No problem. Many more people SHOULD be more informed, so they don’t get an STD or unwanted pregnancy.
Personal experiences? That’s for me to savor, not for anyone else to ogle over.
Yes, among my friends.. Do I talk with my family about it.. No, it’s very awkward. They are more prude than I am.
oooOOOoooo! awesome post! my mom was very open about sex at about the age of 7 for me too and i have always been ok talking about it. i do find it strange when people get upset about talking about sex. which is different then talking sexy
Yes, I’m very comfortable talking to anyone about sex.
no.
A lot of this is cultural attitudes. The US has some really strange attitudes about sex– you can’t talk about it, yet sex is openly used to sell everything from clothes to trucks to electronic gadgets. It’s everywhere, all the time– but again DON’T TALK ABOUT IT! Because sex, along with being intriguing and all around us, is also a dirty evil thing that will rot your brain if you think about it too much. Obviously.
I don’t think I ever got an official sex talk from my mom. I plan to give my children the proper information about their bodies, sex, and its consequences early on. I don’t know if I’ll have the guts to sit them down and talk about it, or give them books or what, but it’s definitely a goal I have.
That’s a good way to get some raunchy comments.
Let’s see. First of all, you’ve read the Bible through 30 times??? wow. How many times a year?
Second of all, God did make sex in all its glory. But it is to be between a man and his wife. And also, the Bible was very adimant against adultery. That means anything that puts your mind towards sexual thoughts (dwelling on them) towards any other women or men. So involving any books/videos etc. that cause lustful thoughts towards other people is totally out of the question. Also, Hebrews 13:4 talks about not defiling the marriage bed. Now there are many ways this could be interpreted. I think it comes down to that there are many ways to defile the marriage bed – having sex before you’re married (therefore defiling the sanctity of sex in marriage by taking it before its time), bringing outside sources into your sexual relationship (pornography, extra people, raunchy books, etc.), and also letting other people in on the particulars of your sexual relationship. So while I don’t have a problem talking about the fact that my husband and I have sex (obviously, we’re married), I don’t want to give details about it like what we do exactly and how things go and when we do, etc. Details aren’t necessary. I feel that is private and special and that it would be wrong to share it with anyone else. Also, it is VERY likely that doing so would cause someone to stumble with lustful thoughts. So there are many reasons why it’s not right to share details like that simply by relying on biblical principles.
The books that you choose to read to help your sex life should be chosen carefully as well, making sure that they will not cause lustful thoughts.
Anyway.
no i really do think its immature when someone cant talk about it
I am comfortable talking about it in medical terms only, pretty much. Much more comfortable than I used to be.
I agree with you Dan. Plus, if you think about it….all the people who lived in a tent community didn’t exactly have thick walls to hide their enjoyment…I’m sure children grew up with that knowledge, and benefited from it.
Although, a neighbor gave me the talk when I was about six, and I felt so dirty because I learned about something so gross..LOL. that’s how I felt. (my neighbor was the same age as me btw) I even had a visual aid with her showing me with the barbies. so messed up.
I’m comfortable talking about sex to other people, but my mom was born in a day where you don’t talk about it, so I don’t talk to my mom about it really. lol.
I wouldn’t be comfortable with talking about sex to my parents but i am with everyone else. It’s in our nature, and I’m not ashamed or embarrassed by this. No one should be really.. it’s how you make babies!
I am extremely open about sex. I love sex and orgasms. I think they are one of God’s greatest inventions, especially when used as He intended them to be!
Depends who I’m talking to. There’s a time, and a place, for appropriate discussions and open talk – one should be tactful, at least!
I don’t understand why people feel things are inappropriate all the time. My favorite was when I got in trouble for discussing sex in high school with a friend, because it wasn’t “School Appropriate.” What? I’d much rather learn about stuff that life and modern culture is entirely based around in school instead of stuff that will never concern my career choice (i.e. chemestry).
i’m pretty comfortable talking about it simply because i’m secure in the act; in other words, the fact that i’m experienced makes me more comfortable.
however, that doesn’t mean i’ll talk about sex to just anyone; i’m not going to go into the details of my sexual experience to some pervert who just wants to get off to it later. considering i actually teach people (most girls) how to have better sex, i’m pretty required to be open about it.
I’m more open than most, but not “extremely open”.
I am not comfortable talking about sex. Im not quite sure why I feel like that, because I know it is a natural process of humans and animals alike. Maybe I AM nervous about the subject just because it IS also associated with animals. Maybe I just dont want to openly acknowledge how close to animals we really are. But then again, I dont really know that for sure. Its just pure speculation on my part. ^^;
It depends on who I’m talking to.
i agree with stilllooking2find.
the people who blog all day about their sex lives are obviously insecure about themselves. i mean anyone can pretend to have sex on the internet and flash photos of their bodies to people, but they’re probably not that experienced.
the topic of sex is pretty boring to me since its been exhausted all throughout teenage life and because i’m someone actually having it, and have never had any horrible experiences in it. =) in other words, i’m satisfied. a very hard thing to do on a topic so boring =D
Would have to agree with squeakysoul, because she is cool. lol
Depends on the company I’m around…if I feel comfortable with them then sure, but not a deep discussion. Just surface talk. But when I was younger and I needed the “birds & the bees” talk..I did not want my mom talking to me about it. That was embarassing, so I got out the health book and read that and it pretty much covered the basics. Then years later I learned by experience.
I can talk about sex with anybody except my family. Around them, nuh uh.
I’m fine talking about it. But I don’t know why… my parents NEVER discussed it with me.
I plan to be very open with my kids (when I have them). I think the more you know, the less curiosity will lead you to do some stupid things.
I got free condoms in class today.
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I am comfortable taking about sex. You just need to be yourself from before…I like that Theologian much better.
i agree with you completely. God created sex as a special bond between man and woman when they are husband and wife.
And. I am very open about talking about sex, but not with my parents and especially not with my dad. ew *shudder*. I think i’d stick my fingers in my ears and go “lalalalalalala”
Still not comfortable talking with mom and dad about sex. But otherwise fine.
My parents were always open about sex, well my mom was.
She always told me that birth control is not always 100% effective because things can happen, and being pregnant is a BIG deal–no quick fix. <- As if I’d ever think and abortion could be called a ‘quick fix.’
And she always stressed that if I can’t tell her that I’m having sex then I probably shouldn’t be doing it, because if she says that I’m not mature enough too and I can’t counter her argument than chances are I’m not doing it for the right reason.
And if you can’t talk about sex with your partner, then you shouldn’t be having sex with them.
I really never understood that, i’d have friends that would complain about sex problems to me, and I’d ask them if they’d ever talk to their boyfriend about it, and they’d say “NO—I can’t do that!!!”
Well, if you can’t talk to him, then maybe you shouldn’t let him ejaculate in you?
“Oooo? Talking? Can you uhh like just shoot me with your semen instead? talking is SO awkward!!!”
I have learned, am still learning, that you don’t talk with everyone about private matters, but as for talking with my girls, I have tried to be as open as possible in regards to sex. All of them are different and process information differently, so it is a wise mother who knows her children and knows what each one can handle.
At 62, I find myself talking about it more and doing it less!
I consider myself uncommonly comfortable talking about it.
Well, putting religion aside, I am pretty comfortable talking about it, yes. In fact, I find it fascinating, on a social level also. How it motivates people, how’s it’s somehow inbred in more of humankind. What lengths peopl ego to get it, what they become without it, etc, etc etc. Very interesting.
I totally agree with you… I was raised in a very open household when it came to sexual discussions so I have no problem talking about it. In fact, I probably talk about it too much. Not my own sex life, but definitely sex in general
mhm. Â i dont understand why so many people get so awkward around talk about it
I came from a sexually-quiet family, but my husband has really helped me in that area.
Very much so.
Depends on who I am talking to. My girlfriends, yes. My husband, yes. Strangers, no. Congrats to your mom for feeling so open to talk to you about it. I wish I was gonna be better about that when my kids are a little older.
Yes, and it annoys me when people think you’re being inappropriate for talking about it.
I’m open about sex. Sex is wonderful. Who doesn’t like sex? Why should it be an uncomfortable subject.
My girlfriend and I talk about our sex and how to improve it, its important I think to do things like that.
Sex is sexy.
Yes, I can really be that lame.
I am with the Marsupial. I seriously would never EVER want to disclose all the details of my love life. *blushes* And boy oh boy my kids ask the darndest things. We are a very sexually oriented household, too. Except for the husband. He is a bit more reserved with the kids and works better when i am around.
I have no idea what this “sex” is that you are talking about. I like to bang, though.
Yes. Completely, and absolutely.
Obviously…:-p
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definitely. except, not with my parents. haha
Well.. I am a Pure Romance Personal Consultant.. so you tell me
I am comfortable talking about it in general, however, I would never discuss my sex life with anyone other than my guy.
I’m comfortable talking to anyone about it. God created sex! All that is of God is good!
no i dont have a problem talking about it. its a natural thing and so many people do it. whats the big deal?
Yes, I’m comfortable talking about it. In some situations it is inappropriate, but it depends.
i am late in joining your blog, but how do you find so much time TO blog. what is your day to day profession?
Not around my parents or other people who are uncomfortable talking about it..
Even if someone accidentally says the word “sex” in my house the kids gasp and the parents give looks like “You looking for a long talk about it?? Yeah.. that’s what I thought”
And some of my friends give me weird looks too..
“WHAT?! Saying that word won’t kill anyone..”
Very much so.
i am very comfortable with talking openly about sex. i think sometimes the Christian population’s unwillingness to even mention the subject is akin to prudery
Lol, way to destroy everyone who said your last post was unChrist like or whatever! *High five*
-David
I am very comfortable talking about sex. Sex is ours … ours to explore and to feel constrained within the confines of our self and soul is a tragedy indeed. Hence why the “Bible” and sex should never be strung nor hung together! The “Bible” if it works for you great. If it doesn’t hahaha even better. To feel confident within yourself reflects in your securities to express yourself sexually as well. Free your mind and set your sexual self free to be….sexy and fulfilled and mature and responsible! That is all that it really boils dopwn to isnt it? Being responsible?! Yes! Indeed it is! Have a healthy kinky sexy wild and freaky responsible sex life! And if it deems right at that moment to share with others then there you go…speak on and share! Hell! where would we be if we never gt to share with one another!???! Confinement and solitude works …..if you are a Monk! lol
Depend who it is. With you, NO.
The thing that worry me, the more you talks about sex, it mights draw more perverts in here. You want that?
definately. my parents had the sex talk with us before my earliest memory. we also talk about EVERYTHING at the dinner table, and i make it my hobby to make people as uncomfortable as i can by talking about sex. it works really well in the locker room.
I feel very comfortable talking about sex, I didn’t when I was younger though….
I am comfortable talking about sex.
But I am not comfortable talking about my sexual experiences. Mainly because I regret what I’ve done because I didn’t wait until marriage.
first of all, i think it is really funny when people are like “yah omg i’d
do that guy. i love sex.” okay. yeah wow you have DNA that wants your to reproduce.
interesting.
second of all, i hate talking about sex with weird christian people who
see it as god’s ‘creation.’ it’s not– it is just a lucky evolutionary miracle–
DNA creates a body that has fun reproducing, and all of a sudden humans dominate the world.
so, no, i don’t enjoy discussing sex in the context of our hedonistic, tasteless,
exploitative, prejudiced, extroverted, uneducated society.
also i find it annoying that even though the christians are all obnoxious and
constantly tiptoe around the subject because it is “a sin,” they are
actually OBSESSED with it.
censoring, restricting, blaming, etc.
not comfortable unless it is with my bf… even then still can get flustered. surprised you are so open and liberal about sex discussions. Wouldn’t have thought you were like that, bravo
I don’t mind sex, but I dislike talking about personal conquests and hearing people who I know personally talk about theirs.
i’m comfortable with the topic, but not with the intimate details.
I feel totally comfortable talking about sex in an appropriate situation.
Depends on how it’s discussed but generally speaking I’m open to go as far as anyone is comfortable with on any topic.
Very much so. I am making human sexuality my career.
i’m a really shy person, so it’s surprising how casual i am in mentioning sex. not that i mention it much, but you know what i mean.
Depends but generally no.
I’m pretty comfortable with it, unless I’m with people who are obviously uncomfortable with it. I don’t tell everyone I know everything I’ve done, because that’s between me and who I did those things with. But my mom was pretty open about it, and I am too.
yes, totally
but not with strangers
i can talk about it normally but when the person im talking to starts fidgeting then i feel awkward
Most definitely. Grew up on a farm. It was all over the place. It is a “time and place” topic though. Depends who you are with and where you are at.
totally open and free to talk about WHATEVER. people died to get my freedom of speech, so i use it with pride
ask away
yeah
I entirely agree with your post.
As for me I am uncomfortable with it around some people, but not around my peers
I’ve only ever talked about it in school – with the whole “abstinence only” BS – or with my current boyfriend. Or in awkward, silly kid conversations. Nothing serious.
not really.
but my parents place me in a situation where “you’ll understand when you get older” LOL
Not really.
For a couple of years in my professional career I actually taught sex education workshops for adults. The workshops began with a full weekend of work followed by meetings held once a week for the following 12 weeks. I can talk about sex in my sleep or standing on a public street corner.
One of my husband’s favorite stories is an incident that occurred on our first wedding anniversary. We had gone camping in NW Oklahoma and gone on a guided tour of Alabaster Caverns. Our very young guide would point to various structures and ask us what they looked like before telling us there name. As we turned the path another lighted structure came into view. I said, “Now that looks exactly like the head of a genetically male sperm.” (Which, of course, is more pointed than the curved heads of the sperms which carry the female chromosomes.) My husband had to peel this poor kid off the cavern walls. Once we surfaced he went around “whispering” to people what I had said, like it was something dirty. I swear, I was talking about bodily functions in public so often at the time that it never occurred to me that anyone would be shocked by it.
So, my answer to you is YES. I am very comfortable talking about anything having to do with sex.
sort of … my mom didnt tell me about my period… scared me to death when it started
I am comfortable talking about sex, obviously. But some of these other people talking about sex makes me want to projectile vomit. Sorry ladyvalkrie, i dont want to hear how u ‘work it’.
I’m a virgin but I don’t feel awkward talking about sex at all.
As for the Bible commanding it as a taboo topic, nothing’s implicit, but it does talk about keeping your thoughts and actions pure. In my experience, talking about sex can often lead to impure thoughts and actions.
Also, when sin entered the world, Adam and Eve noticed their nakedness and were ashamed and hid from one another and God. God designed sex to be a natural, wholesome, beautiful, very ok thing meant to be an expression of love. But sin brought lust into it, and then humans became ashamed of sex, because it was no longer just an expression of love, but often an expression of pure animal lust.
Agreed. Now that everyone wants to be “PC”, sex has become a taboo in conversations. It’s almost as if you don’t want to bring sex up beause you’re afraid of what people would think of you. Grow up and get over it people. You were created through sex..
No. I think your mother handled it very wisely. My family and friends don’t really talk about it – so I was raised in a environment where I’m uncomfortable with talking openly about sex as well as my friends and family.
The bible says that anything even close to sex before marriage is not allowed and considered adultery
i have read every young mans battle if you have questions its a very good read
hi!
im came from hongkong,so plx forgive me poor english first haha
as you think,sex was creat by god,
so why we have to talk it uncomfortably?
everyone had it,heard it,or maybe even did it
we should enjoy to talk about sex and having sex with the others
Hmmmmmmm yes, I can comfortably say talking about sex is no problem with me. Although if the bible says within marriage then why do most do itbefore?
Well yeah.. eventhough i’ve never tried it before … But still depends on who i am talkin’ with… ;p
I’ll talk about sex until everyone in the room is so horny that a spontaneous orgy erupts.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with sex as long as it’s used to express deep love between two people who are crazy about each other.
I’m of the opinion, though, that there’s a big difference between sex and lovemaking. It should always be lovemaking. If it’s just “sex” then that implies an impersonality and no love, just gratification.
It’s the pure “only for gratification” sex between people who’ve just met and don’t really know anything about each other that degrades the act, and brings trouble into it. STD’s. Unwanted pregnancy. Prostitution.
If someone is looking only for gratification, then masturbation is a better answer. The problem with masturbation, though, is that it can create a feedback loop where all someone wants to do is masturbate.
Orgasm, I believe, is sacred. God created orgasm for a specific reason. It should be approached like any other potentially addictive drug. You remove the lovemaking from the orgasm and it can be a destructive motivator.
Do you really read all these comments?
I can talk comfortably about sex, but I am by nature a private person. Therefore I don’t feel comfortable talking about my own sexual experiences. I will say though that we pray our children will have it as good as we have in their marriages.
Wow! read the book 30 x! congrats! wise investment of time. I am glad I also am quite capable of the frank discussion. Helps a LOT in youth ministry. Kids are happily surprised; Parents sometimes shocked…esp when I talk with THEM…..they often cannot understand the relationship between THEIR sexuality and their kids situations. Doh! YES GOD LOVES SEX! In Pure Love Alliance, we had 1000 kids marching through coconut grove chanting about –one man, one wife; sex is great, meant for LIFE.– NOT only to have babies, but for the abundant life we are promised.
How could anyone effectively teach abstinence, If they didn’t teach what to look FORWARD to? We Wait for a REASON……
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More so than some people. From my personal experience, a lot of people talk about sex but don’t know a lot about it. Talking about sex and actually having valid information about getting (or not getting) pregnant, orgasms, and all that other good stuff are sadly two very different things.
I was raised as a catholic for a majority of my life.
Me being 15, almost 16,
I find it extremely easy to talk about sex,
And I want to.,
But my mother and friends are very priavte about the issue.
I think it’s really important for me to talk about this with my boyfriend,
And he knows my views,
But he is private about his views.
I think that people shouldn’t be as private about sex.
Especially parents.
Open conversations about sex would lead to their children making better decisions,
And I’m not saying that waiting until marriage is the better choice.
But more education of the matter will definietly lead to a better decision.
I’m quite comfortable talking about it.
God made it; it’s holy and a most beautiful thing between two people. It’s so unfortunate that people have perverted it and are being driven by it, applying it to all kinds of innappropriate contexts.
Also, Psychologically speaking, it’s healthiest when telling your kids about sex to go about it matter-of-factly from a scientific perspective, using scientific terms and explaining how things work. This gives people the healthiest and most comfortable and respectful understanding of it.
Absolutely! I will talk until someone tells me I’ve told them too much.
My mother also taught me young and if I have children I will tell them young too. If they ask I see no reason to lie. I will buy them a book and answer any questions that I feel isn’t going too far. Some stuff is best to wait to tell them when they’re old enough to truly understand.
i’m comfortable with talking about sex, but i also don’t feel the need to discuss it constantly either. there’s a balance involved with everything.
completely with one exception … my fantasies.
as a fore phone sex operator i would have tosay, “YES – i am comfortable talking about sex.”
Yes, I do. I think it’s important to talk about it so that when you are experiencing it, it can be a great experience!
I’m very open talking about it. Just not with my own family members
I remember when I met up with my childhood friends of whom I haven’t seen in the longest, I felt totally awkward when the topic of sex came up. It kind of felt weird unveiling how we’ve shred away some of our innocence.
In any case, if someone’s talking about it in much detail, I start to feel uncomfortable there. Some things ought to be private sometimes I guess. But I still like talking about sex and reading about it. It’s very interesting.
> Sure, why not…. Mine or theirs or generically, it’s all the same…. And it makes sense that God created the big O, fro if he didn’t make it enjoyable, you wouldn’t wanna!
Peace and sex
not all all…sex is a natural thing and it should be in a natural discussion…i don’t understand why people get uncomfotable or offended during a conversation about sex…its perfectly natural and the ONE thing that every human can agree with…
eh. it gets uncomfortable for me when my oceanography textbook is very graphic at describing how orca whales get it on…
Yep. In fact, I ENJOY talking about it. It’s a fun subject.
i wasn’t really that comfortable with it except with CLOSE friends, until i started having it, now i’ll talk about it with anyone that wants to. including my family, which is the MAJOR people i NEVER wanted to hear about.
I’m very comfortable talking about it most of the time. I guess it depends on the context though. I’ll talk about it with my husband or with my girlfriends.
yes