March 29, 2011
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Are You Too Hot to Pay For Dinner?
I was reading an article that stated that if a woman perceived she was attractive, she was less likely to think she should have to pay for a date.
Women who thought they were average, tended to just be happy to be asked out. Here is the link: Link Men tended to agree in that they were more willing to pay for women who they thought were attractive.
Ladies, are you too hot to pay for dinner?
Comments (91)
If a woman is full of herself, she thinks she’s entitled to everything. Same for men.
And no, I’m not. I’m respectful of my dates, and if they don’t expect to pay all the time, it doesn’t bother me.
Call me an old soul, but the man always pays.
I don’t like eating in front of other people, I don’t see the appeal of having someone ask you for dinner. I like to pay for my own food, eat by myself, as sloppy as I want.
@kinseydanielle - This.
i always feel like i owe someone something if they pay
I am entirely too hot to pay for my own dinners..
@korean_biyatch - That’s where the vagina comes in handy.
What? Isn’t that what dates are for?
xD
I’m not sure if I’m too hot to pay for dinner, but I’m too sexy for my shirt.
I think that whole thing where the man has more responsibility is stupid. It kinda keeps us stuck in the past. Women have been working for all these “equal rights opportunities”… Well here you go! An opportunity to pay for your EQUAL half of your dinner just came up? Why does a man have to get stuck with all the checks just for the simple fact he is a man? Seems sexist… Women get mad when it’s the other way around!
only when I have a fever
I kind of think both ways. I have dated men who want to split the bill most of the time, and I have dated men who are old-fashioned and get their feelings hurt if I offered. I don’t think it has anything to do with attractiveness. At least it shouldn’t. Even an old-fashioned man likes the offer. I also think that if *I* ask someone out, I should probably pay. If a man asks me out, I assume he will, but keep cash just in case there is that awkward placing of the black leathery bill in the *center* of the table, vs. in front of the man where most waiters tend to place it.
Ideally, in my opinion everyone should just pay for their own crap.
Bitches, please. I don’t think there’s such a thing as “too hot to pay”, lol that’s a pretty lame excuse to not offer to pay the bill.
Yep.
No. But it has nothing to do with how I look. I am reasonably attractive, but I would feel weird if the guy paid all the time. I like to feel like I’m contributing to the relationship, too. If he wants to pay, I don’t make a scene and fight him over it, but I also don’t expect him to pay, either. (But then, I also haven’t been on a date that required actual money in such a long time that I don’t even remember how I dealt with the issue when I was younger…)
I think whoever does the asking should pay. I asked a guy out recently, but we haven’t set a date for our date yet. Since I did the asking, I will go prepared to pay his way as well as mine, but since he is from a different culture that usually has more traditional gender roles than what I am used to, I won’t have kittens if he doesn’t accept my paying his way.
In all honesty it shouldn’t matter if you have a penis or vagina.. It matters who makes more (whish IS usually the man) I used to get upset and insist on paying for dinner or at least my half of dinner because i felt guilty that my boyfriend always paid. Finally one day he stopped me and asked me that while paying to go to school and working how much i was making -i told him. then he told me how much he makes and said that it wasnt fair for me to spend what little money (in comparison) i had and that it was only right that he paid when he wanted to take me out. And looking back on it, he is totally right.
Eh, I’m more on the “Happy just to be asked out” scale. I think I’ve ended up paying, or at least offering to pay, for all my meals. I feel incredibly awkward when people pay for my food. Heck, I feel weird eating food at peoples houses. I just feel like I’m taking from them. :-/
I’m HOT* but I pay for my BF’s dinner :S
Something clearly is wrong here
I like the romance of the idea that it is somewhat traditional however in todays times I would much rather split the bill. I prefer the idea of going to dinner on a date so you can talk but to be honest I have been on about three dates… It in it-self is becoming a thing of the past.. At least where I live. The only way to meet a guy here is to go out every weekend and have drunks sleaze all over you until one puts the hard word on ya… Since when did it become easier to get sex and harder to get a relationship??
Well, I think all women are at least McDonald’s worthy…
JK. I’ll cook a couple of hot dogs… OH! HAHAAAHHAAAAA! No I mean I’ll take them out for a nice dinner, average or hot…
Absolutely.
This is true. The asker of the date is suppose to pay, but if a girl is cute, I would be more likely to ask her out.
No, I’m too poor to pay for dinner.
@Roadlesstaken - So true. Lol
Yes!
(at least the first dinner, lol)
nahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.. the real test is picking her up on a hoopty and see if she’ll get in.
Paying is whatevers. Her lack of security will show that she’s shallow and not worth
paying for the dinner itself if she’s not willing to get ina 1980 ford escort wagon that
doesn’t having any power windows or airconditioning or working brakes.
uhhhhh yeah i pretty much expect the guy to pay hahaha you said you were taking me out, not that we’re taking ourselves out together
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When I was single, I had a man ask me out to dinner. He had no job, no car, and lived with his parents. His idea was that I would pick him up, drive to the restaurant, pay for my food, and drive him home again. I told him I was working to support four kids alone, and if I had to drive myself to dinner, and pay for it too, what did I need him to come along for? I couldn’t afford it anyway.
OTOH, there was a man I went out with, who had won the lottery, and he was always trying to give me fifties to help pay for the baby-sitter when we went out. I wouldn’t let him.
I think it has a whole lot more to do with the situation than hotness. But I never have thought like the mainstream.
lol Well, those women have a point. Why should they date a backwards cretin when some other guy is smart (stupid?) enough to pay? Whoever does the asking should do the paying. But really, women have the babies and well, so what if men are stuck with the dinner bill. Equality for pay, rights, and such, as given by businesses, employers, and the government; chivalry didn’t have to die with it. I will admit I’m pretty sure the date would end right there and then if the guy suggested/thought I should pay. I like men, not whiny boys.
In general, I’m happy to pay, but I wouldn’t want to pay for someone who is full of themselves and actually feels that it’s my obligation to pay… the purpose of paying is to treat the other person and show that you’re willing to give up something for them, not because it’s your role to pay.
I get an ugly girl a hot pocket and a attractive girl a three star meal.
I cannot remember the last time I paid for my dinner/lunch/whatever, unless I was trying to be clear that I was not interested.
Oh God, I hate women like that.
I always do the – “look at them and wait to pull out their wallet” trick, then pay. Intent should at least be involved.
the moment that I attempt to take my wallet out of my purse to pay, the guy usually insists that he’ll pay. if I don’t like him, I’ll definitely pay my half, so I don’t owe him or he gets bitter later. if I like him, I’ll let him pay. if he is hot, he won’t even have to take me out to dinner and I’ll still give him a lap dance. hot men and hot women are luckier.
Definitely seen it happen. While I think the guy should pick up the tab (at least initially) I think it says something about the woman’s character if she at least offers to pay, rather than ignore it completely.
Why pay when you can dine and dash?
I Like dinner…. n with my girl friend too
Thanks for writting
@korean_biyatch - Me too
I could be getting a BJ and filling up the 78 dollar gas tank with the cost of the menu items some girls pick (PS: Fuck PF Changs). And just cause your parents are smart (even though you’re not) and you’re maybe a hard 7, doesn’t make you a fucking princess.
@ShimmerBodyCream - Same here.
Yes I am, but I do it anyway ^_^
Guy should always pay
That’s really strange. I think I’m moderately pretty (self confidence, not to be mistaken with arrogance) and I had dinner with my friend last night… he and I fought over the bill because I wanted to pay for the whole thing. He lost the fight. :D I don’t mind treating people. They’re my friends and I know they’d do the same for me as well.
I would only pay if she was a cripple.
After five years with the same man I’m happy when he asks me to do something other than hang out and play with the dog. I usually split dinner/dates with him. =]
These days, my hotness comes and goes in flashes. Some guy bought me a salad for lunch not too long ago.
Yes, I am, but I’m too responsible not to… But honestly, my fella and I often would take turns picking up the check — all the practicality of going dutch, with all the feeling of treating the other to dinner. We’re doing more cooking ourselves now though and avoiding eating out, for both health and monetary benefits.
McDonald’s dollar menu, here we come!
I always believe that woman should pay for their own dinner instead of waiting for man to pay. Nobody owes you any meals or treats so why should guys pay for us woman? Unless you’re intending to use sex in exchange of an expensive meal.
@kinseydanielle - perfectly said.
although if i’m asked on a date and it’s specified that it’s a date, then i would expect the guy to pay. otherwise i’d be more than willing to pay my half.
if the guy that i’m going out with is my age, i will ask to pay for my own meal. but if a guy is older than me, i expect him to cover my tab. he has had more time to get settled and make money. i will not go out with him again if he doesn’t.
I generally let the man pay the first time. But I am a cheap date…two hotdogs and an order of fries, a cola and the park is GREAT! When I think it is a bind, I offer to take him out to a restaurant I want to try (of course I already know it is good) or offer to cook dinner. I think over a couple of weeks it comes out about the same. But then my husband didn’t even have a job when we married.
) and we have been married now a long time.
i always pay for my girlfriends food. unless she just argues with me and insists on paying. a lot of times she gets the tip though when she has cash. i just think the guy paying is proper. i dont mind her paying but i prefer to go ahead and pay. plus i do make more money so i tend to have more to spend and blow, i dont want her blowing all her money.
I guess I’m a bit more traditional in the idea that if a man ASKS me on a date he usually pays. On the other hand, if I ask him on a date, I insist on paying even though most guys try to resist that.
I have found a happy medium in most relationships where the guy usually pays for dinner when we go out, but I cook nice large meals (on my dime AND my time) sometimes too. That way we’re not ALWAYS eating out on his dime, nor always eating in on mine.
But no, I’m not too hot to pay for dinner. I’m not sure I’ve ever thought of it that way.
Eh. Maybe I’m old-fashioned but I think at least on the first date if the guy was the one to ask me out, then it’s kind of expected that he should pay. I went on a first date with a guy once and I offered to split it and he accepted and I was totally fine with it, but I just don’t think it’s the best first impression. But, if he’s broke I think doing something creative that doesn’t cost money is always a good alternative and I would be completely for that.
Hell yea! That’s why I never pay. I joke, I joke. I’m usually too broke to pay.
@PervyPenguin - I’m with you on that one.
Oh goodness no. I wouldn’t want to be, though. I prefer to go Dutch.
I’m too hot for your blog. But then again, anyone is.
Bummer.
The comments here are annoying me AGAIN!!!!! “he pay, i pay, we all pay, she pay….” SHUT UP!!!!!!! Here is my reply: I wouldn’t be able to bang a hot white chik if my life depended on it.
If a guy asked me for a date, I expected him to pay, though I would always offer to get the tip. So, I guess I am sort of hot.
I’ve gone out to eat and such with just a guy friend many times, and they usually want to pay. If they do end up paying, I try to pick up the bill next time or pay for something else. Every once in a while I will go with it, because I know they’re being courteous and being the gentleman. The one thing I always want to avoid is feeling like I’m taking advantage of them. I never ever want to do that, especially if it’s someone I haven’t known that long. My older friends know how I am about things, new guys, not so much. If I were to be asked out (hey, wanna go on a date?) then I’m more inclined to let them pay cause they asked, but even then it just depends how I feel about it at the time. I haven’t been on a real date in like 3 years so I don’t use the “we’re dating, man always pays” excuse and I will not do that when I do date. *shrug* Just how I am.
@Paul_Partisan - yes, yes you are. <3
@godfatherofgreenbay - Haha, this is too true!
At my age there is nothing hot about me except hot flashes when my thyroid is off, so I pay for dinner or hubby does. It is whoever has the money at the time.
A date? aren’t dates already paid for by the guy/asker. xD
I’m so broke, that if I took a broke chick out to dinner we’d probably have to dine and dash.
I think my girlfriend is beautiful but we split dinners most of the time. Other times I pay and other times she pays (she’ll pay for dinner, but i’ll pay for the movie afterwards and a few games of bowling to even it out). We’re very fair when it comes to who pays for what. I prefer it that way. It’s all about compromise…
If a woman is full of herself she’ll refuse to pay for a date. In which case she’s not worth it.
@Roadlesstaken - Too sexy for your skirt.
If I wanted to pay for my own dinner, I would go out by myself. If I wanted to pay for someone else’s dinner, I would ask that person on a date.
I’m too hot to pay for anything! no, not really. I’m just too poor to pay for anything.
I think the girl should at least offer to pay. I never expect someone to pay for me. Whether its family, a boyfriend, or anyone really. I’m more comfortable paying for myself anyway.
Everyone knows that attractive women don’t eat.. I dont understand the question?
Paying should be the responsibility of the person who invited the other person to dinner IMHO .. but then again I have been married since ’92, or was it ’93 .. I can’t remember. So I haven’t dated in at least 2-3 years so not sure how it works. I can say I hate womens lib, it keeps ugly girls ugly and makes pretty girls uglier by having such a combative demeanor and almost always a horrible attitude.
p.s.. I was joking about dating in the last 2-3 years…
I don’t believe looks should affect whether you pay or not; I also am not “old-fashioned” (not what I call it) enough to think man always pays.
a rule of thumb: if you ask, you should pay
~ kk
Most women who say I should pay probably wouldn’t have been intellectually interesting enough in the first place to hang around for an extended period of time, so I wouldn’t have even asked for the pretentious old hat of a guy pay date. On the other hand, if a woman is smart enough to forgo that time-honored stupidity, then I’d probably find her so fascinating I wouldn’t treat her for food to begin with. We’d probably be snorkeling with penguins or something instead. Problem solved.
She’s cuter but we take turns paying.
Gay relationships rule this kind of thing out.
-Scruffy
@Roadlesstaken - so sexy it hurts?
I don’t think hotness comes into it when paying for dinner to be truly honest. I was thinking about this the other day. As a female, I expect a male to open the door for me and let me go first etc., but what are we expected to do? We expect a man to pay for our meal at a date, or our ticket or whatever, but we aren’t expected to do anything. Are we being selfish as a gender? Is it ok for us to expect this? Or is it allowed because women are expected to be motherly and carry children for 9 months etc.?
I find it most proper to go ‘Dutch’ on a first date, especially now a days. Our society is very geared to the independent woman. I, for one, am always ready to pay for my own, unless my other party insists on paying the bill or we have discussed financials prior.
Hard on the eyes, or as pretty as a flower, one should always be ready to pay their own way, just in-case.
I’m a guy. And, well, yes. /sunglasses.
wait- if I ask someone out I pay for the meal but if they ask me out I think they will pay.
I think it’d be more “romantic” for the girl if the boy paid for dinner, but I mean c’mon if you’re going to taco bell or mickey d’s, she should spread the wealth sometimes too.
Hmm. Getting free food is fun when you love to eat…
Honestly, though, I wouldn’t feel right having someone constantly paying for my dinners.
@scruffyalleycat - haha that’s so cute!
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I’m of two minds about this. I think a woman should be prepared to pay, but not insult the guy if he objects.
I don’t think I’m hot.
But, If a guy asks me out, I expect him to pay.
I’ll pitch in, or leave the tip.
That’s about it.
I make dinner for her. Eating out is not nearly as good.
I don’t think I should have to pay for a date. Unless I was the one to ask the guy out.
Honestly, I think the guy should pay. I mean…he usually asks her out…so I expect him to pay. It has nothing to do with looks. I also think it has to do with respecting the woman. That doesn’t mean that I think the woman shouldn’t appreciate it, or reciprocate somehow. (NOT with sex) Like…my boyfriend takes me out to dinner, and holds the door and all that. I get him surprise gifts or do chores or something. I do occasionally pay for things though. I’ve takem him out to dinner as a surprise before, or out for ice cream. I honestly think the guy should pay if it’s a date that he asked for.
I’m a guy, can’t I be too hot to pay for my own dinner?
Sexist. Hmph!