August 1, 2010
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Deleting Xanga Friends
I was reading a pulse by Trunthepaige and she was mentioning deleting “friends” who recommended a negative post about her.
Would you delete a xanga friend if he/she recommended a negative post about you?
I was reading a pulse by Trunthepaige and she was mentioning deleting “friends” who recommended a negative post about her.
Would you delete a xanga friend if he/she recommended a negative post about you?
Comments (130)
There aren’t really any negative posts about me.
Umm…yeah…!
My profile isn’t high enough for anyone to write negatively about me.
Oh the bliss of semi-anonymity.
nope. i would ask them why first.
Hmmm. Idk. Actually, I wouldn’t care enough, honestly. Unless I feel the need to block them. Which takes a lot for me to be so annoyed that I’ll block someone.
As far as I know, no one has ever written a negative post about me.
@barefoot_nomad - agreed.
Probably, because I would know they weren’t my friend and therefore shouldn’t be on my friends list. I’ve deleted people before who have made hurtful posts just because I didn’t want to see their blogs spring up in my inbox anymore.
Hmm, people do it all the time, I don’t take it personal.
Sure. If someone was backstabbing you, you couldn’t trust them or see eye – to eye on certain subjects, all it will lead to is grief
I’m not important enough to have negative posts written about me
Not really… I don’t know why anyone would want to write a negative post about me?!
No, unless it was a flat out lie.
Haha I deleted someone who recommended that post about Paige! Just days before that I deleted someone who keeps recommending posts by a Xangan I very much dislike. I’m harsh like that. Xanga popularity means nothing, loyalty means everything. I have only 132 friends on here and I still get 400 views per post. I couldn’t care less. I want to be able to read the posts of the people I do like, so a light friends list is a good thing.
I can understand why she would. But IDK about me. I might want to know if they were doing it so people could stick up for me, or so people would see them doing so, first.
I have deleted “friends” who rec blogs that are full of a direct hatred for everything I stand for though. And people who just flat out annoy me with their posts. I don’t want to hear about any of that stuff!
I would recommend a person who wrote a negative post about me.
Mebbe. People don’t pay that much attention to my blog and I don’t write much controversial material.
Here’s one for you Dan. Suppose you make a comment, compliment someone but in a private message about their post later because your computer crashed – what would you think of the person that screamed at you, then blocked you because you didn’t comment on her post? Inquiring minds need to know.
Yes.
Hmm. Not necessarily, but I can imagine my feelings getting the better of me.
I have deleted for time-stamping, annoying content, and mass messaging. In each case, the user writes the sort of entries that didn’t interest me anyways.
No, but I’m not surprised others do it. Truth and logic can be painful things.
In the extremely unlikely event that were to happen, yes.
@cmclymer - No, you just block them and then write crap about them.
Only after I cussed them out and or kicked their ass… I hate bus drivers..
No, not necessarily, but it’s hard for me to say… I’ve never been in that circumstance. Nobody writes negative posts about me. That I know of, anyway.
It’d depend on what the post was (ie, obviously dumb or a more malicious attack), whether the friend had commented on the post (and what they said if they did), and whether I’d ever had an issue with them before.
If it happened once, probably not. If it became a habit, then yeah, I’d probably delete them unless it was clear they were recommending it to bring it to my attention and nothing else.
Depends on the motive behind the rec.
Dunno. Such a deed certainly doesn’t endear oneself to others
Yes, just like I delete people (like trunthepaige) who feel the need to leave rude comments on my page.
Life is too short for deleting friends. I’ll let attrition do the work.
I would for 2 reasons: 1) they should have had the balls to tell it to me personally & 2) that’s immature. I’ve had to do that on another blog site but that person in question posted my full legal name on there & perfect strangers read that shit. This was before the identity theft boom but still. Lord knows what people would have done with that info. I deleted her after I made sure to report her blog for that & it got shut down.
I definitely would. But then again I would be shocked if someone had so many bad things to say about me that it filled an entire post. I try to be friends with anyone.
The first time? No. If it continued, most likely.
I probably wouldn’t notice because I don’t look at my recs page.
I feel like deleting a friend takes a lot of effort, so it would have to be something pretty extreme.
This honestly isn’t meant as a rude statement, I’ve just always wondered if trunthepaige meant for that to be her username (turn was taken) or if it was just one of her spelling mistakes/typos.
I might. Depends on circumstances.
In most cases, I probably wouldn’t care enough to delete anyone. ._.;;
Hmmm yes, I think so. No one keeps track of friends anyway (or so I have been told). but a friend wouldnt do that. Good writing or not haha
No!
Obviously I do. The cool thing is that only 1 out a 1000 subs reced that lying piece of craps entry. And they had no idea I would delete them for doing it
@hollowhopes - No that is not what it was about, but it turned out rather funny that way
@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair - I never made a rude comment on your page. I was specifically always nice to you because we are so different. I never wanted to unintentionally offend you. I guess that was wasted effort
@cmclymer - So can being caught lying and having it proved. So my little lying coward are you so afraid of me that you had block me, before you dared write your lies about me? It was dumb of you to have linked that entry. A lot of the people that showed up from your hit piece went on to recommend my entry.
the question is why would you not? weird question, dan.
It would depend why they rec’d it. I wouldn’t just automatically delete them.
I’ve only deleted one person from my friend’s list and it was because they were writing pure drama, time-stamping it, and just being annoying. I finally got so sick of it I deleted them.
No because I don’t get read much.
I’d probably stay friended to them just to stay in the loop.
I’ve deleted friends in the past, but it was more to minimize the amount of stuff in my inbox than for any malicious reason.
guess they aren’t really friends then, are they?
Not unless I had good reason. I mean, it would depend on the content of the post. I am nowhere near perfect, after all. Maybe the person has a point. Still, even if not, those who are smart would likely check it out themselves. Even then, the person who recommended it may just have a wrong perception and once things are addressed to me directly (or by me to them) I’m sure everything would be fine. Truthfully though, the most likely case is that I would never even notice because if they are one who would rec it, they probably don’t know me well enough and so I would not likely follow them recing something anyway.
I won’t. But I would delete those “friends” who kept sending me irritating and disturbing messages and comments.
Not if it was a real friend,then I’d take it as ‘hey, read this rec’.
I’ve deleted over recs that I didn’t like before though.
I just might.
I don’t know. I’m not sure I am even noticed usually!
I wouldn’t delete the person unless the negative comments are on a regular basis and are not constructive.
I guess it depends on what they were writing about and whether it was true or not. After all, how well do xanga friends really know you?
Nope…
Not necessarily, they may just be reccommending it to point out what an arse someone is for posting that about you in the first place, it realy is no biggie.
Ask Hector.
Probably, but I’m not very controversial.
@Megan@revelife - Bitter much?
And no I don’t take it personally. What if they just wanted to inform me that it was there? Besides the people who write negative posts about me are usually bumbling idiots with no point. *shrugs*
I tend to only delete people with anorexia who aren’t trying to get better.
They say you should keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Perhaps Xanga should come up with an Enemies List!
Turnthepaige wrote a disgusting sexual comment about my teen daughter that she has never had any interaction with. She apologized for it later, but in the interim I did not block her from my site. I would personally rather be aware of and respond to people’s ignorance than to shut them up.
@landers_mommy0520@momaroo - Exactly!
Rofl. And Xanga friends are like real friends because….?
Absolutely not. I am who I am and I accept that some people won’t like who I am or what I say. To remove a person from my life (whether it be in real life or online) just because they disagree with something I say diminishes me as a person. I know I have faults but those faults are part of who I am. If people around me can’t cope with that, well that’s really an issue they need to look at in their own lives.
I disagreed with someone about something? Oh boo hoo. Unless the person who has been slighted is a child, get over yourself.
It all reeks of shallowness and vacuousness in my opinion.
Since I’ve never been in that position, I can’t really give an honest answer as to what I would or wouldn’t do. How’s that for being commital?
No. I am not that self absorbed.
Why do you really ask Dan!?!?! Are you going to delete me?? I don’t understand, I thought that we had a great relationship? Our communication skills are the tops. We have been friends since SpititualBattlefield. Why Dan?!?! Why nowww?!
It’s funny that I was just looking for a contact that I am going to delete because she’s getting too full of herself and I don’t want to see videos of her all of the time; when I saw your post on my private..! On my private page, don’t get excited.
But yeah, if someone rec’d a negative about me, I wouldn’t care. Hell, I write negative stuff about myself all of the time.
no, it takes too much effort to delete people. I wouldn’t forget though :p
@Backflipboy - well, i think it’s one thing to block someone because they disagree. but if we go with the real life scenario you’re using, isn’t this more like blocking a bully? It’s not like it was a post where “Bob said religion is bad, and Becca disagreed.” Which is what a disagreement is. It was like “Bob said Becca is an idiot slut who couldn’t spell, and posted it so everyone could comment on how much they hate her.”
I might not block people myself but I can understand why one might want to remove someone who seems to be a bully from their list of friends. In real life, people spreading rumors or saying nasty things often IS enough to get one unfriended- and rightly so.
No.
I remember one time I recced a post from da__vinci about diva, and he was angry with her, but had legit reasons and stated it rationally. She approached me about it, and I explained that though I like her, da__vinci was right. I didn’t rec the other hate posts, nor comment them, but I had agreed with him.
She was okay with that, we remained friends.
Sometimes I rec negative posts because they are so ridiculous, I want to give people a chance to go read it and share a laugh.
Other than that, if a person has a problem with me, it’s not worth my time to bother searching them out and deleting them. That’s their problem.
I will delete those who won’t rec the negative post about me..why, it would make me popular! (gosh, just kidding)
Happy weekend!
@nattata - Well it is true, if you or some of my older xanga friends had reced that I would have messaged you and said “what gives”. If my mom had done it I would have laughed. All others bye bye
@sarahvega -
Haha hi Bunny the Troll!
I honestly don’t know. It’s never happened.
What if they were rec’ing the post to get support to back the friend up because the negative post was blatant lies?
What kind of “friend” would promote something negative about you?
I’m too amazing to have a negative post written about me hahahahhahah totally just kiddin’. i don’t really care honestly lol
No one has said anything negative about me. If a friend recommended a negative post about me, it would be disappointing on both issues, but not a deal breaker.
Damn right I would.
No. Of course not. Not over one recommendation. I rec a variety of posts, even ones I vehemently disagree with. [When the rec button first came out, I regularly recommended the worst of the worst. Not sure why. Just feeling cynical, I guess. Lost several friends over that and don't do it anymore.
] Since Xanga doesn’t let us say WHY we are recommending a post, I try to remain open-minded about other people’s intentions. Now if someone keeps rec’ing posts about Xanga feuds (or other equally uninteresting topics), I WILL delete them–out of boredom.
No, I wouldn’t. I would laugh, because that’s probably their intention in rec’ing it.
However, I do delete Xanga “friends” and fairly consistently. For other various reasons.
@Megan@revelife - Sup cunt?
not sure, I definitely would if they commented like YEAH! but if they rec’d it, it could just be to stir drama, then again that’s wrong too because then a bunch more people will talk crap about you.
oh God I hope this doesn’t happen hahaha
@suggestivetongue - @DickDoktorII - Agreed with the both of you.
I definitely would, and have. I also clean out my friends list every so often just to get rid of the people that stopped using Xanga or the ones that timestamp too much and rec other friends’ stuff continuously, etc, etc… But does it really matter?
Depends whether or not I found it amusing
Does it matter?
She’s a goddamned vapid cunt and all this does is give her the attention she so desperately craves.
Paige, if you read this: go away. And then go fucking die, you ignorant piece of scum.
Who would write a negative post about me?
@deadatlonglast - Yeah you’re pretty much typical of those who have an obsess hate thing for me. Likely you are someone’s shock puppet. Very likely just the same guy who posted a few minutes before this entry@sarahvega - and 5 minutes after. @Unstoppable_Inner_Strength -
not necessarily… sometimes people recommend negative posts in order to inform everyone who cares about the person so they can fire back… plus, paige is an idiot, so bad example.
Well done. Now read my post on christians and atheists settling their differences… with football.
http://jingoists-anonymous.xanga.com/731009604/to-start-a-pro-christian-struggle-email-forward/
@llamalima - this.
nope. I would recommend every blog she wrote… why not?! If some one is taking the time to complain and talk about you, it just means you are important enough to be talked about.
Haha yes, yes I would.
Probably not. The state of Xanga “friendship” means absolutely nothing to me. And I rarely do anything on here that would warrant any negative (or positive) attention anyway.
@MomGoneMadd - What you said
Nah, that would take too long. I’d just block them ;D
That is pretty lame and petty to delete an Xanga friend simply because they recommended a negative post about you. I think the friend would have enough decency or respect to at leaste talk to the individual and try to resolve the issue first. Than after trying, then I can see deleting the friend.
Probably. I’m picky about my Xanga friends anyways.
Probably, most likely. Have enough negativity in my life..too much is too much.
Hell yes.
I only delete them fro the following reasons
1) excessive swearing/negativity in their titles of their posts and or pluses
2) non stop blogging about their sex or their sex life and how their life has no meaning without (datingish has enough of that thank you like 1-2 weeks non stop
3) random attacking for my opinion (E.G. Diva_Joyti)
4)Constant writing people/xanga members off in their posts (hate blogs i should say)
5) Dear Ricky or Restless Butterfly Drama
6)near NC-17 NSFW photos or Blogs appearing in my news feed when they rate the Dang thing ALL AGES ALLOWED!
7)Fbombs never go away…..
8)How to Blow jobs Blogs
9)going down on someone how to do blogs…
this is just stupidity I dont want to be associated with you if you are going to be a pain in the rear on Xanga
I doubt it. When I delete friends it’s usually because of the following:
1. They friend me and then I find out later that they’re merely collecting “friends” and they never visit my blog again.
2. They expect me to visit their blogs and comment yet never don’t return the favor.
3. They never post so I cut loose the baggage.
4. They just begin to annoy the bejesus out of me with their bashing and hate posts.
Why must this be up for discussion? Isn’t the answer obvious? We can’t choose our family, but we can choose our friends.
I’d call them a motherfucker and then delete them.
Well, to delete someone just because they rec’d something you didn’t like is kind of butthurt, but I do think that the person was not loyal and probably not a friend to her. I would have just let it go, or maybe message the person asking them how they really felt about me.
Nope. That’s half the fun of the internet,
because it can be so personal,
but as soon as you walk away from the computer it doesn’t matter anymore.
Yes, and I have. Many immature girls on Xanga have wrote some pretty nasty stuff about me on their own blogs, but I just ignore it, and delete/block
No, but I wouldn’t rec a negative post about a friend.
Yes I would because that is not a friend.
That’s an interesting question. I wouldn’t suppose they’d be much of a “friend” if they would do that, but on the other hand they could be someone who plays on both sides.
I’m honestly…not too sure. Then again, I don’t expect any negative posts about me to be springing up anyway.
I tend to sit on the sidelines and watch every else rip each others throats out.
I think it would depend on what was written
I just delete friends because I’m a loner, or better yet, I don’t add them. I don’t want too many people clogging up my space.
i had somone write a negative post about me because i put up pictures of myself, however, we weren’t friends. she was a very insecure person to begin with, so i was glad that i was never friends with her. i never put up any naked pictures up, but she accused me of showing naked pictures. whether i did or not, some people just really can’t change the channel and move on to something that they do like/care about without insulting someone first.
i don’t put up any pictures of myself anymore. it was also only one person who wrote a bad post about me. since i put a lot of restrictions on my xanga, i don’t really get a lot of visits (and i’m really ok with this), so no one cares enough to write bad about me on xanga. i don’t write bad about anyone who has a xanga blog……
just do what Neverbebeat does and be conceited about it
I’m just starting so why would I want to delete people.I like people,some are nice some are not,but they are still people
haha, no.
I’d probably recommend it too.
nope but i have deleted people for posting stupid things. props for the discussion, an interesting read.
Depended on the post. I’ve deleted a person because of their attitude towards other people. That reminds me to go through my friends and delete some of them.
this is not real life so i wouldnt feel the blowand won’t care, and i do the rec. about someones else, as far as its good writing and made me laugh, sure. but i have and will never delete anyone for any reason
Well that IS kinda interesting. But I’ve never seen anything negative about her. And I tend not to rec things like that anyway….usually. And it would never happen to me because nobody knows who I am anyway. ^^
I would. I would ask them about it, but still I would delete them. I don’t think my friends need to share my opinions 100% but I would hope they would have my back and not recommend something that was hurtful to me.
lol i got two negative posts about me! ( my fame is growing >=] muahahhaa! )
lol nah not really. it only advertises me for people to look at my site xD
DearRicky did that to me once
Bah. I’m with Paige.
I tend to keep a smaller group of subs and friends, so I don’t think I’ll ever have that problem.
Yes.
@trunthepaige -
No, I just hate you.
Have you learned to spell yet, you ignorant cunt?