April 12, 2013
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Your Parent’s Favorite Child
When I was growing up, my three sisters all claimed that I was the favored child. I really felt like my parents treated all of us the same.
I was just talking to a guy the other day and he insisted his mother loved his brother and sister more than him.Were you the favored child in your home?
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NO
No.
I might just have to say ‘Yes’ to this one. I’m the only girl and my older brother was super rebellious.
depends on my parents’ mood
Nope…
I don’t think so. I was the youngest and I actually got a lot of crazy & anger thrown at me since I was the only one at home for a while after my siblings left.
My siblings might have a different opinion but it didn’t feel like any of us were the favorite. We were mostly an inconvenience.
Maybe, emphasis on maybe, I was growing up because I was six and ten years older than my brothers. Now? I’m not my Mom’s. I may be my Dad’s simply because his father and brother both died young of heart attacks leaving me as the oldest male relative of his. We’re more friends than anything, though.
Probably. I’m awesome.
I have always been the least favorite and still am.
Xanga is Never Never Land and we’re all just lost children.
I had one sibling twelve years older than me. I was definitely the favorite and I made my brothers life hell.
My late father’s favorite, hands down, my oldest brother. I can’t blame him, on that account. My oldest brother is pretty awesome. I have to admit I am probably my mom’s favorite. I don’t think she made the right choice, but we’ve always been close.
I am told I am by my mother and my siblings. Not by choice. With all the attention though came a lot of shit and responsibility too, more than they had.
I was the middle child; nobody loved me.
My brother was
No favored child. They abused us all.
I feel that I am the favorite because it is a constant battle between my brother and my parents. I wish there were no favorites though.
To be perfectly honest, I hope so. Seeing as I was the one who WASN’T lighting things on fire, shaving my head, throwing baseball bats on the roof, shooting glass doors with BB guns, or meeting strange people on the internet.
Nope. I used tofeel like they always favored the 1st born and 3rd born, and that most of my achievements were overlooked. Right now, it’s different, though. They seem to treat us all the same.
I was the unwanted and unexpected spawn of a marriage of convenience. I have no real relationship with my biological dad. One day he told my high school age son that he never thought of me as his child. My son looked at him, amazed and asked, “How the hell do you deny a daughter who lived under your roof from the day she came home from the hospital? She called you ‘dad’, didn’t she?”
The truth: He got mad at my mother when she threatened to divorce him. He cut off all support to me when I was 12. In fact, he refused to speak to me for 3 years, and when he did it was to heap me with abuse – telling me that I must be a whore and a piece of sh!t. I was allowed to live under his roof, nothing more. The impending divorce was effectively made MY FAULT. My mother worked to support me. When I started college I worked 2 and 3 jobs, graduated with honors. He didn’t attend my graduation. My friends had fathers who were proud of them, who hugged them. They were ‘daddy’s girls’, but I didn’t envy them. I was too busy working and studying.
One of my sisters was given away in adoption. She was the child of his first wife. One was favored, over all. She doesn’t speak to any of us. We’ve scattered to the four corners.
He hides in the Episcopal church. His 4th wife urges him to spend time with the kids and I, but I don’t push it. Too much guilt and hard feelings. My relationship with my sons is loving and close. I can’t imagine not having a close relationship with them because I loved them from the moment I discovered I was carrying them. I can’t imagine blaming a 12 year old child for a failing marriage, and then denying them a place in the family. What a horrible and abusive act to carry out on your own child…
no and I was an only child
I was my dad’s favorite. My sister was my mom’s favorite. BUT!! That was only after my brother moved. My brother is still my mom’s favorite, really. lol. My 2 oldest sisters weren’t favorited at all.
I don’t think I am. Everything I get I have worked tirelessly for while everything else is just handed to my three siblings. And even then, the things I do get, is only half of what I am either promised or told I would receive for my hard work.
I don’t think they favoured any of us in terms of loving us more…but one of my brothers is by far the easiest to get along with, and also the calmest…so I think when we were younger, it could come across like they favoured him…
also my parents are very traditional…so whereas my brothers coudl take the car anytime they wanted and be back at anytime they wanted, I got the third degree and the “why doesn’t your boyfriend pick you up?” ….but my brothers also did more work around the house =P
Me and my older brother have switched with my parents depending on where we are in life and how well (or not well) we are progressing and growing up in “the real world”. Now, I dont know who my dads favorite is but I guess my moms favorite is my sister since she is the only female, is 20, and hasnt been kicked out of the house yet, ha ha
They have told me my brother is the favorite.
i’m my granny favorite grandchild
My sister just knew I was loved more than she was. That’s why she took out in the desert to hunt rattle snakes.
I’m the favorite. Growing up my sister told me that at least once a week and after my brother was born, he’s 15 years younger than me, he still acknowledges that I’m the favorite. I didn’t realize I was treated differently until my sister and I were in our teens and I was getting away with things she could never dream of. It was awesome… for me.
Every parent has a favorite / a child they resent less. They only time they don’t have a favorite is if you’re all equally resented for destroying what was left of their life.
our brother Joseph with his multicolored coat was the favorite and we did everything to discourage him and he still ended up on top.
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i was never the favorate child growing up, i was just yet another of my parents boys, my sister was the favourate being gthe only girl AND youngest child, she got everything. AND THEN I CAME OUT and things changed, my parents got divourced (wich was the best choice my mother ever made). my father disowned me quite completely and i grew close with my mother. wheres my father now vehemontly ignores me and insists he only has two sons and a daughter (whom he dots upon) my mother doesnt treat any of us any differently
@saintvi - You were always one of the favorites,I on the other hand was always the blacksheep.
No.
My husband is my least favorite child.
Neither of us was the favorite.
But my brother kept his mouth shut longer, so he got better treatment.
Maybe
Anyone in my family will tell you with a mixture of disdain and anger that I was my daddy’s girl. The anger is because I was the one who caused the most trouble…addicted to diet pills prescribed by my doctor to be refilled once a year, alchoholic as a result…put in an insane asylum at age 36 after having lost a baby…continued drinking and drugging off and on into my fifties and finally cleaned it all up in 1985…years after my dad died. So, no wonder they shake their heads in anger.
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Well… My parents both love us equally
but when our family is fighting sometimes our parents will take sides lol which is wrong.. but usually our parents love us and get along with us in different ways. 
Like my dad and my mom trust my sister with money more lol because she barely spends any of it XD i mean she spends it but she saves whereas me I only spend it lol
So my parents trust us in certain areas more
but they love us the same 
on my mom’s side, i’m an only child… so she has no choice.
on my dad’s side… maybe. i think that, out of his three children, i’ve given him fewer gray hairs. i’m my grandma’s favorite, for sure. she tells my dad this often.
When I kiss my four kids goodnight, I tell each one that he or she is my favorite. The only one who hasn’t figured it out is the youngest.
They are each different, how could I have a single favorite?
I always thought my brother was Mom’s favorite, but looking back at it, they had similar personalities. I was more independent.
Now I know I am the fave!
lol I’m probably my mom’s favorite between my sister and I… But she loves us equally.
methinks it is to the detriment of the child to be favored by a childish parent who used this child as a toy…
My sister and I were raised by a single mom. She tried not to play favorites, but even my sister admitted my mom favored me. I didn’t give her headaches/problems as much as my sister did.
Was I? Nope. Am I now? I’m probably Dad’s favorite since I’m the one that’s actually out of the house, and he and I are a lot alike. #2 is probably Mom’s favorite since she and my 9 month old nephew still live at home, and Mom gets to baby-sit for 50 or so hours per week.
No.., I was never the favorite child…, I am the oldest out of three. I’m considered as a Favorite grandaughter. My middle brother and baby is the favored child and my third sister.., But not me.
No My Sister was and She still is.And my mom dont recall alot of my milestones.She told somone I was diagonsed when I was 9 with Diabetics and I was 21 and when I told Her she rolled Her eyes at Me.My Sister was 9 when she got diagnosed.And when I try and tell my Mom something Inportant She goes dont lie about it tell the truth but If my sister tells her something she is like cool wish your sister Kaycee wasent a lier.:(
@Sojourner_here - same here.., I lost my kid at age 21 4 months ago and still going strong I think about the tragedy everyday and night
None of us were the favorite, but I think we all had different things we could get away with that the others couldn’t.
I don’t think I was most favored in my house. My mother seemed to overlook things I would do that the other would get in trouble for, but being older now and knowing my mom, I think that had more to do with her fear of confrontation and what follows, more than anything else. I was the kid who held grudges, lol.
My mom was always pretty hateful to me, and claimed right up until the day he died that my dad spoiled me. There were 6 kids in our family, so no, I don’t think I was a favored one. I was the one they had the highest expectations for, though, because I was the brightest – but a total underachiever. Took me til I was 50 to get my degree. I wish I could have done it while my dad was still alive.
No, my sister(5 years younger) is my parent’s favorite. But that is ok, I have seen the favorites job and I do NOT want it!
I am my father’s favorite. It didn’t matter very much until I was older, though, because my dad tried to treat us all the same. My brother is my crazy mother’s favorite, and that is VERY apparent. He got spoiled like an only child. My sister, who inherited my mother’s mental illness, gets a lot of pity. As the prize for being my father’s favorite, I got to learn a lot of science, other random skills like carpentry that fathers usually only teach their sons, lots of hikes and wildlife photography excursions, and all the hand-me-down salvaged 1960′s bikes I could ride. I think it was a pretty sweet deal.