February 28, 2008
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36 Year Old Moves in With 16 Year Old
A 36-year-old man is moving in the house of his 16-year-old girlfriend and her parents.
The girl’s parents allowed the divorced man, Craig, to move in and share a bedroom with their daughter. The parents didn’t feel like they had much of a choice in the matter.
The mother said, “What I didn’t want was to back her into a corner by laying down the law and forcing her to choose between me and him.” She went on to say, “But I know she is 16 and I can’t stop her. If I don’t take the softer approach I fear she will take off with Craig and cut ties with us. If I forbid it or attempt to ban her from seeing him, I risk losing my precious child.” Here is the link: Link
Do you think it is better for the parents to let Craig move in than risk losing their daughter?
Comments (218)
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I think either way is dumb.
Why not just lock the girl in her room?
uMmmm… so wrong in so many ways…
If the guy’s a genuinely good guy, he should wait until she’s 18 to take the relationship seriously. In general, I see all of them as being irresponsible in different ways, especially the parents. They obviously haven’t brought up a well-disciplined daughter or have the balls to lay down the law.
I think they should have for bid her to see him. She’s only 16!!!
I can’t imagine how uncomfortable that must be for the parents. I know that if I had a daughter and she were doing the same thing, I would lay down the law. That would have been totally unacceptable for me to ever do something like that in my house.
Her parents are still her legal guardians and should be able to keep the guy out of the house. Depending on what state they are in, I believe 16 may not always be the legal age of consent if she were having sex with the guy. In my state (MD), she could have sex with the guy but her parents would still be her legal guardians until age 18.
I would say there’s a possibility that he has good intentions, but he’s got the eyes of a pedophile… >_<
Obviously they have not been very strict with their daughter from the beginning. If she’s acting this way and she’s only 16, imagine what will happen when she turns 18. More likely than not she has already been lost to the parents and they just don’t know it yet. :
Oops, I meant forbid.
They need to step up and do what’s best for their child, not let her do what ever she wants.
kill him in his sleep.
He is a loser, and shouldnt be with a 16 yo.
paaaaaaaaaaaaathethic.
I think they could have found a less absolutely insane middle ground.
how about calling the police on this child molester?
@antisoccermom - agreed!
I’ll shoot the dumb girl, I’ll happily remove any ounce of stupid from this world, just give me the word.
It’s REAL easy to have him LOCKED UP for SATUATORY RAPE. STUPID PARENTS. It would be BETTER FOR HER, by locking that child molester up– in the long run. She’ll hate her parents for awhile but, helloooo she’s young and she’ll get OVER it!!!
@happydeviant -
really, he should be locked up. When I was 16 I would have thought I was cool for dating an older man. She will learn, like I did, that its just CREEPY.
HOLY SHIT THERE’S AN OCTOPUS ON THAT MAN’S HEAD!
I might get some stick here, but first of the age difference is a major thing.
She is only 16. If I was married and if our daughter bought home someone we were not allowed them to share a bedroom under our roofs.
You’re the parent. If you believe something is wrong for your daughter, you have to fight for it. You’re not there to be her friend, you’re there to raise her to be a healthy well-adjusted young woman–and letting her statutory rapist move in with you is not the way to do it. Lay down the law.
If she takes off with him, make sure she knows that she’ll always be welcome back in your home… just that he won’t.
Your house, your rules. If she doesn’t like your rules she doesn’t have to stay–and HE certainly doesn’t have to stay.
He’s old enough to know better!!!
no and the police would be involved.
That’s pretty sick. Understandable that they don’t want to lose their daughter, but she has so much power now.
Hmmm. I wouldn’t approve. I’m wondering how this happened. I mean she had to told her parents she was seeing this guy. Which how many 16 yr olds are going to tell their parents that? Locking her in her room isn’t going to work. Then she would run to him and away from her parents.
I do agree that if his intentions were good. He’d wait till she was 18.
What the hell have these parents been smoking? They should serve a restraining order on him. Idiots.
dumb idea.
I think that man’s hair has taken over his brain and is causing him to do evil things. It’s not his fault, really, the whole situation is taken out of context.
Lock them all up.
From what I read in the article, it seems these people did a really crappy job of parenting their child, and they think they can make it all better by supporting a grown man like he’s a sick kind of pseudo-son. The idiocy of all the people involved in this situation is hilarious and sad.
This makes me so angry.
Not because of how I feel about the situation, but because of how the article is written. It’s so fucking biased I want to puke.
That and the end are just inexcusable.
“In years to come, when she looks back on the events of the past few
months, will she really thank her parents for giving her such a liberal
upbringing?”
YES. She will. Because if they didn’t at least tolerate the relationship (letting him move in is a bit much), she would still continue on with it, whether they liked it or not. And the continuation and eventual end would be much more painful in secret than it would be with support.
I don’t care how wrong anyone thinks it is, that girl is going to do it if she wants to. Better that she have someone to be there when (or a very slight if) she falls.
I can understand their logic.
I think it’s a little awkward to have him living with them, though. And kinda creepy.
Why is a 36 year old with a 16 year old anyway?? Isn’t something wrong with that?
…On a side note, she SO does not look 16.
I wonder what kind of parents this “odd couple” will make for the grandchildren?
I would do what they did. I mean, under the parent’s house they can keep an eye on him. Plus, what kind of parents would be ok with losing their child just because they’re too tight-assed to figure out a negotiation.
NO what a crock… I guess to each her own… but by doing that they are allowing a man to potentially ruin their childs life… what dopes.
well i thought i was bad…my girlfriend is 18 and im 25…… we dont live together…. but this guy has me beat…..
@DrugInducedDuck - be careful not to turn the gun on yourself, there bro.
Uh yeah… does the term statutory rape mean anything to this loser?
Why can’t he date a woman his own age? Maybe because any woman over the age of 30 doesn’t want a pervert who prefers girls? Ugh!
No. I’d risk losing the daughter.
If the guy knew what was best, he’d wait til she was a bit older.
She is a “legal and consenting adult” in her government’s eyes!
Read the article and you’ll see that she is done with school and, while not yet of legal drinking age, she is a legal adult in her country.
@happydeviant - The only way I’d do that is if I had been bitten by a zombie. In that situation, It’s best if I do it myself.
@Revolving_Dragons - Locking her in her room isn’t going to work. Then she would run to him and away from her parents.
I guess you need a better lock then.
I think you misunderstood the hyperbole in the question
@hello_insanity -
I completely and whole-heartedly agree!!!
that girl’s nuts, that man’s nuts, they’re all nuts
that man shouldn’t be allowed to marry
What a bunch of Pansy Parents! It really bugs me when parents let their children run the house and never teach them consequences.
Plus these two couldn’t wait 2 years for her to turn 18 before moving in together? I don’t have an issue with their age difference, but why would this guy want to move in with her parents?
weird.
Hahaha, wow. The man is more than twice her daughter’s age, and if he’s moving in… lol. I can’t even think seriously about this, let alone say something serious about it. I’m going to go laugh for a while.
@Revolving_Dragons -
woops i meant the hyperbole in that statement of “locking her up”
I might be a little more understand if this guy was say just three or four years older than her, however, we’re talking MAJOR age difference. I would be concerned if he really loved her for the right reasons, and why he couldn’t wait on her to turn eighteen and then they could move in together.
This is a very difficult situation for the parents, so I don’t think they should be beat up on for their decision – right or wrong.
This is a prime example of parents “not” being parents. It is a case of the “tail” wagging the dog. How sad…for all concerned.
They should let her move in with Craig, not the other way around.
@hello_insanity - I felt the same way, for the most part. It seemed like the writer must have been pretty patronizing towards her, which is bullshit.
Anyway, I think parents letting their 16-year-old daughter’s boyfriend move in with them, no matter what the age difference between them, is kind of strange/irresponsible. And it’s not the actual number of years between them that’s weird to me, it’s just THOSE years. Like, even if he was just ten years younger.. that would be all right.
Those parents have the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard.
And I think that guy’s toupee is on backwards.
@CarlyMarx -
I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought the author was judgemental as hell.
thats just…. creeeepay.
The guy is 36….doesn’t he have his own home…….I would have said no to the moving in……..the girl is 16 not 18.
Yeah, I would. She’s 16, how long would the relationship last anyway? I’d give it two years tops-until she goes to college. I might consider making him pay a small rent fee, though. That’s another person using electricity, water, and someone to buy food for.
I think it’s discusting that the man would expect the parents to allow him to live with them. How would he feel if he were in their shoes as a parent ?? I would not give in to her and the man old enough to be her father. She is just a kid in school. I pray the parents will see sense and tell him to wait until she is turned eighteen. If he loves her then he will wait and also see that he is being irresponsible in wanting a relationship with a kid..
I don’t know. I wouldn’t approve. The guy should at least wait until she is of age. If he really cares about her I feel like he’d do that instead of taking up the offer to move in with her and her parents.
And as a parent, I can understand not wanting to lose your daughter but I think this situation would deserves some tough love.
@hello_insanity -
“I don’t care how wrong anyone thinks it is, that girl is going to do it
if she wants to. Better that she have someone to be there when (or a
very slight if) she falls.”
I’d rather tell me daughter she’s about to walk off a cliff than to just be there when she falls.
CAN ANYONE SAY CHILD MOLESTER?!?!? that’s just sick…seriously…
i just threw up in my mouth….
I’d break his kneecaps, if I could. Lets be honest. a 38yo knows what he’s doing, and in this case he’s preying on a woman who needs to be at least 18 to be able to say ‘this is really my own choice as an adult.”
16 is not mature enough, no matter who you are.
’nuff said…
@DrugInducedDuck - good one! must watch out for those zombies!
Take the hard line. Part of becoming an adult is failing and making bad choices. They should have taken the hard line, but also let it known that their house is open to her, but not him. If she leaves, then so be it. If she cuts ties, so be it. However, when the relationship fails (which it will because she is 16) she’ll need support and shelter. She’ll be wiser. Besides, they have legal custody. If something happens to her while she is living with this man, they are responsible for the medical bills. They are responsible for her, not him.
A loving HARDLINE is the way to go.
@theScalesandtheScorpion - A hardline is how you jack out of the Matrix, right?
i say dude should be in prison, and girl needs to get some help.
will they really last if both parties hold resentment towards others? either way, they’re eventually going to want their own private lives. i think it’s just wrong that he’s 20 years older……Shouldn’t HE feel wrong?
GROW A BACKBONE, YOU STUPID WOMAN!!!!
wait until your 20, girl, do you think he’ll find you as attractive then????
jeezes, this world…..
Craig is 36 years old, and the parents should have a long talk with him about dating a girl twenty years younger than him.
=O she is 16?….she looks 23….
im older than her..=|..but i look younger haha…
Parents are meant to look after their children…what are they doing here is really stupid and they are letting her get with a man twice her age…and who looks suspicious….
They should know what to do.
Lock him up!…>=]
The dad should kick that guy’s ass and then someone should kick the dad’s ass for letting this happen in the first place.
If the parents were actually PARENTING, the daughter would know better that this guy is a loser. for god’s sake…This old geezer is moving in with the younger girl and her parents!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m a strong supporter of choosing who you love. I don’t think age differences matter that much.
HOWEVER. If the parents are uncomfortable having him in their house, and feel as if there wasn’t anything they could do to stop it, that gives me a bad feeling about the boyfriend. Actually, I got a bad feeling just from the fact that he’s a total moocher. Come on- 30-what and moving BACK into someone’s mom’s house? You just know he won’t do his fair share of any work. At all.
I think that the parents need a little lesson on the real law. You know, how they’re still her legal guardians for two more years, and by law are required to provide her with no more than food, a bed and a roof? And how they do not, by law, have to allow an adult to move in with them for free? And how, if she ran away, she would be the one found at fault, and so there should be no hesitation to say NO to a daughter who’s clearly never heard that word in her life?
And if all around there really are nothing but good intentions, and the daughter isn’t as controlling as she comes off, and the parents aren’t as spineless as they seem, and the boyfriend really isn’t a loser, then at the very least they should make him sleep in a different room. Someone else was talking about the legal age of consent in the state, but the reality is, it doesn’t matter. If they’re in the same room, they’re bound to banging, legal or not.
i find this totally wrong on so many ways. i am 18 dating a 32 year old. but He wouldn’t have dreamed of touching me before i was 18, He is a gentleman like that. i also wouldn’t have put in the place to where He would risk getting in trouble with the law. it is very irresponsible on all parties accounts.
OMG! HOW GROSS!!! What the hell are the parents thinking!? He’s all creepy looking and she doesn’t even look 16!!! He’s old enough to be her freaking dad. Omg this is wrong in so many ways.
Her parents obviously did some bad parenting…plus they’re just stupid for letting him move in…and he has the audacity to do this!? Wow.
Um, no. I just don’t have the energy right now to say all the reasons why that’s an assanine idea. . . .Fortunately people have said most of the reasons already. And also, Ick! P.S. Where’s Dad? Most Dad’s would say something along the lines of “over my dead body.”
i think this is refreshing. yeah, it makes for a really uncomfortable situation in the house, but i like seeing the unconditional support from the parents.
@methodElevated - precisely!
@hello_insanity - You’re right, no matter whether or not people agree or disagree, the article was incredibly biased — bad journalism on their part.
I think the guy should be ashamed of himself. He’s old enough to have a 16 year old daughter, so he should know better. If he had any real respect for her, he could wait a couple of years until she’s 18. And the parents aren’t parenting. They’re afraid of upsetting their child, and letting her make the decisions.
I fail to recognize anyone fitting the job description of “parent” in this story.
Why haven’t they called the police…shes a minor.
Well, the parents could choose a middle option- don’t forbid your daughter for doing anything, but don’t facilitate it by allowing him to live there.
@methodElevated - What’s the difference in 2 years? What’s so special about age 18? I was just as competent to make decisions at 16 as I am now at 18…
@Anothermadhousewife - according to the link, the dad was more “open-minded” about the whole thing.
that is absolutely disgusting! they should have locked her in her room! i would have this guy arrested, seriously. and my daughter would eventually get over the embarassment. :X
Wrong!! He is just one sick puppy!!
That is incredibly creepy on the man’s part. The parents suffer from an acute case of “aballsia.” They can get rid of nasty pedophile-looking-guy and still hold on to their daughter, it just might actually involve them laying down some rules *shockgasp* This is a situation which can only get worse real fast.
I don’t see what’s wrong with this. If he’s moving in, he’s not just using her for sex. He’s not a predator. He’s just older.
@Don_Cauchi - “16 is not mature enough, no matter who you are.”
Bullshit.
Why does everyone think that 18 is some magic number that makes everyone grow up? Almost all the 18-year-olds I know are just as mature or immature as they were when they were 16.
the poor parents!
Also, no one would care if the genders were reversed.
She’s 16 and should not be dating a 36 yr old, let alone sleeping with one! The parents should be acting like parents and forbiding the relationship. They guy should be respectful of the parents’ rules and wait until the girl is 18 and has finished high school. As much as the parties involved may believe she is a woman, she is not. She is still a child.
Yeah, I’d move Craig right in, alright. And when the rat headed for the cheese, I’d slam the cage door shut on his ass and never let him out!
Kathi
I really feel sorry for all the eligible sixteen year old guys in her town. It’s gotta suck to lose a cute girl to a thirty year old homeless loser.
“When it does end in tears, I’ll be here to pick up the pieces.”
The key word there is “when.”
This chick is seriously deluded. This relationship is going nowhere. Age-wise I’m totally not against this, I mean, if they really love each other, then they deserve to be together. But she can’t possibly KNOW that she loves him enough to live with him and marry him after four months.
What an idiot.
this world is coming to an end.
i cant believe he was willing to move in with them… isn’t that awkward?
i guess i can see why they’d give in to this, isn’t it better to have this going on under their roof so they have some sort of control over it rather than her running away to live with him and who knows what would be going on in this man’s house. some girls just get it into their heads that what they want is the only option and refusing them outright just leads to their leaving home, not seeing that their parents might be right…
but i agree with mandalou89- there has to be some sort of middle ground here…
and since this article is obviously public- why hasn’t the state gotten involved now that its public knowledge? both the boyfriend and the parents could be facing criminal charges if the local enforcement chooses to do something about this…
Well if they forbid her she would have taken off with the guy so at least this way they can be there since things are likely to go south. It’s creepy but this seems to be the lesser of two evils although if this guy really cared about her he’d be willing to wait till she turned 18.
@la_faerie_joyeuse - I suppose since she lives in the UK, she is of legal age. I should’ve read the article first instead of assuming it was in the United States.
But I said that because if she did live in the US, it would be statutory rape in most (if not all) states.
Two years can make all the difference in the world, though. I don’t think most teenagers have the emotional and real-world experience to make good life/long-term decisions. She’s been with the guy for only four months, and she wants to get married AND she wants to travel the world as an actress. Okay, so she’s in love. Okay, she wants to be an actress. Fine. But combining marriage with constant travel (especially overseas) and a potentially very unstable career like acting can backfire to an extreme degree. I think she might want to consider establishing herself and getting a good job first before having a fling with a guy old enough to be her father.
If they stay together for more than a couple years, then kudos to them. But I doubt it’ll happen, no matter how “mature for her age” she is. The generational gap alone is enough to break up such a relationship.
are these parents dumb? she’s 16 she can’t legally leave. The could call her a run away or say that he kidnapped her. This is also sagitory rape or whatever. They could get a restraining ordered on him. They sooooo wouldn’t lose their daughter now. In 2 years? possibly since she’ll be 18. They are dumb and need to learn to control their child.
Yeah he’s kinda pervy. But locking them up doesn’t solve anything. Chris Hanson isn’t running out of targets any time soon.
It doesn’t matter if she’s mature enough to make the decision or not, because she obviously will only listen to her own personal experiences.
WTF is wrong with those parents?! I’m speechless… and pissed!
LOL every of you got punk’d. UK = age of consent is 16.
If the guy really cares about her, he’d wait until she was of age. The parents need to take a harder stance on this.
That is so wrong on so many levels.
uh I would have pressed statutorial rape charges and beat my daughter..
really…. what how good of a guy can he be if he knew how old she was but still allowed the pursuit of a relationship. What a loser (the guy) and the girl is being really naive. There is no way shes ready for any relationship of that stature. When she turns 21 she’ll be passing out blow jobs like candy at a bar while he’s at home with another 16 year old.
disgusting
I know my S/O would not allow that if that was his daughter… no way in hell
ah, i think the guy’s a creep who needs to date women his own age. they should never have let him move in.
I totally knew that this was a Daily Mail story even before I clicked on the link.
@methodElevated - Thank you for your answer. I completely agree that we can tell that this girl, in particular, is not mature enough to handle important decisions.
I don’t understand why the legal age of consent would be applicable to ethical standards of behavior- it’s supposed to be the other way around. But governments do make mistakes – just because it’s a law doesn’t make it right.
idk about your state, but in mine (Georgia), 16 is the age of consent. About 40 states have it at 16 or younger.
http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm
I’m not clear why, though, the age difference necessarily means that even a more mature girl couldn’t maintain the relationship, or why 18 is a magic number that the man should have to respect.
this is disgusting. methodelevated is right, though… but at this point, definitely better to risk losing their daughter than to let them stay together.
Well I see who wears the pants in that family and it ain’t the parents. Thats just jacked up..in fact, thats just plain sick. How did Craig even hook up with a 16 yr old? Oh let me guess..Myspace.
If I were her mom I would have laid the law down and his ass wouldn’t be even stepping foot into my house..Period!!! The mom is very weak and she needs to grow a back bone. Wow..there sure are a lot of stupid parents in this world today.
If he were a decent human being, he would would wait till she was older. The parents are wrong to let him move in. They all need some help. I can understand them not wanting to lose her, but there had to be another way to solve this.
um. they have some serious issues. a 16-year-old going out with a divorced 36-year-old…
the parents shouldn’t worry about their “precious child” abandoning them because they’re the authoritive figures and she’s still under aged so she needs to have discipline and … augh moral lessons, please.
What a sick ****ing situation. And wtf is up with those parents?
WHY ARE PEOPLE STUPID?
And yes, I am back
. Will probably start blogging again tomorrow… tonight… I veg.
Arrest his butt for statutory rape!?! Talk to him and explain that he can wait 2 years until she is 18!?! Be a Parent!!!
If they let him move in, it’s easier to poison him.
The parents should grow a pair and kick that creeper out in my opinion.
Oh course you know that if he was a movie star or say heir billion dollar fortune, people would think very differently about this whole situation.
So the 36 year old gets a 16 year old girlfriend, and housing? He should know better… obviously doesn’t. Does he work? Does he pay rent? Why would a 36 year old man want to live with someone else’s parents? This is very disturbing.
It’s weird enough that she’s half his age, but why must he live with her? First of all, a man his age should be able to support himself. He shouldn’t have to live with the parents of his 16-year-old girlfriend.
As for the mother of the girl… she has issues. How she can allow her daughter to see a man old enough to be her father is disturbing. If he is a genuinely good person, then fine. But–! As a parent, she needs to set rules down. There’s a reason today’s generation has no respect for authority: they don’t even know what authority is.
I hope that man has a job and is paying rent. The fact that he’s living with the parents of his 16 year old girlfriend is just sad.
If anything, the mom could have let him rent a separate room. So much more understandable. But allowing him to live with her? Disgusting.
They are the parents. Seems like he could be locked up for something. Wouldn’t that be considered statutory rape? He is a sick loser and if he really loves her he would wait for her til she is 18 and no longer a child. What a house full of dumbasses.
I don’t know and really…..it’s none of my business.
i married a man 22 years older than me. age difference really doesn’t matter!!!
I think if her parents are worried that she’d run off with a 36 year old guy that they made irreversible mistakes in raising her and should just deal with the consequences instead of starting a situation which can’t have a good result.
Retardation – Still prevalent on TheTheologiansCafe comments about anything sexual.
They are IN THE UNITED KINGDOM.
People don’t rent there, they buy, when they get married. It is very very common for the husband to be to move in with the daughter’s parents.
That being said, at 36 and not having a place?
He is a loser.
Oh, and fact of the day. 16 is consent in the United Kingdom. Remove head from ass, comment on Dan’s post, replace head in ass, keep breathing.
They actually look like a nice happy couple, they dont even look 20 years apart. In the overall scheme of the world, a 36y/o man and a 16y/o woman is not really that strange.
Still, 16 is so young.
You know, this is in the UK, and 16 is old enough.
Legally he should just wait until she’s 18.
But what is this 16 yr old doing to get involved with a 36 yr old guy? When I was 16 I wasn’t hanging around with 36 yr olds.
Oh shi-
The concerns of the girl’s parents are valid. However, they should have stepped up to stop this. Someone who commented earlier pointed out that they may have not have done a good job on their child in the first place for her to be acting in this manner. Indeed, by the time she turns 18, she’s going to be way too far for their reach.
Oh yeah, I am giving this union a few months at the most.
There is no way i’d let a pedophile move into my house. i’d definitely have the police involved, and press charges. Someday the daughter will understand.
Are they completely insane? He is old enough to be her father, she is 16, a child. How long does she think it will be before he goes after the next silly girl with a hot young body? Please.
He is 20 years older than her… that’s… ummm… ew.
Ok when I was 16 my mother let my 17 year old boyfriend move in with me, and she knew we were sexually active so I went on the pill. His home with his dad was bad, his father was a severe alcoholic and when he moved in with us, his grades dirastically improved and he stopped doing drugs/binge drinking. But then again, he wasn’t 36. I do understand the concept but not the age thing.
she doesn’t look sixteen to me.
Um…she’s a minor. So technically that’s rape.
I would NEVER let my daughter’s boyfriend live with her in her room, much less a pedophile like that guy. As a parent, it’s our job to protect our children from people like that. If she is hell bent on being with him and threatened to run away, then I’d let her know that even if she ran away…we will always love her and would welcome her home anytime. Hopefully it wouldn’t be hard to help her see that if he really loved her, he would wait until she turned eighteen.
I highly doubt that will happen to my daughter though because of how my husband and I are raising her. It seems that that girl’s parents have been trying too hard to be her “friends” rather than her parents.
I hope she doesn’t bring heroine home.
LOves comes softly and you can’t help who you fall in love with. Some things just aren’t that cut and dry.
I am against “shacking up” so my daughters would know not even to ask to move in. If the guy is 36 years old, he should have a down payment on his own house by now.
Just with him being 32 and living with a 16 year olds parents make me wonder. What person at that age(32) would really want to be living at home with mommy and daddy? She is young and naive, her parents need to set some ground rules. I understand that they don’t want to risk losing their daughter, but if I were her parent or a parent for that matter, I would not allow it. I wouldn’t stop it, because at that age she most likely would just go behind her parents back and they really wouldn’t know what she was doing and could put herself at further harm and risk. I would allow him into my house and try getting to know him as much as one possibly could before letting my daughter go anywhere with him for that matter though.
To add:
How and where does a 16 year old meet a 36 year old man at? What could they possibly have in common at that age with that much of an age gap?
I dont know if I would let them stay in the same room… I would seriously talk to her and him, and only allow him to stay till he got his own place. But it is likely that she would cut ties and run off with the man.
But can I just say (1) She does not look 16 and (2) She is hot! I dont say that often but I do think so. And actually they look good together.
but maybe its just cause I am not a parent yet… things may change. I want to say its wrong and I would lay down the law, cjause it seems right – but I would not want to loose my child either.
Daniel (doubledb)
Or they could prosecute for statutory rape.
Besides, what self-respecting 36 year old man would want to live in the house of his girlfriend’s parents?
@la_faerie_joyeuse - I was refering to the law. I forgot to say that part. We don’t get to choose our individual maturity age. The law must be respected, no matter our own desires. Hence, “16 is not mature enough…”
I was too busy trying to beat the guy above me from commenting before me. Damn slow typist, I am!
No offence intended.
’nuff said…
You wanna know what I think?
I think it’s absolutely none of anyone’s business but that family’s.
So shush.
Isn’t that illegal?
But honestly, it’s nice that the mom is thinking about this, but I think the father shouldn’t have to. I think the dad should be the SCHMACK out the dude, and be done with it. Father needs to lay down the MFin law, knawm sayen?
There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen in my home. Furthermore, there’s this thing called a restraining order…(I would get one) After reading their story, it doesnt really sound like the child was very well supervised. She ‘s barely known the guy for 4 months. And- She thinks she’s “mature” for her age… I really think she’ still got a LOT of growing up to do.
Fuckin’ FREAKS.
Fuckin’ FREAKVILLE there.
Risk losing her…
I think Craig needs to get his ass whooped. But seriously, what kind of parents would raise their daughter to a point were they can’t discipline her anymore? She’s only 16. These parents are some serious push-overs and Craig is a sick man.
Hmm… a little creepy, in my opinion… but I’m not about to knock a couple’s parenting choices when I’m still a “kid.”
This makes me think of something, though: I work in the dorms at my school, and we just had a 40 year old man move into a suite with five, 18 year old first-year, frat boys. Go figure. I’m seriously perplexed by the whole thing.
that is insane.
i can understand maybe a 10 yr difference
but not a 20 yr difference.
just wow :-S
Just because of the age difference doesn’t mean they’re necessarily having sex. That said, either way she risks losing her child, depending on how much she trusts this older, divorced guy and how much stuff was between her and her daughter to begin with.
I think she should talk to her, and keep the communication lines open, so that in case something does go wrong – the daughter will have the mother to talk to and they can, together, take steps to put the guy behind bars.
Is it illegal for this 36 year old man sleeping with a minor? And the parents let this happen. What crazy world are we living in?
Wait until she’s 18. There are few 16 years olds with that kind of maturity.
NO it’s NOT “okay” and further more, it speaks VOLUMES about what kind of total LOSER the girls boyfriend is, to be his age, and “moving in” with a 16 year old girls “parents???” WTH? He should be in his OWN home, with an ADULT, not a CHILD.
I find this sick….
Seriously sick
Her parents are stupid.
She’s a moron.
And he’s a pervert.
Simple =)
you know back in the day it used to be the right thing to go down fighting and being able to say at least you made the effort… Those parents are pushovers…
I need to meet these parents. They’re geniuses.
Jail.
I don’t care what they think the risks are. I’d NEVER let my 16 year old daughter have a 36 year old boyfriend, let alone let him come live in my house AND in my daughter’s room.
Oh good Lord! Why can’t people just be PARENTS anymore? Stand up for yourself, you freaking nitwits!
I’ve seen the other side of this scenario, and it’s not pretty either… I say she’s 16, she’s still under your roof and your rules, be parents and do something. You can keep her from going off and living with this guy, ESPECIALLY since she’s a minor… Even if she turns 18 and is still under your roof, your rules still go, which is a common misconception among teens.
God Bless,
Chris
Like I said, progressive.
They do kind of look the same age…
@DrugInducedDuck -
SO on the money, i cried.
Obviously this girl has been spoiled all her life and knows how to manipulate her parents very well. Her home life was probably really chaotic from day one. I believe this is what they call the “Daddy Complex”. Dad’s never around so daughter finds a new one… and sleeps with him.
The whole family should be shot to keep the cycle from continuing and the divorced old guy should be imprisoned for statutory rape where they’ll have their way with him for the rest of his life.
Just to add to my comment, doesn’t matter if she’s in England and of age. That whole situation is all messed up.
her parents are morons. great , instead of banging their daughter at his place or car, he gets to bang her in her bedroom so her parents can hear.
xo.
I say shoot the parents for being such dumb F****. Are you kidding me? His ass would be in jail in a heartbeat and she’d be locked in her damn room. When did we all become so complacent?
she cant legally make her own decisions for a couple more years. parents need to learn to be parents.
i heard this on the radio and threw up… first off, this girl is YOUNG. and this man is OLD.. compared to her of course. yet he needs to move in w/her parents?? doesn’t that signal any red flares?? this guy is a LOSER. drop him or else she’ll never get any better. also, the parents… HELLO??? she’s only freakin’ 16!!! she can’t leave IF.YOU.DON’T.LET.HER. i was a rebel teen… and my mother found every possible way to drag my ass home.
Wow. What a couple of losers.
Isn’t it the JOB of the parents to “lay down the law?” I think it is sad that parents are so worried about their children liking them rather than doing what is best for that child and teaching them how to make good choices. I also agree with revolving dragons-if his intentions were honorable, he would wait.
what if he was 38 and she 18? or 40 and 20?
or 24 and 14? (eew)
I don’t think their relationship will last.
Maybe when she’s older the girl will cut off her parents for NOT stopping her from getting so seriously involved with this man.
I don’t think the parnets would be able to stop her anyways even they tried.
in the end this 16.yarold wil have to take responsiblity for her own actions and the choices she’s making
The first thing to know is, no 36 year old has good intentions being with a 16 year old. NONE. Whatsoever. Even younger than that, the majority of them don’t. When I was 16, I was with a 22 year old – my very first boyfriend. And I’ll tell you right now, it only lasted a month, but it f*cked me up for a good long time for quite a few reasons. Anyway, my parents found out how old he was and that we’d had sex and they were furious, understandably. The threatened to prosecute him for statutory rape if he kept in contact with me. I hated them (my parents) with every ounce of my being for a while. But as soon as my head was cleared, I finally was able to see how messed up the scenario was and that my parents were right. Right now, that girl is not thinking clearly. Her mind is being completely influenced by that older man, and she will do everything to be with him. She will choose him over her parents at the drop of a hat. And I can understand how her parents fear losing her. Because they very well could. But, perhaps they should chance that and do the right thing. Because what they’re doing is not the right thing.
k she’s under age. they could get the law involved, couldn’t they?
What self respecting man moves in with his girlfriend’s parents?
He must like them so young, before they are interested in a man with a job and 401k. He can impress her by buying her a happy meal rather than half of a down payment on a house.
Craig and I would take a trip.
What is wrong with this guy that he would be willing to move in with her family?
What is wrong with this family for letting him move in. She is 16 and they still rule the home.
Jeez- who is running that household? Not the parents! Disgusting. My two older kids were still very influenced by the decisions I made FOR THEM at that age. And since it was consistent with the rest of their lives they listened.
@happydeviant - yes, you are so right. Get the cops involved on his nasty arse!
She’s 16. Yes, the parents can stop her! It’s 18 when they can’t stop her anymore. Why are parents so afraid to discipline their kids????
wth, this is so wrong…..first: she dont look 16, sec he ugly, third the parent is stupid and fourth I think the guy is a child molester……
Id like to phrase this as how my father would:
“Get the fuck outta here, Id beat her ass and his ass for even looking at my daughter”
Yea. That about sums that up.
They’re about 16 years too late to try to be parents now, it’s payback time. Kids have plenty of friends, what they need from their parents is guidance and boundaries. Oh yeah, and Craig needs a baseball bat administered with liberal intent….
@Hellion_Rebellion - i thought iw as the only one who says “arse”!
Wow… who’s the parent here and who’s the creepy old boyfriend? The world may never know.
Soultender has it right! No one’s being a “parent” in that household, which happens way too much nowdays.
Great parenting skills there. rolls eyes……
The guy is a mooch! Those parents ought to act like adults. Ugh…
she’s 16, still considered a minor. you, as a parent, should still lay down the law on matters that are clearly illegal and morally wrong (depend on your POV). you’re the parent, not the other way around. arg – don’t get me started. this subject ticks me off.
Her “parents” certainly aren’t being very parental. I would never let that man stay under our roof. There are things called restraining orders, after all.
that’s just sick…
She is not underage in Britian where this is taking place. I believe she is legally considered an adult, which is why her parents are afraid of leaving her.
It’s odd, and I don’t agree with it, but that would be the same as telling your 18 yr. old no. What would you do to stop it?
I am more concerned about the fact that she is bar hopping, having sex, and the whole time she is LYING to her parents about it, and this is the only way they see to solve the problem.
If it were me, I would have let her move out if she was of legal age to do it. She is young, but she has to learn that life isn’t easy. If she is determined to force it on herself, her parents need to let her learn the lesson.
what the hell that’s ridiculous
that girl doen’st look 16 btw
At first I thought this was unique and might just work but… now I’m seeing that her parents have no goddamn clue what they’re doing after reading that article.
Don’t talk to your kid about sex very often, but treat her like a mini-adult.
Yeah, uh huh… Letting her 20 summers elder boyfriend slink in under your roof because you’re afraid your little baby girl is going to go away and never be seen again, she’s very adult.
I wouldn’t forbid her from seeing him, she’d realize on her own how stupid a move this older boyfriend is, but I sure a’ shootin’ wouldn’t let him move into my house or her move in with him.
if thats the mother’s fear, its understandable. but i wouldnt be able to allow something that i dont agree with under my own roof. the daughter doesnt run the show until shes 18. even then, if the daughter can make such an adult decision, she should live an adult life, ie, moving in with the man, taking care of him, and working. i think the mother’s too soft.
I think it’s gross! not trying to be mean but i really think it is
Let me get this straight…. He’s 36 years old and he’s moving in with the parents of his 16 year old girlfriend? he could easily be her father. why doesn’t he have a place of his own? that is so not ok. The parents should have had him arrested, not had him move in. he’s a pedophile! What if they have kids? how young does he really like them?
Can someone say scumbag pedofile!?
Hell no! I would have that son of a bitch arrested, and he wouldn’t be allowed anywhere near my kid! And if he tried, he’d have to try and be with her over my dead fucking body. She would thank me later for it. I can’t believe they let him move in. That’s one of the most digusting things I’ve heard. It’s the 21st century…not the 1700′s. While 16 year olds marrying 30 year olds might have been the thing then, it CERTAINLY isn’t now. Take some responsibility for your kid, lady.
That’s rediculous, never in a million years would I let my daughter be with a 36 year-old MAN. I wouldn’t care if his intentions were good, he still has the eyes of a pedafile!
It really depends? hmmm Assuming that the parents figured Craig is a good guy then letting him move in is a better solution. They get to have the child around and the girl can have a good husband who can take care of her. But then again, she is only 16! she doesn’t know what’s good for her. What happens if she realizes that marrying early was a mistake and she wants to get out of it?
I think I wouldn’t approve-
that guy looks like a future serial killer.
and she DEFINITELY does not look 16.
The guy looks like a reptile…Yecchhh Just looking at the picture makes me hate blue eyes….
I could say I’m a little prejudiced on this issue. My wife is 22 years my junior. ( I hear the multitudes of gasps as the air is sucked in by all reading this .) I met her online. She was only 19 at the time. She was still 19 when we married a year and a half ago. If our child proves to be a daughter, and she falls in love with someone much older, then there are only a few criteria that must be met. He must treat our daughter with respect and his intent must be to marry her. Now I know a lot of you are thinking how wrong it truly is, but it’s not. In Europe it is common for a man to marry someone who would be young enough to be his daughter and there are som egood reasons for this.
1) women are proven to mature much faster than men. an older man would usually prove to be far more mature than boys who are roughly the same age as she.
2) older men usually have experience in the day to day duties of finance, seeking employment, shelter, etc. i.e. an older man would usually be able to provide a better living for a family.
3) older men have usually sown their oats as it were and are more likely ready to settle down.
now that said, I must admit, there are a fair share of pervs out there but for the most part, not all of us older men who marry younger women are just seeking a thrill. If he treats her and her family with the respect that has been afforded him at the daughters expence, then you may find that he will fit in to the family and be welcomed as a descent guy.
@hllrider - It’s nice to see someone else say that. I have a friend who is a 48 year old woman and her boyfriend is 27.
Age doesn’t matter unless it is ILLEGAL, and in the U.K. this is NOT illegal! I just double checked and verified that through a Scottish buddy of mine.
So wrong, so very wrong. The guy is old enough to be her dad, statutory rape, pedifile, the guy needs counciling, the family needs counciling, the girl needs counciling … what a sick mess!
The problem here is that the mother is all by her lonesome. I clicked on the link and read the article, and saw a mom who would like very much to put a stop to the whole mess. For some reason, though, the father is fine with the situation. My dad didn’t even want me to date.
Someone needs to step in and shore up “Mum”. Then somebody needs to change UK law, putting child molesters back in their place- under lock and key.
I would not allow this. 16 year olds, no doubt, can be hard to deal with. However I think I would make them wait until she was 18 to even date much less have the guy move in! Also…what kind of 36 year old man moves in with parents of his 16 year old girlfriend…seriously questionable.
That guy looks wimpy. Don’t worry, parents. She will outgrow him soon.
that’s so wrong.
i think she shouldn’t let him stay.
You know, being a parent is challenging enough but here you are asking people to judge the decisions of a family we know next to nothing about other than what the media (and you) care to share. Imagine if someone out in the world took notice of all your parenting decisions and asked everyone else what they thought of them. I get this same judgement every time I walk out the door with my autistic son. “Your kid needs discipline. Have you tried spanking? Why don’t you put him in a home or leave him with a sitter?” It is disgusting how ignorant and judgemental people CHOOSE to be.
These parents did what they thought was best in their situation. What you would do with your own kids is another matter.
Yeah, thought this looked English.
One thing to remember, in the UK, a person can leave school at 16 and get a job, quite often in fact. The next level of school is like US junior college. So, in her eyes and the eyes of her parents, she might be an adult with a real job, albeit an adult living at home with her boyfriend.
Those parents are pushovers and they need to lay down some rules… notably about letting pedophiles near their daughter.
Why is it that nobody can parent anymore?! “I know that she’s 16 and I can’t stop her,” you you certainly can stop him from entering your house! She’s worried that she will loose her little girl, it kind of gives a good impression of how she may have raised her. Where is the discipline people?!
She’s only 16. I think the parents need to grow some balls and put their foot down, set some rules.