April 26, 2010
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Dating an 18-Year-Old
I was just reading the pulse of Slutburder_with_Cheese and he appears to be going through a struggle with a certain issue. He asked, “Ok. Serious question. How old, is too old, to date an 18 year old? Guys AND girls can speak for both sexes.”
How old, is too old, to date an 18 year old?
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@PervyPenguin - a 19 year old is too old to date a 18 year old? O.o
I would say….if they are past….a certain age. =P That is the decision of the person who is thinking on dating that person. I am not gonna give an age.
19.
I would say it depends on the people involved…
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28
It varies with folks, maturity levels, attraction, etc.. When I was that age, I’d say a two year span is about right, so 20 would be my vote.
Man…I’m really wrestling with this. My kid sister is 18 (a month away from 19) and her boyfriend is 28.
I was dating a 25 year old when I was 18… he was REALLY immature though.
52.
ten years on both sides for me . i am 18 and i wont date any older than 28 or any younger than 16
Really more depends on maturity.
I wouldn’t want to speak for a guy dating an older girl, but as for a girl dating an older guy (while being 18 herself) : When I was younger I used to think dating an older guy was wrong….until I turned 18. Now I would go to 22 or 23. I only say this because my brother’s friends are 22 on average, and they’re really nice guys with strong morals and an outlook on their future.
It also really depends on the other person. I wouldn’t date a 22 year old if he was living at home with no job, car, career, or at least gaining an education. Then again, I wouldn’t date a 22yr old if he was ready to get married. It’s all about connection, respect, and a well put perspective on their life.
BUT I do look 15, so dating an older guy (or even a guy my age) is SUCH a hassle because I feel people are starring, judging, “Omg look at that little girl with that man!!” lol. Not good.
I think the rule of thumb is half your age plus 6? Of course I pity the 20 year old fool that tries to date my 16 year old daughter.
You might as well have called me Slutturder_with_cheese. Thanks Dan! Come to NYC July 23rd weekend. You’ll meet Joweelo and eat her cakes!
60.
If a 60 year old can’t date an 18 year old well then cash me out. There go my dreams
As a matter of ease for numbers I’d say around 25. But, people don’t fit in nice neat little boxes and that number can vary widely depending on the people involved. Big age gaps do make a difference but should not be the deciding factor in a relationship. If my 18 Y.O.D. wants to date a guy 10+ years older than herself I’d tell her to bring him home so we can get to know him better and suggest that they both take their relationship nice and slow, but I wouldn’t judge him solely on his age and I wouldn’t want her to do that either.
Hmmm like idk 25ish is too old. And like 16 or 15 is too young.
But they say age is just a number so to each their won I guess.
There is no age limit. An 18 year old is old enough to decide for themselves who they want to date.
Depends on how rich each person is.
I just went and replied to his question… but matters of age in relationships are so utterly subjective. I married a fella who’s only a month older than me, but it never really occurred to me that there had to be a specific age gap ( no bigger than 2-5 years, for instance).
I will say, though, that a cougar dating an eighteen-year-old boy would creep me out much more than a may-december pairing the other way around.
I think when it comes to dating, there should be no more than 3 years in any direction. So a 15 year old and an 18 year old is fine. 14 and 18 is not. An 18 year old and a 21 year old is fine, but 22 and 18 is too much.
Just my opinion.
*Edit: But once both people are over 21, nothing matters age-wise hahaha
Guy dating 18 year-old girl: Whenever Viagra stops working.
Girl dating 18 year-old guy: 18
according to the bro code the formula for a girl too young for you is anyone younger than half of your age +7. So i’m 22. half of that is 11 plus 7 equals 18. I’m golden.
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As by then it’s bound to be necrophilia.Which is illegal.
I would say depending on the maturity of the person, most over 25 is probably too old to be running around with an 18 year old. My gosh, when I think about who I was when I was 18… I was barely mature enough to be dating in the first place.
Really depends on the people involved. Really, at 18 he or she is old enough to choose for him/herself.
20 or 21 at most.
I think it depends on maturity level for both parties. Personally, 28. But if you’re of age, you can make your own decisions.
I don’t really think anyone below 14 should be dating anyone. At all. Give or take about 3-4 years and thats okay. Like, 15 and 18, or 18 and 22. Not 13 and 17, or 18 and 30.
No one can tell you where to find love. The lead guy in Kick Ass is 19 but expecting a baby with his 40 something fiancee. I was shocked only at the baby part because he is so young but hearing him talk made me see how educated & respectful he is. Especially when he said he was already a stepdad to his fiancee’s kids. I admire him now. There are men twice his age that have less responsibility & are assholes. I wish him nothing but love & happiness.
Regarding the post, it depends on the people involved. May-December romances can work out.
petty rules such as your age plus 7… screw that. if people are so immature and needing rules to tell them who they can date, then that’s too bad. but then again we aren’t a nation known for thinking for ourselves. it’s an individual matter, between the girl and the boy. age is irrelevant.
27+ is too old. Come on people. Half your age + 7
*chuckles at comment above* It may be a joke, but consider it for a reason. Age is only a number but it’s a no-brainer if a 40 year old and an 18 year old hook up.
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@ShimmerBodyCream - Hmmm, reasonable answer!
@Shinbi_Belldandy - anybody can sound more educated to others by utilizing a broader, more extensive, and above average vocabulary and be just be down right respectful. That’s only a fraction of how mature someone is. In my opinion he could see this as living out the fantasy (sexual perhaps) of being with an older woman the way many young man fantasize about sleeping with their hot teacher or with the acronym “MILF”. But then again I could be wrong, it could be real love!
If I had an 18 year old (regardless of gender), I wouldn’t want them dating anyone more than 4-5 years older than them; not so much because it would be “wrong” in terms of number, but because an 18 year old is just entering college/life after high school while someone 22-23+ is probably leaving college behind and gearing up for a career, family, etc…especially if they’re nearing (or over) 30. The maturity level is just different, and although it may not be true for all cases, I feel like it’s true for the majority of these cases.
:sings: “AGE AIN’T NOTHIN’ BUT A NUMBA!!!”
Old men annoy me. I would not date a boy over 20. I don’t want my bf drinking if I can’t too.
21. Too big of life experience gap otherwise.
@lightnindan - half plus 7.
MAN LAW.
26!
@robbiebulilan - So, if I’m 21, I can go 17?! >_> Though, I’m sure mainstream society would call us out on it.
Half of the older person’s age plus seven is the rule I generally hear. But with varying maturities, I’d say that there’s room for a year or two upward.
when we met, i was 18 and he was 26. we’ve been together 5 years and will get married in august! it’s kind of hard to draw an exact line on these things, i think.
Uh… If you’re 18, then I think a max of a 5 year difference is fine but anymore and …doesn’t it get sketchy? Like, most people are out of college and working already and then you have this 18 year old–who is either in their senior year of high school still or a freshman in college–I don’t know about you, but that looks like a pretty big gap.
If you’re 20 years old, eh, go as high as you want–just don’t go too low.
If you have a kid the same age or older, you shouldn’t be dating the person.
@robbiebulilan - Totally agree.
25 I think should be the cut off period…
@SheepShot - best answer ever.
I think if two adults are genuinely attracted to each other, age shouldn’t be a factor.
Hmm. That’s a tough one. I guess sometime in the early 20s.
eh…28 I’d say. but it depends on the maturity of the 18 year old and/or immaturity of the person in question
In general, I would say, if you’re old enough to have been their parent, you’re too old for him or her, so throughout your life there should never be a difference of more than 10-13 years. That’s letting anatomy decide.
I like the half +7 rule for the teens and young people, but it doesn’t really work for older ages. Half +7 would mean 80 and 47 are a good match… doesn’t really work. Yet, 20 and 17 isn’t too bad, only 3 years difference. I guess you have to have a basement of 16 or 18, depending on what’s legal in your state or country.
Some of this is arbitrary of course, we’re all guessing that age similarity is going to speak to close or equal maturity levels. I’m sure that’s generally true, and I’m sure there are also exceptions.
Well, I’m going to take an 18 year old as someone in their senior year of high school/going into college age. In this case, I have been kind of weirded out seeing a girl (who is almost 18) date a senior in college (assumably anywhere from 20 to 22). I just think the age difference is a lot, and there are a lot of experiences lacking for the 18 year old. If the difference is a freshman versus senior in college, I’m more approving. Generally though…I’d say 22 is the absolute limit (although exclusions do apply, such as people who have been dating forever already, or old family friends, or whatever).
@naguyin - mainstream society won’t be cool with it. but i would be. And if anyone judges you, you can just say ur not breaking the bro code dude. Just don’t let the cops know. lol.
How many times is too many to use the same photo within a two day period?
Never too old, let the eighteen year old decide and quit discriminating. THE DEPTH OF THIS QUESTION JUST FUCKING BLEW MY MIND NOT EARTHQUAKE BUT A GOD DAMN VOLCANO
@Lordv16 - hahahaa YES
You’re never too old for 18 year old lovin.
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mid 20s is getting iffy. I think maturity levels are vastly different at that point.
~21 on the upper end. ~15 on the lower end. Though it really depends on the people involved if you ask me.
An 18 year old male or female? As we both know, both sexes mature at different rates. So if it’s an 18 year old girl… maybe 23? I dunno, the maturity levels should be about the same then. If it’s the other way around, I have no clue
Hey, if it’s legal, then by all means have at it. If not, then don’t…have at it….
I was 18 when I started dating a 27 year old. I got a lot of crap from my friends that he was “too old and mature”, we’re still together and as I’ve gotten older (I’m 23) there is no problem with him being older and people don’t ask. As long as it’s legal, there is no age limit you can put on love.
I’ve been thinking about the half +7 rule… What if it was half +7, +2 for every 10 years?
If you’re 18, the youngest would be 17.
If you’re 30, the youngest would be 28.
If you’re 50, the youngest would be 42.
If you’re 80, the youngest would be 63.
That would keep things pretty close age-wise throughout a lifetime.
Just thinking.
Id have to say 30 is the olddest
In my personal opinion, 23 or 24. But that’s just me.
My fiance is 18, and I’m 20.
Sometimes, I feel so awkward with that age different.
His friends are immature,
and he seems to have this very wrong view of the world.
Though, I think it will change as we both grow older.
As an 18 year old, I would say I wouldn’t date anyone over 23.
I wasn’t 18 in high school, but a lot of my friends were. For them, I’d say 20. Somehow it’s just different.
I think it depends on the maturity if both parties.
I’ll go with 23 at most. The reasoning behind this is primarily due to generation gap issues. Also, most 25 year olds are at an era of their lives unlike 18 year olds.
No age matters if they are happy together. If the guy is 18, he’d probably be dating around his age range, no older than 20 maybe? If a girl is 18, she’d probably be dating around 22 maybe. Depends what they see in the other person. [: Just be happy.
@ShimmerBodyCream - lol
I think it fully depends on the 2 individuals in the relationship. Nirvana and I started dating when he was almost 19 and I just turned 25. Now we’re planning a wedding and a marriage. *shrugs* I’m mentally younger and he’s mentally older so we balance. Though I will admit, getting his mom and older sisters to like me TOOK FOREVER. Now we all hang out and watch chick flicks and eat ice cream. lolz
@ChaoyD - I had heard that one before, not plus 6
@wolvenchic - That’s because that’s the man law. It’s chiseled in (cheap) stone
I would say 20. 18 is still a teenager….My observations is that anyone older looking to date an 18 year old is just looking for the “bootycall” and not really a relationship.
’round 28, I’d say. Ten year difference.
53. Seriously.
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21- because then the 21 year old can do things the 18 year old can’t do. (such as drink, go into bars etc)
My father was 28 when he began dating my mother, who at the time was 18 years old.
Well, 103 for sure. But I’m as the number get smaller I get less and less sure. ;P
When you see a sweet young thing out shopping with an old man and spending a ton of money, she is a money grabbing slut and he is an desperate old man.
I’d say it depends on the people but as a general rule of thumb – 23+.
I think….. 28 is the cut off.
I’m 18. And there’s the cutest little Korean guy in my house right now.And he’s 27. And… I’m just waiting for him to throw down his pen, push aside his Reading homework and translator and say, “____, I think you’re so wonderful. I just want to sweep you off your feet.”
if you look like the 18 year-old’s parent.
When I was 18 I thought 24 was too old. Some guy that age had the hots for me. I thought it was weird…6 years apart. And now at 22, almost 23, dating someone that is 29 still seems weird. I guess I like to stay close in age.
I don’t know, maybe 19 or 20. Anything older just seems weird.
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If you follow the 1/2 your age +7 rule… 22. But I think up to 25 is ok depending on the people. And some 18-year-olds probably shouldn’t be dating at all…
I think it depends on the people and the situation.
When they’re old enough to be your parent. My dad wanted me to go clubbing with him so I could find him girls my age with “Daddy Issues”, to which I replied, “I have daddy issues -.-”, which made him say, “Great, you’ll have plenty to talk about.”
Depends on the maturity. I guess :>
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24 both sexes
I would say an 18 year old girl can date a 21 year old guy. An 18 year old guy probably would only date a 19 or maaayyyybbeee 20 year old. I don’t know why that is, it’s just the impression I get. I feel like there’s a big jump between freshman year of college and the older years in most situations, as far as maturity or things like that.
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Honestly it really depends on the person. You have to take into account if the girl is mature, her views, her stage of life, her friends etc.
When I was 16 I started talking to a guy who was 21. We had the same friends since most of my good friends are older. We had a lot in common and could sit for hours on end debating on religion and other topics. We both decided though that it wasn’t the right moment in life and to move on. We’re still friends.
When I was 17 I dated a guy who was 22. I also talked to several guys who were 20 or so.
I’m 18 and one of the guys I talked to recently *talked to as in getting to know them, finding an attraction, seeing if we are compatible enough to date, etc.* was 26. The guy I like now is 20.
It all depends on the girl.
For some of my friends who are 18, I would feel sorry for the guy who talks to them.
I’m 18 and I’d probably never go over 23 and under 17 (I’d have no reason to want a MORE immature guy).
i say 21. my normal rule is if i am old enough that i could have potentially had a kid your age, then i’m too old. but for teenagers, really , 21 is old enough.
”maturity gap over age gap ;D
@rebekah1191 - Er, since you said ten years on BOTH sides, wouldn’t your lowest age limit be 8?
Of course any age is okay. But I’d say 21 is the last year that it becomes normal. 22 can pull it off, but it’s still a little weird. 23 you become creeper status a bit but you can pull it off. The real age that it becomes socially unacceptable would be 25 I’d say. That’s when it’s like wtf. But then the next level is when you hit 30. After 30, there’s something wrong with you. This is what I think would be the social divides. Me personally, I’ll probably be 40 and fucking 18 year olds. Or wanting to. If both parties agree to anything, it’s okay.
max old enough to be an 18yr old’s parent, ie 34+
When I was 18 I went out with a 32 year old guy…
and I broke it off with him…. why?not because he was too old, but because he was a kid in a skin of a 32 year old man …I wanted a relationship and he did not want anything close to that!
So I am tempted to answer “28″, but since I dated a 32 year old (kid),I will have to say “33″!
I knew a 36 year old that married a teenager. Her parents were pretty concerned, but the couple was madly and deeply in love until she was killed in a car accident several years later. Who knows?
@Rob_of_the_Sky - haha i agree.
well i’m thinking…actually I’m 18 and I’m wondering at what age I would not date a guy. hmm…50 . that’s too old. older than my Daddy.
yeah, 24-25 is really a cut off period. any emotionally adjusted mature and respectable man or woman would, out of respect for the wellbeing of the 18-year-old in question, not date them.
18 is too young. it may be legal, but there is a world of difference between the life and even brain of an 18 year old (who may either be in their senior year of HIGHSCHOOL or fucking college freshman) and the life of someone a mere 4 years older than them. yeah, 18 may be legally considered an adult, mentally they are not even finished with adolescence — hormonal levels are fluctuating, the brain is still changing drastically and growing.
aaaaaand it’s weird.find someone closer to your own age, creepers. get your shit together.
mid-twenties.
unless you really enjoy happy hours, then you’re just unlucky for about three years, and that would put a on strain the relationship.
keep it below 50
no. no age limit
Sorry, I was distracted by all the extra commas in this post… what was the question?
Whatever makes them happy. I know I’M certainly not following the ten year rule.
In general my rule is two years up, two years down. Personally though, my husband is six years younger than me, though he wasn’t quite 18 when we got together, he was pretty close. It’s a personal choice really, which is hopefully dictated by maturity and nothing else. For my daughter though, I’ll stick with my 2/2 rule.
Im 18 and I’m dating a 24 year old, just got out of a relationship with someone who was 20—-Let me just say this girls mature ALOT faster then guys…when i first started seeing him i thought it was pretty old…but it totally depends on chemistry and maturity levels not age!!!
I know a guy who is 32 and his fiancee is 18.
I’m 17 and my boyfriend’s 20. He’ll be 21 two weeks after I turn 18.
I think think 22-23 is too old. My best friend’s boyfriend is 26 and she’s 18 and that’s a bit pervy.
age is just a number…it has to do with maturity levels. not age
it always depends on the individual but i would say probably late twenties… but then when you put yourself in the picture… you gotta wonder !!!
i’m 18. so i guess it depends on who it is? some 30 yr old guy asked me out recently but i was a little creeped out. however, if it were george clooney who although quite old, i would’ve said ‘hells yeah, george clooney.’ but if it were only dependent on age and if there were no george clooney possibility..then i would say the oldest i’d go is like 25-26? depends on the guy though, really.
@Rob_of_the_Sky - hah. perfect. although when i get to be 60 i plan on being a cougar and hiring 18 yr old boys to do my yardwork…innuendo intended.
If you are over 25 and dating an 18 year old, something is wrong there. After a while, though, age just evens out and it quits being a big deal.
I dated a 27-year-old guy when I was 17.
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I’m nineteen and the last guy I was dating was 27. And even he was a little young for my tastes. =P
Apparently, the socially acceptable minimum limit is for the girl to be half the guy’s age plus 7 years. So by that logic, if she is 18 years, take 7, makes 11, so he can be 22 maximum.
I think it really varies on the maturity levels of both parties. I have a friend that is 32 and he is dating an 18 year old but they’re a trainwreck because the girl has the maturity level of a 10 year old. I also have another friend who is 28 dating an 18 year old but they work because she’s very mature and he’s very immature so they kind of meet in the middle?
And for girls… A girl should never date a younger guy. Period.
That all depends on the maturity level of both the 18 year old and the 50 year old (myself). If she’s very mature, sophisticated, well read and oral, then my own immaturity and sexiness put us both in the ideal match candidacy. the greglions
My boyfriend is 25 and I am 18 and we’ve been dating for a while. I don’t think it matters, in all honesty. Age is just a number & you can’t put a “number” above what someone feels so
omg, i was talking to my friends about how old would be too old for them? (note: we’re all newly 18 year olds) mine was 25 and i’ve got a thing with a 20 year old and it doesn’t feel awkward or that.
for one of my friend it was 27 pushing it and for few other was 21. so i think it just depends on the 18 year old girls.. when we asked the guys what they thought..they were shocked that i would go out with a 25 year old…
there are too many commas in your question.
@Justin_DeBin - a 16 year old is too OLD to date an 18 year old?? I think you misread the question.
Um.. I think if you’re in your 30s.. maybe 18 is too young.
It really depends on the people involved.
But if it were my daughter that had some old perv wanting to date her…heh. There is a reason why I’ll keep a shotgun loaded and ready
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I’d say the late 40′s and up….although love does not have an age limit
That’s a hard question. I mean really, if both people in the relationship are 18 or over 18, they have the right to be together no matter what their actual age is, as long as both are in the relationship consensually. However, if you throw in a factor such as maturity (which I would prefer in any relationship), it really depends on the people.
Well, in all honesty, I’m 19, about to turn 20 in August, and my significant other of almost a year turned 33 last month.
I don’t see anything wrong with it, only because we’re both legal, consenting adults.
That, and the fact that I love him.
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Anything over 6 years is pushing it for me but then again what matters most is the two people involved and if they’re content being how x amount of years older or x amount of years younger then why should we put a limit on love?
when people think that you two are like daughter and father or mother and son
I think that it really just depends on the relationship and who is involved in it. Typically boys mature slower than girls, not all boys, but most of the time, that’s the case. So is it wrong for an eighteen year old girl to date an older guy? I don’t think so. I am eighteen and I have dated someone who was 24 before. I think if personalities match up and you really like the person, who cares how old they are? Age is just a number, after all. (:
I’m 18 and I’m dating a 21 year old. He’ll be 22 in a week too. I don’t even notice the age difference between us because our personalities and maturity levels are so alike. So, I think it all depends on the people involved.
umm… i would say 45, although they would probably look old really fast, and maybe like your dad, but then its not all about looks..is it?
If both people are legal adults, then the age difference isn’t important. So, in my opinion, no one is too old to date an 18-year-old. They’re both legal adults.
My boyfriend is 18 and I’m 20. There’s really only a year and a half age difference between us, so I’m only technically 2 years older than him for half a year, and then we’re 1 year apart again.
I don’t think age should have anything to do with it. If you’re able to make your own choices, then it’s all about maturity.
I guess I’m biased because I’m 18 about to turn 19 and my boyfriend, whom I’m living with, is 24 about to turn 25.
I’ve always been told I was way to mature for my age, but I feel like our maturity matches each other.
Oh, and guys my age annoy the shit out of me.
When I was 18-19 I was dating a 31 year old. It was fun but that was basically it, we didnt have a deeper connection because 1. I was 18 and wasnt looking for a serious relationship since I had just gotten out of one and 2. he was 31 with kids and an ex wife, he wasnt looking for anything serious either. No, it wasnt merely sex or anything but it was fun. We laughed, we were able to talk about anything and everything, I guess we were each others outlets. But we were not on the same maturity level at all. So to answer your question, the perfect age for an 18 year is old is probably someone who is 18-20.
hmm … I think it really depends on the maturity and point in life of both the people involved. If its an older man, I would say 10 years, but that’s pushing it. But then I look at men like George Clooney who’s almost 49 and I know I would break that rule in a heartbeat. I’m 17, so he’s almost 32 years my senior and older than both my parents :S
It’s up to them. There’s two 14 yr. differences in my family, and I don’t judge them.
@coconutjuicefrommexico - AGREED entirely! I said the exact same thing.:D George Clooney is wayyyyy to gorgeous
who gives a rip, get up in that cooch and uponst them poppin’ tittawz son
I’d say it really, really varies. I know eighteen-year-olds who ought to be dating people as old as their parents, and eighteen-year-olds who ought to be dating people several years their junior, and eighteen-year-olds who shouldn’t be dating at all.
depends on their maturity
Due to the fact that a lot of guys (not most, not all, a lot though) take a longer time to mature, as a general rule I (at the age of twenty) am rarely interested in a man younger than 25. The thing is that after the age of about 34, they become more of a father figure than a love interest. Speaking from the perspective of 18, I’d say around 32 I guess, but that’s just my own personal feeling… up to a certain age I admire and respect them, find them attractive, and could see myself in a relationship with them, but then it gradually shifts into admiration and a mentor, or father-figure, that I couldn’t become romantically involved with.
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this is interesting
no limit
It really depends on where both of you are at in your life, in my opinion. A 23-year old who is still in college can date an 18 year old in college, but a 23 year old who is out of college and will be living in the “real world” while the 18 year old still has four years before they are at that stage would be difficult. I dated someone ten years older when I was 18 (well, maybe I was closer to 19, I don’t remember). It worked at the time for dating and enjoying each others company, but honestly it probably would have been awkward if we had continued it because he was finished with school and was moving on to a new work field and I was going to be attending college as a full-time student.
When I was 19 I dated a 31 year old. It didn’t last long… We were just 2 very different people on 2 very different paths in life. He was divorced and wanted to have fun and possibly find someone to really settle down with. I was 19 and really trying to figure out where I was headed with my life… plus, I’d just started dating and wasn’t sure what I thought about settling down without knowing what else was out there.
I think it really depends on so many factors: maturity, motive, interests, goals, dreams, lifestyles, experience… I know a wonderful couple with a 16 year span between the two of them and they started dating when she was still a teenager. They’ve now been married 18 years and are going strong. It’s really hard to just label what is taboo by an age… I would just hope that anyone in a relationship with a huge gap in age really knows who they are and are confident in themselves and that they know what they’re comfortable with, and what they aren’t comforatble with.
its never too late!
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Personally, I don’t think age matters one iota; to others it is important. I suppose that means that there is no hard and fast rule, and each couple has their own notion of what is appropriate. I’d guess the following– If the relationship is just about sex, age is probably irrelevant. If the relationship is centered around raising kids, they should probably be closer in age, though I know a few elderly couples in which the man is 10 to 15 years older than the woman, and they stayed together 50+ years and raised great kids and grand-kids. I’ve never seen a successful couple in which the woman is more than a year or two older than the man.
as i am 26 dating a very mature 18yo (19 soon) i say that its up to the individual couple. ive dated people who were within a month of my age and had it fail so i guess it really IS just up to the people involved once they hit 18
ahh, it really doesn’t matter to me. personally, i wouldn’t go above 35. haha. i’m 19 now, and when i was 18 starting dating an immature 25 year old, and now i’m with a more mature 26 year old. so. yeah. i would have to say 35.
im not even 18 and my boyfriend is 26… is that too old?
@ShimmerBodyCream - Pure wisdom
I’m dating a 27 year old and I’m 18. I’ve never been happier
Age is just a number, folks. If you two get along, then more power to you! 
isn’t the rule half your age + 7 is okay?
So, following this rule 22 (1/2 of 22=11 + 7=18) would be the oldest acceptable. 23 is therefore too old.
I’ll date 18 year olds until the day I die. Hopefully I’ll die at 90 with two of them in the bed next to me.
if two /adults/ have feelings for each other then it’s all dependent on their situations and compatibility. seems kind of obvious, doesn’t it? who gives a shit if people approve, it’s not their business in the first place. still, from a practical standpoint there’s a lot of issues that can come up regarding age barriers, but that’s up to individuals to figure out.
I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 15 years older than me. Yep. He’s 36. A lot of people were disturbed by it when we first started seeing each other, but you know what? I’ve never gotten along with anyone better in my entire life. ^.^ We’re so similar, in fact, that people are often downright shocked when they learn his real age. Heh. No one thinks he’s a day over 25 or so. I actually had a friend who thought he was 17 or 18.
His body might have been here longer than mine has, but inside, we’re both on the same page. ^.^
@ashleyannaka - Yeap…scrolled up as I wrote my reply, and you got the formula.
Back to the original question:I wrote a post back in December ’08, titled, ” Too Old? Too Young?, which addressed the question pretty clearly. You want a number? 23 – or wait ’til she’s 19. Why so picky? Click the link I tacked into my reply.
Cheers.
I’m 22 and I wouldn’t date an 18 year old, I just like older guys. but I could only imagine dating someone maybeeeee… 4 years older than me, any more than that would be too much older. so I guess if I was 18 I could date a 22 year old.
I would say 35… I mean, I guess if the maturity levels matched up, it should be fine, right?
i think past 22 it should be illegal to date an 18 year old, i mean, 18 is their first year of being legal, lol, that’s barely legal! ;D
Each person has a different maturity level. So it depends, I guess.
I’m a 21 year old girl whose dating an 18 year old guy.
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I’m in an older relationship, and I’m 18. In my situation, age is an issue, but once you’re past casual dating, I think things become completely different. Age is different for any couple, so, I can’t put limits on someone else and their relationship. It’s your own choice.
@UR_MUSE -
I agree
I think they can decide for themselves. My ex is older than I am, and I’m almost 19.
i was 41 to 42 and had a year long relationship with a young man 18 to 19 … he broke my heart when i was down and at my lowest point ! he kicked me when i was down and that hurt but i don”t regrete one minute we were together he was fun and kept me young and reminded me to embrace my free spirit
I’m 39 and wifies is 33. I don’t notice any difference.
96? My mother and father had a 43 year age differance.
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