I don’t really have one. I’m pretty much game for anything.
When he does something really stupid and gets yelled at [ugh, I feel so embarrassed sometimes]
no confidence
When he wears sagging pants! GAHH. =P
arrogance
someone passive and dependent. someone who doesnt test me
Arrogance, dominance.
Someone who doesn’t listen, doesn’t care, and checks out other girls when I’m around.
Smoking. Or arrogance. Or halitosis. But mostly smoking.
if he’s more feminine than me..
A woman you have to keep reassuring.
Dishonesty and deception!
stupidity.
*The question is “in a relationship”…not things that turn you off from the start. Smoking, is usually from the start.
i can forgive almost anything but being a genuine moron.
Cockyness, ignorance, imature, ect.
Stupidity, ignorance, or intellectual laziness.
If I can’t hold an intelligent conversation with you, then I’m not even going to think about dating you. Doesn’t matter how hot the guy is. If I’m at least 30 IQ points higher than you are, then don’t bother. ^_^
Jealousy or being controlling
^ i love a cocky man.
ahem.
i genuinely didnt mean that to sound dirty, i swear.
“ear potatoes,” constant boogers, and cheating. oh yeah, and streaks in the underwear. also, if the person still needs to cut the f***ing umbilical cord. god that sucks.
Checks out other girls or any other signs of a lack of respect.
People who play the “guess what I’m thinking game” rather than being open about what they expect from the relationship.
“If I’m at least 30 IQ points higher than you are”
Jill you better hang on to Joe, something tells me that in your case, you have just out about 90% of the population.
A woman with no self confidence, always thinking she’s fat (as opposed to PHAT).
lack of respect desperation
Farting.
Manipulative guilt tripping tactics. Terrible stuff. Though I’m nearly immune to it now, it irritates me greatly whenever I see it in the relationships of others. -David
insecurity
Dishonesty in any shape or form. Including whining about how horrible their life is but doing nothing to fix their problem. Confidence is bullshit if you can’t put it to work. Or pretending to be someone you’re not for sake of “image” or what other people might think. If you’re not proud of who you are, become someone you’re proud of. Don’t try and convince me to believe a lie. I’m getting old and can see through it. It’s getting old, too.
Arrogance. I can’t stand it. Anything not gentle… macho man. Can’t be around it. Dominant, hate it.
infedelity
lack of confidence/ self esteem.
ego. manipulative-ness! ego.
As long as you’re really funny, I’m pretty much easy to charm.
…That’s probably not a good thing.
Disingenuineness … someone who acts like someone they’re not, or who hides who they really are.
Lack of balls or laziness.
smelly genitals
Arrogance. Confidence is attractive, but I find people who put others down to make themselves look better very off-putting.
poor hygiene.
If he’s totally self-absorbed.
If he’s more shy than I am.
A clingy, whiny personality that comes out sporadically.
stupidity
clinginess/possesiveness.
a guy who is only interested in making out all the time. as opposed to a guy who can sit and cuddle with you for 4 hours without kissing you once.
a mullet.
overweight. bad posture.
good question.
I’ve never met an ideal guy and when I thought he was everything I wanted, I found out that, there are some things that are not meant to be.
and the answer to your question: A man who doesn’t value a relationship. A man who wants to get marry so badly he goes around flirting with various women.
So….he thought he knew what marriage is. Perhaps, he needs to ponder a bit more.
A man who thinks he knew that liking a person is a serious matter when in fact, he is not taking it seriously. A man who shows interest in someone who he doesn’t mean to show interest to. A man who doesn’t take his relationship status seriously. A man who is desperate.
Lack of self confidence.
someone who lies.
I have way too many to name just one.
I guess if I had to randomly pick it would be guys who think they are studs. Get over yourselves. Of course, I don’t like girls like that either. Those studly ladies!
Anyway….
Chronic insecurity.
girliness. hands down. like when guys are uber sensitive and get butt hurt over nothing.
A lack of communication.
A girl that think she is fat when she isn’t …it bugs me to no end.
dishonesty, smoking, idiocy, shorter than me
stupidity, not looking clean, or smelling for that matter
doenst like aniamls
and most of all
more girly than me
facial hair.
There are so many! But right off the bat stingy-ness
when he says he will do something, but does’nt…without apology or reason.
Conceit.
(And thank you for the comment. The fires are being taken care of and the air is getting a little clearer.)
It hurts me the most when thoughts, no matter how much patience I give or have, cannot be articulated. Also, when the little things that drastically impact a relationship are given little to no attention. That is quite a wound when it comes down to it.
Cheers.
If he downplays me feelings. If I say something’s bothering me, it means its really bothering me. I don’t just complain about every little thing. So for him to trivialize it and act like I’m just being a drama queen is downright cruel.
pimple-y back… xP
I wouldn’t know because I’ve never been in one. But hypothetically, I’d say someone who wasn’t compassionate, or someone who was really clingy.
Probably smoking or excessive swearing.
a bunch a “small lies”
and when they make you feel bad if you really aren’t in the mood for sex.
immaturity, inability to distinguish when to be serious and when it’s okay to make fun of something. hypocrisy (everybody is hypocritical to some degree, but sometimes it’s too much) awkwardness mean-spirited-ness
as for physical attributes: sweaty/clammy hands, too much facial hair, obesity, shaved heads.
Arrogance mixed with ignorance and stupidity.
I guess that is three…
People who are overly romantic.
Ugh I cant stand it.
There is so many. Humm…guys that think they know it all, makes sexiest remarks, don’t respect others, loud, arrogant, is a smoker, fat, and short than me. That covers a lot of men who live in New York! lol
being a total flake
haha pimply-back! That’s a funny one.
guys with greasy hair who are weaker than me and rely on me to make the first move(s)
How do you come up with these questions, Dan?
LMAO! again. Sheesh.
Self-centered and everything centers around his/her life.
Introducing me to her other boyfriend.
Having no compassion for other people and arrogance. Sadly this is exactly the type of guy I attract.
Smoking is the biggest worry for me, but the close second is surprisingly personal hygiene. I keep myself clean and presented well, but if she doesn’t wash and expects loving, she’s in for a hell of a surprise!
’nuff said…
If they have Leprosy, that’s a big downer right there. Also if they turn out to actually be a man.
someone who won’t stand up to be when i’m being a bitch or who doesn’t listen to me at all.
when a guy is stupid but doesn’t realize that he is stupid.
lack of confidence.
not having one. ( a romantic relationship that is)
yep…..
that and being a complete moron.
Perspiration and greasiness. Honey, go take a shower before you cuddle. And lots of beard stubble. It hurts my face.
I cannot date a smoker, but if we get into the dating phase, I will dump a guy if he is cocky or extremely rude to others.
Being judged…
“Jill you better hang on to Joe, something tells me that in your case, you have just out about 90% of the population.”
Absolutely! I am a lucky girl.
Lacking self-confidence, bad spelling, thinking they’re hot shit, bad breath, extreme introversion.
Either No self-confidence or smoking (I have asthma, so smoking is basically a near-death sentence)
Body odor.
Manners!
lying, coming to me drunk, and laying depressing personal problems on me that suddenly disappear once his friends come.
A lack of heart or mind.
Right off the bat – smoking. We won’t even get to the dating phase if someone smokes. Ick.
In a relationship – lying, dishonesty, arrogance, cheating, berating or verbally abusive behavior.
Liars Once a person lies, no matter how good they look on the outside, you know you’ll always be somewhat reserved. There’s nothing sexy about a liar
pubes
Farting
Someone who is always looking at other women, flirting incessantly, or flat out cheating on me. All three are disrespectful, and are signs you shouldn’t be involved in a relationship to begin with.
Without a doubt- a lack of honesty and integrity.
and lots of hair on their back…..eeeew
Deception.
A man who isn’t generous with his spirit.
Lack of responsibility. Lying.
If the guy isn’t a moral and respectful guy that I have a lot of fun with, SEE YA!!!
Whiny neediness. True need is fine, but the “waah, waah, poor me” stuff is annoying.
besides cheating (obviously time to break up), no motivation or drive has really made me feel the relationship is finished. It bothers me when I work very hard to succeed and they are lazy.
i tend to have a track record of holding on a tad longer to relationships than most of my partners in previous relationships… in theory, i’d say cheating but in practice, i don’t know if that’s really my limit (which does scare me).
Well, physically, I HATE bad teeth. I can’t do it. Can’t kiss them, and even have a hard time looking without gagging. I don’t mean someone who has crooked teeth or anything like that, but bad rotten teeth. *gags just thinking about it*
Emotionally, men who put their own wants/hobbies/thoughts before your own and don’t bother to take the slightest interest in the same things you are interested in.
Someone who has no confidence, and, you realize, is treating you like a mother instead of a girlfriend. Someone who has to be “asked” for the basics: thoguhtfulness, respect and independence.
guy who thinks playing video game is his life.
Probably, bringing in another guy. That would be the biggest turn-off for me.
Unfaithfulness, untruthfullness.
Dishonesty.
Smoking and arrogance.
cheese is good, but not when you feel like it’s killing your own braincells by listening to them. i love a matching sense of dark sarcastic humor. greatest turn-off : the inability to be honest with oneself and others.
Absolute insensitivity or meanness.
Oh, and I almost forgot–complete lack of ambition or interests! I went on a blind date once. We had a great time and flirted up a storm–until he revealed to me that he had no life whatsoever outside of working in the morning and then sitting around watching movies at home all day. That totally killed it for me.
a dull man
being lustful. has ruined almost all of my relationships.
someone who is selfish and immature. male chauvenism.
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Smoking
I don’t really have one. I’m pretty much game for anything.
When he does something really stupid and gets yelled at [ugh, I feel so embarrassed sometimes]
no confidence
When he wears sagging pants! GAHH. =P
arrogance
someone passive and dependent. someone who doesnt test me
Arrogance, dominance.
Someone who doesn’t listen, doesn’t care, and checks out other girls when I’m around.
Smoking.
Or arrogance.
Or halitosis.
But mostly smoking.
if he’s more feminine than me..
A woman you have to keep reassuring.
Dishonesty and deception!
stupidity.
*The question is “in a relationship”…not things that turn you off from the start. Smoking, is usually from the start.
i can forgive almost anything but being a genuine moron.
Cockyness, ignorance, imature, ect.
Stupidity, ignorance, or intellectual laziness.
If I can’t hold an intelligent conversation with you, then I’m not even going to think about dating you. Doesn’t matter how hot the guy is. If I’m at least 30 IQ points higher than you are, then don’t bother. ^_^
Jealousy or being controlling
^ i love a cocky man.
ahem.
i genuinely didnt mean that to sound dirty, i swear.
“ear potatoes,” constant boogers, and cheating. oh yeah, and streaks in the underwear.
also, if the person still needs to cut the f***ing umbilical cord. god that sucks.
Checks out other girls or any other signs of a lack of respect.
People who play the “guess what I’m thinking game” rather than being open about what they expect from the relationship.
“If I’m at least 30 IQ points higher than you are”
Jill you better hang on to Joe, something tells me that in your case, you have just out about 90% of the population.
A woman with no self confidence, always thinking she’s fat (as opposed to PHAT).
lack of respect
desperation
Farting.
Manipulative guilt tripping tactics. Terrible stuff. Though I’m nearly immune to it now, it irritates me greatly whenever I see it in the relationships of others.
-David
insecurity
Dishonesty in any shape or form. Including whining about how horrible their life is but doing nothing to fix their problem. Confidence is bullshit if you can’t put it to work. Or pretending to be someone you’re not for sake of “image” or what other people might think. If you’re not proud of who you are, become someone you’re proud of. Don’t try and convince me to believe a lie. I’m getting old and can see through it. It’s getting old, too.
Arrogance. I can’t stand it. Anything not gentle… macho man. Can’t be around it. Dominant, hate it.
infedelity
lack of confidence/ self esteem.
ego. manipulative-ness! ego.
As long as you’re really funny, I’m pretty much easy to charm.
…That’s probably not a good thing.
Disingenuineness … someone who acts like someone they’re not, or who hides who they really are.
Lack of balls or laziness.
smelly genitals
Arrogance. Confidence is attractive, but I find people who put others down to make themselves look better very off-putting.
poor hygiene.
If he’s totally self-absorbed.
If he’s more shy than I am.
A clingy, whiny personality that comes out sporadically.
stupidity
clinginess/possesiveness.
a guy who is only interested in making out all the time. as opposed to a guy who can sit and cuddle with you for 4 hours without kissing you once.
a mullet.
overweight. bad posture.
good question.
I’ve never met an ideal guy and when I thought he was everything I wanted, I found out that, there are some things that are not meant to be.
and the answer to your question:
A man who doesn’t value a relationship. A man who wants to get marry so badly he goes around flirting with various women.
So….he thought he knew what marriage is. Perhaps, he needs to ponder a bit more.
A man who thinks he knew that liking a person is a serious matter when in fact, he is not taking it seriously. A man who shows interest in someone who he doesn’t mean to show interest to. A man who doesn’t take his relationship status seriously. A man who is desperate.
Lack of self confidence.
someone who lies.
I have way too many to name just one.
I guess if I had to randomly pick it would be guys who think they are studs. Get over yourselves. Of course, I don’t like girls like that either. Those studly ladies!
Anyway….
Chronic insecurity.
girliness.
hands down.
like when guys are uber sensitive and get butt hurt over nothing.
A lack of communication.
A girl that think she is fat when she isn’t …it bugs me to no end.
dishonesty, smoking, idiocy, shorter than me
stupidity, not looking clean, or smelling for that matter
doenst like aniamls
and most of all
more girly than me
facial hair.
There are so many!
But right off the bat
stingy-ness
when he says he will do something, but does’nt…without apology or reason.
Conceit.
(And thank you for the comment. The fires are being taken care of and the air is getting a little clearer.)
It hurts me the most when thoughts, no matter how much patience I give or have, cannot be articulated. Also, when the little things that drastically impact a relationship are given little to no attention. That is quite a wound when it comes down to it.
Cheers.
If he downplays me feelings. If I say something’s bothering me, it means its really bothering me. I don’t just complain about every little thing. So for him to trivialize it and act like I’m just being a drama queen is downright cruel.
pimple-y back… xP
I wouldn’t know because I’ve never been in one. But hypothetically, I’d say someone who wasn’t compassionate, or someone who was really clingy.
Probably smoking or excessive swearing.
a bunch a “small lies”
and when they make you feel bad if you really aren’t in the mood for sex.
immaturity, inability to distinguish when to be serious and when it’s okay to make fun of something.
hypocrisy (everybody is hypocritical to some degree, but sometimes it’s too much)
awkwardness
mean-spirited-ness
as for physical attributes: sweaty/clammy hands, too much facial hair, obesity, shaved heads.
Arrogance mixed with ignorance and stupidity.
I guess that is three…
People who are overly romantic.
Ugh I cant stand it.
There is so many. Humm…guys that think they know it all, makes sexiest remarks, don’t respect others, loud, arrogant, is a smoker, fat, and short than me. That covers a lot of men who live in New York! lol
being a total flake
haha pimply-back! That’s a funny one.
guys with greasy hair who are weaker than me and rely on me to make the first move(s)
How do you come up with these questions, Dan?
LMAO! again. Sheesh.
Self-centered and everything centers around his/her life.
Introducing me to her other boyfriend.
Having no compassion for other people and arrogance. Sadly this is exactly the type of guy I attract.
Smoking is the biggest worry for me, but the close second is surprisingly personal hygiene. I keep myself clean and presented well, but if she doesn’t wash and expects loving, she’s in for a hell of a surprise!
’nuff said…
If they have Leprosy, that’s a big downer right there. Also if they turn out to actually be a man.
someone who won’t stand up to be when i’m being a bitch or who doesn’t listen to me at all.
when a guy is stupid but doesn’t realize that he is stupid.
lack of confidence.
not having one. ( a romantic relationship that is)
yep…..
that and being a complete moron.
Perspiration and greasiness. Honey, go take a shower before you cuddle. And lots of beard stubble. It hurts my face.
I cannot date a smoker, but if we get into the dating phase, I will dump a guy if he is cocky or extremely rude to others.
Being judged…
“Jill you better hang on to Joe, something tells me that in your case, you have just out about 90% of the population.”
Absolutely!
I am a lucky girl.
Lacking self-confidence, bad spelling, thinking they’re hot shit, bad breath, extreme introversion.
Either No self-confidence or smoking (I have asthma, so smoking is basically a near-death sentence)
Body odor.
Manners!
lying, coming to me drunk, and laying depressing personal problems on me that suddenly disappear once his friends come.
A lack of heart or mind.
Right off the bat – smoking. We won’t even get to the dating phase if someone smokes. Ick.
In a relationship – lying, dishonesty, arrogance, cheating, berating or verbally abusive behavior.
Liars
Once a person lies, no matter how good they look on the outside, you know you’ll always be somewhat reserved. There’s nothing sexy about a liar
pubes
Farting
Someone who is always looking at other women, flirting incessantly, or flat out cheating on me. All three are disrespectful, and are signs you shouldn’t be involved in a relationship to begin with.
Without a doubt- a lack of honesty and integrity.
and lots of hair on their back…..eeeew
Deception.
A man who isn’t generous with his spirit.
Lack of responsibility. Lying.
If the guy isn’t a moral and respectful guy that I have a lot of fun with, SEE YA!!!
Whiny neediness. True need is fine, but the “waah, waah, poor me” stuff is annoying.
besides cheating (obviously time to break up), no motivation or drive has really made me feel the relationship is finished. It bothers me when I work very hard to succeed and they are lazy.
i tend to have a track record of holding on a tad longer to relationships than most of my partners in previous relationships… in theory, i’d say cheating but in practice, i don’t know if that’s really my limit (which does scare me).
Well, physically, I HATE bad teeth. I can’t do it. Can’t kiss them, and even have a hard time looking without gagging. I don’t mean someone who has crooked teeth or anything like that, but bad rotten teeth. *gags just thinking about it*
Emotionally, men who put their own wants/hobbies/thoughts before your own and don’t bother to take the slightest interest in the same things you are interested in.
Someone who has no confidence, and, you realize, is treating you like a mother instead of a girlfriend. Someone who has to be “asked” for the basics: thoguhtfulness, respect and independence.
guy who thinks playing video game is his life.
Probably, bringing in another guy. That would be the biggest turn-off for me.
Unfaithfulness, untruthfullness.
Dishonesty.
Smoking and arrogance.
cheese is good, but not when you feel like it’s killing your own braincells by listening to them. i love a matching sense of dark sarcastic humor.
greatest turn-off : the inability to be honest with oneself and others.
Absolute insensitivity or meanness.
Oh, and I almost forgot–complete lack of ambition or interests! I went on a blind date once. We had a great time and flirted up a storm–until he revealed to me that he had no life whatsoever outside of working in the morning and then sitting around watching movies at home all day. That totally killed it for me.
a dull man
being lustful. has ruined almost all of my relationships.
someone who is selfish and immature. male chauvenism.
Pure unsentimentality and snobbitry.
SMOKING! ohh and laziness