June 20, 2012
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Stay At Home Dads
I was just reading an article about stay at home dads. Apparently more dads are staying at home with the children while the women work. Here is the link: Link
Do you tend to think stay at home dads are lazy?
I was just reading an article about stay at home dads. Apparently more dads are staying at home with the children while the women work. Here is the link: Link
Do you tend to think stay at home dads are lazy?
Comments (54)
Nope, staying at home with kids tends to be a lot of work!
Most men don’t have the patience to be stay at home dads.As much as I love my kids,I’m not sure I coulda done it.
No, maybe some of them enjoy it? -shrug-
nope. However a family manages to balance their work/ family life is up to them =]
Absolutely not! And just because the father doesn’t do things exactly like the mother would doesn’t mean his techniques and/or tactics are “wrong”. =)
P.S. I’m going to post a pic in response to this that I think you may get a kick out of, Dan. =)
ALWAYS depends on the situation and the Dad in question.
Depends on how many kids there are. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to raise two or three of them.
eh… I think it depends on personality largely. Stay at home moms can be just as lazy. It’s not a gender thing, it’s a personality thing.
Any stay at home parent is not lazy in any sense of the word, kids are a lot of work.
I think the majority of stay at home dads aren’t lazy but of course there could be a few that are,but there could also be mothers as well. I don’t think it has to do with gender whether someone is lazy or not.
My ex stayed at home with our son for the first 8ish months. He couldn’t even do anything OTHER than watching (rocking) our son, or sitting on the computer. Lazy indeed. Apparently dragging a vacuum across the carpet every now and then was too much to handle.
Let me know when they start signing up women for the selective service system in the US… that’ll be interesting.
Depends on whether or not they do the same thing as me as the stay at home mom. Are they picking up the house, washing dishes, cleaning laundry, etc?
I have no generalized opinion on it. Totally depends on the situation and the dad. Just like it depends on the situation and the mom.
@QuantumStorm - Every citizen should have the right to die for their country so that the oligarchs might grow fatter and richer.
@TheMushyPear - I want in on this oligarchy business.
do stay at home dads tend to wear ned flanders sweater
I haven’t thought about if they are lazy, but looking at that pic, I wouldn’t want to buy a brand new or fancy house if I was going to have a baby, because the kid will mess up my entire house and ruin the carpeting
I would consider stay-at-home parents (moms OR dads) lazy if they didn’t look after children or do the household chores. I don’t think gender has anything to do with laziness. I have a friend who stays at home with the children while his wife is working. He does the grocery shopping, clean the house, cook, laundry and get the kids to and from school and ready for bed. I know if I didn’t have to work, my husband would definitely expect our house to be clean and home cooked meals.
@nerdyveggiegirl – Are you implying that mothers who stay home with their children lazy?
it’s a full time job. I fully support stay at home jobs, it’s a tough job managing everything.
@wretched_epiphany - not at all! Staying home with kid(s) is exhausting & never-ending. After my own kiddo was born, I quit my full-time job to stay home with her, and worked 2 nights a week. I was saying that every family makes their own decisions, whether mom stays home, dad stays home or both parents work.
@nerdyveggiegirl – That was not meant to be a reply to you at all!! That was meant for Dan! Sorry about that. My xanga app doesn’t cooperate with me sometimes
Just figured is call theo out on his loaded question.
@wretched_epiphany - lol, no worries.
Would you say the same about women? Yeah, it’s hard as fuck to raise children. I think it’s courageous for men to step up and be SAHD Good for them!
No stay at home parent is lazy. Some men marry career women and it gives them the opportunity to thrive in a “job” most of society doesn’t think of for men.
Stay-at-home dad’s are definitely not lazy. They do the majority of the work that stay-at-home mom’s do and receive only a fraction of the credit. At times my Dad was a stay-at-home dad, due to lay-offs and economic downturns. He had his own method of doing things and did a fantastic job.
I could so do it.
It isn’t stay-at-home dads that women hate. It’s the mythical ‘lazy’ man that women hate. Even though men work more total hours than women do (total hours being a combination of work + housework). And often times the things that people don’t consider housework, but very much is housework, is the stuff that husbands do. Like fixing cars and going on scaffolding to paint the house. I suppose dishes and laundry are the troo-houseXwork. In which case… Men are probably lacking in that department. Oh well.
That isn’t to say that there aren’t lazy men out there… Just that I’ve heard way too many complaints from women about their men being lazy for not helping with dishes when he’s the one who fixes everything in the house.
my own father has been a stay at home dad for the past 20 odd years. I have to say that it is really not easy. and he did a great job. taking care of household chores is one thing, teaching and disciplining the kids is another. however, people around always deem him as being lazy. and i think that is just as hard to handle as well.
would MUCH rather be married to a stay at home dad than have a kid with an MIA dad….
well, do you think the same thing about women?
I am all for someone staying home but most of the time it’s not $ wise for the familes.
@QuantumStorm - Pick richer parents the next time you’re born. Works every time.
Not at all. If I take care of a kid for half an hour, I feel like I’m going crazy, so kudos to anyone who can do it all day, whether the person is male or female!
Nope!
Well, it depends. Does the dad take his role as sahd seriously and plan activities and play dates, take normal moments in life and turn them into learning opportunities? Does he take responsibility for the household and cook laundry and clean? Because the problem with men staying home is that all those household and nurturing duties are typically thought of as a women’s role (I don’t care how feminist the. World is, that’s still the status quo). So if the man isn’t working, he needs to take responsibility for those things. THEN he would be not lazy.
lazy? no. but i also don’t think that being a stay-at-home parent of either gender is the equivalent of working full-time outside the home. at best, it’s volunteer work (since no one forced you to have a kid).
I guess they could have the same potential to be “lazy” that stay at home moms do. I knew one SAHD when I was a nanny, he was definitely not lazy. He chose to stay home with his daughter because his wife made more money. It seemed to work for them, although I think he felt a little awkward around the group of moms whose kids his daughter played with.
Something that interests me is why there are so many more dads staying at home- one reason is because the couple decides that the higher earner should stay at work- it’s starting to be the woman. Another reason is that the recession is disproportionately affecting men- men are more likely to lose their job and not be able to find new employment. And yet the Equal Pay Act (to benefit the downtrodden woman in society) is being shoved down our throats. If feminism is really not about oppressing men, this doesn’t make sense. @AmorVomnia7 - Ah, dishes. So easy and quick to do, yet they are the start of so many household fights.
Not at all. In a world where opportunity for women to earn incomes high enough to support the entire family has increased, the number of situations where it makes sense for the husband to stay home and take care of the children and household has also increased.
Nope!
Just like there are lazy SAHM’S, there are probably those lazy SAHD’s.
I’m sure it’s pretty damn equal.
But the majority, No!
i blame this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNXOHabl7NI&feature=mv_sr and this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IA-MN23rQk
Yes, stay at home dads are very lazy. It’s all their fault they don’t have jobs. Everyone wants to make their spouse work. Raising children should be dress work and men can’t wear dresses because my over simplistic, ridiculously narrow worldview doesnt allow for the analysis of nontraditional situations from a complex adaptive systems approach but only as a dysfunction of institutions rather than any dissonance between my kumquat sized brain and reality. Also both Mr Mom and Mrs Doubtfire were liberal ploys to destroy societal roles decided by the consensus of geniuses who only think like me.
:3
Absolutely not!! I’ve known several and they are crazy busy. Some times I think they may be more attentive than Moms… JMHO…
if he watches the kids and keeps up the house, he’s a keeper.
@Dungeonbrownies - you can’t be serious. That’s nonsense.
not possible.
Just as much as I think Stay at home mum’s are lazy.
Yep. Stay at home dads are pussies.
My husband is temporarily a S@HD. So far, he seems to do okay. There are definitely things I would do differently than he does, but I trust his judgement 97% of the time. He’s most certainly not lazy; he takes our son to the park every single day, as well as bringing him along on various errands. Also, they walk me home from work every night. My husband may be the greatest Stay At Home Dad there ever was.
I am currently a stay at home dad i have a one year old so i am training him to walk and talk i vaccum the whole house daily because he crawls and gets his hands dirty and then tries to put them in his mouth. i do the laundry but my wife folds. i wash the dishes and cook i make the beds clean the house and do house and lawn care and dog care. My wife works and i appreciate her for that, but their are times when i think that if i wasn’t staying at home the house would never be clean and organized etc, bc my wife doesn’t cook or clean very well or like to do chores of any kind.
i guess what i am trying to say is that lazy is lazy staying home and lazy are two different things. Most days there’s too much for me to do before my wife gets home.
I would hope not!
….for me that would have to depend on the man in question….I know of someone who would do just about anything to NOT go to work, if he could get away with it…. But he also has abuse issues from his own family via an older brother and a mom who didn’t give a squat about the older brother literally beat/abusing younger sibling…. No matter the who or why, an eye must be kept on the muggens by the RESPONSIBLE parental units in question, as I believe the man of which I speak recieved a modicum of brain damage from the afore-mentioned abuse…. ce’ la vie!! Peace
Few jobs are gender exclusive and the same goes for laziness.
I wouldn’t mind being a stay at home dad. Minus the dad part.
Absolutely not.